November 08 - Say it LOUD.......We're shades of GINGER and PROUD :0)

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morning everyone

big hugs to mm, pinky and LB i have no useful advice to give but hope your all doing ok

twinkling nice to see you, glad christening went well and hopefully you and DH can work things out.

LOL at dozys DS, i actually have a couple of kidney related questions for you dozy so if you dont mind i will send you a FB mail message.

well done on another sleepthrough obs barbs i have had the 2nd DC chat too!! we are planning on going to vegas next October for my 30th so think we will start trying around about that time, my DS would be 2 so even if i fell pg really quickly he would be 2.5, 3 by the time baby arrived!
I dont know if there is a "perfect" age gap?

goodluck to mr daisy

Well, my DS has turned into a grump! i now realise how lucky i have been up until now!
he has just turned 3months, i think this is a big growth spurt time?? I thought it might have been teething as for 2 days he was drooling, chewing hands and waking up with high pitched screams so was giving nelsons granules. However yesterday and today the gums seem to be ok.
I take it that is normal as the teeth are moving up the gums and they might be dormant for now then start up again in a few weeks?

oh and ceebee glad you liked blanket, i was your SS!!
x

meant to say i have my DS christening on Sunday, really looking forward to it, had the minister here last night finalising everything.
I have had to buy a gown though as my own gown is just a little bit too girly to put my DS in
We spent ages looking for one but i love the one we ended up buying and hopefully it will be handed down the generations.

Chocolategal so glad you have uncovered yourself and I can thank you personally I love the blanket and I make sure Sam always has it for his naps so he can get attached to it - it was a lovely present!

P.S. I had a rude dream about Sawyer last night - woke up with a smile this morning I can tell you

LOL ceebee and that was without him being in it on sunday!! I think i am prefering Sayid these days! But he is very camp in real life!

just bought a jumperoo! v.excited! will be testing it out this afternoon and report back!

look forward to hearing about it juanitad cant decide between that and the leap frog activity station....

the jumperoo is now put together and ready to go, but P is asleep!!! Normally I long for him to go to sleep during the day but I'm sort of tempted to wake him up just to see what the jumperoo is like.............no, on second thoughts, it's really not worth it! He's so grumpy when woken up earlier than he would like, so I guess I'll just have to wait a bit longer! It looks fab though, I think I remember somebody else saying they wish there was a grown-up version - I second that! It looks like loads of fun!!

I really should be careful what I wish for, he woke up 2 mins after my last post! The verdict on the jumperoo is that he's probably a bit little for it yet. He's a tall boy, was on 91st centile at 6 week check, but even so his feet don't touch the floor even at the lowest setting, so it'll probably be a few weeks before he's ready for it. Also, although he can hold his head up quite well, he does kind of flop forward in the seat. He seemed to quite enjoy the bouncing effect but I definitely think it will be better when he's a bit bigger. Will put a pic of him in it on my profile in a bit

lol at you being desperate to get P in his jumperoo jaunita

I'm serioulsy impressed with the weight loss Dozy, Ceebee and LB. Well Done all of you.

Mr Daisy is allright. He has a truss on and two pairs of tight underpants with some mini ice packs in between the pairs of pants. He got some paracetomol at the clinic, has taken some ibuprofen and is going to attack my prescription strength co-codamol once the kids are in bed. He is walking around like a cowboy and wincing getting up and down from the sofa. I've reminded him that he has a teensy inkling of how I felt after having bumble . Bless him.

Bumble isn't well . Not sure what's going on with him but he had been screaming for two hours when I was out at the hospital, and carried on for another hour after I got back. Finally gave him some calpol and it calmed him down after half an hour. We have had a couple of short bouts of screaming interspersed with a really high pitched whine. He's sleeping now but every so often lets out a little sob .

He was also up partying in the night. I didn't go to bed until one as I was watching a film, then he was up until gone two!

Yay coolkat on meeting a mum for coffee. I hope it went well.

We went to the local Wacky Warehouse this morning. During term time they do a toddler thing. It's £3 to get in, but there is unlimited tea, coffee, juice and biscuits. And it was nice and quiet. Not the screaming hellhole it is on the weekend or school holidays.

can't remember who asked, but my op will be done as a day patient hopefully, but there is a chance I may be kept in overnight depending on how well it goes. I've asked for BF friendly anaesthetic so we'll see what happens. No date as yet, but I was told the waiting list target is 18 weeks so it will be within that time

what a huge post..this is what happens when I don't post all day!! sorry it's a bit Me as well!

oh, and Dozy, I'll sponsor you . Are you setting up a page on www.justgiving.com

Choc, I saw one of those Leapfrog things today, Becca had a go in it and seemed to really like it. I am looking on ebay as they are £80 in the shops and can't really justify that at the minute

Hope DH recovers well Lacks, coffee was good. Becca struggling after Jabs today.

Have you tried putting an argos cataloge under his feet juanitad? I heard thats what some ppl do

coolkat you can get them on amazon for £64.99, it will be a christening gift from his uncle!!

Thanks for the tip pinkglow, will give it a try tomorrow. P not keen on going to bed tonight - has gone down no problem since 5 weeks old but howling the house down tonight. Better go calm him down!

HEARD FROM RUTH ... She is ok but having trouble getting Fin to bed at night. It is taking 3 hours so no chance for mumsnet. I'm meeting her for coffee on Monday at Meadowhall to catch up and vent emotions. I've mentioned the friday meet up and told her that i will let her know the details when they are confirmed.

ME ... feel like an empty shell. got no strength left and with the exception of feeling really down just feel numb. DS been a nightmare all day. He has been a rollercoaster of emotions. He has been crying, hitting, kicking and a little s**t ALL day. On top of this he has wee'ed on the floor 4 times and poo'ed in the bath. This PM i got so feed up being in the house I just wanted to walk. Big mistake as I havent got a double buggy so DS had to walk. He walked slower that snail pace both ways, cried hysterically and shouting, kept wanting me to carry him, once ran onto the road but luckily no cars around. I honestly must have looked like a terrible mother as i kept having to drag him by his arm or walk on slightly to try to speed him up then have to shout back at him. of course our journey back involved going past a school at kick out time. HOW BAD DID I LOOK?! On top of this whilst trying to cross a busy road and looking down to DS whose arm i holding to tell him to help mummy i realised a stupid woman had reversed her bmw so close to A's buggy i saw it's brake light reflected in her raincover in the corner of my eye. STUPID COW. I think DS may be still under the weather and he has had tummy troubles on and off for couple of months but still no excuse for his behaviour.
SHOCK HORROR ... the MIL had Ryan to stay Tuesday night then decided to abduct him Wednesday. As soon as he saw me when they came back he hit me .
DH ... he tells me he loves me on a regular basis but i just dont believe him. I am a great believer that actions speak louder than words and i just feel he has got used to saying "i love you" because WHEN he does speak to me and its not child related he is normally critising or giving me that arse hole nasty tone. I wonder whether he does truely love me or has just got used to me being there.

Vbab you poor thing you sound so down. They can really wear you down when you have days like that. It ends up being one thing on top of another. Him being poorly probably isn't helping the situation.
Hope you can sort things out with DH - Don't think i'm in any position to be offering advice on that score but can you tell him how you feel?
I really feel for you.

ladybuzz - thanks for your kind words. Yes i tell DH all the time. He either doesnt know what to do to make things better, doesnt care, thinks i being silly and emotional or doesnt listen. Maybe all the above. To be honest I figure in my family how i feel (might be wrong) doesnt count for much. Which i know is a bad and wrong situation to be in but I can seem to find and do what is necessary to resolve it.

Thats the tone of voice I hate vbab. I call it aggressive but don't mean it in a totally scary nasty man way, just a nasty way of expressing his upset or concern, or what ever the reason at the time, I get the tone for most of it and most of the time he seems to be unaware that he is using it at all.
But then he tells me I talk in a condescending tone when I am sure I hadn't oh dear, the joys of trying to live with another human being.

Thanks ladies, for having a look in the Boots shops near you.
I tried the web but can't see anything, from the range at all, that I saw in the bigger shop. Odd and a blinkin nuisance.

I was supposed to be getting a bumbo and a swing from SIL but, when we were south, she was so bleedin hard to pin down. What with all her crazy schedules for her 3 year old. I just know her nose is all out of joint cos I didn't manage it. Shame
Are some of you really putting your LOs into door bouncers? There is no way my wee J is ready for that. I know he is a month early and all but, wow!

oh sending hugs to you, thats awful that you feel like that, no wonder you are so .
Can you see your GP or HV and tell them how you feel, i've made an app to see mine I figure it can't hurt - might help you get things straight in your own mind. Keep posting we are all here for you.

Vbab what a day you have had....I really couldn't cope if DS1 wasn't in nursery 4 days a week as the one day (Mondays) when I am at home with the pair of them by myself, I seem to spend wishing the hours away until they are in bed - Ds1 is just such a handful though and it sounds like your DS is of a similar nature. You are not a bad mum - just a mum to a demanding toddler!!

Meet-up I feel awful but it is not looking good for next Friday now. I was hoping DH would be working somewhere down south/midlands so I could meet him in Yorkshire on Friday evening but it looks like he is going to be working from home now on Friday and needs to be here for computer access etc. We can't really justify the expense of taking 2 cars over (he would have to come over on the Saturday) and staying in a hotel if it isn't necessary I really want to meet up though but can't think of a way round it.

Twinkling I am also about the babies going in door bouncers/bumbos etc. Sam is nowhere near ready for any of those - his little head wobbles so much although it is getting better. Tummy time consists of him lying down with his head to one side chewing his fist quite contentedly and/or moving his knees into a kneeling position...no effort to push himself up at all - lazy boy!!

Glad Rutho is ok - was starting to get worried about her going AWOL again.

Daisy lol at Mr Daisy and the cowboy walk. I think I will gloss over some of the details for my DH otherwise he will run for the hills...

Baby massage was good - only actually did 20 minutes of actual massage - the rest was just general chit chat (plus someone had bought a 17-month old toddler with him which I accept but it didn't exactly make for a peaceful relaxing atmosphere with him wandering round all the babies who were led on the floor ). Sam seemed to enjoy it and spent most of the session holding hands with the dummy baby the instructor was using to demonstrate on

vbab, i do empathise. i had 2 days like that this week and it was driving me up the wall. i am beginning to see a pattern. if i don't spend 'enough' (by his standards) time with ds1 he really acts up. maybe ryan hit you after being with MIL cos he was angry at being 'left' while you were with baby a. they will just have to get used to it, but it has hard after being PFB's for so long. ds1's behaviour is causing strain between me and dh as he loses it with him, whereas i realise he is only behaving badly because he feels unloved (even though he is very loved), so getting angry and shouting at him is only going to make it worse. cue lots of shouting between me and dh instead .

i am getting a door bouncer on the weekend from gumtree. judo is really strong on his legs and ready i think, miri a lot less so...she can wait a bit longer, but j is getting frustrated lying down and my arms get tired holding him.

am ignoring the weight loss people! talk to the hand!

went physio finally today. muscles 3 fingers apart. got loads of exercises that i am supposed to do 'religiously'. 4 x per day. yeah, right. i don't even get to drink a cup of tea 4x per day!

ME ME ME Post coming up......

London Ladies am GUTTED, really GUTTED as will not be able to make lunch today. Poor DS1 has had a dodhy tummy and temperature of over 39 through the night, and will not be going to school. This means I can't come as don't want him to give your LO's S+D.

I am proper gutted as was so looking forward to it.

Also in a foul mood as only had 4 hours sleep.

at the same time...bloody kids, who would have them eh

Don't worry Dozy. Shame , but never mind. Hope ds1 is better soon.
Love to Vbab and Merry M and all those with tricky toddlers. Sounds a nightmare.

please come back this afternoon and let me know what you had to eat and what I missed out on Have even lost 3lbs this week so was going to eat what I like....aaarggh

Ok, it's official. I AM BORED!

Can't even do the housework as the cleaner came yesterday.....Whole day stretches ahead of me with nothing planned.....what can I do???

Might just start really random threads on MN to keep me occupied!

chocgal fire away on the kidney questions!!

Dozy poor you and poor DS1 - hope he feels a bit better - and I bet he really wanted to go to school aswell.

Vbab I echo what Merry has said - DS1 definitely seems to get naughtier when I am feeding/playing with Sam - as soon as he sees me cooing with him or whatever, DS1 either starts playing up or clambers up and joins in (i.e. ruins it as he starts poking Sam in the eye etc). The only thing that doesn't seem to bother him is going off to nursery 4 days a week - I am not sure whether he just hasn't worked out that I stay at home with Sam or he just enjoys it there that much but that doesn't affect his behaviour at all.