April 2007 - Hanging out the Bunting for BIG baby Connor .......

[CaptainDippy]

Congratulations!! to Elkie and family!!

[Northernlurker]

Elkie - praying for you and wee Connor. Sweettheart you are doing such a good job and he is so lucky to have his brave mum fighting for support in breastfeeding. It is a national disgrace that the support you have received has been so patchy!

Ok - the birth and the aftermath sounds tough - but you've weathered that and done really well to get home so soon. The fact that Connor fed so much sounds like he's trying to get your supply going and is an excellent sign. B kept me up for about 36 hours doing that to me!

I have to say I am slightly sceptical about the weight loss. Had Connor been weighed on that community midwifes scales before? And did they weigh him again at the hospital? If the answer to both those questions is no then I think there's a chance her scales are wrong. That does happen. When the midwife weighed B at 3 days or so she hadn't lost at all - in fact she'd gained an ounce! The midwife speculated that the hospital scales had been off and actually her birthweight had been higher than they said - either that or the midwifes scales were wrong. It does happen and it's too important for you to be messed about with. MR ELKIE - IF YOU SHOULD BE READING THIS PLEASE PASS THIS ON TO ELKIE! THANK YOU

I need to go do stuff now but if you are looking for relevant posts and advice Mamag had an emergency c section under general last year and has posted about it and SparklyGothKat had threads and threads about her struggle to breast fed her premature son in the face of some health professionals discouragement.

Stay strong - you CAN do this,

[MJreturns]

Morning!

So lovely to hear you got home elkie. Hope all goes well at the hospital today, I have to say I agree with NL that the scales may be wrong. A whole pound is a large amount for an adult to drop within a couple of days, for a newborn it just seems unlikely iykwim.
Conor sounds like he is doing great, latching on really well and feeding brilliantly. You are doing a great job and I am really pleased you are holding your own for what you really want. With all that feeding he is bound to gain weight!
Love to you all xxx

Oooggs, I am so glad you managed to get some rest. I didn't say much in the text, but wanted you to know I was thinking about you even though I can't offer any real help Commune by the sea really is a good idea, can't remember who suggested it but I want to live there Just think of all the support we would have!

SOL, lots of luck with the interview. When is it?

Leaky, hope you get better soon. 5 days with d + v is awful xxx

SPB, how are you doing today? Hope the vomiting has stopped xxx

Right, must go and have a shower. My guys have gone fishing so it is just F and me at home. Need to go to the shops and get a few bits to make pudding for later. Having my mum and dad over for roast dinner this afternoon. I still go to fat club so have been trawling the good food website for a not too naughty pud! Found a choc sponge with choc custard so will be trying it out later, hope it is yum

Have a good day all

[StealthPolarBear]

Vomiting has stopped thanks but spent all yesterday in bed feeling weak! Feel much better today, hopefully by tomorrow I'll be back to normal!

[Doobydoo]

Elkie....Fingers crossed and positive vibes zooming your way

[Doobydoo]

OOOGGS...So pleasedd you got some sleep!
SOL Good luck with your interview I am sorry that you have to leave a job you enjoy.
Have good day all.xx

[weeonion]

congratulations elkie - great news and the same to oooggs. x

[cazboldy]

Havent been on for a few days....will try and catch up later... but mos importantly... messaage from ELKIE....

"Bad news C losing weight,and we're being admitted, think better bf support available this time though"

Just want to wish you both all the best.... xxxx Thinking of you xxxx

[Northernlurker]

Thanks Caz

Elkie - we're thinking of you. I know you can do this - you are doing so well to fed him already DO NOT LOSE HEART!

for you both.

[fourlittlefeet]

elkie, hang on in there, sounds like you are doing brilliantly! determination is everything with this one...

[Northernlurker]

Right - I'm feeling a bit helpless here so I think I'm going to start a thread in breastfeeding for support for Elkie. I know we're all behind her - but maybe some wider mumsnet vibes would be a good thing too! Will link in a minute.

[Northernlurker]

link here

Get posting

[Doobydoo]

Thinking of you and C Elkie.xx
Hope all is well with you WO.
cAZ THANKS FOR LETTING US KNOW.hOPE YOU AND YOURS OK.XX

[Eddas]

Elkie, no advice or helpful things from me since I ff bith of mine, but stick with it and make sure they don't make you switch if it's not what you want.

oooggs, how has today been? I love decorating so wish I was closer to come and help with that. Maybe we could arrange some kind of changing rooms style weekend

Nothing to report here

[Bramshott]

Aww Elkie, you poor thing - sounds like you have had a really really tough time.

Hope you are able to insist on the help you need, and that your experiences with D will make you strong this time. Sooooo that it has to be a fight though. Second what others have said about trying to make sure he's weighed on the same scales from now on.

May not be on much this week as I'm working loads, but I will be thinking of you.

Oooggs - really pleased that you had a great night and that the builders are done!

[Sexonlegs]

Evening ladies.

Elkie, good to see you, although sorry that you seem to be encountering obstacles to b/f. Hope you and C are ok and get the support you need.

Oooggs, so glad you had a good night and that your house is now your own again.

Leaky, hope you feel better soon. 5 days seems a long time to be poorly. Hope you are not getting dehydrated.

SPB, how are you feeling?

WO, good to see you.

MJ, how was your night out?

Dooby, how is the property hunt going?

Hope everyone else is ok.

Haven't seen POTC or Dippy for a bit....

All ok here. Had a great time at the ball last night, but am shattered. Got to bed at gone 2 and the girls were awake at 6.30! Mum and Dad did us proud and put them to bed last night - so so so happy that Mum is doing and looking so well.
Interview is not until the 23rd Feb thankfully - I have a presentation to prepare for it - arse!

[StealthPolarBear]

Hi everyone
Elkie, so sorry to hear you've been readmitted, hopefully that measn you are now in the best place and will get smoe consistent support.
fourlittlefeet - who are you? Sorry if Im missing something!

[StealthPolarBear]

SOL finally feeling better thanks after relapse last night Will be thinking about you on 23rd

[hensden]

Hello ladies, just a quickie to say congratulation new mums Oooogs and Elkie. Sorry to hear you're both having a hard time of it, baby Alex is now 3 months old and is still feeding every hour or two at night and is under average weight acording to the charts and HV. He also lost a lot of weight at the start and was not up to birth weight until he was a month old, but after having 3 other babies who breastfed to well over 18mths I will not be bullied, all of them lost a lot of weight to start, they all gradually caught up and they are all now very healthy happy children. The MW's were the worst, trying to worry me every time they weighed him, he had a slight tongue tie so they referred me to a BF clinic where they told me I probably knew more than they did He's always smiling and growing out of his sleepsuits so I'm happy with that(and I still feed DS2 to sleep at night).
DH was made redundant in November bad news on the money front but he is getting to spend time with all the children/babies and helping me catch up on sleep so really a good thing, depending on how we look at it.
When he was working in October and I was having to manage school runs/no sleep/toddler/BF I was finding 4 children really really hard work as compared to 3, and mine are spread out in age it must be harder with two toddlers and a newborn, so Ooogs you are doing a great job, It will get better, or so everyone keeps telling me Caz you must be a super woman or an octopus coping with 5 you are an inspriration(sp)
Best wishes to everyone else, oooh and congrats to my buddy SPB hope all's well with you.
Take care all
Hensden

[MJreturns]

Hi all

Hensden, lovely to hear from you. Glad the dc's are doing well. Sorry that your dh lost his job, but as you say, there are positive sides to all situations. Rest is worth its weight in gold!

SOL, night out was good. I didn't get any messages but quite a few other did. There was one lady there and her son had committed suicide, she got a message from him which upset her but was positive at the same time iyswim. Very interesting evening.
So pleased to hear your mum is doing so well

Elkie, I know you probably won't read this, but I really hope that you are ok in hospital and that you will be able to get home really soon. Thinking of you xxx

It's back to normal in my house today as dh is back on days although he may have to do more nights eventually. It is a bit odd not having him around in the day, but kind of nice too as I have totally got out of my daily routine!! I can now start to get things sorted again and have more MN time during daylight hours

[MJreturns]

Meant to say Runny, I hope you had a fab child free weekend in York xx

[CaptainDippy]

Boo!

Haveb een awya for w/e and am shattered, but had nice time

Have vauguely caught up ... a bit.

Sending to oooggs and to Elkie. Elkie your birth sounds traumatic. You poor love. xx

Glady our mum is being helpful oooggs. xx

Great to "see" you Hendsden!

I am near(ish) Tunbridge Wells Bramshott!! Text me!!!

Sorry for rubbish post, but brain is mush!!

[oooggs]

Elkie - thinking of you honey

we are now on day 20 and ds3 gets weighed at 3.30pm, I hope he has put on or I don't know where we will be

Nights are hell with Luke but at least other three being angels through the night. Boobs have settled (well the right one has the left is hell x100)

Caz - thanks for your email - I will reply

ellie & pesha - you are so lovely about half term

believe it or not the transition to no.4 is worse than when the twins arrived!!

[Sexonlegs]

Where is everyone??

Hi Hensden, lovely to see you Sounds like you are run off your feet. Sorry about your dh's job situ.

Dippy, glad you had a good weekend.

Oooggs, how did the weigh-in go?

Hope everyone is doing ok and are rid of illness.

Glowing and proud Mum here, as I have been to B's Parent's Evening. B is doing really well, and they say since Christmas, she is like a different girl! She has gone from being in the bottom group for Maths needing extra help, to being top! Seemingly her reading is excellent and her writing is beautiful!! I nearly cried when the teacher told me all this. I really am bursting with pride

[StealthPolarBear]

Well done B!

[runnyhabbit]

Evening all

York was FAB Hotel was wonderful, weather very cold, but beautiful iyswim. Was spoilt rotten by dh So lovely to eat a whole meal with no interuptions, although it took a bit of getting used to

Elkie/Mr Elkie - If you're reading this, I did get your text message, but quite late on. Glad Caz was able to post it. Thinking of you all. Stay strong Elkie - you can do it x