November 08 - Say it LOUD.......We're shades of GINGER and PROUD :0)

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Oh yeay! It is good to hear that someone else has still not got down and dirty with their DHs yet!
I did buy some nice gel at the weekend, thought it might help, but as I am not on any pills or the like and we both hate putting on the wellies, I don't see it making any difference any time soon.
DH seems to be coping, though the occasional crude comments are still cringe worthy and really don't help his cause, silly man

Oh vbab you do sound down. That book of Daisys sounds like it might be worth a read.
DH generally leaves me to deal with DD cos she listens quicker. He just gets sort of shouty so she does too IYSWIM. He doesn't actually shout but his tone is just no where near as calm as mine and she just doesn't respond to it. I, generally, just have to tell her mummy is going to get cross and she will calm.
Not every time though, boy did I lose my calm in the car this morning DD screaming cos I had lifted her into the car (I still let her get in her seat herself, even though we were late. But apparently this simply wasn't good enough She is 2.5 FGoodnessS!!) DS screaming too cos ,...well he is 4 months old. Mummy was no longer calm. And I forgot loads of stuff. Cue sighs from mum. grr

Oh I also ended in tears this afternoon, at my parents. Apparently I 'should have known' all the questions to ask, things to do for the baptism. I didn't.
So, I nearly didn't go to church before hand (on the same day as the ceremony). Was informed was expected there at 11am for 1130 mass, after having asked the evening before what was expected of me and nothing had been said about mass. In fact mum said be at the house for 12-1230, so she had forgotten about mass( a fact she most certainly will not admit to)! DD and I were still in the bath, not a thing ironed (and everything had to be. DHs shirt, trousers. DD dress, and DS gown) and we had washed our hair.
Mass finished at 1245. I didn't know to introduce myself to the priest so was scoffed at for being so remiss.
Back to hotel (5-10 min drive), got us all ready for 2pm (so within 45 mins). But 5 mins late (my parents implied embarrassment at their waylaid daughter)
It then turned out I had made a mess of choosing godparents. Apparently I couldn't have 2 women and one man, espesh as one man was not catholic. So my brother had to sort out this confusion and step in as a godfather.
The priest had apparently said ' This just cannot happen!'

And basically I felt like my parents think I am a right wally and made a real mess of it all.
When I asked what I ought to be doing they just said 'Go to mass'. This I did but I 'should have known' to ask all sorts of questions.
I asked them all the way through the planning and was always told not to worry and to just turn up!!!!

This I did and now I am a dummy??

OMG
DH was asking me what on earth I was writing, I just said shoosh, I was concetrating. But he was right! That was soooome essay!!!
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Hi everybody hope you are having a good weekend.
Vbab hope things get a bit better I just find that dh and I don't have time to communicate properly either he is at work or home knackered or I am knackered. We don't talk about anything except shopping the dds and boring day to day stuff - he hasn't even commented on my hair cut - ok it is not fab but it is pretty obvious. I am just hoping that when we get a bit more sleep and minirosa is a bit bigger we can resume more of a relationship - in all senses. It doesn't help that we do not have anybody who can babysit even for a few hours . He said to try and help me he will take a few days off so I can prepare for dd1 party - so he is at home tues and wed ... I could have done with thurs and fri seeing as the party is sat and I need to do some cooking etc . Oh well best not complain ... Have a good weekend all !
Drs wife wake your dh up every night feed and say your daughter needs chamging or whatever - that will help to reduce his libido !

Woohoo....I'm am all preened and primped, with a lovely rich brown coloured very short bob . I feel soooooo much better. Anyone who has been feeling a bit low, I can heartily recommend a couple of hours at the hairdressers!!

twinkling, sounds like you did nothing wrong, but were just given wrong information. I didn't think it mattered who you had as godparents these days as well. I know for a boy it's traditionally two godfathers and one godmother and the opposite way for a girl, but I don't know many who have stuck to that these days.

Sorry to hear of twinkling and vbab having hard times.
After my lovely meal with choc and pinkglow, I had a car crash on the way to pick up ds from school. not hurt. but car write off. dh is not happy.
so I am feeling a bit miserable. and M has been vey sicky and difficult for the last week.
Lets hope we all feel a bit better soon.
And Buzz, I don't miss dh when he goes away. I love him so much. and he goes away rarely. only for a night. but I love it when he does. love the space. and he comes back and asks if I missed him, and I have to lie and say that I have when actually I haven't. I think this is not unusual. I think alot of people might say the same.
Daisy ahve not resumed full on ..... we have tried a few times, but I was ....tmi.... so dry, we couldn't manage it. I have bought some sophisticated ky jelly stuff to try. this is all new. why would this be ?

bloody hell Obs. what happened? Was DS2 with you? And are you able to claim on your insurance for the car and for new car seats?

the dryness is something to do with BF hormones; nature's way of ensuring you have a gap between babies I suppose, as you need to first have the inclination and then second have nice thick CM (tmi sorry) as a means of transportation for the sperm.

oh, and I'm glad you are OK, obviously

DS1 thinks I look like This with my new 'do

Obs sorry about the crash glad you are ok - must have been a shock tell your dh its a bit of bloomin metal and thankfully nobody was hurt.
Daisy congrats on you new hairdo enjoy it and next time get your nails done as well ( Great advice from somebody who has not had a manicure in 3 years !!!
Twinkling We tried here to have non catholic godparents but its a total no go ... I am well cross as I would like my sister but she is CofE . I don't have any really close catholic friends to ask to be minirosas godparents so it looks as if it will have to be SIL and BIl again ....

Bloody hell obs - werid considering you were talking about having to rush sometimes to pick him up when your out, hense why you left in plenty of time.

Oh no Obs as long as you are OK that is all that matters.

Daisy glad you like your new do

I'm really down today both boys have D&V and I don't feel too hot myself. Can't stop crying.

I am having such a crappy day!
Well, it started good. DH took DD downstairs and I went back to sleep with J, bliss. Had shower with DD, fun.
Then went into town, NIGHTMARE!!!
DD has hit the terrible twos over flamin night!
Temper tantrums all over town.
I just kept ignoring them, but DH found that too hard. So every time I would say, 'ok, bye then' DH would stay with her. Er dur isn't that defeating the purpose. But he would say, 'well I have to, you don't care'
Oh for heavens sake, I don't not care, you wally. This is how you deal with them.
So things did not improve and poor DD was exhausted with her efforts.
He even put her in one of those train things at the door, you know the ones? Well.......DD didn't even know it moved....until now. Nice one DH. So cue another tantrum when it stopped!
And a whole lod of bother for me next time we go shopping.
I told her, 'wow, it must only work today. I have never seen it do that before.'

Now J is screaming at me for putting him to bed, but he won't take boob, won't bring up wind, has no poo.

Nightmare day really!!
Better go try to console him

obs - at your accident. Glad to hear you and kiddies ok but about your car.
twinkling - hugs i know what the DS tantrums are like. One end of scale of emotion to the other in seconds for no apparent reason at times.
IT IS DEFINITELY OFFICIAL ... ALYSSA IS TEETHING. HER SLEEP PATTERN FOR THE FIRST TIME IS UPSET, SHE IS AT TIMES INCOLSOLABLE AND HER CHEEKS ARE BRIGHT RED AND HOT AND SHE HAS TURNED HER GLOVES INTO SUCKY TOYS. bless her. this is where it all goes pear shaped.

ouch at your DD's tantrums twinkling. My DD has had a few great big ones this week and it is such hard work!

ouch at Alyssa teething vbab. Bumble has been chewing and dribbly all week as well and I can feel a tooth, but he had this weeks ago and it disappeared again so it could be an age yet.

twinkling, I had a look in the big Boots in town today and couldn't see anything even remotely fitting your description sorry. Our Boots hardly sells any own brand stuff at all now; it was all early learning centre or "branded" stuff like night garden and dora.

DH is watching Arachnophobia is on TV. I have no idea why I'm still in the room as I am one and used to have frequent screaming, hissy, jumping out of bed and flapping around the room nightmares about the feckers.

Yikes, teething. already! Poor wee thing.
Do you know I just don't remember any of this from DD?!

That is what it was like vbab. One minute she was fine, then off the scale. Then fine again and you think great, cracked it. Nope off she goes again? eh??

J did settle though. He has himself in an awful habit of screaming when you put him down. DH goes up first time, then me. Most times he settles after my turn. But what a shame he wants to do it this way.
He has also decided that 4am is just too late for a feed, 1 am suits him much better.
Oh poo, I thought he was stretching his sleep out, instead he is shortening it

hi to everyone...ladybuzz just saw your post from last night...hope you are ok and feeling better this morning? must be very hard with what you are going through and two sick DCs... have no real advice i'm afraid - but maybe time to think has given you some insights re: DH? hugs to you (and all others needing hugs!) xx

We all went to the cinema yesterday, for ds1's benefit. Only cost £3 for all four of us. I even think M liked it. I loved Madagascar2. I laughed and laughed.
Twinkling, I too looked in the big Boots in Staines, for you, for the item you described and could find nothing at all,
We have pizza and party snacks and I have a bottle of spritzer, ready for this afternoon. Spurs are in the Carling Cup final. I suspect Man u will win. What do you reckon ceebee, monkeym ?

Hi ladies,

Ob's sorry abou your accident. Hoope your ok, enjoy the match later. X

Vbab, I got Becca some teething gel and also some of those Nelsons teething granules - they are 3 for 2 at boots at the min and figured they would come in handy! Becca quite unsettled at times, raming fists in etc and Gel seems better at the min.

Feeling quite low as seem to be piling weight on and despite doing lots of walking this is doing nothing. I am going to try alot harder with my diet this week. Also at Physio on weds I am going to highlght the need to start exercising. Problem is I am still suffering with my pelvis, legs and despite pelvic floor exercies every day there still shit.

I am 30 in April and would like to be down to 10st by then so need to work hard I was ill when I was younger and its only the past 18 months food has been less of an issue, jesus knows how I used to have so much will power

Ladybuzz, how are things your end? Is DH been round to see the boys? I bet he misses you all terribly, and I expect you may miss him under all the confusion. Prop on facebook later if want a 'chat'

Oh ladies who face book, I only joined last week if you look at Ladybuzz and Daisy I joined them but make me your friend!!! I have a very common surname and the photo is of me with both DD's.

Sorry for me post. X

OMG what awful punctuation and spellings!

hello all am trying to catch up on thread but i haven't been about for quite a while.

Owen is wonderful bt has got into the habit of falling asleep on the boob so really need to think of a good evening routine which is hard to do as he is still cluster feeding all evening. hv advised to give a formula feed in the evening to try let me produce some more milk. my milk seems to have slowed down alot in the last week so i bit the bullet and got the bottles out. He won't have it. I have tried avent bottles, tommee tippee close to nature bottles and a tomee tippee cup all with formula and ebm and he won't have any of it. Now i am worrying my milk will dry up all together and he will starve.

obs, sorry about crash, what a shock. hope you are not in shock. glad you are ok. of your nice lunch with the other gals and the movie though!

daisy, glad you love haircut. sounds lovely. couldn't access the picture though!

twinkling, i let ds1 go in those things if he behaves for the entire shop, he can go in it at the end. works a treat! i'm sure that's why they exist.

went to a wedding yesterday, drove for 2 hours each way for 1 hour of wedding (was only invited to evening reception and didn't want to hang about for hours in strange town with ds1 and babies). ds1 running around outside church,ran into a wrought iron bench and bust his eye open just where eyebrow is, it is swollen and black. babies behaving badly, well just dd actually, i was up 7 x between 11.30pm and 6.45am. i'm not a very happy chap. everyone else's babies sleep now. why don't mine?

Hi and a big wave to everyone - glad to see lots of the old 'faces' here. I rarely get a chance to Mumsnet these days and when I do it is usually a brief post looking for help for one problem or another. By the way thanks to those who responded on my recent thread about dd1 and her behaviour.

Amy is doing great - she has a tooth already! It appeared when she was 3 months and 1 weeks - exactly 7 months earlier than dd1 who was a bit of a late starter in the tooth department. I am still breastfeeding and it is going really well, hope the arrival of teeth won't interfere. She sleeps really well at night, only wakes for a feed but is inclined to only take short naps in the days which leaves me very little time to get anything done.

DD2 is a bit of a nightmare. She is incredibly clingy and hates to leave me or for me to leave the house without her. We are back co-sleeping again with dd1 in bed with me and dd2 in a co-sleeper cot next to me and DH in the spare room.

Twinkling I ended up in tears on the day of dd1's christening too. I can laugh about it now but I had such an awful day that I haven't arranged dd2's yet. My sympathies.

Obs Sorry to hear about the crash. Hope you are ok.

That's all I have had time to catch up on so far. Hope everyone is doing well.