November 2008: WE Are Not Interested iN eatinG yet!

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Here we go ladies, thanks for giving me the honour of starting us off again!

if you search for bipi stuff on amazon, there is someone selling them there at 3 for £10

I bought mine on ebay but never saw any copies.....might get some of those as well then, as DD has taken to wearing them like a neckerchief around the house. she looks very jaunty in them

Oooooh, these!! Check out the sellers other listing for more colours as well. they look just like the real deal.

Are those bipi things meant to be worn all the time then?

LackaDAISYcal - hope I haven't mistaken you for someone else. I'm due to give birth birth at LGI at the end of April, and wondered if you might have any advice for me over here. I think you may have had similar discussions??
Many thanks.

We are at the drooling stage as well But she has had lots of spots on her neck I don't think connected to the dribbling I seem to be going through a few cotton bibs a day as well....Also she seems to be going at me like a vaccum cleaner- And she seems to be emptying me much faster end of the day my boobs are sore almost like at the start. Am taking supplements to help supply but I am doing say left / right then back on left to make sure it is empty. am going to go on to Kelly to see what they come up with.
Minirosa seems to settle ok with me and wakes in general once after her 10 pm ish feed she has been waking earlier in the morning though which is throwing the routine completley ....

Hello all. Dribble bandanas yes we had some of those for DS, I should have a go at making some. Seem to have barely enough time to fold laundry at the mo so getting upstairs to sew seems a long way off.

I have made bibs to go with burp cloths, but as you say, daisy the bandanas are cut a little diferently. I'll take one apart and have a look.
The fabrics I use are very washable, really. Some have a slight over-dye which is why I put cool/cold wash, but I have hot washed my blankets and bibs and they have been fine.

Much sympathy for those with dribbly pukey babies. Momi seems a lot better today, though she is still being a major guzzle chops.

Rosa, it's not thrush is it? Has minirosa had ABs for her poorliness? If so, thrush can cause really sore nipples.

Pinky, I've only handwashed my blanket as I'm scared of my washing machine doing something horrible to it. Luckily bumble has managed to not puke on it (so far), so it's only been washed once.

bumble is in a babygro with a bandana bib on.....all he needs is a rear escape hatch in the babygro and he's look like a cowboy in his undies

Evening all

Sam also has little red spots all round his chin - the amount of dribble that comes out, it is hardly a surprise!

He has also been a 'velcro' baby this last week but I think we are out the other side - he has been much happier today although he still doesn't like being left in another room unless he is in his cot and going to sleep - then he never bats an eyelid. When he is tired, he will whinge and as soon as you put him in his cot, he starts cooing which makes it very hard to walk away but my lad loves his bed just like me

He is off his milk though - not sure what to do. He had a bad cough last week so really didn't want to eat (not sure if it hurt to swallow) but he is much better and still not eating . But he is reasonably happy in between feeds and sleeps 12 hours at night so surely he must be getting enough (even though it barely seems enough to exist on ) Am going to get him weighed on Wednesday so will see how bad it is and speak to the HV I guess.

No she hasn't - In fact she hasn't had any meds for ages ( touch wood) apart from the drops to help settle her stomach - but they are more natural than anything. I was reading a bit about slapped cheek but older children seem to get that. Thing is my dh has a ' red cheeked' look about him so am guessing she has inherited that. The spots seem to come and go and some patches like behind her ear are rather dry . Yesterday after bath she was pretty clear - tonight no bath ( wicked mum) they are back but not in force.
Just the thought of another feed in about 30 mins my right boob is protesting !!!!!!
Love the bibs ...I might just dabble I wonder if they do them in bugaboo pink

Tiger is in her bipi all day, in fact she has several that I colour co-ordinate

They are bloody brilliant I love 'em!

rosa tiger had those red spots as well, but since bipi they have gone!

Chocorange I just know you will buy some my fellow spendaholic!!!

Vbab where is she? Hope her LO is ok after white poo........

your weekend sounds fun, Hana.

Rosa how to you like your bee?

gah how do you like your bee?

where is vbab? hope all is ok.x

and rutho. come back to us!

hello merrym hope all is well.

morning!
gah - w did not do sleep last night (awake from 1am) so am knackered and just read about sids and sleeping on sofa so don't kno how am going to get sleep today. poo
he has top right and bottom right tooth coming - perhaps pain but also fed constantly so maybe stil growthspurt.
pah
hope everyone had a good night!

hi ladies. sorry not been on (since 15th?) just seem to have not got around to it. Thanks for your concern. Its nice to hear someone cares.
Alyssa (19wk today) has occassionally slept through (7-7ish) but for the most part is in bed by 7pm then up around 4/5am for a feed (DH does) then back down until about 7. She can be very opinionated and loud! I'm sure she will talk before walking. Her skin is improved but does vary day to day. The vomiting is still going on. Not heard anything from the blood or allergy tests so assume it is just one of those things that she will grow out of (heard other similar stories). Even though she is vomiting she is happy and growing. Definitely teething and really bites her thumb hard. The only thing I find weird and need to address (some of you ladies mentioned the same) at night I can put her in her cot bed (in her room) awake and she will go to sleep on her own. But in the daytime she needs assistance by me, car, buggy or whatever and it takes a few attempts to put her down.
DS ... his behaviour is still a little all over the place but had some amazing days. So good I forgot for a while about the bad times until it has started again. I made the decision to toilet train properly. With the exception of yesterday (backwards step) and a couple of days the other weekend with more bum trouble DS has done amazing in about 2weeks. The white poo resolved itself but DS did have runny stuff a few days later but I was a little poorly myself so think it was a bug.
Me & DH ... going to Whitby for Saturday night to get away. We dont argue much now but things still (i think) are strained. From my point of view DH does try to be affectionate but only when he really wants it to lead to SEX. Then i guess at other times i dont believe him. On an eve when he's not playing squash, currently 1 a wk but wants to increase and have football another night, he comes home late from work (i've sorted the kids all on my own) and he gets 30mins-1hr with them which he doesnt always focus on them. WHY THE FK cant he come home on time I would have never mind want to if I was back at work. Then whilst i'm doing tidy up, tea, lunches, DS school bag, A bottles and so on he sits with the laptop. Then after tea he will sit with the laptop and not even mention the tea i made. A couple of nights after dropping loads of hints I went to bed early. I then told him point blank and he started getting arsey about the laptop. REMEMBER he said I was spending all my time on mumsnet before x-mas when I wasnt just needed to talk and get support i wasnt getting at home. He has stopped going on laptop as much but like i said then cant just sit & cuddle or talk but goes on about leading onto stuff!
ME ... feel like st. It's my own fault. I am the type of person that gives 100% of me to my family and is mental about taking care of house and family. But I also feel hurt way too easy. just feel like I do everything (above the call of duty) to get what ... DH showing no appreciation or love except when SEX involved and DS being nasty to me and saying he wants daddy or nan when i say no. I am personally body image and mind wise at a very low point but just feel like I give my all to people and hand over my heart just to get hurt. Alyssa is the only thing keeping me going some days.
SORRY FOR MY RANT re-introduction.

vbab

glad you are back with us lovely, but you are feeling so down. I wish I had some advice about your DH and how to deal with him. Maybe when you have your weekend away you'll be able to have a really good chat about how you feel? I find it's always easier to be more objective about these things when you are away from your familiar circumstances.

If you fancy a trip up to Leeds for some shopping, or even a coffee and a chat you know where I am

I'll hopefully be able to get down your way soon as I fancy a meet up with you and rutho to set the world to rights.

sorry for your rough night barbs. when you have been used to a bit of sleep, not getting much really takes it out of you. try and not worry overly much about the sids and sofas thing....I think it is more about sofas with big squashy cushions and what's done is done and he is fine . DH and I have both done it in the past and all you can do is try not to but sometimes it can't be helped!!

lacks - THANKS . Tried talking to DH but never sorts anything. Dont get me wrong he isnt a bad man. He can be selfish, only help out occasionally and be moody at times but he is overally a good person and he does keep saying recently he is worried that if i dont change things with me i will become "properly" depressed but yet he wont listen that he is part of the problem.

new kiddie pics added.

Good morning!!
Barbs hope you get a sleep today,daisy is right when you are used to getting a decent sleep and dont you take bad.
pinky glad you got through saturday ok
vbab glad you have posted , but dont have any advice sorry, just hope you and DH can get through this, I know how you feel having to do everything yourself its not fun, when DH is away for a month I am really tired I adore my girls but love 8pm when they are both in bed and the majority of my work is done for the day! I am lucky as they are both really good sleepers. I feel awful though cos I dont feel I am able to spend QUALITY time with them when I am on my own, I try but its not easy. When DH comes home at least there are 2 of us full time with them which for that I know they feel a benefit. I often wonder if we made the right decision about DH working overseas as DD1 has been missing him this time (never when she is with me, doesnt even mention him) but when she is at my neighbours she has been getting upset. But I try and tell myself that they.
OOh my new nappies have just arrived

ps good to see you back merry
and vbab you pics are lovely

Good to see a post from MerryM. Vbab sorry to read your post. I think I feel the same way, so can sympathise.
Do you guys hthink that I have PND ? Becasue I am starting to think I may. I seem to be crying quite days. And wandering around, muttering to myself, "There is only so much I can FUCK*NG do " . And I really shouted at ds. And dh is not bad at all, but I am struggling to verbalise what I need him to do.
Like he says, I'm off to clean out the garage. And then he takes ds with him to the tip. Great. But really I could do without the garage being cleared. What I really need isis for him to take both the boys , so as to give me a break.
I am crying becasue all my clothes and ds2's clothes are in the wash, becasue of constant vomiting. And becasue i CAN'T BE FRIGGIN BOTHEREED TO CLEAR OUT THE DRAWERRS OF 3-6 MTHS, EBAY IT AND PUT THE 6-9 MTHS IN AN ORDERLY FASHION, IN THE DRAWERS, SO THAT i CAOULD GRAB THEM WHEN NEEDED.
i HAVE 2 PAIRS OF JEANS AND A PAIR OF TRACKSUIT BOTTOMS THAT CURRENTLY FIT. aLL IN THE WASH. sO HE VOMITS ON ME AND HIM AND i STAND THERE CRYING.
sorry for caps.
Vbab do you think we just need to verbalise what we need done " it is good that you ..... but what I really need is ....."

Obs . hugs lovely.

I think you should at the very least have a chat with your HV or GP and tell them how you are feeling. Given everything that you have been through and the tongue tie struggles and your hypos, depression to some extent is a real possibility. You can do the Edinburgh test online. It'll give you an idea of whether you need to talk to someone or not.

Merry...I didn't say hi yesterday......so Hi

ooh, what nappies ellielou? I am sooo close to throwing in the towel(ling) with real nappies as bumble has gone the same way as DD with constant nappy rash. I've tried everything.

Itti's [grin} I just started using them last week, i now have ittis, bg and flexi tots, but have started using flushable liners. never used real nappies before but love them now.

obs - WOW that is so familiar for so many reasons. I dont think i have PND or depression generally. But I have always had the type of personality where I let things get me down and find it hard to snap myself back out of the bad feeling. But I am also someone whom is very easily hurt. I also have NO clothes and I personally feel like a SCRUFF (polite description) the majority. We have sold a lot of stuff on ebay recently and I have TONS more and more in A and DS drawers to sort but I cant be arsed! I am obsessive with keeping a nice house but that is one thing I cant be bothered with. I keep getting tempted to through it all in the car (moses basket and everything) and take to charity shop but then think it could be extra £ we need even if not much. I have tried to talk to DH who has tried to listen but nothing seems to improve or for long. But I think the phrase "but what i really need is" is fantastic as DH has been getting worried about my behaviour and has asked what he can do. Will try it out tonight and let you know how it goes.
HUGS TO YOU.