January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - Now they are 1 the fun has only just begun!!

[Lilyloo]

We talk too much

Sometimes I would like to start a thread called

AIBU to think that the po-faces on here sometimes are unbelievable?

It's as if some believe there is a 'perfect' way to mother. I tend to believe that all of us will go wrong somewhere, so relax!

I don't think I will start that thread, though

Where's the 'jar on a bus' thread?

LaT - the thread is here i gave up partway through so tell me if there are any good bits at the end!

Well, I didn't get to the end either, but I'm glad it didn't go the way I feared.

LaT go on i dare ya!!

Have basically spent all morning cleaning to turn around and the room i started at is a mess again!

Dp has taken H and L out now and M in bed so having my lunch and then have another blast!!

LaT - did you get as far as the madwoman with uteri?!

Lily - how frustrating! hope you get more done this afternoon.

DH disappeared, meant to be back just after 12.30....guess he's gone for lunch with the people he was meeting (as i said he might as well if everyone was going to)....

Best new toy award goes to......

an empty tissue box + anything else that can be put in and take out through the 'plastic' hole thing on the top......
Keeping H entertained for ages!

That's a good idea JKS! Sabela's new game is putting in and taking out. I was going to ask for ideas here. Usually it's wipes but the entrance ot the packet is too small to put much in for her.

I also wanted to ask, can you thikn of safe things for her to open? She loves opening and closing things but at the moment it's confined to what I have to hand (lipsticks, wipe case, pens). None of which are ideal. Ideas?

BTW, her wipe obsession is growing. Shehas to go to bed with one in her hand now

Lilyloo- that way madness lies! I mean the cleaning, not the thread, but it's porbably equally true of both!

Well invest in some boxes of tissues - esp those ones with the plastic bit around the top (do you know what i mean?), let her empty the box (H loves doing that!) then play with the empty box, perfect

(slightly messy as then you have a pile of tissues somewhere but with the runny noses we've had here they soon get used up!)

Silly me I forgot that I needed to have been on phone at the same time as feeding jar

You lot have been chatty today

Went to my mum's for Sunday dinner and brought back the left overs in a doggy (should say Molly bag) bag for DD.

I was a bit wary of giving her roast lamb incase it was too tough but she hoovered it up

LaT - that is M's favourite thing too. Putting things into things and taking them out, usually laundry!!

Well, having had a few days respite the horrid poos are back so hopefully not a problem with wheat but it means it might be toddler diarrea (sp) which is worse as it goes on for ages

Hello hello hello everyone - not been on for ages again been doing a mad case with lots of commuting, but now finished so thought I would pop in to say hi to my mates.
DH also had chicken pox really badly although charlie not got it!

No time to catch up it would be imposssible.

Am now 6 months pg so it seems to be going quickly

Charlie nto walking yet but pretty close as this week she has started letting go of furniture befor ebumping to the floor. Also no teeth hee hee - although the same 2 teeth which have been visible under the gums since her first birthday I think are finally going to break through as we have had a few nights of moaning in the night etc.

On the food issue I have opposite problem that as at nursery Charlie only has normal cooked food - just about anything jerk chicken, apple pie ice cream etc etc that now she doesnt really like 99% of jars very annoying indeed - although I cant blame her too much as they are disgusting - although those little annabel karmel ready meals are a godsend.

Loads of chat from charlie, and can now point and say head , hair, eye nose, elbow (weird) and various other things like come on and make whoof and fish noises and things - very funny cracks me up. proper little angel most of the time.

Hi all

My day is not great, but Nathan is eating for England . 1.5 weetabix, a whole 12months toddler meal plus broccoli and potato finger food, now a whole large jar of spag bol, half a hot cross bun and 2 fromage frais . Three days ago he ate about 5 spoons from the jar . All or nothing.

But, he is coughing himself sily and wheezing a bit. As I have copd and dh gets terribly short of breath and wheezy when allergic we are starting to worry about asthma. Well, see how we go

LaT Nathan is obsessed with in and out too. He loves emptying containers and pushing his toast in his food jar. He also likes to rummage through his changing bag and fish things out.

Nicky - good to hear from you, can't believe you are 6mths pg already!!

MKadmouse - good that Nathan eating lots!! I cannot believe he packs away one of those 12mth jars, they are almost as big as him

Hey all,

Day not so good today. DD refused to have a nap and then fell asleep while eating her dinner so have put her to bed.
She's also been really wingey all day and we had a standoff. She kept walking into the hall and banging the babygate (Dp is sleeping) so I'd bring her back in, then she'd go again and I'd bring her back (screaming the whole time) in the end I told her if she went again I'd smack her bum. She's never had a smack bum but the threat seem to work. lol. Although I dont know why I said that as I've always promised myself that I wouldn't smack her unless she was in danger of hurting herself (ie: running into the road/fingers in sockets etc) and that I'd never make a threat I never followed through on. So god knows what I would have done if she'd gone again as I would have broken one of the rules.

Speaking of smacking do any of you do it? Would you as me and DP are trying to decide what we're meant to do now that she's pushing the boundaries. She's too young for timeout and repeating the process doesn't work. You know like moving her away from something cos she just goes straight back and it seems to become a game.

Ok, I can't remember who said it but we've found that easter egg boxes are good for the taking out and putting in thing

We blew up DD's ball pit today but we still don't have any balls to put it in so she just spent the day hiding behind it and shouting boo

Oh sorry -

Nicky - 6 months that's really fast.

MM - Good to hear that Nathan's food is going back up again Hope that today gets better for you

Simps - 4 teeth!! still none here.

Ok so I started catching up friday even making notes so i could do personals and then tried to finish catching up just now and just not possible. Ivow from here on in to read every day even i dont post.

From wht I have managed.

Gingeme - the convo has moved on loads, but I was thinking of offering to be a surrogate for a friend of mine. We are good friend but dont see each other alot and I am the opposite of others, I think being involved would be too hard. Plus if "she" had a girl I think I would feel more than a little dejected. Notsure DH would go for it either and her and her husband are of afro caribean descent so not entirely sure how we would work it all.

Lucky - Potty training, my mum went on at me for ages about doing DS1 I done it last year when he is 2.5 and managed it in a week with two accidnets and have never looked back and he even went dry in bed when i had intended to keep using nappies for a while. I have friends who started earlier and had avrying degrees of success but mostly more accidents etc. You know A best tho so you know what willwork for you. Atm my intention is to leave DS2 till about the same time.

Lily - the rooms look great. I love L room.

Mothers Day was non eventful. DC had stayed at my mums the night before as we went out as my cousin was moving to Oz (very sad about this will miss him) then went to the gym in the morning and the kids came home at about 4pm. No card or anything... I do love cards, but DH hadnt thought of it. No spare cash for pressies but would have liked a card, i even made cards with DS1 for MIL and my mum.

Been going to the gym loads and really enjoying it. Have been eating badly tho. Well done JKS on your weightloss.

I used to love underwear shopping and had an intimate relationship with La Senza alas I am a Primarni job these days.

Thats as much as i can remember ... see y later ladies

Evening ladies.
Welcome back nicky6 wow 6 months already! atleast you won't be too big in the summer. Lots of chatting going on there. Lovely
Just had a quick flick through the jar on the bus thread. Was lol
Well we had a fabulous time at the farm and no we didn't see any elephants but di see some mahoosive pigs. I'm not keen on pigs and was a bit scared if I'm honest we did see some ickle lambs and piglets though. George and Edward thought the goats and kids were very funny and Edward had great fun feeding thwm . The food was very reasonable too. They did a packed lunch box thing for children with a sandwich, tomato and chopped carrot,stick of cheese,bag of dried fruit and a packet of biscuits and a carton of juice for £4. Not bad at all. We will definately be going again .
George has 2 new words now 'up' no surprise there and 'ba' when he sees the bath
Well sorry for no personals but I am tired now. Time for a soak then tv at 9pm.
Oh and JKS yes the boys slept till 8.30

Simps - can i borrow your mum one sunday?
sorry the poos are back, but glad it's not wheat then (are you sure? wheat can be hidden in food).
Remember what your mum said about you, maybe you had the same and grew out of it & so will she?

Nicky - great to see you! 6 months already?! wow. poor Dh having chicken pox, hope he's recovered ok.

Madmouse - oh yes we get that emptying of the change bag too! So glad he is back to eating for Britain!
hope he doesn't turn out to have asthma but it's manageable (& probably grow out-able at this age).

had yummy spag bol with the boys earlier, took ages for T to go to bed so will see what time he gets up tomorrow......(he was up in the night, again last night and then up at 5.30 (6.30) so we didn't get a 7am start. maybe tomorrow....

watching a recorded Lewis with red wine and an early Easter Egg

Oh also meant to say Lily - I've just put a pack of nappies in the boot. Along with a change of clothes and a spare set of wipes!! LOL. After our bad trip home last night and your thread I'm keeping well stocked lmao

x-posted with lots of you.

Lucky - tbh i have smacked T, on the hand when he does something, not so much dangerous but naughty and after i've told him several times not to. it's more of a thing i use as a threat (but generally not in public ).
I wouldn't think smacking with a 1yr old would really get anywhere though. you could try a gentle tap on the hand that is reaching for the forbidden thing? more like you might do on a dog's nose iykwim?
tbh though they're too young atm for much in the way of discipline. Just my opinion of course!

Mixedmama - hey there gym sounds good, how is the weight loss going? and why do MNers call Primark Primarni??

G - at this morning then! not a fan of big pigs here either! Do they have a place to eat picnics then? we have a rare breeds farm near us that opens soon and they have picnic tables so my plan is to take picnics with us rather than buy food each time.

LOL Lucky - maybe i should do that too!!! Course my 'organisational skills' are second to none

We do the tapping on the hand when she's reaching for things she can't have. I know its probably too early but I'm tearing my hair out at her tantrums. Which today (Lol but not really) included her going over to her toy box and throwing all the contents over the room one at a time while screaming. I've got a badun here!! I ended up having to move the toybox and she then just colapsed in a heap sobbing while I was trying to give her winnie to calm her down (which also got thrown away)

Friday I was so shocked at the way a mother behaved at my babygroup I had to literally bite my lip to stop me from saying anything.
One of the boys were playing with one of the girls (tickling her) and it got abit much and he ended up bending her arm backwards. She started screaming but I dont think he realised he was hurting her. Mother of girl told boy to stop and pulled girl away to comfort her. Mother of boy then pulled him to his feet by one arm and pulled him across the room. She then proceeded to quiz child asking what he did, he said I dont know a couple of time then got a slap across the face from the mother telling him to stop lying. He then started screaming so he got a smack across the back of the legs and told to shut up crying and wait till we get home.

I honestly didn't know what to do. I didn't want to go grassing the mother up to the HV's (who didn't see it) but at the same time I'm a little worried that maybe I should have? Not my business but can't help but think of the likes of BabyP.

Bloody hell, reading that back makes me sound like a right troll and I originally thought about posting it to ask WWYD in the main section. So glad I didn't now.

LuckySalem. I'm afraid I would have said something to the boys mother. That is abuse
Yes JKS they do have a pic nic area there and a soft play bit too which was quite new and very very clean
Proud DH moment here tonight. He was bathing the boys and put Edward in first and George was standing by the bath lifting his leg trying to get in saying 'ba, ba, ba' then he grabbed DHs t shirt pulled him towards him and put DH's hands on his bum as if to say 'lift me up Daddy' clever little monster.
mixedmamma no I don't see how that would work being a surrogate for an afro carabien Mum
Dh has a small 3 drawer thingy he keeps all his pc bits in and George emptied the whole lot in what seemed like 5 seconds DH wasn't too happy though

Oh Ginge - Clever George

Yeh see I'm wishing I did say it now but I dont know what I'm meant to do now? He seems a happy boy most of the time and I've never seen her be like that with him before. Apart from being pulled across the room which does happen a few times but then we all do it sometimes. I do it with DD but I dont pull her as such, I just guide her and we pretty much go at her speed. So I'm not sure. The mother is pregnant so maybe she was embarassed about what he did and hormones etc?

Hmm Sabela still going string at going on 10.30. Wonder what sort of a night this will turn out to be.

Lucky. I have smacked Sabela. It did nothing but make me feel ashamed and her cry and us both miserable. Far too young to understand it. I'm not sure I'd really want her to understand it either, IYSWIM.

God how my parenting standards have dropped now I actually am one. I don't mind most of them going (biscuits, jarred food, not reusable nappies)but I do mind this one.

Lucky - do you think the lady was just having a bad day or something?

Thunk I would say something if it happened again though...

I don't smack either Dcs TBH. Never felt the need to. When I lose my rag I just shout

I do think the only way of disciplining a 1yr old is distraction. DD very into the DVD/video etc I sick of the amount of times I have pulled her away.

Also she is quite into biting J if he has something she wants. The only thing I am doing is a firm "no" Doesn't seem to be working yet!!