November 08 - Say it LOUD.......We're shades of GINGER and PROUD :0)

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I am all glammed up, ready for lunch. New haircut, lippy and eyeshadow. Don't want to start housework because I am too glam. So what shall I do ???

Ok all of you with time on your hands come on over here please ..you can start with the washing - I accept glam dressed up offer as well - I have to make 3 beanbags for dd party next week and just the thought of getting the machine out for something that will take 2 mins to do but will take 2 hrs of I do by hand ...... Plus the list of things I have to do to prepare for it is massive ...AHHHHH And dh is working just about every hour that I could do with his help !

does that mean the rest of us have to make some kind of effort too Oblomov, Dam

Ta da!!!!! Here you go Rosa 100 hand swen bean bags!!!!!!

(What are you doing with them anyway???)

Don't worry, Pinkglow. A glam Oblomov = a normal anyone else ! Normally you are priveledged if I've brushed my teeth. So lippy is a MAJOR achievement !!

help, me me coming up, i'll post in breastfeeding section too but HV has me worried sick...

as you all know sophie been screaming all day every day but fine at night. last night i thought i'd express milk to bank in freezer as she is so reliably sleeping in eve. pumped at 10pm and got 1oz between both boobs. i used to get 3oz. sophie has always fed every 2 hours from day 1. except at night.

just had her weighed and she's only put on 6lb in a month and the dip is significant when you look on the chart. her head circumference is the same. im falling into that, is she getting enough trap... when she does feed in day she does come on and off, like shes got wind but i cant get wind up.

oh please let somone be around to advise me...?

have a nice lunch those who are lunching x

ounces...6 ounces....

Drswife I'm here but useless i'm afraid as I don't BF, have you looked on Kellymom - Daisy always refers to that, not sure it will be any good though - sorry couldn't have got a worse person to see your post!!

pmsl..your not the worst person, i was just thinking of you wondering how things are? off to check kellymom

Drs wife I don't know what to suggest but do you not think she is maybe snack feeding and not having a complete feed .. This is what mini rosa does and I have to try and distract her to try and stretch her out so she has a complete feed ( at night for example she suckles well and fills herself up.) I cluster feed in the evening and I do often top her up with a ebm or even a ff top up. I ebm in the morning when I can as I find thet I can get more.
Have you posted on the bf thread as they might be able to suggest something. Minirosa had a slow weight gain then she put on a block in a week !!!
Hang in there ......

yeah posted in bf section..but i think you could be right about snacking if i think about it. at night she feeds perfectly not on and off, just feeds solid and back to sleep. maybe i should push it to 3hrly as thats her natural pattern at night.

DW, I've posted on your thread , but can I say that here they don't measure head circumference at all. My HV said it wasn't considered necessary any more. It isn't rechecked until 12 months here.

The weight gain thing.....well their weight does palateau from around four months. S long as she is still gaining then it shouldn't be an issue. It could just be a wee blip and she will be back on her original line next time she is weighed. From reading on here, some BF babies can drop down the centiles as well to get onto what then becomes their natural line. Have a look on the WHO website; there are charts on there for exclusively BF babies rather than the mix of babies that the red book is based on.

and lol at you sending your HV packing with the merest mention of BLW

yes, get this with HV..she came because i complained about the last one and so i think it was some customer relations exercise to prove they aint all divs.
Anyway, she says "well i'd like to discuss weaning", and pulls out the NHS booklet, which by the way i'd downloaded to be informed about purees. I said oh i have that already and i'm going with BLW. So she reads..READS..me the booklet part on finger foods and says "and that is the guidance on finger foods". errrr no shit sherlock, thanks for reading aloud to me and my daughter now shoo!

Dozy thanks for the bean bags ... I am making a target like a archery thing but on the floor . Kid then throws 3 bean bags and the score gets added up one with the highest score wins. I have 20 ( yes 20) mainly 2.5 - 3 yr olds in a hall next sat for 2 hrs --WITH PARENTS ! and so am thinking of games for them to do am having like 4 or 5 games some that participate like a group some are single - like this one , pin the tail on the donkey , then a lucky dip ( if i can find the polystrene padding to be the dip). I want to do a fishing thing with rubber ducks but it will just be too hard to set up and I think that some of the unruly boys will use them as swords or hitting instruments!
SO if anybody has any ideas at all please send em in . I have used party things 2 go for prizes etc and I bloomin hope that the box gets here on time or I am stuffed !

Unfortunately not all HVs are that clued up on BFing, as they only get minimal on the job training. Some are great though, but it's the luck of the draw which you get. I also think HVs are less likely to say "ooh, I'm not sure, I'll check with somone more knowledgeable/specialist and get back to you", like a peer supporter or less expereinced BFC would. In fact, I've never had a HV say that to me ever which implies they know everything. But realistically they can't, can they?

Have had a manic week here so it's taken me ages to catch up. Luckily A has been very obliging and has stayed asleep so far

vbab I've seen your profile and you remind me of someone so I think I did go to school with your sister (I just turned 27 too). Sorry to hear DS has been playing up

Hope all the London ladies had a fab lunch

Rosa hope the party goes well

Well I spoke too soon, A is awake but will try to catch up properly later

drswife you do make me laugh, so glad you are back
Knew someone would help
Hope all the London ladies had a fab day
Dozy hope DS1 is ok nd you haven't been tearing your hair out all day!
Rosa you sound very organised for the party hope it goes well.

Things aren't moving on an awful lot here, DH has been gone since Sunday and OMG I don't miss him yet Is that really awful?

Girlies are coming round tonight and I am planning on being very very drunk - boys are with SIL tonight

Evening all - am sat here with a glass of Portugese wine - tis actually quite nice

LB hope you are having a good night with the girls - maybe the fact you aren't missing DH is telling you something??

Rosa your party sounds fab - no ideas I am afraid as I am rubbish at things like that!

London ladies - how was lunch? Did you all have a fab time?

DW lol at your HV - they are a funny breed aren't they? My HV came round when Sam was about 2 weeks old for her first visit and spent most of the time telling me how to potty train DS1

Is using a dummy all the time bad?? Unless he has a dummy in Sam seems to spend all of the time crying (and even then he spits the dummy out regularly so I am forever putting it back in) - even DH said to me today (he has been working from home today) 'how do you put up with this all day every day' - he is just Mr Grump Grump Grump atm. Honestly, it is a good thing he sleeps so well at night otherwise he might be listed on Ebay by now

Hello all. Quick post as am busy cooking for dinner party tomorrow night. Am all hot and bothered!

londonLadies I do hope you had a lovely lunch and sorry I didn't make it. Hopefully choc will have explained that after hearing both she and dozy couldn't make it, I decided to start making the lamb tagine for my dinner party tomorrow...then choc got lift sorted! Anyway - I got muchos cooking done whilst you lot were no doubt eating delicious gourmet fayre.
Wish I could have seen Obs looking all glammed up though!

ladyB it sounds like you are having a trial seperation - hope you are ok.

Right - off to do more cooking. It seemed like a great idea at the time, but tbh I'm all cooked out as I had my Dad staying last night, and my mum the night before. I would love to just flop, and be waited on hand and foot.

Have a great weekend all!

Evening all, thanks daisy for all your BF advise have emailed you, also looked at WHO guidelines and she's on 50th centile. is that bad? contacted my indie midwife as she's just finished training as BF counsellor and runs a breast feeding group, she says she was gonna visit me anyway next week so will watch feeding but made me sponsor her to raise cash for independant midwives..im still not sure she shouldnt be giving me a refund after i ended up with emergency CS and not my lovely waterbirth

ladybuzz maybe its too early to know if you'll miss him, i remember i panicked when my DH went to spain when i was preg and i thought i'd be in bits. i had a great ole time watching my tv shows and eating food i like. Didnt miss him a bit for a week. It sounds like you're keeping busy and retaining your independance which is brill. Give it time to see how you feel. Mind you i'm a bit jealous i'd give anything to have the bed to myself and no-one proding me from behind with their knob, saying "hmmm i feel all fruity"
WELL I FEEL TIRED KNOBHEAD, ROLLOVER NOW!!!

doctorswife - funny what you said about DH at bed time. My DH says "lets cuddle" . I'm fed up of saying "i came to bed because I want to SLEEP".

thanks for all uour kind messages regarding DS. I'm currently feeling worse, didnt think it was possible. Had an ok day with DS and A until just before DH came home... so fed up with DS not listening/caring what I am telling him, his emotional outbursts and general s*t so probably reacted with bad timing and turned off his favorite tv show and all hell broke loose and A was screaming. DH came home and 5 mins later took DS to bed at 6.15, he went no trouble! Apparently DH thought it was better that DS was out of my way which is s*t as when DH comes home I am always out of the way doing t etc. So i now feel worse because DH and DS didnt get time together and DS was asking for DH this AM when he woke up but DH had gone to work. JUST FEEL LIKE I HAVE NOTHING LEFT TO GIVE AS NOTHING SEEMS RIGHT. I blubbed like mad when DH asked me to sit next to him so I moved footstool over to get comfy and cuddle (a big thing for me) but DH made nasty comments because I moved the stool over. After I blubbed he realised how bad things were.

50th centile is slap bang on little miss average! and even if she wasn't, the way centile charts work, someone has got to be at the lower or higher end.

Lord at your DH getting fruity!! DH and I still haven't resumed "full marital relations". The ADs and BFing have pretty much killed my libido stone dead. Poor DH . He says he isn't bothered as he is too knackered (and obviously incapacitated at the moment ) to think about it overly much. Mind you, not much is likely to happen while he is still sleeping on the sofa!

cross posted with you vbab. {{{{{{hugs }}}}}lovely. have you read "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk"? It's very good and you can also use is on your (less than sensitive if I might say so?) DH . It sounds to me like a lot of conflict going on, and you and DH actively disagreeing about how to deal with DS will probably be adding to his upset and confusion. I say from experience as we had a lot of this when DH and I first got married. DS1 was three and I had been sole carer to that point and DH deferred to my parenting style whenever he came to visit. Once we were married and DH was there permanently, we had a lot of conflicts over our parenting with poor DS1 caught in the middle of it all . Of course he expressed his frustration and upset at the mixed messages by turning into a right little horror as he had no words to express how it was making him feel. Thankfully we are "singing from the same hymnsheet" now; well most days anyway

I hope you don't think I'm speaking out of turn