August 2008: Six Month Milestones and More

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Well it's official, I need to get out more. I have just made my first ever complaint to the BBC because of the cbeebies advert at the top of this page. FFS I know grammatical standards are slipping but 'mum's and dad's', they can't be allowed to get away with it

morning everyone!
sambo sorry to hear o your rough night.

We had a decent night here thankfully.

HP glad you complained - apostrophe abuse annoys me too. I used to go past a shop on my way to work advertising washer's dryer's cooker's etc. I used to fume silently about it.

Good on you hp. Would join you if I didn't have such a huge list of things I should be doing other than be here .

Anyhoo... it's been a while so rather a lot to catch up on.

So sorry to hear about your friends pf. Can't imagine how horrible that must be for them.

And No1 and S&M . What a difficult time for you both and your DHs. Hope the NHS cranks up a notch and at least gives you answers asap.

miamla - Big scare for you too. So glad T ok though.

Dizzy - Is DD2 ok? What happened? Hope all has continued well and you're waving them off with a smile .

Thinking of you today too CC and ataraxis. Hope it's all going ok and you're busy enough not to be too aware of your missing poppets. I'm off to meet my boss tomorrow to discuss my return to work so countdown starts then...

Fairly rubbish weekend here. Period horribly heavy so felt utterly drained all weekend and DH arrived home in a total strop on Friday and had a go at me about being 'overly hormonal' . We had a heart to heart on Saturday night and he admitted he's finding having a baby in the house (even though she's an angel compared to DD1 as a baby) really hard and can't handle crying - and this is ANY crying at all. I'm a bit but more than else just really really . He was also saying that although he loves DD2 and feels very blessed to have her, he does still think that we should have stuck at 1 DC as so many of DD1's issues seem to be around jealousy of DD2. . It's not a big issue as he doesn't mean is quite as starkly as it sounds, but just that having DD2 hasn't entirely extinguished those feelings. Yet! We're fine now but it does keep going round my head and I just feel rather sad for DD2. Not that she knows about it and once she gets older he'll love her as much as DD1 (he also found bonding with her hard at this stage) but still.

miamla - ah, well it would have been quite a coincidence!

Did I ignore your question? Many apologies! We got married at St Peter's in Eastgate in Lincoln. I was living in London until we got married, but my parents are in Lincoln.

How are your wedding/baptism plans going?

oh, poppy, sounds sad and tough as weekends go, but glad that you are sure that your DH will bond with DD2 in time. Crying is always hard, as it's not just the noise but our emotional response to it, and the response of those around us. Lots of thoughts.

The sun is shining, the birds are singing, but I am still in a foul mood. Farcical two hour interlude in the early hours of this morning = very overtired baby who uncharacteristically sobbed for an hour this morning while I tried to get him to nap, not to mention overtired mum who is sick of the endless drudgery that doesn't seem to even make a dent in the dirt all over the house. Storm clouds brewing between DP and I but I can't work out the cause...communication is at a pretty low ebb atm...can't think of a solution if you don't know the problem, and tbh I'm tired of being in solutions mode. Just want everyone to leave me alone for 24 hours.

lwfh not the church i was thinking of! you mentioned epping forest and i put two and two together and got yellow

poppy sorry to hear of sadness with DH. i'm hoping it was a combo of whoremoans and tiredness so it'll pass as quickly as it arrived

hotpot well done you for complaining!

cyteen what would make you smile today? a walk in the sun? sitting in the garden? we all know its not possible to get away for 24 hours but an hour is obtainable...

cyteen. 'Tis rubbish when it's like that. Not much of significance to suggest, but when I feel things getting on top of me like that I always find a good long walk helps to blow the cobwebs away. If it's a blustery day so much the better somehow. You never know, lots of fresh air may help J to sleep better tonight too.

TS a personal yoga session AND reiki? you lucky girl!

sibh "fictional medieval chicken"? was obviously an evening for giggles at our DP/DH expense!

thanks all for your comments re DS. All's well that ends well and all that!

re DP's GPS... its more the way we've been told that this is what happening. ie they didn't ask "can we come and visit" she said "we're coming to see you on the way up to see DP's father" if they were to go straight there it would take them 4.5 hours. Popping in to see us on the way means that he'll be adding at least 5 hours to the journey. Absolute madness. And apparently DP's GM, who hasn't driven for 15 yrs, will be helping with the driving

i'm not happy with his GF doing the journey but thinking about it, it is the way we were told and not asked that has annoyed me. Especially when we're planning a trip to see them at Easter. I appreciate the comments re just let them get on with it, but i've decided, i'm not backing down on this one. they haven't met DS but they will do 3 weeks after their proposed trip. His GM is a very controlling woman. She openly dislikes DP's mum and all of her family. This is particularly hard for DP but also for me because her family have made me feel part of them, right from the start. Her parents in particular make me feel like a grandaughter again (all of my gps have died). DP's mum never stood up for herself, well i'm not taking the same nonsense

herewith ends my rant!

Cheers girls. I've got a driving lesson in 10 minutes and a mock test one to boot so we'll see how that goes! Once that's out of the way I think I'll give DS his lunch and then bundle him into the pram for a power walk round the park. Hope the weather holds.

sambo I gave DS some avocado on Saturday, he went crazy for it! Will try and post my lentil burger 'recipe' as promised once I get a minute...

poppy{{{hugs}}}
cyteen{{{hugs}}}
miamla
longway{{{waves}}}
sambo {{{waves}}}

everybody else {waves} {hugs}

bit mad racing about this morning. losing kitchen in t minus sixty minutes (i think).

my absence will hopefully not be long.....

TS - Guaranteed, my mother would say, regarding you kitchen, "how very careless of you". Makes me laugh everytime (although admit she may have worn me down after many years of the same joke).

Cyteen - hope the driving lesson goes well and then you manage a long enough moment for yourself, just to "breath".

Sambo - I'm really hoping that ds does NOT have that reaction with avocado (the dietician is totally in love with it as a superb fatty food for my tiny one!)

Poppy - sorry that you're having a down patch but kudos to you for talking about the issues. Hopefully, this will be the start of getting things back on an even keel.

And hello to everyone else - Happy Monday!

Sambo lol at avocado. Toby loves it too mixed with banana.

Tried him on an (whispers it) Annabel Karmel recipe for chicken salad this morning. He did not like it one bit - until I mixed it with some jar blueberry and banana. Then he started grabbing the bowl and I couldn't get it in fast enough. He looks like he has bathed in his food every time he eats. Still at least he is enthusiastic .....

sazzles I think you are probably right about the wives liking their duvets ironed I know the Sort

TS I reckon it is Reese's teeth causing the diaper rash - not the solid food. I know there is no evidence as such for this but loads of mums I know say that when their lo's are teething they get sore bottoms (the los not the mums ) Something to do with the Ph of the saliva altering. What do you think? You will have Sazzles' tube of magic Metanium soon to try anyway.....

Oh and poppy the taking longer to bond with lo no2 is really common. Dh was the same with dd until she was about 1 and then suddenly he loved her. Before that though she was 'my' baby and he said he found it hard to find a way in and was always looking after ds1. He'll come round. I reckon everytime you have a new baby your relationship has to adjust yet again or so I've found it at least.

Sorry I reread one of my posts and there are definitely some mistakes with apostrophes - apologies to thread pedants

vg i did tie a muslin round his head but he didn't seem to think that it was a sensible solution! sorry to disappoint re outcome!
what i failed to mention last night is that he's lost his voice as well so the actual situation was him sitting on the kitchen floor saying "i've got a squeaky voice and a ridiculous haircut! i'm going to get fired from work!!" He sounded like a cartoon chipmunk so his protestations just added to the humour level!

i love it that you got DS1 to deface the sign!

am loling at miamla's chipmunk dp.

Ds loves avocado with banana too....

cyteen good luck with mock test! It took me 5 tests to pass (2 when i was 17, 3 whwn i was 25/6) so anyone can do better than me .

poppy I think my dh has similar issues with ds. He sometimes struggles with having a baby around again (remember we have a 5 yr gap too so it's a bigger jump iyswim). he tries v hard and does love ds to pieces but given the choice, when we divvy up the children so we can do different jobs etc he'd always choose dd even if bfing ds wasn't an issue). I am sure once ds is moving, talking he'll be fine - he says that once he gets to 2/3 it'll be great so.... he's really enjoying ds copying sounds and responding to commands (lol sounds like boot camp here) so I think we're on the up, but, i do know how you feel. It upsets me as i feel stuck with the baby sometimes but I know that dh would never reject ds and would always do anything i asked of him for any of us.

when i say commands i don't mean, "hey ds go and fetch the newspaper" I mean "come to mummy" (with big beckoning gestures) then he rolls his way over. V new and v cute lol.

albs you failed to mention DS kissing you on command! one of sweetest things i've ever seen!

vg lol at DS1 being sick that day! i'm ignoring your comment re interspecies marriages!