April 2005 babies!!!

[Gem1355]

Hi

Howz everyone doing?

Darcie is doing well but losing abit of weight after she put it on after inital weight loss but okay other than that.

would post a picture but don't know how!

Hi Verso how r u feeling?

Darcie has got a fab mobile from Mamas & Papas, she loves it and it last for more than 2mins, . Not sure how much tho was given as present with her cot!

Darcie goes to bed between 7:30pm and 8pm awake and she is still asleep now!

TinyLove makes an excellent mobile retailing for £37 available at Argos & Mothercare. It was highly recommended to me. It is remote control so you can restart it w/out entering the room and plays classical music. Plays for 15 mins.

I bought a Tomy thing that casts images on the ceiling and plays 3 tunes. Its only 12 quid at argos. DD seems to like it. It plays for 10 mins before you need to restart. I time when I set it off and if necessary reenter the room shortly before it switches off and as soon as it does, restart it. DD doesn't seem to clock on that I reenter the room and restart it. Once I didn't leave the room and layed quietly on the floor while she fussed and the thing put ME to sleep.

Also was loaned a white noise machine & classical music - heart beat / waves / running water. It plays nonstop or you can select time limit. With the Images machine and the this one, I haven't bothered with the mobile. Its made my 'The First Years'.

Hi all - hope all babies (and Mums) are doing OK.

My DS1 and 2 both love the wind up thingy that throws pictures on the walls and ceiling - in fact it needs a new battery but DS2 just likes the music - sends him to sleep without fail!

He was weighed yesterday ........... OMG 14lbs 10oz (12 weeks on Sun) - what a bruiser! Have got loads of newborn clothes in bin bags now ready for charity shop!

Have a good weekend everyone.

We've got a mobile with black and white patterns on (I think it came from blooming marvellous), not that good for sleeping but kept dd and keeps ds transfixed for at least 45 mins at a time so as good as a sleep break for me! I found other mobiles are boring to look at from the view point of the baby, I think this one is called infa-stim.

Am also having fun and games with 24 month dd - I think she's trying her limits have started using naughty step this week to stop throwing. She tends to scream on the floor next to the step rather than sit on it - but seems to be working. Also has started refusing to get in the bath. Luckily she still loves her brother and have been tempting her in by letting her wash his hair, the things he takes shows that babies really are quite tough, would have done my nut the first time around.

Had 8 week check last week and Patrick now 14 1/2 lb (95% for weight and height) - rather than feeling please that he's big am getting weepy that he's growing up too fast. We're definately not having any more and so I want to keep him little for longer. In a perverse way am enjoying being woken up every night. - Oopops any starting to get emotional again .

Hi Everyone I agree about mobiles being excellent waking entertainment. We've got the tiny love one too I think (is that the one that plays mozart etc and has the dangly frog etc?). Very useful for 15 mins when you want to have a shower!
Sorry to hear you're having problems with your dd too leggymamba. Funny what you say about her screaming on the floor by the naughty step - I always wondered how on earth you keep them there! We've had a very sociable week so plenty of distraction for my dd which I think has helped with her contrariness. I've also managed to lure her into the bath with coloured bath stuff (to get her up the stairs I ask excitedly "ooh! which colour magic dust do you want in the bath tonight?" & she solemnly carries it up to the bathroom in an eggcup and pours it in )

quick update, will post more over the weekend.

Put dd into her own room tonight . She is so aware now and very active. For several days now she's been getting caught up in the lining of the moses basket and twisting the sheet round her as she kicks away for hours on end . And she manages to push herself to the top of the basket so, I don't think she'll last more than a week or so in it. So, I fed her in her room and put her in the moses basket, in the cot bed and she was asleep before her head hit the mattress. This was at about 7.45 and i;ve not heard a thing since. Feel cheated now as I thought she'd be crying out for me and would feel utterly abandoned. Well, apparently not and i'm mortified. I don't know, when they cry you want them to stop and when they don't, you wonder why. Oh, my little girl is growing up already. Bought her a fisher price singing stars piano/gym thingamajig today and she loves it and even managed to start the music off by hitting the keyboard, clever soul. And, she rolled over too, onto her back. That's all the gushing for tonight. Was going to try and wake her at 11 for a feed but I think i'll let her settle into her new room for a few days and then start. She's slept for 5 hours and then 3.5 hours for the last 2 nights . bfn

DG - that's good news! Don't feel too abandoned cos I'm sure it wont last (only joking!) Make the most of it and relax in front of the telly.

Maybe she's relaxed now your sisters gone!!!!

Hehumm, she's not gone yet, she's off tomorrow! She was out though when I put her to bed and was out last night too and went down quite well then. I think i'm going to miss her in the night, then again, perhaps not. As my sis ointed out, I can bring her into bed with me in the morning for a cuddle can't I? DD I mean, not my sis! Kind of wondering what to do with myself now. I think I shall open another bottle of wine and enjoy a bit of tv. Hope you and your little cherub(s) are ok . Bought 1 of the milk containers too as it'll be large enough for weaning I think.

pointed put, not ointed lol!

Things are bad again here

I have my rectal/vaginal ultrasound today (Monday) to check for permanent damage and DH forgot to book a paternity day for it. He has three days left and has only booked one - my birthday.

He also was too tired to do his shift on Friday night (we have an agreement that he does a bit more at night one night a week so I can sleep as I do all the other night feeds during the week) and then when he was meant to be doing it on Saturday to make up, slept through DD's crying so I had to do it in any case.

Feel very alone and unsupported and wondering why I married him. Guess this is my life now - or at least until I go back to work.

P.S. Can anyone recommend a babysitter/babysitting service that covers S London? I am pretty desperate at this point, so I'm not too worried about cost (that is what Visa is for after all). I just want someone to come for say 4 hours once a week during the day so I can get some f*ing sleep!

Thanks.

Hi Verso You sound like you're having a bad time {{{hugs}}} It must be really hard doing all this without your dh being able to help much. Just do TRY to remember - and I know it's really hard sometimes - that this phase really will be over soon and it will be so much easier soon. We had friends over with their 7 mo on Sat and I remembered quite how delightful and easy they are at that age! Hang on in there...

As for babysitting - where are you? If you're serious about getting some help CAT me asap as I have a fabulous mothers' help who is looking for extra hours and 4 hrs in south london would suit her perfectly (I'm in Clapham).

How do I CAT you? I'm off to the hospital shortly but I am VERY serious. I'm desperate.

verso - go to "contact another talker" under "useful stuff" and you should be able to email me. Good luck at the hospital. x

Verso sorry to hear your feeling down at the mo

Well me and Darcie r okay she is smiling and laughing alot more and is starting to sit up by herself.

Started her on baby rice with pear & raspberry last nite and she really liked it, so thats good and she is now on 9-10oz bottles!!!!

Its her christening on sunday so trying to get things ready for then, so much to do and so little time to do them in!!!!!

Also found out one of my closest friends is 10 weeks pg, so excited for her, her dp is convinced she is having a boy so much that already looking at racing style car seats, bless him!!!!!!!!

Seabird, I sent a CAT yesterday. Hope you got it.

Appointment yesterday was pretty horrible - but the consultant was really nice which made it bearable - just! My cousin took DD for me but DD started crying so we all ended up in the room together. At least she wasn't just lying abandoned in her pram though.

Pretended to DH last night that all was ok as I couldn't face another huge row. Like he gives a sh* about how I feel, given that he couldn't even remember to take the day off work! He told me today that his work are being weird about him taking the rest of his three paternity days... so it looks like he's going to forfeit them, which is yet another thing I'm pi*ed off about.

Think I should go and lie down somewhere and grow up and stop whingeing!

Verso - I was out yesterday but I replied to your email at 7pm last night - did you get it? If not I'll resend. Glad your consultant was nice yesterday at least.

Please don't be too hard on yourself, it's a bloody hard time you're going through and you're entitled to feel sorry for yourself. It can be such a shock after the excited anticipation of late pregnancy. And in some ways I think it's even more of a shock for our DHs, maybe because pregnancy didn't really affect their lifestyle whereas a newborn most definitely does. My DH and I had a terrible time in the first few months after DD was born - as my diary testifies, though fortunately we are both fairly amnesiac about the period! - but since then we've gone from strength to strenth and the change in him this time round is incredible (even though he hasn't particularly bonded with ds yet - I don't think men really do until they're a bit older and start actually doing things. I used to despair of his relationship with dd ever developing but he's fab with her now and she adores him). I think it's definitely a case of what doesn't kill the relationship strengthens it, so as long as you have a pact not to get a divorce before your baby's one you will come out the other side stronger for it! Sorry, hope I don't sound patronizing, just trying to reassure you that it WILL get better

Hi all.

Verso sorry to hear you're having a tough time at the moment, I can only reiterate what Seabird says that it will get better. Sending lots of {{{hugs}}} your way. And I think the babysitter idea is excellent - you sound as if you need the break.

I'm dead envious of those of you whose babies are sleeping through. We seem to be in the 5 hours then 3 hours camp at night. Still, it's better than those early days when it was every 2 hours!!!! Can you all remember that? My memory's starting to fog already - how mad is that? It's your body's way of trying to trick you into having another... (hollow laughter).

I'm just starting Maddie on another bottle a day now (one at lunchtime to add to the one at bedtime) so think will probably be changing to bottles in the next few weeks as last time I did this my milk supply dropped pretty quickly. Have to say my back could do with the break plus I could do with some more energy although there is a part of me that feels as if I should keep going for longer. Ah a mother's guilt!

We've also been potty training DS the last week and a half which has gone surprisingly well. I'd been putting it off with the new baby to cope with as well but he was having some nappy off time last week and took himself off of his own accord and used the potty - amazing! Cue lots of ecstatic praise (and a chocolate button - bribery, don't you just love it?) from me and we haven't looked back. He's hardly had any accidents so I'm really pleased that he did it off his own bat as I don't think he would have been half as amenable if I'd tried to coerce him into it - he's very stubborn and was also going through a stage of wanting to be a baby just like Maddie and do everything she did. Thankfully think that's passing now and he's very proud of his big boy pants!!!

Sorry just realised this has turned into a post for the potty training thread. Oops.

Bronnie: How old is you lo? I am also starting a bottle feed at 11am. My dd is 11 wks today. I am doing it for the same reasons as you are. Plus going back to work when she is 18 wks and I want it all settled before then.

I found b/f fraught with anxiety though there was a period of 2 wks that went swimmingly. Partly because I know that I'm a 1st time mum and a bit of a perfectionist.

I went away with dd at 9 wks which knocked her sleeping and feeding routines completely. I have not yet been able to put it on track and b/f was one of the victims. I am at the way it is crashing to a close.

DH is now available everynight as he no longer works in scotland. We have already had some monumentous battles about childcare. I know that he loves me and dd but with everything else that comes with having a baby, it is such an immense test.

I havent checked here for awhile. Great to see every1s babies are doing so well. Mine have changed loads, one is getting really fat, and the other is getting really long. I shall have to post a pic when I get chance. Neither have rolled right over yet, they jsut get to their side and sort of lay there stretching. But they have learned the meaning of bedtime!! WE've got a little routine going now, and they go to bed sometime betwee 7 and 8 which gives me my evenings back again.

Verso, sorry to ehar you are having such a round time. If you ever fancy gettign out of the house for a bit, could always meet up sometime?? I don't think you are too far from me.

such a rough time blame the baby on my lap!

no sign of email seabird... maybe my email software thought it was spam?

never mind