August 2008: Six Month Milestones and More

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Morning everyone!
Decentish night here last night. Little man fell asleep at 9 woke up at 3 (not properly awake) but I couldn't find his dumy anwhere, and had to resort to switching the light on to find it. By this point he was wide awake and not happy about it. Eventually found it over a foot from his cot. How did it get there?? Anyhoo, fed him back to sleep and have yet to go wake him up
Expectant that sounds incredibly hectic.
no1 hope you get your results today.

Expectant Heheh, no hoodies and swingmonkeys round your way then (are there any swings?) That torrent of visitors does sound exhausting, don't envy you. Maybe they all think you need help as it's your first baby and there's no one around - although how does one politely put it that you're perfectly capable thanks?

Did anyone watch that tv show ages ago experimenting on depressed people in Slough using alternative different antidepressant techniques? Theory is 50% is genes and upbringing, 10% is circumstances and the remaining 40% you can change. This is the book that went with it but they reduced it down to 10 bulletpoints:

*Grow a plant - and look after it.
*Talk to someone close to you for an hour each day.
*Smile, say hello and/or talk to strangers.
*Have a good laugh at least once a day.
*Have yourself a treat each day.
*Phone a friend you've not spoken to for a while.
*Count your blessings - at the end of each day reflect on 5 things that you?re grateful for.
*Half an hour of exercise 3 times a week.
*Cut your TV viewing by half.
*Carry out a daily act of kindness.

This is the kind of positive psychology that appeals to me but I'd love to know what other people think. Anyone fancy trying it with me for spring? Hot and Happy Mamas.

Whoops, this is the book.

anyone else with me on booking the visit out to see expectant it looks fab tis pain in the arse re visitors though BUT by Aug hopefully you will be able to go away for a weekend and leave them in charge

where abouts in UK are you coming back to? is it time to start sorting out that meet up

VG thank you, was a calmer night (no vomit at least!) girls still up at crack of dawn but at least I managed to go to bed early and get a couple of hours in a row

buckets didn't watch it but shall consider some of those as I fear I feel some stuff creeping in at the back of my mind

TS and No1 good luck both of you today

dentist?!? what dentist?!? [meep] also have a visit with the minister tonight to sort out christening details - someone remind me please if I'm on here between 6-7pm that I shouldn't be

Good morning ladies, hope all had a good weekend.

buckets that all makes perfect sense to me. I was depressed as a teenager and it took me 10 years to dig myself out and become the happy person I am today. I changed that 40%. I totally believe that you are responsible for the thoughts and feelings you have and you can change them - I read a few of Dorothy Rowe's books which really helped me (she's a self taught psychologist - she learned what she knows by observing patients, not by studying text books)

vg good luck with the work

hi hotpot

expectant I second vg, I would also want to visit your amazing complex, baby or no baby

ann glad you all had a good night, last night we were back to 2 hourly wake ups and wide awake at 6am

pertelote and no1 my thoughts are with you both

dizzy good luck at the dentist, not my fav place either

sazzles hope you are being waited on hand and foot

spring has sprung!

buckets i love those 10 points, i'm going to print them out. DP and I both suffer from feeling really down for no apparent reason.our biggest arguments are when we're both low at the same time. does talking to DS count for the second point?!

Expectant, woah! your visitors sound like they're on a never-ending, tiring conveyor belt! can't your mum and dad visit in August as well? i can understand them being sad at missing DS's 1st birthday

dizz what time's your appointment today?

hi hotpot and anyone else i've missed! your posts are on the previous page and i can't remember them now

and here's a parenting safety tip brought to you by Miamla
*whenever you move your DC from sofa to floor, roll him onto his tummy and slide him down feet first onto the floor. I've done it everytime with DS and he's now getting into the right position on his own ready for me to slide him off. i'm amazed at how quickly he's caught on and also relieved because to start with, he looked like he was just going to launch himself off. (apologies to all non-first timers who know things like this already!)

we had a meltdown here last night from DS. why do i hear you ask? because i left the room and left him with DP! DP picked him up, cuddled him, danced with him but he didn't stop screaming until i walked back through the door My mum did warn me that we (me and my 3 siblings) all went through a "i only want mummy" phase

i love how DS plays happily on his own now. he's currently emptying his toy box having already pulled all the books off the shelf. it gives me more time to clean and tidy the house MN!

right, i'm off to be as productive as my son

2.40pm for dentist
vestry hour between 6-7 for christening

are you going to check up on me

Dylan on a mummy phase too, although I secretly love it - if he wants to be someone's favourite then he can let me have another one

and to steal a phrase from VG...

She Who Types Slowly X-Posts.

Hi Dizz and Sambo

oh my dear goodness. DS has worked out how to get across gaps whilst standing up. this means that he has now got access to DP's precious speakers! i wonder how much force the middle fragile round bit can take before it breaks
He's so bloody adventurous! He has no fear at all. DP was apparently the same as a child and his father had to rescue him off a 15ft cliff when he was about 10. His father admitted quite recently that he was petrified about falling off himself but obviously had to put on a brave face to rescue DP.

Awww, i'm feeling all soppy now. he just fell down quite hard onto his bum and whilst still crying he crawled over to me. one mummy cuddle later and he's off again for another adventure!

i really am going now

VG we're finally booked for holiday

we're staying here Monday 6th to Fri 10th

looks good Dizz, we'll all see you there!

now its only got 4 bedrooms so we'll all have to bunk up

that's fine, i'm only little and DS doesn't wriggle in his sleep at all, oh no no no, not him. Must be mistaking him for another baby ;)

yes and all 3 of mine sleep through religiously every single night so wouldn't disturd anyone at all

Miamla Joe is going through a bit of an "I only want Daddy" phase Not crying as such (thankfully) but I hold about as much interest for him as a brick whenever DP is around...Joe only has eyes for him.

Buckets totally agree that there is a lot one can do to manage low mood. I was dreadfully unhappy till I was about 18, for various reasons - it took a lot of hard work, good loving and, um, quite a lot of partying before I reached my happy self, but I'm never going back to how I was. Fuck that.

Good luck at the dentist dizzy

I learned an important life lesson today: never drink wine on an empty stomach when you have an early-rising baby to look after the next morning, especially not one that likes to start the day with a poo.

Hello again everyone. Just back from BF group. Was good to go and see everyone.Very windy here today. The sunshine is lovely but the wind is very cold.
Just nibblingat some leftover roast lamb from yesterday
Like others here, I also went through a very low phase. It took work and motivation on my part to change it. Glad I did or my life would not be the same. I wouldn't have Seb for onething, as I wouldn't have met DP.

cyteen, i know what you mean! DS is usually like that with his daddy. DP is all about rolling around, silly faces and fun. i'm just a feeding spoon/boob to him usually!

lol at your life lesson!

right, have stuffedmyface had lunch incase am too sore later [meep][wails][meep][meep][meep]

I may be back later, I may not [meep]

oh dizz, you'll be ok. please come back and tell us how you get on

no [sobs]

am off to find my arnica

god, I'm really not that funny and yet here I am laughing myself stupid - think its nerves

doobi doobi doo

My mum arriving today, we have found her a little gite up the road a bit, hopefully she will keep her neurosis under control, must keep her away form the red wine.

Bums Izzy just woke up after a total of half an hour in bed, preceeded by nearly an hour on me.
She is definately going through a "if it aint mum, it aint fun" phase. Blardy annoying tbh as she lasts five mins with anyone else and then just wants me.

Better go and re-assure lil one that it isn't just her, her toys and the cats.

well if you're not funny dizz, not sure why i'm sitting here giggling!

hi steaky,

ok, am slightly worried about DS - can i have some opinions please? for the last couple of days he's been having kind of tantrummy crying fits where he arches his back and thrashes about. i've also noticed his jaw chattering a few times, like it does when you are cold or have a fever. also shaking his head about lots and just seems out of sorts. but in between he has plenty of smily moments, laughing etc. might he have an ear infection or something? i haven't seen any tugging on ears but the headshaking and the teeth-chattering makes me wonder...