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January 09 - 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4......and we're off

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fourlittlestockingedfeet · 28/12/2008 12:44

Here's a brand new thread for the early party poppers!

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hkz · 08/02/2009 12:28

Right, too much to catch up on...

Spink- Glad Rosie is better, that must be a huge relief.

Elkie- Hope the breast feeding is going better

lennie- can empathise with you. The last two days have been full on. DD (21 months) has started regressing...wants to be carried everywhere and tantrums over nothing...I am finding it really hard not to lose my patience as DS is suddenly really windy and only got about 2 hours sleep on firday night...luckily he was better last night though. DD has been pretty good on the whole, just harder to deal with when I'm knackered!

For those of you thinking about dummies, they worked wonders with settling DD and by the time she was three months she didn't need it any more.

Dog at your lie in... hope you get some baby action..at least wednesday gives you a date to focus on and no more waiting!

Will try and catch up on this thread properly later...off to supermarket...how exciting!

heron22 · 08/02/2009 13:44

Hi Lenni, i just read your post and sounds to me that you have so much on your plate right now. not just a newborn to look after but lots of other things as well, eg doing the accounts. not to mention housework, cooking etc. and it is understandable that your DH is working extra hard right now.

given all that, i am not surprised that you are feeling fed up and not very happy.

is there anyone you can call on to help you? even just to give you a break for an hour or so each day? for you to have a nap and forget about baby for that hour?

i had bad postnatal depression after the birth of my first child. and it is delibitating (sp?).

givethedogAhomebirth · 08/02/2009 15:15

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LenniEd · 08/02/2009 16:56

Dog - hope this is it! Good luck!

Thanks everyone - feel better just for getting it all off my chest and realising that I am really run down now and need more rest.

Elkie - your experience sounds really traumatic. I admire your determination with the bf and hope you are getting all the support that you need.

fourlittlefeet · 08/02/2009 18:37

fingers crossed for you Dog... good luck!

largeginandtonic · 08/02/2009 18:44

Cograts to those i have missed

Go DOG GO! I have everything crossed for you. Stamp up and down the stairs

Northernlurker · 08/02/2009 18:53

Ladies support thread for Elkie here Keep it bumped

givethedogAhomebirth · 08/02/2009 19:16

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fourlittlefeet · 08/02/2009 19:38

dog.. there was that huge list by nappy addict on our antenatal thread....

I would say not to be too active though... if its kicking off it could be a while before you get to active labour and you don't want to be knackered by then!

givethedogAhomebirth · 08/02/2009 21:14

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LooseyC · 08/02/2009 21:30

Hi there - why won't it stop snowing?!

gtd - Sounds promising, good luck! Think positive and I would try and take it a bit easy if it was me if you think you are in it for the long haul. Let us know!

Lenni - Sounds like you have every right to be fed up, but if you have someone to help and talk to about it (though MN counts surely?!) sure would help and stop you from feeling any worse if you are worried about getting depressed.

Like hkz I'm having problems coping with 2 as well. DS1 wants all my attention - he is only 13m and in a very clingy phase anyway and confused about the change - I feel guilty too which makes it all harder. Everyone with 2 does tell me it gets easier which I'm sure is true but it's sometimes hard to see when you're tired!

Elkie - not sure if you are reading posts at the moment but well done so far and hope you are getting there.

Does Mel still post on here? I'm loving my double mountain buggy which she recommended. Gets lots of admiration from others, and was an ebay bargin to boot!

moosemama · 08/02/2009 22:46

Dog really hope this is it. Sending loads of labour vibes your way!

Tree where are you? We are missing you!

LenniEd sorry to hear you are feeling so low. I was feeling quite low myself this week and desperately trying not to let anyone know, but decided to take a deep breath and mention it to the HV on Friday. She was lovely, we had a good long chat and she said she could either visit regularly or I could call her if I felt I needed any extra support. It may well be worth speaking to your HV as they know the signs of PND and will be able to offer you appropriate guidance and support. Also, even though DH is working full time I asked him to be 'in charge' of DD for a night so I literally just did the feeds then passed her straight to him to wind and settle back into her crib. It really helped as I could just turn over and go straight back to sleep making the most of the time between feeds. Also, may seem like a daft question, but are you taking any supplements at the moment. I found I felt worse when I forgot to take mine - pregnacare do a breastfeeding supplement and a lot of the pregnancy supplements are designed to be continued during breastfeeding. Apparently its easy to get anaemic when breastfeeding as well and this can make you feel, weak, hopeless and tearful. Breastfeeding on top of everything else you've got on must be so draining and supplements might just help fortify you so to speak.

Also, I think I was feeling low as I had unrealistic expectations of how quickly I could get control of things and get life back to some approximation of normal. I sat in my living room looking around and feeling so ashamed that nowhere in the house was 'right'and I wasn't functioning at my 'normal' level. After speaking with the HV I realised that I'd had a hard pregnancy followed by a tough birth and it would take a while for me to be physically and mentally back to normal and only then would things start to click back into place. Try to be kind to yourself and not put yourself under too much pressure. I really had forgotten how hard the first few weeks with a newborn are, but now I've had time to mull it over I realise that its won't be forever and things will get easier.

My weekend was a total washout. No luck car hunting. DH just wouldn't believe that you can't fit 3 car seats in an large family hatchback and had me trying to get our seats in and out of various cars in the middle of a bloomin blizzard until he finally gave in and tried a Citroen Xsara Picasso and 'voila' they fitted straight away. Not being one to say 'told you so!' I immediately reminded that I told him so over and over and over again!

So we are finally agreed about the 3 different type of cars we are looking at (although DH is bitterly disappointed at having to get a boring family mpv type car), but don't have anyone to look after the boys for the next 7 weeks as Mum is having a knee replacement next Friday. (Tried taking them with us to look at cars on Saturday - they were bored, whingey and generally a really pita after less than an hour!)

Anyway, must go DD having her newly developed nightly screaming session and need to rescue DH. (Am booking her in at the Osteopaths asap!)

EachPeachPearMum · 09/02/2009 04:01

moose- on my other post-natal thread... we are all picasso ravers! there are 4 of us with them/about to switch!
Multiplas also have a big following on mn...

so much to catchup on-erk

DS doing well- m/w pleased with him- some weught loss but not too much.
My stitches are out so I'm feeling a lot more comfortable- I'm still very pale, but working on the iron thing.

DD has taken well to him- she is lovely with him, though less-so with me! All in all though she is adjusting well.
She did say to me 'mama, I want you all the time' but she is sharing her parents nicely atm

will try to read thread and catch up on you all.

So sorry to hear about elkiedee- hope things improve really soon.

givethedogAhomebirth · 09/02/2009 08:54

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fourlittlefeet · 09/02/2009 08:59

dog . don't suppoes you can arrange some acupuncture?

Tree - coooeee! Are you busy or something?

Lenni, hope you are feeling a bit better...

givethedogAhomebirth · 09/02/2009 09:02

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fourlittlefeet · 09/02/2009 09:05

there is also always the caulophylum (sp?).

fourlittlefeet · 09/02/2009 09:05

i think that produces a very fast labour.. would need tyg or lg&t to advise on that one - I was too scared to even think about it with a vbac and no proven previous labour.

givethedogAhomebirth · 09/02/2009 10:40

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fourlittlefeet · 09/02/2009 10:45

oooh how exciting!! keeps us posted! have you got your tens at the ready?

givethedogAhomebirth · 09/02/2009 10:49

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tinkisluvingbeingamummyagain · 09/02/2009 10:50

good luck dog