November 2008: WE Are Not Interested iN eatinG yet!

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Here we go ladies, thanks for giving me the honour of starting us off again!

morning all -

vbab and obs I am going to be honest here, seeing as you have asked. You do both seem to be "up and down" a lot, so as daisy suggests, it might be pertinent to have a chat with the HV. You have both gone through so much in the past few months, it might be taking it's toll in ways that you can't quite fathom? If either of you do, there is no shame/guilt/embarassment about that. It is one of those things that is not your fault and can't be helped, but a chemical imbalance. Please have a chat with Dr/HV, if only to reassure yourselves. I know other's on here have had/are having PND so I am sure someone will come along with a lot more sage advice than I.

Either way, Hugs to you both

PND is one of those things, so easy to hide behind other things and not admit there is a problem. Personally speaking though, if you are asking "Do I have PND?" then there is a fairly high chance that you might. Talk to someone soon, both of you

Ittis look lush ellie. I have some v2 BGs and some size 2 flexitots that are still a bit on the big side. Love the flexitots; they were great over night on DD.

Hi , Minirosa has not gained weight at all thsi week but am holding back until I see next week - Paed reckons she has some slight dry skin patches nothng serious but thinks she might have had something that they call the 5th malatia ...NO idea what they call it in the Uk - We get teh resulst of her poo tom so that might tell us something.
Vbab - so glad to see you again as we were worried about you - well done on being house proud I wish some would rub off on me my house seems to be a permanant tip.
I hope you both manage to feel a bit more positive soon.
Pinky I love the Bee but minirosa has only been treated for a tour of the house in it as the weather has gone back to being cold and windy. I have yet to put it to test over bridges as we also have to put on dd1s step ( another dh job that will not happen ina rush )

5th disease is slapped cheek syndrome rosa. That would explain her rash and red cheeks I suppose?

I hope she is on the mend though and starts gaining weight again

bumble isn't feeding very well at all today. Not sure whther or not to express incase it affects my supply. I think he is either too distracted, or doesn't want to because of his teething.

It might well have been well she seems ok - I am worried about my supply again not as she has not gained any weight IYKWIM but I am empty so much quicker and she is not satisfied - I keep putting her on but she keeps pulling and getting frustrated. My righ boob has a huge red mark on it ( below the nipple ) it is not hard but its sore and now I have a white spot on my nipple- I let her suckle for just under 10 mins but then I had to stop As in agony ....Left was empty . Bloody hell I would have thought by 4 mths I could get it right by now !!!

Sorry obs, rosa, vbab are having a hard time. Glad lacks is through the worst (I hope, I missed your recovery, just the notification from your dh that all had gone well in the op).

Can empathise with the clothes issue. My Judo is vomiting a lot the past 4 days or so...my house is full of clothes. Have not even got rid of tiny baby stuff! I sometimes wish I just had a few things like I did with ds1, but people were so generous with me, gave me their old stuff, gave me new stuff, I already had stuff, so it is just TOO much. Babies have clothing overload, I have clothing underload!

PND. I was in a terrible state last couple of weeks, but I think a lot of it was the lack of sleep. It's a bit better this week as I have been getting more sleep the past 3 nights. I would do the questionnaire but it seems to vary so much day to day. If ds1 eats a good meal and/or it is sunny I can feel great all day! If he is on a food boycott and the weather is pants, I feel rubbish. Hmmmmm..will wait and see. I had PND before and it was a lot more serious than I feel now, I got to the point where I couldn't even enjoy a nice holiday in the sun with my sister.

noisey sophie

am just catching up.

Rosa, that sounds like a milk blister which is a blocked pore and bloody agony and the red patch is inflammation from the build up behind the blockage. Hot flannels, as hot as you can bear before feeding her on that side and hopefully that will pop it....the relief when it does is immense!

More odeas for solving it here

Merry, I get like that as well. I used to get in a real panic that the depression was getting bad again, but talking to my psych has made me see that it's OK to have good days and bad days, as long as the good outweigh the bad. It's difficult not to panic though as I was really ill and it's only the distance of a couple of years that has made me realise just how mad and ill I actually was. The first time I felt normal was a bit of a shock to me, as I hadn't felt normal for a very long time and I was convinced that not normal was my lot in life.

Sorry to all of you having it rough at the moment. I think it's a fair question to ask yourself, do I have PND? and I'm sure most mums at some point have asked themselves this when the going has been tough. I have read that around 40% of mums develop some degree of PND. If that is correct, then it's likely that unfortunately even with our lovely supportive thread, some of us on here will have PND.
I guess the most important thing is to acknowledge PND type feelings and ask for help.
I know some people find it difficult to ask for help, like to be seen to be strong. But there is a strength in being able to ask for help.

M is quite clingy the last few days, red cheeks, drooling, you know the thing...But our biggest trauma was yesterday evening when a friend of ours was holding him and let go of his head and he banged the back of his head on a table. I was petrified he was going to have an injury although it wasn't a really hard bang. Friend was mortified. I spent the rest of the evening watching him like a hawk and examining his eyes. Anyway, thank god he is fine and his usual jekyll/hyde happy smiley one minute, wingey the next minute self. Ohh, am tired tonight, luckily, we have a LARGE sticky toffee pudding in the fridge that is use by today, shame eh? .
Will think about the calories tomorrow.

Sorry to all of you having it rough at the moment. I think it's a fair question to ask yourself, do I have PND? and I'm sure most mums at some point have asked themselves this when the going has been tough. I have read that around 40% of mums develop some degree of PND. If that is correct, then it's likely that unfortunately even with our lovely supportive thread, some of us on here will have PND.
I guess the most important thing is to acknowledge PND type feelings and ask for help.
I know some people find it difficult to ask for help, like to be seen to be strong. But there is a strength in being able to ask for help.

M is quite clingy the last few days, red cheeks, drooling, you know the thing...But our biggest trauma was yesterday evening when a friend of ours was holding him and let go of his head and he banged the back of his head on a table. I was petrified he was going to have an injury although it wasn't a really hard bang. Friend was mortified. I spent the rest of the evening watching him like a hawk and examining his eyes. Anyway, thank god he is fine and his usual jekyll/hyde happy smiley one minute, wingey the next minute self. Ohh, am tired tonight, luckily, we have a LARGE sticky toffee pudding in the fridge that is use by today, shame eh? .
Will think about the calories tomorrow.

Sorry to all of you having it rough at the moment. I think it's a fair question to ask yourself, do I have PND? and I'm sure most mums at some point have asked themselves this when the going has been tough. I have read that around 40% of mums develop some degree of PND. If that is correct, then it's likely that unfortunately even with our lovely supportive thread, some of us on here will have PND.
I guess the most important thing is to acknowledge PND type feelings and ask for help.
I know some people find it difficult to ask for help, like to be seen to be strong. But there is a strength in being able to ask for help.

M is quite clingy the last few days, red cheeks, drooling, you know the thing...But our biggest trauma was yesterday evening when a friend of ours was holding him and let go of his head and he banged the back of his head on a table. I was petrified he was going to have an injury although it wasn't a really hard bang. Friend was mortified. I spent the rest of the evening watching him like a hawk and examining his eyes. Anyway, thank god he is fine and his usual jekyll/hyde happy smiley one minute, wingey the next minute self. Ohh, am tired tonight, luckily, we have a LARGE sticky toffee pudding in the fridge that is use by today, shame eh? .
Will think about the calories tomorrow.

Whats happened to thread? On my screen all bunched over to the right?

Er Fudge you've broken it!!!

Oh gawd, somethings gone wrong with my computer, apologies if the last message has appeared more than once, can't even tell at the mo.

yikes, it's all gone wrong, I couldn't see the thread on the right hand side so I kept pressing "post message". oops!

It seems like it's all the postnatal and lone parent threads

maybe they want us to mingle more; there are loads of people on a thread in site stuff now

but I like the idea of there being fudge, rather than a spanner, in the works

help - i don't do techy stuff!!!

Oh crikey I have Daisys post over the dancing children in the advert can't read it ...Its only on this thread through .
Off to heat pack the bob and wake Minirosa to feed ..If I am going to boil my boob then she can at least wake up to share it
redness has gone down a bit but it is still sore!

Oh good - its not just my computer then!!

Hi all,
obs sorry I did not mean to ignore you earlier, I agree with daisy and dozy though if you are thinking it you should go and talk to your HV, when I had PND with DD1 it did not show up till much later on think she was 9 months but it had been going on since she was about 4 months and I ended up having panic attacks I think I had been denying it and trying to hide from everyone, but as my GP said it had to come out some way, so its best to acknowledge it and try to deal with it. As Daisy said earlier everyone has good and bad days but recognising when you are having more bad days than good is when you need to think is this just a bad run.
I hope yourself and vbab feel more postive soon.

Glad M is ok fudge

I am glad everyone else has commented on the thread I thought my computer had spat the dummy!!

gah fudge....missed your post about M banging his head

I hope he is OK. My DS1 has had LOTS of head injuries, and the main thing seems to be to make sure that he is rousable through the night (although how you do that with a baby without waking them up entirely) and any worries get to the doc ASAP. I'd be inclined to pop along to the GP anyway.

what is going on????

this is not acceptable MN do we need to report it?

Oh dear, it'sstill doing that thing. Ithought it was just my computer but ther other threads I'm on are fine.

Wanted to give VBAB a hug, lovey.xx

Hi to all will post later.