The One Where We Have BIRTHDAYS!!!!!!!!!!

[VictorianSqualor]

07 March: Ashton, a fourth child for gemprincess, 5lb 13oz @ 34+6
09 March: Ted, a second DS for Daftmoo, 7lb 14oz @ 36+0
21 March: George William, a first baby for KnitterintheNW, 7lb 2.5oz @ 37+3
25 March: Olivia, a second baby for TheMaskedPoster, 7lb 2oz @ 38+4
28 March: Pablo, a third baby and first DS for vacaloca, 7lb 14oz @ 39+4
28 March: Matteo Alexander, a first baby for Gangle @ 38+0 (?)
30 March: A baby girl, a second child for PortAndLemon, 8lb 15oz @ 39+5
02 April: Jak, a baby boy for rainbowdays, 9lb @ 39+1
02 April: A baby boy, a second child for bunyanvillas, 6lb 14oz @ 37+5
02April: Struan, a baby boy for Donnabels, 6lbs 15oz
02 April: A baby boy for mummyofaprincess @39 weeks
03 April: A baby girl for PippiCalzelunghe @38+2weeks
03 April: Aeryn Daisy, a baby girl for Denny185, 9lb 8oz @ 39+3
03 April: Benjamin, a baby boy for Micegg, 8lb 3oz @ 39+4
03 April: Roelof Grové, a first DS for SalLikesCoffee, 7lb 5oz @ 38+5
03 April: A baby boy for siikibam, 6lb 8.5oz @39+1wks
04 April: Matilda, a baby girl for AprilsFoolsBaby 7lb @
05 April: Ellis, a baby girl for MadameOvary, 9lb 12oz @ 40+6
06 April: Henry Peter, a baby boy for Sheds, 7lb 130z @ 40+4
07 April: Sebastian George, a fourth DS for Peachy, 8lb 4oz @ 41+1
07 April: Jack, a first baby for ThePFJ, 7lb 5.5oz @ 41+1
07 April: Lexie Bea, a fourth baby for babywhiting, 8lb 1oz @ 39+4
08 April: Alasdair, a second DS for bunnyrabbit, 8lb 5.5oz @ 40+3
08 April: James Samuel, a third baby for honeybee10, 6lb 7oz @ 37+2
09 April: Zara Mia Martin, a first baby for V1KK1M, 7lb 10oz @ 41+0
09 April: Jasmine, a baby gilr for Niceychops
11 April: Kyran for rdk, 7lb 13oz @ 38+3weeks
11 April: Sebastian James, a second baby for Fleecy, 10lb 2oz @ 40+4
11 April: A baby girl, a first baby for CeylonSapphire, 7lb 12oz @ 41+1
11th April: Florence, a baby girl for LouMoose
12 April: Maya Alice, a first baby for egyptianprincess, 8lb 15.5oz @ 40+3
12 April: Sophia Viviana, a second DD for AussieDivaonaBreak, 6lb 12oz @ 39+3
15 April: Alexander Oliver, a third baby for VictorianSqualor, 10lb 3oz @ 41+0
16 April: Ailish, a first baby for Mollyfloss, 6lb 11oz @ 40+3
16 April: A baby girl, a second baby for elfsmummy, 7lb 13oz @ 41+1
16 April: Zoe, a baby girl, a first baby for ToastAddict, 6lb 10oz @ 39+3
16 April: Jasmin, a baby girl, a first baby for Eggandketchup, 9lb 3oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy for paranoidmumy, 8lb 9oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy, a second son for lorisparkle, 7lb 12.5oz @ 41+6
17 April: Benedict, first baby for LadyBee 9 lb 3oz @ 41 +2
18 April: Millie Grace Jessamy, a baby girl for scorpio1 8lb 9oz @ 41
18 April: Cameron, a second baby for munchkinmum @ 39+5
19 April: Oliver Michael, first baby for bashboid, 7 lb 4 oz at 41 +3
20 April: Samuel, a first baby for Velbels. 8lb15oz at 41+1weeks.
20 April: Angharad Mai, 8lb 4oz, 40+6, first for 7monthsplus
20 April: Emilia, 7lb15oz, a first baby for SuzeM, 40+6
20 April: A baby girl for SushiMama
21 April: Eve, a second baby for OMaLittle, 8lb 4oz @ 39+3
21 April: A second DD for Monmoo
22 April: Sam, a second son for Soph73 @ 40+0
22 April: Molly, a first baby for EllieG, 8lb 8oz? @ 40+5
22 April: Daisy, second baby for AttilaTheHan @ 40 +3
22 April: Zoe Olivia, second daughter for Piccallilli2 7lb 1oz @42+1
22 April: A second DD for blinks.
23 April: Jessica Elizabeth, first baby for BabyBratt @ 40+1 7lb 12oz.
24 April: A baby girl, a second daughter for christmaspixie, 9lb 2oz @ 40+6/41+5
24 April: Miya Jade, baby girl for ShelleySare at 39+4
25 April: Amelie, a first baby for Dondons, 9lb, 41+3 (i think!)
25 April: Aisha, a second baby for Jaq39 7lb 14oz @ 41+4
26 April: Hope Olivia, a second dd for northeastmummy, 7lb 11oz at 41 .
26 April: Gabriel, a third child for Bainmarie @ 41+5
26 April: Eli Michael, a baby boy for LittleMissTurquoise, 7lb 15.5oz @ 40+5
27 April: a baby girl for Ayomi, 6lb 1oz @ 41+0
28 April: Jacob Andrew, a 2nd DS for Kaybeeand2boys, 8lb 4oz @ 41+5
29 April: Thomas Henry, a 2nd DS for TLSM, 7lb 8oz 40+3
30 April: Harry Samuel, a fourth ds for Chipmonkey, 9lb 5oz @ 39+2
30 April: Ellie, a baby girl for Annamama
30 April: A second DD for luckymummy74
01 May: Sophie May, a baby grl for Annieroo, 6lb 5oz @ 41+4
01 May: Euan George, a baby boy for Jenniejennie, 8lb @ 40+4
02 May: Robyn Olivia, a baby girl for soph28, 8lb 1oz @ 42+1
05 May: Nora Martina, a first baby for Eva07, 7lb 8oz @ 41+2
05 May: A baby boy for Beeper, 8lb 10oz @ 41+0
05 May: Gabriella Summer, a first baby for MommyHasAHeadache, 8lb 4oz @ 40+6
06 May: Wilf, 8lb 60z for bigbadmom @ 41+6
07 May: James Andrew, a second ds for Moominsmummy, 8lb 13oz @ 41+5
08 May: Ellie Isabella, a first baby for Carey87, 7 lb 8oz @ 42+1
08 May: Robin David, a 2nd baby for Woollymummy, 8lb 11 oz @ 41+3
09 May: 4 kittens for scorpio's cat!
10 May: Astrid Mary, a second dd for TheShipsCat, 8lb 8oz @ 42+0

Morning all.

Ladybee - well done on the sleeping, long may it continue. Sam still won't go to sleep on his own but it only takes him a couple of minutes of rocking to drop off, then I put him in his cot and that's it till morning so I consider myself lucky Sorry about having to wait to take the pill though, bummer!

Sal - LOL

CHIP DAY! However, the infant department have gone to the South School for sports day so they may not be ready by the time I have my lunch Things might get a bit hairy round here later if I don't get my chips

I need some help please.

As you know DH & I have had some disagreements about Zac's time here. Last night he basically said i have to have have Zac next week for half term. I am just about coping with my own children at the moment and am finding things like cooking and washing clothes hard work at the moment. I don't have much energy; a trip into town takes it out of me on top of school runs and things.

Today i said to DH i can't cope with an extra child and that him asking/pressuring me about a Xmas visit for Zac was out of order IMO as his first thought should be our new baby, my health after birth and getting BF sorted. He hasnt mentioned any of those things.

I have said how i feel; he has just asked for a few days apart.

I don't understand?

I don't understand?

I need to stand my ground because I am not being difficult; for once i'm trying to do what my body is telling me.

I didn't think it was this bad; these are the only issues as well, nothing else. Surely not worth a break? I don't know how to come back from him saying this. I always knew i adored him far more than he ever liked me

Gosh Scorpio, that does seem like a slightly drastic request. But maybe he doesn't have many other ways to deal with situations where there is a disagreement between you. Did he grow up seeing people talking reasonably and working out their differences without it all going tits up? Or did he grow up seeing things either not being talked about or suddenly exploding or collapsing. If so, maybe he thinks that's just how it goes

I don't know what to suggest, but try NOT to take it as a reflection of his feelings for you, but as a relection of his way of dealing with conflict.

I think if I were in faced with a request for a break, I would say yes, have a break, but with a definite date committed to for him to return to the family and discuss it again after he has thought things through. Then you are not left in limbo wondering whether he's coming back at all, and he knows the conversation hasn't finished.

Poor you.

He grew up as an only child; in a family where his Dad had several affairs and left often.

I don't want him to go I really don't understand.

Where is he now? and how did he ask for the break, was it in the heat of the moment or calm and considered?

He is at work, he text me 'I think we should have a few days apart' and that was it.5

I expect8 it was heat of the moment.

BUT I would NEVER say that to him. Unless he cheated on me, and even then it would be a considered thing.

How can osmeone say such a thing; does he not think of its consequences to my feelings, if he does stay?

Well he just rang and said this has gone a bit far and i will speak to you at lunchtime when i get a better signal. (working in the sticks you see)

So sorry to play this out on here, just i can't cope with the thought of it.

Sounds like he's realised he overreacted.

he has realised it I am sure

but you do need to stand your ground

You coped with the family whilst he got his trip top Thailand, in return you have definite entitle,ment to a rest whilst PG; the fact is had he not gone there he would have been able to take time off to help out after all.

And Christmas- quite what does he expect to happen when you do go into labour, or if tehre are complications? It'll be hard enough dealing with it at that time of year with your own kids, let alone another 7 year old.

Perhaps DH could take ss away for a day or two (or is that his plan in actuality)? No idea how you'd get availability anywhere at half term, maybe his Mums? Don't take the crap though, it's one year and you need to come first. In fact it's not a case of coming first- all his kids are equal to him- but it's just a not practical scenario ATM.

Oh Scorpio, sorry about what's going on at the mo. It does sound as though your DH has realised he's overreacted. However, if he still wants a few days apart (like Ladybee said) you definitely have to make sure he gives you a return date and (like Peachy said) don't back down on this. You have to think of yourself as well as your other children.

Be strong sweetie, you know we're all here for you

Thankyou all

Peachy i didn't even realise that about Thailand, iyswim. Another thing that annoys me is that DH has just bought a new nail gun thing (£200) - maybe he should have thought and could have used that towards some time off.

The dilemma we have is thus - DH has to work Saturday, so could only go to his mums with Zac Saturday after work, Sunday and Monday. This apparently is not enough. Though DH will take BH Monday off, he wil lwork tues-fri whilst i have Zac and will effectively see him for an hour a day, as he does our children. I see no point in this especially as it is such hard work for me.
DH has made it clear he wants Zac to stay here.I think he is under pressure from HER and his mother, but he denies this (as always).

Xmas is another thing. Of course he wants to see Z at Xmas, but its just not going to work. My EDD is the 25th Dec.(TBC scan date in June). I could have baby on the 15th Dec or 5th Jan - who knows?? What if i have a CS, an infection, need BF help, stitches, baby is poorly? Tonight i am going to say he can come here first weekend of December - we will have an Xmas dinner, Z can have his presents from birthday and Xmas ones early. I will be 37 weeks then. After that it will be Feb half term, dc4 be about 6 weeks old; DH can go for a long weekend up his mothers.

He rung and checked 'if i had calmed down yet'. i pointed out i wasnt the unreasonable one and that there is nothing inherently wrong with our marriage, so a break is a stupid suggestion. It would appear he doesnt want a break at all.

I need to stand some ground here; i never do with him as i always want him to be happy. And yes, even if im not.

I think i will have to have him for half term - but will say that Xmas is no no. And he will have to lump that. I need to learn its ok if he is cross, it doesnt mean he doesnt love me or like me iyswim.

Nect year what he needs to do is add up all the time family need for him to be about first- so holidays with you all, Z etc. Only then can he use remainder for stuff. It's what DH does (carnivals bloody demanding time wise) as otherwise it just causes problems.

Thats a good idea Peachy. He is going to Thailand in April again. At least i will never have this issue again, as i won't be having anymore babies! Always feels like i'm the one in the baby's corner, iyswim.

Also, just a small thing, but our GP (family friend) is opening up his gardens this weekend - i have been looking forward to it for ages. But now we can't go, as Sunday DH will be getting Z; Monday we will have 4 dc and only our car which is normal 5 seats.

I take it you'll be upgrading car before December yes?

Scorpio - well done you for realising that you have to stand your ground. It also sounds like your DH doesn't/wouldn't really mind if you did it more often, although I realise it's a difficult thing to do when you don't feel full of confidence. However, the more you do it the easier it will become. Sometimes it's going to be very upsetting for you when you do do it as DH will say stupid things to try and get you to back down. I speak from experience.

I learnt, before I met DH, that I had to stand up for myself and what I believed in instead of relenting to keep other people happy. However, I still have moments when it's difficult for me to say "actually, no it's not going to be like that, it's going to be like this." As DH found out the other day ... he was going to wait to make a docs appointment, yet I'd already phoned and made him one

Thanks Soph

Peachy - yes we are in the process of deciding which car we like, as we don't want a 7 seater with the 6/7 seats in the boot. We liked the Caravelle but its fuel consumptin was very high, even on test drive.

Ours are in the boot (space wagon, old but bloody wonderful- garage called it a sofa with the rocket attached LOL) though next time it's a multipla for safety reasons.

Mpg matters once you get to big car though; ours costs a fortune and in fact running a smaller car alongside saves us a fortune in petrol, even when you take into account the extra running costs (DH has a roller skate smart car)

Oooh my parents always hanker after a SMART car to tow behind their motor home on holidays

ATM our car is amazing on fuel, its a 1.6 C4. The Caravelle was a 2.5 TDi, and i could almost see the needle move when we went over 60. No way.

I like Ford Galaxys, also a c8.

Smart Cars are OK but you can only take small children in them if you have a proper Merc car seat and work done on it; came to £400 . I gave up on that one!

We have a C4. I also like the C8, not that we're ever going to need one sadly!!!!

bas just dranbk from a beaker- (one with a straw)

thank goodness: whole foot thing did make me relalise if I needed more urgent meds his refusal would be an big issue.

he ahs taken to referring to me as Boobie as well PMSL , and having 8 feeds a day still- deffo one or two beaker top ups needed i think!

Well done Bas LOL at Boobie