January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - Now they are 1 the fun has only just begun!!

[Lilyloo]

We talk too much

If I don't give Sabela undivided attention every minute of the day she complains. She is pushing the laptop off my lap as I write.

Can I also ask, how did the grandparents and aunts and uncles acknowledge your LOs turning one? I've just realised that the only people who bought S anything or sent a card were me, my auntie, my stepmother and my best friend. Dh and his family did absolutely nothing. Im very and have just sent DH an email to tell him so. Probably not the best idea.

MIL card but a present for DS

Actually SILs were pretty good and sent toys/clothes etc...

My Grandmother refuses to buy either DC any toys as she says they have too much (they don't) but I prefer this as at least she treats them both equally iyswim rather than MIL and one SIL who blatently favour DS. Grrr

The only thing that stops DD wanting my attention all the time is to stick food in her mouth biscuits work best

Filly - don't think we have thread on meet up but are meeting in Coventry on Sat about midday ish Madmouse will fill you in as I can't remember the name of the place where we are meeting

Morning ladies.
Yay Georges passport came today. Booking our holiday Saturday
Had a rough night last night George did a mega nappy at midnight resulting in change of everything including my jamas. Settled him. 1am Edward crying and heaving saying 'sick, sick'. Got him the bucket and settled him again. This went on for about an hour doing little bits of sick then settling him again. By 2.15 am I was so tired DH took over. I went back to sleep. Woke again at 3.15 to DH coming back to bed after sleeping with Edward for a while. Woke again at 6.30 to George shouting
Edward has since been sick 'properly' and has been in bed since 10am.
Broody! Me? No way
Sorry for the moan. Going to make myself lunch now. Both boys sleeping and DH at work.
See you all later.
Walks to kitchen laughing hystericaly at the silly broody ladies ha ha ha !!

can't post properly as 'hiding' in tom's ikea chair...don't really fit but he thinks it's hilarious

Right have been freed from chair!

JKS - LOL at hiding in chair!! Glad you are now free

Our train gets in at 11.30 so will met madmouse then wander down to meet everyone else, I guess

JKS - I need to see this chair! And it does drive me mad. It's been nearly a month now. DH wonders why I get peed off!

Gingeme - you may well chuckle and I am not looking forward to newborn/ teething etc againbut you DID do it five times yourself, y'now

Well, if I understood correctly, I got into the 'advanced group' so I'm feeling pretty shiny about that .

AM in the middle off a long-distance barney with DH over the present thing though. I know email is not the best way, but he always reacts in the same way to anything negative I have to say. He gets really angry immediately and then ignores me for the rest of the day. It makes no difference if he is here or there. I've told him that and that I am at least spared him ignoring me because he is in Madrid!

Grrrrrrrr

Ok. Add fuel to the flames of my crossness. DH has never bought Sabela anything. He relies on me to do it all. Don't you think it's weird not to want to choose something for your child. Nothing, not a book, a toy, a top, a card. Nothing.

LaT - DH doesn't buy our Dcs anything either just leaves it to me.

Oh I lie, the year before last he bought DS a sticker book for Xmas

DH sees his role as being the one to assemble the toys rather than buying/choosing them I think...

the chair

(got ours half price off eBay)

Dh doesn't buy much for the boys. sometimes he'll flick through the Boden catalogue and express a preference for something, or decide he's read the same book enough times and take DS1 to Waterstones or something.
He does expect me to cover clothes, most toys, etc. but tbh i don't mind as i prefer to choose & i have the time to surf on eBay for bargains!

LaT - as you know he's going to ignore you anyway, may as well carry on i guess...though you're really not going to change anything now. maybe do what i did (once, i got fed up doing it!) and send everyone a round robin email listing ideas for S's birthday/Christmas presents. and tell them you'll buy them once people have sent you the money......

right, well just made some gingerbread men with DS1 - even some PC amputee ones - i'm sticking to a weight watchers choccy brownie!

That's a good chair for hiding in.

I just find it all a bit bizarre. I thought it was a given of nature that family bought children presents on their birthday. I certainly got a present each year from Grannies (no grandpas), aunties etc. I just realised that this hasn;t happened for Sabela. ANd she won't get any from my mum, who was a great present buyer. SO, I think what happened is I realised what the status quo is and I don't like it!

I didn't realise it was out of London!!!! I definitely can't come - we're heading off snowboarding on Sunday without the dcs for 5 days (yay, panic, yay!) so I need to spend proper time with ds over the weekend. And to pack. Panic some more.

Have a lovely time and please take lots of photos so I can see all those lovely chubby cheeks (and the babies too !) when I come back next week....

Susie - we had a proper party for Tamara's 1st, as she missed out on her 'wecome to the world' party when she was 7 weeks old (dh's father passed away suddenly the week before). So she got lots of cards and presents from all our friends, but all our families would have got her a card and present anyway....I've got 3 aunts & 1 sister who all think buying stuff for my kids is brilliant fun as theirs have all grown up or they don't have their own, dh has a weird brother who lives nearby and we never hear from (even though his ds is only 6 months older than Tamara) - no card/present/phone call from him, but lovely card and present from SIL and her kids and we had to rein my MIL in when we saw the stack of presents she had piling up in her flat!! My parents got her a lovely card but I had to make them return the present as despite multiple requests my DM still insisted on buying an enormous plastic ride on thing that we just don't have room for....sorry to witter on, but it means I definitely share your feelings about your dh's family not bothering with Sabela's birthday....she deserves to have a big fuss made over her

PMSL Filly yes it's in the 'regions'!!!

Thinking of a summertime one in Southend maybe.....

Snowboarding sounds fun, well i'd be rubbish at it, but the going away bit sounds good.
Inspired me to count...16 weeks until Bermuda trip

LaT - i would be v about grandparents not buying presents. or offering money if abroad, or money for accounts if parents haven't got any ideas.
I work on thinking of ideas beforehand so i have an answer ready for the inevitable questions. esp Christmas time.
think it's another stage in your grieving process tbh, realising something else that you'll miss your mum for.

It's a better chair for hiding in when you're 2 or 3....

Filly where did you think Coventry was lol Londoners!

JKS my plan is to park up at pp at about 11 then get pushchair out and walk to station for simpson and mm. If you are early you can always join me. Light blue Ford c-max

Ginge I think you are secretly broody just pretending you are not. You are in denial!

LaT it will pass. it is good that you start following your own routine, I am convinced it will help Sabela. Well done on the test result

would not mind snuggle with sabela, you think you can make it down for saturday

hi to everyone

Just occured to me that there are the two M's aswell.. JKS seems like there are enough girls to go round.

Witching hour has well and truly begun in this house hold...

Dcs both having melt downs so have got it in stereo

Anyone feeling broody, come round and they will soon put you off

Counting down to wine o'clock this evening, me thinks!!

LOL madm
will try to remember to put your mobile number in mine so may text you if i'm early and we can meet for walk to the station.
If it's busy and they want us to move on, can we pay twice and just stay? or would everyone prefer to move on to other place (transport museum?) have to keep reminding myself i'll only have H so i'm fine moving around

roll on 7, i'm knackered.
want a hot long bath with glass of red then some easy/quick dinner & a CSI or something. then bed.
not sure i can fit it all in before an early bedtime but will try!

Kids asleep and my face hurts from being so falsely cheerful and smiley!!

First glass of wine gone down nicely!!

No realy madmouse I'm not in denial at all.
Have had a rough day today. Edward has had an upset tummy and has spent most of the day bent over a bucket He got to the stage where there is nothing left in his little tummy so he was just retching I gave him some Medised and hopes it helps him sleep.
JKS Southend in the summer sounds fab
Re presants Grandparents, Aunties and friends all bought gifts for Georges first birthday. Even a couple of Mums from playgroup did too. You have got a point and good reason to be cross
Georges paasport arrived today. Gona book our holiday Saturday. Were going to Tenerife. We have been bfore so can't wait
Oh bloody hell Edwards crying
Bye for now

cheers

Poor Edward Gingeme

Am a bit LaT but partic at your DH -has he never even bought her a teddy bear? DH often takes DS to Borders on a Saturday when I like to clean the house and always comes back with a book or 2. He's bought him some ghastly flashing trainers this week and some Iggle Piggle pyjamas (in the wrong size), just because DS laughed at them when he was taking him round ASDA. He spoils him a bit TBH. A good reason to have another . But ... like you JKS I would like to heal a bit longer from the CS. Also fancy a summer holiday where I can drink wine. Also seriously thinking of doing the Great North Run again. Ho hum.

Wish I could come on Sat. It's just a bit too far for me. I have plenty of pals in London as I lived there for a while so mabe some time this year will try and make a London meet.

evening all...

LaT - re the presents. my parents always put money in the dc accounts, my mum actually keeps the books as she cleans for an old lady we used to know and my mum didnt want any money and the lady insists on giving some money to the boys so she is always putting some money in. My ILs however are a bit odd, my SILs do get them things, odd checked shirts that look like t towels but at least they do. MIL and FIL dont seem to ever really get them anything tho... a few of DH siblings gave some money when they came for DS2 bday but they were working when we rround for DS1 bday this weekend so he didnt get anything from those that werent present... odd really.

My family just ask me what I want for them. Wonder why DH doesnt get anything, maybe he just thinks you are better at those kinds of things iyswim.

Broody here too but think i may have to put off baby 3 until i secure another job and have worked there for a bit.

Lily - the search is slow, i am lucky i still have something so am trying not to stress too much about the money tbh. If i could find another part time role that would actually be better as i do like where i am and they are very family friendly.

Gingeme - poor Edward hope he (and you) gets a good nights sleep...

Got a busy day tomorrow and my bro's girlfriend has just rung asking if she can visit kids. Didn't like to say no TBH as she is pining for bro who is having a whale of a time in Poland!!

Also got some "positive thinking" work shop to go to. Don't know anything about it, it has been organised by our local HV although she is not taking the class iyswim.

Anyway I know a few people doing it so thought it might be a laugh and they have a creche for DD although I pity whoever gets to look after her, they will have grey hairs when they go home

It's on from 1-3 so is when DS is at pre school then I have to dash home as my aunt (X2), uncle, dad and now bro's girlfriend are coming to see Dcs (aunts & uncle have never seen DD)Also my mum is having DS overnight so have to prepare him/get bag packed etc...

Ended up in quite a nice day. MIL took Sabela so I could do some ironing and then Sabela, MIL and I went walking. We bought some neclaces. Sabela thinks they are all hers! Only bad thing is that I missed talking to DH on the phone, so we haven't patched things up. We will. Me and my hot head! But as Madmouse said on FB earlier, DH and Sabela are both as bad as I am. We're going to have some fine rows in the future!

Evening all
Simps please can i have a glass

M is really ill today has had really high raging temp. Should have known yesterday as she went to bed at 6
She has eaten half an ice pop and 4 grapes all day dont know what it is but she spent best part of day sleeping on me or the sofa!