Fab Feb 2009: attack of the zombie mums

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So here we all are, complete with babies and gro-bags under our eyes

PT {{{hugs}}} Wish there was smething helpful to say. x Thinking of you.
Spotty and double at your labour ward. I hope you've called them back, sounds like whoever you spoke to is a complete idiot (or thinks you are), no way is that your period, and I know it's been a while since we all had one but as far as I remember a period bleed doesnot gush and does not soak your trousers, even the heavy ones. Call them back or just turn up there, it does sound like something isn't quite right. Shit NHS.
thom I want a glass of pinot, in fact I want the whole bottle. Make that 2.
TBM&FiFi Hope your feeling better after you tummy bug.

Luke is smiling!!!!!! just like this . Not right now because he is asleep, but he has been smiling. I thought it was a proper smile yesterday but thought maybe it could be wind, but today I am 100% sure it is a smile. Plus he makes the strangest sounds, sometimes it sounds like he's trying to laugh
I should be bathing Luke now. I am aiming to get him into a bedtime routine within the next 2 weeks, so by the time he's 8 weeks old, although I will continue to only bath him twice a week. I'm going to wash and dress him in living room as have been doing, but dio it before feed instead of after, wikll then feed him, put him in basket and read a story, at some point in next 2 weeks I will move him into bedroom once he's asleep, will then start story in bedroom, then feed, then change of clothes.

I just want to say, I know we're all pissed off with dp/h's but I am having a love day today and actually feel a bit sorry for mine. I tend to forget all the great things he does to help me, ok great might be a bit strong, after all they are his dc's too, but remember all the shit times for weeks! Poor thing. Although no doubt I'll be moaning again in an hour

It's two weeks today that the clocks change, herby - my mum is staying round the night before to babysit, so we will not loose out on the hour's sleep!!!!

Spotty they should be interested for 28 days after birth. Call them back, or phone out of hours. If that midwife has a period like you described I feel sorry for her!

Hope everyone has had a lovely weekend. It's been such nice weather, so we just had a quick stroll around the park and I'm now trying to persuade John we should have fish and chips for supper!!!

Hey SMS I think we had a smile this weekend too - the only thing is that she makes such a lot of funny faces after feeding due to wind that I really thought it might just be that - but it seemed like if she could laugh she'd be pissing herself laughing - it looked so funny and as she has quite a big mouth she was all lips and gums (painting a pretty picture aren't I?!)..

I'm trying to arrange a time to see some of our friends who don't have kids over Easter. DH likes to play golf with his mate but these days I get left trying to have a catch up with my mate whilst entertaining /looking after 2 kids. Doing it with just my DS was bad enough but AIBU to be a bit hacked off that DH will arrange to bugger off and play golf with his mate and yet again I'll be left to have one of "those" conversations with my friend in between clearing up puke/changing nappies/reading DS stories and trying to generally entertain DS whilst also having to have adult conversation?? DH looked horrified when (jokingly) I suggested that my friend and I go and do shopping and lunch and they look after the kids . I feel sorry for my friend too - it's not as if she is "just" DH's mates partner, she's one of my best friends and maybe she'd like to have some uninterrupted conversation with me too - she did hint at it on the phone.....

herb It's hard isn't it trying to find the time to have proper friendships and proper converstaions. I was on the phone the other day to a child-free friend of mine, she'd called to update me on what she did over the weekend, she's single so most of it was men, men, men. I wasn't really listening tbh, too busy telling ds1 to "get off that table" "Don't climb on the arm rests" "get off my head please" "put that glass down" and finally "go watch tv"

I've done the turning tv on SMS to see if he might be distracted by that (don't have to do it that often as most of our friends have dc's so we spend our time instead trying to teach them the principle of "sharing" - DS likes to tell others to "share" and "take turns" and just then whips said item off them and wanders off- anyway - I digress ) but then the cheeky thing pipes up whilst I resume chit chat with my mate "shush I can't hear MY telly" - he really is pretty stroppy at the moment.

Sorry PT

Just checking in quickly and skimmed. Didn't want to go without saying hope your ok pt and big hugs. Hope it's better in the morning x

Luke just woke, so kind of on aout pilot, have prepared a bottle, sat down with him to feed, he's struggling against it, and thenmI look at the time.....It's only been 2.5 hrs so it's not hunger, here we go with the wind battle again

PT hope you're ok.
We're having another bad night here with Harry's blocked nose. Hope it clears up soon so the little man can get some rest.
I bought one of those nasal aspirators (snot suckers) but nothing came out, the congestion doesn't seem to be in his nose, it's further in. To make things more fun, I'm poorly too with a temperature and shivers.
We went to church on Saturday for Harry's 40 day blessing, and he performed magnificently - when the priest took him to bless him at the alter, Harry let out a massive pooey fart, and stank the church out. The priest was most professional, barely batted an eyelid....

morning all,
PT, hope all ok with you today and that you and your OH manage to sort things out. Its clear from on here that we are (almost) all having ups and downs with our OHs so I hope its just a bad day for you and all will be ok now x

spotty, hope all ok with you now. Hope it was nothing to worry about. Like some others have said, it can be quite normal a few weeks after. I had this around 10 to 14 days ago so around 3 weeks after H was born. The bleeding had pretty much stopped for a few days and then I suddenly had a gush. Went and got checked out and was told I'd been overdoing it. Try to get checked out and then rest x

Pempe sorry Harry is still poorly. When Harrison was coldy I tried rubbing very gently above the bridge of his nose and it seemed to relax him a little

Not a bad night in the overseas house (eventually when I got DD to sleep just before 10pm in my bed!) DS slept through til around 2am then I settled him quite quickly, (around half an hour) then we slept til 5.30am. I brought him downstairs then to try to keep DD asleep and she has just crept downstairs. Will try going back upstairs for an hour or so now. More sleep unlikely but feel a bit more human today

Morning all - Happy Monday!

MrsY You sound awfully cheery, have a good night?

Just a quick skim & hello to everyone...

Hope your ok PT Big hugs xx

Not much news from this household, Poppy seems better with the Gaviscon, but now both Dp & I have a cold & Poppy is starting to get a snotty nose. Im dreading her getting this cold, she is going to feel rubbish & I wont be able to do anything

Me & Poppy are having a duvet day today, as I dont have the nergy to do anything!

Is it feed a cold and starve a fever? Or the opposite?
Ive had a dairy milk already this morning

SMS, Mrs Y is very cheery isn't she. Do you think she had 'rumpy pumpy' last night (whose lovely saying was that?)

KT, the saying is feed a cold, starve a fever Very of the dairy milk but I'm still sticking to my giving it up for lent. DH in UK on business now and the tescos delivery I ordered arrived yesterday. He phoned this morning and said he has to buy a new suitcase as it won't all fit in his (HUGE) one! oops, methinks I overordered the easter eggs and knowing our luck the nasty bastards at customs will steal them all

KT Sorry you're not feeling too good. The whole feed a cold starve a fever thing is an old wives tale, am sure it's a load of crap though, now is not the time to cut down on food and nourishment. You need a healthy balanced diet atm to help you with the energy you need to look after a baby. Listen to me, who hasn't had any dinner for god knows how long and is living off of chocolate, crisps, bread and pepsi
Hope you feel better soon.

MoS hehehe, maybe she has!

MoS Very well done for being so strong willed I attempted to give chocolate up for lent & lasted about 4 days

Im like you SMS Ive been living off chocolate & coffee last few weeks, dread to think what the scales say.

hmm...Diet starts tomorrow!!

KT Know what I say? It took 9 months for my body to get into this state, it will take that log to get out of it.
They do say though that it takes your body 2 years to fully recover from pregnancy and child birth. Although 2 babies in 2 years, think I may have my work cut out getting back to how I'd like to look.

just popped in to skim messages (((((PT)))))... hope you are doing ok...nothing useful to say at all..beyond hoping that it was a massive argument that can be remedied..

spotty think you should get the bleeding checked just in case...

KT hope you feel better soon..don't push yourself too hard...

i've already had a large packet of crisps.....

I've eaten a sausage roll and an Easter cupcake....

So, when DC is really tired, has yawned a few times, they've been awake almost 2 hrs and should really need a nap, but when you put them down, they just cry their heart out - how many times do you go to soothe them? How much wailing can/should you stand?

Morning all. Pinktulips - am sending you huge hugs hon; I really hope things are much better today between you and your partner and that the huge argument can be remedied.

Spotty - definitely get checked out by your GP if you havent already; the woman on labour ward sounds like an idiot! Also YANBU re your DH (D stands for Dufus)- definitely go on strike! Same for you Calico - either that or suggest as he's the one upset about the mess, he tidies up/cleans or gets a cleaner! Herbgarden - definitely leave the kids with the men!

MrsY - another good night's sleep??

MoS- glad you had a better night last night - hope tonight is even better..

Had bad day yesterday - ended up yelling at DS1 about his eating issues which I hate doing and found out my aunt died too. Still upset about both things today though i know there is nothing i can do about them. Oh well, new day and new week....

thanks all, the support i get on here is really helping.

stll not talking beyond 'trying to act normalish in front of the kids' stuff, he had a friend round last night working on some music so i got aaron settled and went to bed early, left duvets in the hall for him to trip over as he has a habit of 'forgetting' we're fighting in order to sleep in the bed and i would quite possibly have punched him if he'd tried to sleep in the bed last night.

was lovely haveing the bed to just me and aaron had a great night sleep until snotty woke at 6am and got cross about his cold again so exploded his nappy in retaliation got him back down at 7.45 and ds1 came in for a cuddle.

dp actually got himself up at 8, before me and started getting the kids ready (pity none of us remembered dd is on holiday from playschool for paddy's day ) lord knows how the nan's mind works, he's spent 7 years making it absolutely clear me and the kids aren't worth getting up for and now that he's leaving he's suddenly trying to be superdad... bit late

Go as many times as it needs Beantin - Danny is being a 45 min catnapper only today too (and takes almost the same amount of time to settle him down too). Sadly bubs move from tired to overtired stupidly quickly. If they are really howling it may be that the crying is causing them wind which just exacerbates the issue too...

beantin... be wary of presuming they need a nap simply based on how long they've been awake, aaron often goes 4/5 hours now quite happily with no sleep and doesn't get overtired.

that said if baby is yawning they probably are tired but i doubt you'll have much luck settling them on their own at this age.... just pick the baby up and cuddle them, no point leaving a baby that small to cry like that, they're too little to understand. all they know is the need mommy and mommy's not there.

(sorry for all the thems, no idea if your lo is a boy or girl)