October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Hiya

OMG I dissappear for a day and you lot write massive philosophical treaties that have taken me an age to catch up on and have me in floods of tears...
..sorry it has been a tough couple of days...I'm not well (laryngitis/bronchitis), Alex is not sleeping again either ( sooo with you there Inzi and... oh Lord..cant remember who else ...sorry ...exhaustion catching up)we think he is still teething but 3 weeks is a long time to be coping with this (yes, another ok during the day, dreadful at night scenario)...and we had the funeral of our friend to attend yesterday, which wrecked me ...she should have been 49 the day before...I'm still in awe of her siblings who stood up at the end of the service and sang (karaoke style)their family party anthem "bat out of hell" with tears rolling down their faces because she wanted it [awed/devastated emoticon]
I will join the religious philosophical debate when I have my brain back in gear... Inzi your story has demolished me..I'm still crying
...got to go...Dh due home any minute and I have to get his pasta on...

Ok Gonna tell you what Zachary just did as I am still giggling like mad.

There he is standing in front of the radiator and he has a coat hanger in his hand, he looks at the wall and see;s his shadow. So hits the wall with the coathanger, and shadow copies, he then spends 15 minutes watching his shadow and looking for it when he walked away from the wall. He has been searching behind the radiator for his shadow but it is not there...oh and he now keeps walking back to the wall kissing his shadow looking behind the radiator and sighing when he can't see "shadow" behind there lmao

I guess you had to be there!

LES pmsl at Zachary fighting his shadow!!! Not a bad thing to have some light relief on here at the moment really as I think a lot of us are having really tough times...

Floria sending you massive hugs honey. Funerals of someone young who has passed away before their time are always really heart wrenching - I am lucky to have only been to a couple. Sounds like it was a lovely very personal service that maybe given a bit of time you will be able to remember fondly as something that really reflected the sort of person she was. In some ways its so much sadder when there isn't anything personal and the service is done by someone who didn't know them or anything about them... Look after yourself.

Just about to have tea - back later xxx

Needcoffee - keep up the good work! I have so much admiration for anyone who tries to give up smoking. Hang in there, it will be worth it.

Floria I am so sorry again about your friend. The funeral sounds like it was difficult.

Muppet I really don't know what to say about Ollie. It does sound like he is bored but I have no experience with that age of child. Bit weird of that poster to just retype your words like that.

LES that is the cutest story ever! The thing that Dareh is doing right now that makes me laugh is when he touches the radiators he makes a funny blowing out noise. It's because once I was trying to show him that they were hot and did a sort of intake of breath ouch type noise and he is trying to copy it. Also if he sees a picture of a cloud he does a baa sound because he thinks it is a sheep.

Hello ladies.

NeedCoffee - You are doing brilliantly, keep up the good work, YOU CAN DO IT.

FT - sorry about your friend, funerals are hard aren't they, but it sounds like a really nice send off. Also sorry you are having a hard time with Alex, it WILL get better, keep telling yourself that.

Inzi - Hope you are feeling better soon.

Muppet - Also sorry you are having a hard time with Ollie, I have no idea how to help either and I hope I don't get in the same position with Sam. Just a thought has this only just started happening since he started school, or did it start when Henry was born? If it is just since school it does sound as if he is bored and needs more guidance, and if they are being namby pamby around him that is why he has no respect.

LES - That sounds so cute with Zachary I can just picture it now

Nothing much happening here, I have a stinking cold again (only 3 weeks since the last one finished ) Ben has another two new teeth, the bottom ones either side of the middle two which now makes 4 top, 4 bottom and 4 molars and he has woken up at 5am the last two mornings [yawn]

Inzi hope Jane settled ok for you in the end...

Stefka loving the image of Dareh saying Baa to clouds!!! Adam also does the blowing thing to food as I blow on it to cool it down. Doesn't seem to matter if its hot or not - he blows anyway!

Needcoffee YOU CAN DO IT! think you are doing great.

We have been to a new toddler group this am. It was really really busy but the boys had a good time. Adam got a bit grizzly towards the end so we left a little early but we'll definately go back. I'm now just having a few minutes on here while I have my lunch as there are loads of things I really need to do. Just can't be arsed though - might leave them till tonight instead....

A slightly better night...he zonked on his bean bag chair at 7pm before I could run his bath, slept 'till 9.30 woke for long enough for me to get his pjs on him and then went off again easily until 12.30...I then had 4 hrs of; comfort bf/fall asleep/put him in cot/get myself into bed/him waking screaming "Mummy", before I decided to try a pillow (not over his face .. honest)and hey presto he slept until 7am ... tonight we will find out if it was a coincidence

Muppet; you are a fabulous mum.I think you are handling Ollies precocious behaviour brilliantly...any stronger punishment for a child his age would be overly harsh...and so many parents I know would have resorted to slapping. That you are backing up the school is also a testament to you as a parent, so many parents seem to think that their responsibility ends at the school gates ... the fact that Ollie just said "oh" sadly when you refused him his star wars game seems to me to indicate both his intelligence and your constancy as a parent..he knew he was being punished, and why and must have accepted the validity of the punishment and that you would not be swayed because he didnt argue or whine.
In my case(yes, I was a precocious little madam )Mum used a version of what is now called the naughty step or time out...she put a hard chair in front of the clock and I had to sit for 5 mins, arms folded, no noise, sighs, fidgets or complaints or 1 more minute added ...but I understand your reasons for disliking the practise ...all I know is it worked for my mum because it stopped her wanting to leather me...

bother got to go teach...

Never thought of trying a pillow!

Dareh won't nap today. He's forgiven however becaue he gave me my first proper cuddle today!

Ben has had a pillow since 11 months, 9 times out of 10 it keeps him in the right position

Inzi - You are going through it at the moment, I hope things start going better soon. I know you are disappointed about not geeing your grandfather but it is for the best, you wouldn't want to make him worse would you? xxx

Hey Inzi,

sorry about the bug - I think your DH should have let you stay in bed to be honest. Does he get sick pay? If so then it makes sense that he would have a day off to let you recover.

Religion-wise - LLL, Inzi, I am really moved by your experiences. I was brought up CofE and had quite a lot of exposure to the church as I sang in various church choirs. My parents still go regularly - my mum in fact is a churchwarden. I've kind of grown more agnostic though - sometimes I just can't rationalise faith and I think it's more comforting to believe than not to. But I can't quite shake the belief that there must be something out there. I do separate faith from organised religion though - I've had enough of church politics to last a lifetime and dh and I had a civil wedding (he feels the same) - much to my mum's horror. We've not had Anya christened either - I just don't see the point - though if she wants to choose that when she's older then that's fine, I have no problem with that.

FT - big hugs to you - so sorry for the loss of your friend.

Inzi - big hugs to you too - you are being so strong through all this - stronger than you know.

NeedCoffee - well done for giving up smoking. Hope you find the willpower to keep going - I know it's hard.

Our heating went off again yesterday but we've come to the conclusion that the system is just full of years' worth of crud and it will take several flushes to sort it out once and for all - probably the rest of this winter at least. DH knows how to do it himself now which is good and we've got electric heaters if we need them so we're not freezing to death ().

Anya can now climb the stairs - little monkey - luckily she only gets to the third one and then wails if we've forgotten to put the stair gate across. She's spent loads of time this week at my parents while I work - that's been a godsend and she always comes home exhausted, which is wonderful for her sleeping at night.

Hugs to all.

can anyone lend me £2000 for a few weeks?

I am totally screwed,

What's happened LES?

Mine
Basically if we cannot find £2000 we are going to be homeless....have spent the evening looking for a loan shark thats how bad it is!

OMG LES thats terrible.
I don;t know the in's and out's of your situation, but a loan shark is just dangerous ground...... have you tried talking to your bank, citizens advice bureau, and indep. financial advisor....?? Or even your council's housing dept...??

I wish i had the money to give ..... or more that we could do for you.

Mine,
Basically what has happened is because DP was made redundant we had to go on benefits and therefore our previous landlord refused to renew the tenancy so we had to move in August to the place we are in now. But the HB only pay £880 a month rent out of £1200. So we have been struggling anyway they had made a mistake and before xmas they suspended my housing benefit claim. Which meant the rent was not paid in full in January so we owe £600 from then. Now we need to pay this months in a couple of weeks and we just don't have it. We have tried everywhere for a loan BUT because DP has only just returned to work they are reluctant to help. And at the moment he is on a training wage which he brings home £185 a week. It costs him £30 in petrol every week to go to work, costs me £21.50 to take karl to and from school thats without food etc.
The landlord has said we have 10 days (6 now) to pay up in full or we need to be out on the 17th Feb. We have contacted the council but we are not priority housing as neither of us are i)on benefits ii) a single parent iii) an immigrant. So basically we are stuffed.

All our plans have gone out the window. We have absoloutly no way of paying him and tbh I am walking to school today (almost an hour away) as I don't even have the money to top my oyster card up, I have got to try and borrow some money as I made plans to go and see J20 this weekend but we don't have the petrol money I am so so down and depressed and feel like total crap, i have hardly slept last night as I spent most of it crying.

Basically a loan shark is our only option.

Oh no LES that is awful. Really wish I was in a position to help financially but we have no access to any cash at all right now. Please don't go down the loan shark route - that really sounds scary.

Inzi We have spoken to him but he is not willing to listen, I think part of it is the fact we won't pay the extra rent he wants He wants to put it up to £1400.

tles, can you go the cab and see if they can advise anything? I can't add any more than that as that's what dh and I did when he had his money worries. They might be able to suggest something...

Muppet I am going to phone them on Monday for advice. Because in reality we don't want to move the children again.....But if thats what it come to.....