December 2006 - Terrible Two's here we come!

[Olihan]

Here we go. I thought the title was apt as ds2 has morhed into a stroppy little horror overnight. His favourite expression at the moment is 'I cwoss with you, I sceam at you AAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH' .

Happy Birthday ToddlerJabber and ToddlerEli .

DD is poorly again. I swear every bug in the vicinity has some kind of magnetic attraction to her . She has a bit of a temp, headache and earache today. I need to buy shares in Calpol and Medised I think.

Aoa, hotel is a very good idea - go for a posh one so you can have a vvvv hot, deep bath!

Castles and on your lovely, lovely dd2's behalf. And yours, for that matter, because you will feel it more than her atm, and I'm sure she feels totally loved by her family, because you are the ones that count for her. Very , and good for you for planning therapy - I would not have had the bottle/sanity to have my dds without years of it, its made such a difference (at least, to me!).

Hope you feel better soon too, nasty little bugs, one day we will get our Revenge.......

Afternoon folks

Jabber how are you and dh holding up? Be thinking of you both for tomorrow.

Eli hope you are feeling better

Happy birthday minicastle (and indeed minimag if you are about). Hope she had a lovely day despite lack of cards.

Anne how was the hotel? 2 more sleeps til hot water returns!

Lennied how are you doing?

I have been a misery guts and have remained in hiding. Ds spent the week waking up at night and screaming for an hour or so. The only thing that stopped him was tv but even then it took a good hour until he was happy to go back to sleep. The week just got worse until the last night before dh got back he slept for an hour, screamed for an hour through the night. I turned into a screaming banshee. Amazed that ds still wants to know me. I was crying, he was crying, I kept losing it and screaming in his face for him to stop. I just don't get it, even when he finally calmed down and curled up to sleep with me he still woke up and hour later and started screaming even though I was right there. Of course dh is back now and he slept all night and is now napping. Clearly feels he can catch up now that his daddy is home. Grr.

Am still wallowing in self pity though as dh got home around 2pm yesterday and watched rugby on tv, then after dinner put the highlights on while I put toys away, moved washing around radiators, washed up, sorted the dining room so there is room to give birth in it etc. Today he has sat around reading the paper. There was talk of him going to Newcastle with ds to Christmas shop (yay! thought I, a break!) but he didn't. There was talk of a walk into town and maybe lunch all 3 of us but it got later and later so I went to make a cake and got "oh so we are not going then if you are baking". Argh! Seem to have spent the day waiting for something to happen, not even been outside. He keeps telling me to go out but where? Am not walking into town on my own for a laugh (waddle, ouch! waddle some more, fuck me that hurts, waddle)and the only other place to walk to is Tesco. Fun. Not. Of course, one of his mates is up sailing this weekend so they are off out for curry tonight. Nice to see you too darling.

Grr. Men. Grr.

On the plus side he did put the cot together and everything is now ready for dc2 whenever it arrives.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Castle's DD and Magnolia's DS - hope you have had lovely days. And I'm sure your DD will have enjoyed herself no matter how many cards Castles - but I am for you, know how it feels.

Indith - I'm ok thanks, had a busy weekend with visitors who've turned the house I slaved away cleaning last week into a bomb site [grrrr] and have eaten practically everything I had in [double grrrr] but last visitors before baby so at least now I can get everything sorted out for the new baby.

Sorry that you are suffering, last few weeks are the worst aren't they, not long now though - in fact your baby could arrive any day now really so hopefully sooner rather than later. I'm 34 weeks now so only a few left and apart from the spd and tiredness feel relatively ok, but so unprepared and am sniping at DH a lot. Final grrrr he suggested I take my little pre-pg vest and shorts pj's in my hospital bag rather than get a pair for £12 in asda today, as if I can wander round in this inflated state in those could have murdered him right there in the aisle Am sure he can spare me £12 in exchange for all the pain I'm going to have to put up with!

Jabber - hope tomorrow is ok and you are able to say goodbye how you would like. Will be thinking of you.

Happy Birthday Castles Junior and Magnolia Junior.

Jabber - hope the funeral helps in some way.

Indith and Lennied - Last trimester of pregnancy is always the pits. It will be over soon.

Had nice evening in premier inn last night. Now back in cold house

Happy Birthday MiniCastles and MiniMagnolia .

Indith, I feel for you - I had lots of nights like that with ds2 when dh was working away . Broken nights are so bloody hard anyway and you have the added pressure of being very heavily pg. I also found dh kind of 'forgot' he wasn't a single man who could do what he liked at the weekends when he was back at home. I used to just lose the plot at him and point out that he could do whatever the he well liked during week but when he was at home he could well be part of the family and pull his weight. Usually at a pitch only heard by dogs and accompanied by copius amounts of snot and tears but it did the trick for a few weeks. Wish I was nearer to come and give you a big ((hug)).

It's Ds2's turn for the lurgy this week it seems. He's been very sleepy all day, off his food, wanting to cuddle constantly, etc. But the biggest clue was that he didn;t get up until 9am . That's unheard of - 6:30 is a lie in to him!

Happy birthday Castles' dd and Mag's ds

Can you believe they are TWO?

Indith, horrid horrid last weeks...its so different from the first time around, at least it was for me. Less sleep, less time, less attention from partners = much harder. Give yourself a big hug from us lot and some serious chocolate, or whatever takes your fancy.

Lurgies here too - had fever, got cough; dd1 in my bed with 39 degrees all night, got cough; dd2 ominously pale but full of beans so far

Oli, hope all better soon - lie ins are lovely, but not when you have to pay the price I suppose!

Have given up getting ENT appointment soon for dd2, and decided, with gritted teeth, to go privately in order to get her seen before January. Her sleep apnoea is dreadful, even with raised cot and humidifier nightly, and thats when she's NOT ill, and medised-ing her to sleep is not ok forever...

Am posting this mostly to get msyelf out of denial, because I've sort of got so used to it, and she's so ok during the day, that I somehow forget there's a problem...there is, though. Urrrgh.

Aw, sorry Eli Hope you get to the bottom of it. I know someone who's LO had a little op for sleep apnoea recently. Might this be an option? All I can say, is get on with it! I delayed getting DS to a specialist for a couple of years (for the same reasons as you I think) only to discover it was wasted worrying on my part

Indith, hope you are feeling better. 2nd/3rd time round is definitely not the same. Noone cares anymore ... or so it seems

I have a 6, 4 and 2 year old and am feeling very symmetrical

Eurgh lurgies, speedy recovery for all.

Thanks for the kind words. Ds slept all night again last night so perhaps he was missing his daddy more than I realised. He had a huge nap this afternoon too and I had a good kip So good we slept through this afternoon's playdate Anyway I feel rather better having had sleep.

Birth pools make great playpens Ds is loving hanging out in mine and racing his cars around the edge.

Eli I hope you get an appointment soon.

Happy birthday to Baby Castles and Baby Magnolia - except they're not babies anymore!

Indith, sounds like a wretched week. I think oli's suggestion is v good. Let the 3rd trimester hormones fly and give him a good dose It's time to put your feet up.

Thanks for all of the kind thoughts. I am almost obsessively brooding over Nick and Ann's deaths. Dh is still balking at going to the funeral but I think will ultimately accompany me.

Yep, definitely feet up time for you Indith - if the pools out then you should be resting.

Hope DH makes it to the funeral with you Jabber, and talk to us more if it helps.

Eli - private sounds like a good plan.

Sorry to rush in and out. Catch up properly later

Jabber . When is the funeral? I think a measure of brooding is inevitable, don't give yourself a hard time. How are you feeling underneath the obsessing bit? Do talk, if it helps...xx

We got an appointment next week for dd2 - could have been this week, but odds are good she will come down with my/dd1's bug so didn't take it. What a difference, this week v. mid January . Shame, though.

Think dd1's lurgy is on the turn towards better (temp bit lower tonight), and mine is just snotty coughy cold now, so thankfully a quickie, in viral terms. How's your LO, Oli?

Indith, wow, birthing pool, yes, can picture both my dds loving that as a play place. Also, makes sense your ds was missing Daddy...and I honestly feel dd1 started to feel a bit insecure/edgy towards the end of my pg with dd2. I think she sensed either a change coming, or Mummy being a bit preoccupied, or both! Glad you both got some kip...

...and am off to attempt some myself

Hello Girls

Thought I would pop in to say hi x

Ben was 2 yesterday and we had a fab time at Woburn safari park.

Happy birthday to jabberwocky junior,
Lucy5 junior, Calmriver junior and Elibean junior

Life with 5 kids is hectic and time consuming but my choice lol

Will pop in and catch up properly in the next couple days x

Me too Eli

Oli - thank you for the tractor cake instructions, wonderful thank you. And it was lovely to get some post. Hope DS is feeling better. All these bugs - I should be more grateful that all we've had is colds so far , although I've finally finished my ABs for chest infection and can't seem to get my energy back - think I need some serious yoghurt consumption to get on track.

DD also sleeps worse when DH away - with her it is the change in routine. DH always there to say goodnight to her. She often wakes asking for him if he hasn't been there at bedtime She is definitely a routine junkie when it comes to bedtime.

DH's birthday today - DD very excited about his cake which we made together yesterday. I'm loving being a Mum right now, despite the tantrums, is lovely being able to do things together. She has painted me a picture of a dog today [proud mummy emoticon] it is a brown splodge, but she insisted it was a "pic-pic dog" so I believe her

magnolia, how nice to hear from you

LenniEd, so was the tractor cake for your dh? Sounds like it was a fun day in any event.

eli, glad you have gotten an appt. Here's hoping it will give you a better winter this year.

Well, dh did not make it to the funeral. He just couldn't bear it It was a lovely service with a dvd at the end of Nick and Ann and their children. I'm very glad that I went but felt totally wrung out at the end iykwim. Had a drink with a v good friend afterwards which helped. I have no idea how many people the church can hold - maybe 500? - but it was filled to overflowing.

Hi Magnolia

Jabber - sounds very difficult

Fingers crossed my heating will be fixed today.

Aww, jabber, how sad that dh couldn't bring himself to make it, hard to say goodbye.But also how lovely that so many people cared about them to fill the church. How are their daughters?
Hullo again Magnolia you haven't been back in ages!
Happy birthday to all the toddlers as they are now!DS2 on Saturday and my god he's really reached the terrible two's lately, where did my angel go??He is still v.sweet at times but the constant whining gets me down.Must try to remember the nice bits though, when he kisses the dt's fingers and gets them a blanket each if they haven't got one.
DT's having a nap so I really mustn't waste it on the computer but it's so tempting...

fingers crossed for you, Anne. Brrrrr you must be soooo chilly.

Fingers crossed here too AoA

Snowed in - and still snowing arrrghhh! Hope baby doesn't make an early bit for freedom!

Jabber, sounds tough but touching iyswim - a shame your DH couldn't bring himself to go, hope he finds his own way to say goodbye

Tractor is for DD (little red tractor fan) - we made a cheesecake for DH! He isn't a regular cake fan but the cheesecake I made was massive and I don't like it. Should have halved the recipe but never thought until the end. Oh well, we might be needing it if this snow doesn't stop I have hardly got anything in - typical eh!

bid even.

Jabber I'm glad it was full of friends though, that must have felt supportive in its own way. Also wondering about the children, how are they doing?

LenniEd, snow (I think, though not, admittedly, at 8 mos pg) its just cold and wet here. Your post about dd and the pic pic dog made me smile, remembering last few weeks with dd1 before dd2 came along...very precious, enjoy!

Hello Magnolia good to see you! And impressed you found time to visit with 5

dd1 still had 40 degrees this morning, but much better in the evenings, weirdly. Defo off school most of this week, apparently this and a D&V bug are doing the rounds. I think I'll stick with fever and cough then.

dd2 is pale and grumpy, and had the worst sleep apnoea ever during her nap (every other day only now!) this afternoon. To the point where I was stressed enough to wake her up and dh moved her ENT apt. forwards to tomorrow I'm so so so fed up with worrying every night - at least, nearly every night, and especially in winter.

oh, eli I'm glad you got the appt moved up.

And it was nice having so many people around at the church. I have felt a bit better i.e. not obsessing quite as much today. I also found out that the girls' godparents are a couple here in town who moved into the house the same night as the accident. They are a childless couple, very involved in the community, so a good choice I'm sure.

Good luck today Eli. Thinking of you. And Jabber.

Fainted yesterday and have bust my hand the in fall So am back to one handed typing again

Time to get back on spatone, castles?

Am already taking it. Not sure what else to do really How are you Jabber?