Dec 08 - Nanny Anne's Apprentices.

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Oh wg lovely, don't feel bad about resenting her if she's being difficult (see my post from Friday ). We love them all and it's so hard when everything we think will make them feel better doesn't work. Hopefully the doc can help you feel more confident.

effie hope ds2 is ok, poor lamb.

MoM thanks for that link, dd spent a lot of her feeds today pushing away with nip in mouth [ouch[ so will try some of those ideas.

jam hmmm I was actually thinking of Kelvedon looking at the map but I know the one you mean, very pretty

DH currently on the phone to MIL explaining taht we'll be staying in the parental home, not her flat, for the wedding. Fingers crossed... veggie sorry to confuse, they are married and to all intents and purposes live together, but every few weeks she'll disappear off to this flat (that she bought using joint savings for the deposit, first thing FIL knew about it was when the bank phoned to check about a new mortgage that had been taken out )

for mother's day he brought me boiled eggs in bed, which was a huge treat - on a tray we were given for a wedding present 2.5 years ago from a cousin of mine with a note saying "make sure you have breakfast in bed every weekend" and this was its first outing for that purpose Then a nice walk in the sunshine during which dd had a bit of a nap

Happy Mothers' Day everyone.

MOM - nice to see you again. I am glad the feed spacing is working for you too. We are on a 3 hours schedule now and it does seem to help her feed well and help her sleep a little longer at night.

WG - Oh dear, I am sorry. It seems alot of us have very unsettled babies on their hands again having had a few weeks of calm. Today DD2 cried more than any other day of her life (Happy Mothers Day for me and her granny and other gathered family members). I was at a loss as to whether it was a bug (she would not feed), teeth (she seemed in pain) or what. This too shall pass, this too shall pass...

Veggie - I am very of a real coffee maker. I want one. I love a good cup of coffee.

Well today has been strange. Not only has DD2 screamed alot but I have been oddly unsettled by the news of Jade Goody's passing. I guess it is not that odd as my own Mum died after a battle with cancer. The way they reported Jade dying with her family all around her reminded me of the last days of my Mum's life when we were all sitting in vigil around her bed. And the fact that Jade died on Mothers' Day reminded me of how I was so sure my Mum was going to die on my 25th birthday and so wanted her to die on a more anonymous day (she actually passed away a few hours before I turned 25). I feel very sorry for Jade's boys but I think the media's constant reporting of every detail of her last weeks has been very hard on those of us who have experienced a cancer death at first hand, and no doubt even harder on those who have recently had a cancer diagnosis.

Sorry, that is a really depressing subject for a Mothers' Day post. I had a lovely day really (lie-in 'til 9.30am, fresh coffee and pastries in bed, Issey Miyake perfume as a gift and then big family lunch at PiL's).

WG: there do seem to be many screamy babies at the moment, I suspect partly growth spurt (DS1 was horrible during his growth spurts) or moonspots or something... it an awful feeling when you CAN'T settle a baby and have no idea what is wrong .

Arti: I admit to being befuddled by all the Jade business, but sorry it has raised painful memories for you . I have been turning my eyes from some horribly intrusive pictures on the front the of the Sunday papers - there seems to be no privacy when you're a sleb

Effie - I have been befuddled by it too. That is why I was shocked that I reacted to today's news. I think maybe I would have felt unsettled today anyway because it is Mothers Day.

arti - I can see why today would be hard for you. Big Hugs for you. Two friends of mine have recently had a cancer diagnosis - one may be ok with chemo and op, the other has only weeks left. She has 2 young kids and it's just heart breaking for them all. I am sure your mum lives on in you, and you are such a blessing to your children.

WG - sorry about your day. Please don't be hard on yourself - you are amazing and babies are hard. You and your dh got through those horrendous first weeks - and you'll get through this. The LOs are just changing so much so quickly we can't keep up with them

and for those of you enjoying the toddlerisms...

Lucy was playing on the Cbeebies webiste today and said "do keyboards have batteries or did God make them?"! There are obviously only those 2 possibilities in her world - batteries or God!

arti yes, it's been on my mind as well but wasn't sure if it was too depressing to bring up. The thought of a small child waking up one day and their parent not being there any more is so upsetting. I just keep thinking about my brother, who has a 2 year old and is undergoing his 2nd lot of chemo at the moment. At least there is still hope for him at the moment - how awful for your friend trace.

On a brighter note, DS has just come back from Grandma's (he stayed there last night) and said "Happy Mother's Day, Mummy". And the world feels a happier place.

Happy Mothers Day everyone. I haven't had a proper chance to catch up but hope everyone had a lovely day and were all spoilt rotten in return for the utterly fantastic job we do...
We went down to see my Sister and family in Dorset for the weekend which was really lovely. Took DS riding yesterday which he loved and now wants his own pony [hmmm]. I think he will have to settle for riding lessons instead. And then today I was given a lie-in until 8 (bliss), DD obviously recognised the occasion and slept from 9pm to 8am. I was then brought tea, cards and flowers in bed, I don't think I'vehad tea in bed since long before DS was born and went for an hour long ride myslef over the most beautiful countryside. I haven't ridden in about 10 years so am feeling a bit sore, but sooo nice to have an hour just to myself. Quick trip to the pub and lovely lunch were only slightly marred by the 3 hour journey to get home and the fact that on our return found that my freezer had managed to defrost itself. Oh, and I didn't get the present I asked for, in fact I didn't get a present at all. Apparently the new kitchen will be my mothers day present , so perhaps I won't get him a birthday present and tell him that the new car I put on my credit card is his present . Do you think I'll get away with that?!
Off to catch up properly now, but two quick things. DD once projectile vomited so far that it hit the cat sitting on the other side of the room, he was not amused and now steers very clear.
My dissertation was on Abortion in the Weimar Republic, (I studied history, english and theology), what kind of person does that make me?

The ride sounds fantastic katie. Sounds like you had a great Mother's Day. I took DD out in the sling and bought myself a box of chocs, which I ate while wandering round Brick Lane & Spitalfields Market.

Loving the cat story as well. Not sure whether that would be the equivalent of archery or the discus in the Spew Olympics - gold medal for sure though.

So much I want to write but I'm tired and I know I'll forget tomorrow but thinking of all the things you have written anyway so not ignoring. But sad to hear of friends and family with cancer, growing up without a dad is hard so I feel for their children.

PD I so live Brickers, it is around 11 years ago almost to the day when I first walked the lane, it has changed so much since then. Coffee@bricklane is still one of my favourite cafes, Adrian the owner is lovely. Have you been to Viet Hoa on kingsland road it is the best of all the Vietnamese restaurants there. Oh it takes me back I used to live at the old Queen Elizabeth childrens hospital when I first moved here in the nurses quarters and also at Baroness court just off Columbia road.

Trace my ds1 is a bit like your Lucy lately really moody I'm not sure how to deal with it and am sure how I am is wrong, I miss my sweet little man. Also very funny about the batteries & god.

WG don't be hard on yourself and your not alone there are good days and bad days and there will be for a long time yet. You just master one stage but the get older and move onto another. I think if we didn't resent them at times we wouldn't be human.

Right really gotta go to bed.

Oh and thanks for link very helpful.

thanks trace i was awake then but didnt log on... my night was pretty bad - not dd2's fault this time though... dh going to loo, getting up at 5.30am, dd1 needing a hug etc etc >yawn<

am in v v v black humour today. dh went to work just now with a flea in his ear. i just can't help myself just so grumpy and fed up... think i'm gradually ruining my marriage

Morning,

Verso I'm sure you aren't ruining your marriage. Does your DH understand you don't mean to be like this>

Hope you all had better Mother's days than I did. We had a big falling out with DH's family. SIL bought DS1 a bed for his birthday that we didn't want. She asked if we wanted it, DH said no but of course it is all my fault as bloody usual.

Hope you are ok.

verso hugs to you, as Kayz said, does dh understand you don't mean to be like this?

kayz sorry about your falling out, hope its all sorted soon.

poison I probably could do last minute on Weds. It does seem like the sun has gone for this week though!

We had a nice time at ILs yesterday, though SIL insists on going to a noodle bar for tea. Its nice but ds1 doesn't like it so doesn't eat anything, he'd be much happier with a roast dinner!

PD: could prob do Wednesdays, though we're usually at playgroup from 9-11 so would need to know early(ish) in the day

DS2 appears to have recovered from whatever ailed him and is grinning away at everyone.

Aaasoooorrrrrwweeeaaaaddddggghhhhh 7 times for feeds from midnight...that is so wrong, coffee!

veggie poor you! Get that coffee pronto!

Ds2 is waking for his bottle at 4am but then thinks its ok to lie there, chatter & giggle every time I try & put his dummy in until 5am. He especially found it very funny when I was trying to put it up his nose . In my defence, it was dark, I couldn't be bothered sitting up so had just reached my arm over!

Oh crap. Yet again I seem to have the beginnings of mastitis. Can I ask those of you with experience a few questions:
Is it normal for your nipple to really hurt when they feed if you have M?
I have a sore breast and slight fever. Last time I got ABs at this early stage. I hate ABs. Can I do anything else to address this and only go to Dr if this gets worse?
Why, why, why?

A belated happy mother's day to you all .

ladyT Your assistant sounds very ungrateful for all your support. Hope your legs feel better today. What are you having done to your thread veins? I was wondering if a dab of foundation might do for mine - I'm to wimpish to considor anything drastic

mom Welcome! My DD loves an early night. I'd rather she go to bed about 7 so DH gets to see her in the evenings but she prefers to go about 6! I've given in now as it isn't worth the upset of trying to keep her up for longer.

effie What a lovely evening! I haven't seen the series but love the book. DD has Evelyn as a middle name inspired by DH reading Brisdeshead Revisited when she was born. I've since read Decline and Fall, very funny indeed . Very interesting hearing the subject matter for dissertations - my UG one was on millenarian tracts written during the English civil war. katie I studied theology too.

Sorry to those with bad days or nights. Teething makes them so very grumpy and out of sorts.

veggie Lucky you with the coffee machine gift , shame on katie's DH, the kitchen isn't a present for you! Naughty. DH made boiled eggs, bought me some chocolates and we had a lovely day seeing both our mothers (not at the same time mind!). DD's present to me was to sleep through last night I actually had to wake her up this morning - I was worried there was something wrong. I doubt she'll do that again for a while.

arti Sorry I can't help with your mastitus questions. I hope someone comes along soon who can help.

Hello all. My asthma has been pain in the ass (although not literally - that would be medically absurd) so haven't been on for a bit. Hope you all had lovely mothers' day (DH and I had half a day's dilemma about where the apostrophe goes - it's v exciting in our house).

Arti am sorry that yesterday was difficult for you - and that you think you've got the evil m again. Only other way I've heard of people avoiding it getting worse was to go straight to bed with the baby and stay there until you feel better. Don't know how practical that is though.

PD I hope your brother's chemo goes ok.

Trace I love batteries or God. So lovely when you get an insight into what's going on in their heads.

Sybil Kayz hope the parties went well and happy birthday to your little ones.

LadyT grr at your assistant. So frustrating when you know you've behaved properly. In similar-ish situations in the past I've eventually just taken solace from fact that I haven't sunk to their level. Although might also be worth pointing it out (or threat of it) to your boss. If it's someone who knows you much easier to say something at first sign rather than wait until it's got a bit more messy. Am sure your boss wouldn't be pleased it was bothering you and give you some reassurance. Quite likely that they've spotted she's trying to muscle in.

Effie I can't believe Brideshead is on iplayer. We have spent literally 3 years waiting for bloody love film to send us the second disk in the series so we could catch up. I also heart Evelyn Waugh. Also Turnip I too have weird Mitford sisters thing - have you read Jan Dalley's book about Diana? Is v good - will bring to next meet up if you like.

And if we're swapping dissertations mine was on whether democracies or dictatorships produce different forms of artistic representation. Along with most of the stuff I did at university I can't remember the answer (or understand it any more). Ho hum.

Wg hope you're having a better day.

Have started thread on RFH meet up here. Have no strong feelings about day so picked one at random. Shout if another would be better.

Sorry -meant to say hello MomorMum

Right I've had 2 cups and feeling a little more human. Leo the cat had his yearly jabs this morning (ds2 has his tomorrow glad I didn't mix them up) so had to sort out getting ds1 to nursery then bundle up cat and baby and take them off to vets. So by the got back I was starving and had a caffeine headache... Oh gotta go

Hi all, hope you are well. Am just about to unpack the shopping and start my shepherd's pie while Matthew is asleep but I'll be back later to catch up and say hi properly. Hope all are well

lal your dissertation sounds very fancy & interesting.

Veggie no I haven't been to the Vietnamese you're talking about unfortunately. Not far from me though. Have you been to Spitalfields in the last year or two? Totally unrecognisable! Will be heading down that way again soon to check out the City Farm - usually do the Hackney one but someone told me the Spitalfields one is really good.

ros/Effie will try to get up early on Wed and see what the weather holds.

arti sorry you're feeling crap again. Only had the beginnings of mastitis once with DS and got ABs in time to head it off. Got recurrent blocked ducts after that and was very careful to manage any blockages by doing the usual stuff (nappies etc.). Also used to comb them with a wide-tooth comb! No idea if any of these things made a difference, but it never developed into mastitis again. The only thing I am pretty convinced made a difference was taking high doses of lecithin. When I was taking it every day I never got blockages, and when I stopped taking it daily I would take it at the first sign of a blockage and the blockage would clear up pretty much straight away. I think you need a high dose (I used to take 2 or 3 1500mg capsules). You can buy the capsules on the internet or you can buy granules at Holland & Barrett I think (I'm told it tastes nice on cereal). Won't be any good to you right now but it might be worth trying to see if you can prevent another attack.

Right, got to dash off for my smear...

Hope everyone is ok.

I'm having a bit of a mad panic here. My period is 2 days late. I'm on the pill and haven't missed any or anything like that. I checked and the anti inflammatory drugs I was taking for my knee don't affect the pill like ABs do. I've tested and it is negative. But I'm still feeling very worried. I really want another but not this soon.

Anyway ignore my rambling.