October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Hiya

Oh meant to say, we went swimming at Doncaster Dome yesterday, it was great, Shannon went on one of the slides with us and loved it

NC Grant has a long weekend off of work in a couple of weeks......we thought we could get up to you if you are free....will let you know exact dates.

LLL - glad Ben is better, does sound as though he was just hungry. Hope you manage to get your body clock back to normal soon.

NC - glad you had a good night on Saturday and glad Shannon is none the worse for falling out of bed. Hope you coped ok today with your headache.

Having a chilled out weekend - lots of chocolate, wine, and pizza tonight. Only blot is that I have just checked my bank account and my salary didn't go in on Friday . Weather has been lovely so have done lots of chasing Anya round the park - can't believe she can already run so long without getting tired. She only pauses long enough to glare at anybody coming in the other direction - she's gone from being such a sociable baby to staring in a Damien-like way at strangers.

Sounds like a great night WW&JC - pizza, wine and chocolate are my faves!

I really meant to catch up with the posts this weekend but I have not had anytime. Can't keep up with the work I need to do. I made sure I took Sat afternoon off though to be with Dareh. Took him to soft play - he had a great time. I was exhausted though! It's hard work in those things.

I hope everyone is well and I will try to catch up properly soon.

LES-sounds good, Rich said do you fancy meeting here and then coming back to ours after that?
How was Liverpool?

WWAJC-sounds like a lovely weekend bett your not impressed with no salary-hope it goes in very soon.

Stefka-bless, sounds like you're busy busy!

I'm off to bed soon, still got headache.

Hi Ladies,

You know I have to say again without you lot i think i would fall apart at times. Sorry i am a bit emotional today..

Yesterday Karl saw his father for the first time in over 3 years. The arrangments were we would drop him off at the local bowling alley at 1.30 and collect him at 3pm...so we arrived at 1.15 and fucking ben turns up at 2.15 with his g'f and her 10 year old son in tow. I told ben i would have to collect karl at the agreed time of 3 as he had homework to do. So off we come back home. When we go back to get Karly he is outside bowling alley with Ben and as soon as he see;s the car he walked away from Ben and got in the car saying "I don't ever want to see him again"

Ben comes to the car window and says
"Think about what you want and let me know in the week, call me and tell me"

Then looks at me with loving caring eyes and in a real soft voice said
"Take care Vaunda, and I will see you soon, have a lovely week"

Off we went home, as Grant started driving Karly said "That kid has a throat that looks like a bull frog" (i did have a chuckle at that)
So i asked what he had done had he had fun etc
he replied "No Mummy, I hated it, and I never want to see him again, he is nothing to do with me, my daddy is taking me home now (cue tears in my eyes and Grants)
And mummy I asked him if he would pay for my school trip but he told me he didn't have money like that to spend on my trip, oh and they are getting married and having a child together, oh well mum another one he will walk away from eh?

SO I sat there saying yes no and i don't know in the appropriate places lol.

Then he looked at Grant and said "Dad I asked him if he would give permission for you to adopt me, I am your son not his"

So i looked back at him and asked how that had cropped up, he said "Mum I know i should have told you but that was why I wanted to see him, I needed to see for myself what he was really like, he made me feel uncomfortable, trying to hold my hand and making me sit on his knee, he tried to play the loving father but it didn't work, Mum you are my family and so I just told him I had wanted to see him to ask him one question and then asked him if he would give permission for daddy to adopt me"

I was so taken aback! and poor Karly was so emotional.....anyway ladies I need some suggestions what can I buy him? I wanna get him a little something but at the moment I am totally stcuk indoors what with my back and now a tummy bug........any ideas?

Hi all

LL- soooo glad Ben is back on form, wishing you long and happy sleeps!

Tles - I think Karl is being fab as he's wanting to move on from the past and is reconcilled as to what didn't happen (relationship with his biological dad) and is happy to embrace the dad he has. I wouldn't buy him anything as he seems to not need it, just know that you and Grant will be there when he needs you but I think he knows that already...I would feel very proud and lucky that he seems very accepting of the situation.

WWAJC - fab at Anya running (I am still about all your lo's walking and running as Henry still isn't and I really wish he was... The snow pictures are lovely or your lo's all playing -Henry had to be in bed when we went out as he can't walk and would have wanted carrying or just sat and got wet. My Goddaughter (3 days younger than Henry) is now looking so grown up and also running around. I am sick of old ladies cooing and then having that 'oh, you should get hime checked out...' look on their faces when I tell them that no, he isn't walking and not crawling either. I then say 'but he is bum shuffling' in a slightly too high pitched depserate my-son-is-normal-you-know type of way. I know he's fine but it is starting to get difficult carrying him everywhere too. He is the size of a 2 year old (and good God the weight of one also)

He is fine, I do know, I'm just finding it a bit hard at the mo! He has the most amazing finger skills -undid his car seat restraint yesterday but does not want to move his feet at all but is pulling himself up on things so I know there is progress.

He eats well, sleeps well so I shouldn't really moan....

We went to Longleat Safari park yesterday which was great. (Sat did Ollie shoe shopping instead )
Saw lions/tigers etc and Ollie was so excited Henry loved the sea lions and was quacking quite angrily at the ducks for some time! Had tea and cake then home. Henry likes to shout/screech in the car at the mo so it was a relief that he slept all the way home
Ollie can't wait to go back!

love to all
xxx

Wow TLES - that sounds really intense. I don't what you could get him - something meaningful that he could keep that is to do with families? Or something like a diary or a photo album?

Henry will get there in his own time. Dareh doesn't walk much. Just a few steps here and there. He is still a crawler at heart though. I wish there wasn't so much pressure on mums to have their babies move on to the next stage. I think there is no rush.

Anyway must go and do some work!

I know Stefka, it's me with the anxiety -Henry's happy as larry! He's going to be the other end of normal as opposed to early or normal (If that makes any sense at all!!)

LES - agree with Muppet, I'm not sure Karl needs something buying for him - enough that he knows that he has a real family with you and Grant.

Muppet - Henry will get there soon enough in his own good time. Ignore daft old ladies.

Salary arrived today - phew! Had a lovely afternoon with dh and Anya in Bents (local garden centre). Let Anya loose walking round - it took 10 minutes to get her past the easter bunny display at the entrance - she kept pointing at it exclaiming "wumf!" (her general exclamation noise). Once inside she found a pair of large yellow Lindt bunnies by another display, picked one up and walked off cuddling it. When dh told her she had to put it back with its friend, she walked back, picked up the other one and wandered away one bunny dangling from either hand. Luckily they were too large for her to get very far so she abandoned that idea.

Hi everyone,

Les - That must have been an emotional experience for all involved. It's good that Karl knows what he wants at such a young age, he sounds very wise. I agree he doesn't necessarily need something bought, maybe a family day out together would be nice?

Muppet - I understand your anxiety about Henry but try to listen to the logical side of you that knows he's completely fine. I have had so many comments from people about Dylan' size that I stopped going to baby groups and have only just started going again recently. Even though I know he's fine it's hard not to let people get to you. From what you say he sounds like a perfectly normal little boy of his age, it wouldn't do for us all to be the same. Oh and I can't believe he can undo his car seat

WWAJC - I love the image of Anya wandering off with a bunny in each hand , bet you had a lovely time

Stefka - Sorry you've been so busy at work, hope it gets a bit less hectic soon. Dylan was a major crawler too, he is now slowly but surely crawling less and walking more as he realises he can walk faster. As you say, they all get there in their own time. You only have to look at our little group to see how different they can be!

Dylan is a lot better now . His rash has faded and he's back to his happy old self, eating well (as well as he does) too.

Got to take him to see the dietician tomorrow for his check up. I hope she doesn't try to change his milk again cause i'll be puttin my foot down if she does. The last stuff she put him on made him sick and totally killed his appetite. We have a happy balance now of the old high cal mixed with the new high cal and I want to keep it that way!

Well, of to bed for yet more baby making soon , hope I get pg soon, it's getting rather exhausting!

Hi to everyone I haven't mentioned, hope you're all doing ok

Hi all

Thanks Dal/WWAJC I know I'm being a bit silly and the important thing is he's a happy and healthy little boy who doesn't have a reason not to be walking so it's purely a developmental thing. He hasn't done the seatbelt catch again but I have been putting him in the seat and distracting him with a toy so he doesn't notice me do it up. He wanted to use his own fork for dinner yesterday so I let him and he was so happy trying to stab the bits of sausage! At one point he picked a piece up with his fingers and then put it on the end of the fork so he could use it. Ollie gave him a 'round of a claus' () whenever he got the fork in his mouth so Henry thought he was being marvelous. Ollie has been practising using his knife so Henry clapped (prompting from me!) when Ollie cut his own carrots and potatoes. I knew Henry had had enough when he threw the fork at Ollie so I am going to have to get some less 'weapon-like' cutlery...(I have visions of Ollie impaled on the kitchen door with Henry clapping himself )

Dh's work has gone mad and he's working late at night (at home) we had a phonecall at 1am Monday morning due to a problem and he's having to work late for the next few nights as they had to sack the man that was supposed to taking some of dh's work load as he hasn't done what dh needed him to do so dh has to do it anyway. Yes he can claim extra money but he's knackered... (not meaning to complain I know it's tough at the mo and we're grateful he still has a job especially as he's in Risk Management -nothing has been his fault!!!!!)

Very grey here and we're waiting for rain, Henry's asleep after 'colouring in' with mummy. He had a fab time yesterday with a long cardboard tube and a few cars. Lots of 'oooo' and pointing with shuffling after to get them.

xxxx

Inzi i hope you and your DH get through the week ok. You have each other to lean on.

Do you do anything to mark Angel's life at all....??

Inzi-you have got us here to talk to about it how about you taking Jane to release a balloon one day, maybe just the 2 of you, or with dh-not sure what you would prefer ,hope dh gets the job. All the lo's are at a great cute age now aren't they-we where watching seagulls the other day and Shannon was shouting 'birds, birds' getting very excited, a bit further up she saw a white polystyrene chip cone-pointed at it, saying 'bird' Whats this diet you speak of? how much? cheater!!

Muppet-pmsl at Ollie being impaled by Henry Hope your dh gets very well rewarded for his efforts, and you too for being supportive Ahh Henry is our laid back guy of the group, i bet he's going to be one of them easy going laid back people that we all wish we could be, and will just breeze through life

Dal-you go girl, you may as well stick to what is working. I don't envy you ttc! well maybe a little but as i am knackard from Shannon screaming for hours in the middle of the night atm i can't imagine going through the pg and newborn stage again! Glad Dylan is better

wwajc- at Anya making off with the bunnies, Shannon puts peoples stuff in my bag that she takes a liking too one of these days i'm going to be in trouble because of her, little madam. Glad you got paid

LES-I also think a nice family day out would be the best treat by far for Karl, I bet you're really proud

well, news from here, i think Shannon may have chicken pox, the nursery have had 7 cases reported so far since last week and when i picked her up they said she's got a big spot on her bottom and she also had one on her back when i bathed her, it may explain the way shes been lately too.

hi to everyone else-Shannon was up at 4am[sob, sob] so i'm going to try and get an early night!

Dal - glad Dylan is back to his normal self. at you being exhausted.

Muppet - lol at Henry and Ollie clapping each other at mealtimes.

Inzi - glad you're feeling so positive about the diet. Fingers crossed you get enough people soon. Sorry you're having a hard time this week - big hugs to you for these next few days. I am sure people remember, they probably don't want to upset you by mentioning it. Is there a family member you can talk to about it - let them know how you feel?

Took Anya to one of the local groups today - first time for ages. She's out-grown it now really but there's not much around for young toddlers - most of the groups are either for babies up to walking age or for older toddlers who can sit and do crafts etc. I'm getting a bit concerned that she's not getting enough interaction with other kids her age - she's the only child in both our extended families, never mind just being an 'only' child. Will have to spend some time looking for something suitable to take her to.

NC - x-posted. Hope Shannon's better soon and that you get some sleep.

Inzi I am so sorry you have a difficult anni coming up and that you seem to be unsupported by those around you. Please lean on us and let us know if we can help at all.

NC I hope Shannon is ok and that you get some rest tonight. Dareh has a tooth coming through so I was up all last night too - when do we get to sleep again??

Good luck TTC Dal- I don't know how you have the energy.

Muppet that is so cute about the fork! Dareh likes to use his too but gets fed up and eats with his hands again. Then he throws his food on the floor, says gone and points to the kitchen and says 'cu' which means custard.

It's a shame there are no good toddler groups around in your area. What about a soft play place or something? Dareh had a ball at one this weekend.

I have to go to bed - another early start tomorrow.

Inzi; we are all here for you anytime..if you want to talk privately you know my addy...I'll always be there for you, you have helped me so much over the same situation in my life...and yes, even if they havent forgotten the date ,most people strangely seem to think that mentioning it will only make matters worse...when it is the forgetting/sweeping under the carpet that is worse. I just love NCs balloon idea!

Only a quickie from me as Alex has had 2 supremely bad nights ...cute as anything during the day, but screaming abdabs at night ....it is a stage, it will pass and hopefully I'll live long enough to laugh at him and say "what goes around comes around" to him when my grandchildren keep him sleep deprived for months...but Dh is away and I need sleep now[weeping with exhaustion emoticon] Night all....send sleepy vibes will you?

Hello everyone
Feeling exhausted like everyone else I think - mine is a combination of small person waking in the night for no apparent reason, and then being on call for work and getting a call from them just as i'd got back to sleep
Just wanted to say a few things:
TLES - second the idea of a family outing, and what a thoughtful boy your DS1 is
Muppet - Henry will probably just 'do' a load of things all at once, but agree its so difficult to deal with the 'helpful' comparisons
WWAJC - loving the bunnies story, and now thinking I might take DS on a garden centre trip - a cheap day out if he doesn't try and buy stuffed toys!
Dal - fingers crossed the dietician went ok
Inzi - thoughts are with you for Angel's anniversary
NC - hope you find out if it is chicken pox quickly
Stefka - hope you are settling in to the new job
Floria - sleep vibes coming your way

Hello to everyone else. I don't seem to have the chance to post v often at the moment, but I do log on to see how everyone is xxx

Hi all
xxx

Inzi I think it's important that you do remember, Angel is hugley what makes you you xx Love NC's idea and it's simple for you and dh to do.

I agree with Floria in that I think people do tend to not mention things for fear of upsetting but I can imagine that not mentioning Angel can make things worse and appear they don't care/remember.

We're always here xxxxx

We're getting 'OW' here quite loudly ( and a lot) also Henry cuddled Dexter and said 'de der' which was very cute. Still going great guns with his fork and he's loving it!
Ollie has a half day today so it's railway building this afternoon...

(that was from Ollie!)

Thinking of you Inzi, what a great idea from NC xxx