The one where they put their best feet forward

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There you go Ellie

Well, it's a little lighter tonight, so hopefully he'll get better now. He also didn't cry as much as previous nights when he went to bed, which is good. His appetite still not back, but he's luckily got some reserves to survive on , and is drinking enough fluids.

It just really winds me up that whenever I am worried about something and eventually go to the doctor, they go out of their way to make me feel I waste their time, and don't even bother with a proper examination. And I don't want to be a pain - I even called up between 1 and 3 the previous day to ask the on call doctor on the phone whether this is nothing to worry about (those are the phone hours), but after the receptionist told him what my question was, he said he couldn't do it over the phone, I should bring R in. I do understand that they can't do this over the phone, but why then be so funny when you eventually get there?? And yes, I know it's probably a viral infection and therefore nothing can be done, but just say something. Sorry, rant over.

It does sound like you have a GP with really really bad communication. Do you see the same one each time or is it luck of the draw? Any chance of changing?
I hope your pediatrician has some more information for you - oh, just had a thought..how are you with them? I mean, I have to really psyche myself up NOT to go into extremely-polite-sorry-to-be-bothering-you mode, I mentally rehearse the information I need to give them, and steel myself to say "I'm sorry, can you explain that more?" or "..and you're confident it's not XYZ" or "..how long should I leave it before coming back?"
I'm astounded every time I get treated like an intelligent, sensible human being at the GP - why should this be????

Agree with Ladybee sal, you ned to speak to them in a certain way.
Being a well-rehearsed mother or three I'm listened to more now, I think but I always start off with 'Just a little worried about X, Y and Z, I know it's probably a virus but I just wanted to be sure it isn't A, B or C so do you mind giving him a quick check over?'

Am REALLY pissed off. The childminder I wanted Alex to go to hasn't been allowed an extension so he wouldn't be able to go there until july There is another childminder that could have him but she is...erm.. scratty? Basically, I don't want my kids in her care, she's really young and although I was hesitant about it when DP spoke to her on the phone he said she was really unprofessional and he doesn't want Alex going there either. So..what do I do?? Fucking working is more hassle than it's worth, I'm sorely tempted to just tell the nursery I cant take the job. Oh, and to top it all off, poor Panda is still being sick which is making me really precious about him and I'm having wobbles about him being in childcare anyway.

Is there no chance the nursery you'll be working at could take him for the hours you'll be working there?
Poor Alex, must be horrible seeing him like this. Don't make any decisions about working now VS, you know when they're sick it's the worst but you're imagining your baby being sick and upset IN childcare...when actually, they won't be allowed to childcare, so you'll still be looking after them and your work will just have cope with you calling in absent.

They have a waiting list of a year. Eventually he would be able to come with me and it's subsidized but he won't be in the same room as me.
A nursery near me say they can take him so I might put him there until july, but I need to make decisions quickly.

Morning all. Am practically asleep on my keyboard this morning as Sam was up practically most of the night with his awful cough. He never wakes up fully but he needs a back rub or a quick cuddle before he falls asleep. Then, just as I've fallen back to sleep it starts all over again. To top it off my cough has now gone to my chest, which is unheard of for me, so I feel as though someone has broken all my ribs. As you can see I'm feeling very sorry for myself

Poor you VS, at least there is another nursery for him if you need it. I know that's no consolation at the moment though. Hope Panda feels better soon.

Hey LittleRascal, great to hear from you. Pleased everything's going OK.

Sal - pleased R's rash is clearing up. How are you feeling?

haven't read but I had to post cos noone in rl knows i'm preg and i have to speak. Had results!!! They came early. baby's unaffected... oh my god oh my god. I know what I'm having too
3 cheers for friday 13th!!!!

i can't stop crying!!! i think i am manic. Oh my god!!! I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed to talk to someone!

yayayayayayayayayay!

That's such wonderful news PM, am so pleased for you, and amazing that it came so much earlier than expected. I suppose they give a long wait time in case results are bad and they need time to double check or something? So yours must have been obviously clear.

You need to find one RL person, swear them to secrecy and tell them. You have to have someone to be gleeful with at times like this. Either that or tell the busdriver.

yes I think I will! Oh god I have never felt such a relief!!!! thanks for replying! I was going crazy!!!xXx

I feel all giggly and gleeful for you! Can just imagine how much relief you feel right now, must be amazing

A bit like a mental person if I'm honest! I don't know what to do with myself! I just want to tell everyone! Work are going to go mad but I don't care!!!!! Bring on being poor! I don't care now, my little family are too important

YEY for PM and and miniPM!

LO woken - in a rush to pick up DSD from netball - speak later x

Fantastic news Pm. It actually brought a tear to my eye especially after your thread before you made the decision.
I'm so happy for you.

Now....VBA2C....

Oh PM that's fantastic news, I'm so so pleased for you.

Pm !!!

Well, on this side Friday 13th living up to it's name. The paed basically said that we have to wait at least 3 months after his last virus infection before it would be worth it to test for any intolerances/allergies. And since he had the noravirus in Jan, poss this one now (and she couldn't even care enough to examine - I had to demand), she said to come back in 3 months. Unless he had another virus infection in the meantime, in which case 3 months after that. What a waste of time.

I am also furious (as in major, as in worst in the last year...) with (d)h. When she said there's no point for any tests now, I said I really need to know something is being done to at least check now. I don't want him to be in agony for no reason if there was anything I could do. She then said she couldn't see the point as it might not pick something up. I then said that I would rather her try. Then she said well, she understood I am anxious (no shit sherlock), but that she hoped we understood. (D)h then said oh yes, he understood (as he would never want to make a scene, oh no no no), I said I'm not happy and would rather check anyway, then she ignored me (overdramatic mummy of course), continued saying to dh that we'd do tests in 3 months if virus free, and he said NOTHING. I cannot even begin to tell you how furious I am.

I told him that I might as well do everything myself, and that I've never been so disappointed. He then said he knew it would be pointless (our local doctors are spectacularly rubbish, and this paed doesn't seem any better). OH OH OH, and she told R to "shut up". In his face, not joking. He is 11mnts for fuck's sake. I am too furious to do anything now - feel like reporting her, but guess there'll be no point. Can't talk to dh either as I might kill him.

Will chat again once I've calmed down.

Oh, and thanks Ladybee and VS re tips at GP. Yes, I think that's my problem most of the time - I have this really annoying habit of almost being too embarrassed to go there to "waste the doctor's time". Heaven knows where that comes from. Our practice is rubbish - luck of the draw who you get. If you're lucky, you get one of the medical students - they always seem to care and will actually examine.

However, when I eventually get around to a specialist, I feel it is obviously important enough and then I will stick to my guns. It just helps if the person next to me doesn't ruin it all by being all "oh no, whatever you think"-ish. Hmm, sorry, am bitching again.

Will try and compose myself and will post again if I'm not in custody for dh's murder...

Sheez, sorry, didn't realise how long that was.

PPS: Ooh Peachy, your thread made the weekly roundup

[off to go kill dh]

Sorry as well for being so completely self-absorbed.

VS, don't make any decisions just yet, like Ladybee says, everything feels worse when they're ill, doesn't it?

Could you however talk to your new boss, explain your predicament, and then see if they offer anything if a space came up? Fair enough, one year waiting list and all, but if they knew they might lose you, they might ignore bend the rules and offer you the space if someone leaves (instead of the person at the top of the list iyswim). I know it doesn't sound right, but I am sure that that happens in real life. And I'd justify it (well, I am) in that the nursery would be so much better off with you there (and this is my serious opinion, not just saying that), that it'll be beneficial for everyone involved, even if it means having to wait a little longer.

Have forgiven dh. Well, have put the hammer/knife/gun/pillow away. Still annoyed. And he's never coming with me again. There are times when you can disagree with a professional, and I think this was one of them.

He has booked us sessions at Floatworks for tonight. Either his way of apologising, or he thinks he should do whatever it takes to make me less stressed. Either way, am looking forward to it, and not really in the mood for a traditional "date night" anyway, can't be fussed to make small talk now, but appreciate the thought.

So sorry sal hope he is better soon. Its so scary when they're poorly.

Thanks so much for the congrats guys. I have spent most of the day acting rather crazy... giggling at mental things! And vs LOL about vba2c! Now you mention it...

ps... shhhhhhhhh cos noone in real life knows yet but...

its a GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!
a dss and 2 boys of my own and now my very own little poppet to complete our family!
yay to the paranoids!

I'm ing like a loon here for you, pm!

oh paranoid - a little girl! That just makes it even better

I'm torturing myself watching the comic relief coverage - am so much more of a softie now I've had a baby I'm in tears every 5 mins.

Sal, sounds like a rough day, it's horrible when your OH doesn't back you up in these sorts of situations.

'lo again dear friends. Firstly, sorry for my very bitchy and rather annoying moan of this afternoon...

All now good again.

Wellll, we went floating. I have realised I don't actually do relax. That got me thinking, and I don't think I've ever really done anything that was only relaxing. I do relax when I'm on holiday and visiting places (as in not stressed), but I can't not do anything. Wonder if it's anything to do with how my brain works (the epilepsy etc). Never bothered me as it's always been good at work to be busy all the time, and before R it meant I never minded long hours etc. It's only now when I'm at home more etc and when I can't really be in a bad mood without affecting poor R that I realise I probably have to learn somehow. Maybe I should do exersise or something which is relaxing yet "busy".

What's everyone else doing tonight?

Paranoidmummy, just have to say again how very excited I am for you!!! Congrats on Little Miss Paranoid!

Hi Ladybee, sorry, didn't see you're on (as I'm into typing essays today apparently).

I find it really hard if he doesn't back me up, as I firstly then feel like the "witch", and secondly, I think I would then have had more authority if he just wasn't there.

He has his good points as well (wouldn't have been able to mention those earlier today though ), confrontation just not one of them.