Jan '07 part 29: ...Or should that be Due 2009? Who will be next? Shimmer/Trixy/Lizz...

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Eah - so sorry to hear about nanny A !!!

I seem to be crap atm at keeping up with this thread im just always busy either cleaning, running up and down to school or work . Is everyone ready for christmas ? My two are so excited and aidan is getting excited about big school and sobbing my baby is getting so big. I have a exciting night ahead, dh gran always gets tickets for this choir preformance she thinks I really enjoy it and I just dont have the heart to say im not bothered so im off tonight for my mince pie glass of mulled wine and lots off carols.

Thanks everyone funeral is next friday (19th) work were a bit uppity about me having a day off but mil said it was that date or xmas eve and nobode wanted it on xmas eve!

On a lovely note after a manic morning (and months of organising) the preschool bazzar went really well (even though we had about 8 children off sick they all behaved impecably in church) and we raised £508.90 (and have persuaded the parish council to donate a further £50 so £558.90 in total) so I have been walking around like this all afternoon!

Had a disaster with the real xmas tree as Hattie pulled it on herself so thats now in garden (with outside lights on) and I have picked all the pine needles out of her hair and we are decorating the fibre optic tree

I am wondering what to do about Xmas tree this year, we don't really have anywhere out of the way to put it, and Z is a little shit climber and I just know he'd try and climb up it!

What's everyone else doing?

I've got my SS present - have had it for ages, so i think my SS must be very organised!! Are we waiting till everyone has theirs until we open them?

oh my goodness! tinsle tumbleweed!
Where IS everyone?
Are you all sat at home opening your SS presents without me?

Whats going on????????

Hiya all. I got my SS pressie today - looks very exciting!!! I have now bought mine and wrapped it and everything and will post it tomorrow. Sorry for missing the deadline eah

Had a bit of a mini breakdown this evening, which I think was mainly due to me being completly exhausted, but I've been feeling so fustrated and stressed recently and then I kind of blew up a bit because F was making a bit of a fuss about eating his tea and my mum swanned in and offered to make him beans on toast straight away - which is his favourite, he asks for it for EVERY meal at the moment, and I usually say no and try and make him eat something else. Bascially, what it comes down to is that my mum is constantly nagging me that I'm always working and not spending enough time with F and she can't cope looking after him as much as she does, BUT also the shop is SOOOO busy and we still have an awful lot to sort out and do, and I do love being there and really want to do it, but am struggling because I just don't have enough time to do it properly. Did that all make sense? Really I need to devote 100% of my time and efforts to Freddie AND to the shop and this kind of 50/50 thing is not really working well for either side and is kind of killing me. I don't know what to do really. I know women have this issue all the time and there has to be some kind of spilt worked out between work and home, but i'm just not getting it right at the moment at all. My mum is completely exhausting as well and also expects to be looked after a lot of the time. Although she has helped us a lot I can't wait until we dont have to relie on her anymore and F is just in nursery. Though this may be some months yet

So that's me...........

So sorry to hear your sad news eah. I hope E. isn't taking it too badly. RGee's advise sounded very sensible to me.

Oh Shimmer, you poor thing. It must be totally hard work setting up a new business, house & bringing F up with no nursery. Plus having a demanding mother would be enough to drive anyone to dispair altogether.
Fingers crossed that a place becomes available at nursery soon. You never know when people move on etc and a place may become available sooner than they estimated.

Hope it gets better soon. And look on the bright side, at least the shop is busy!

If you need a day away from it all I'd love to show you round Eastie and the boys can run wild on the beach xxx

Shimmer - what is your dp doing in all this? Is he helping you in the shop and with F? You shouldn't have to be the one juggling all your time, he should be splitting time too IMO.

It annoys me that I'm the one who has to run around after Z and work as well. Dh's job is very stressful but I find I'm basically doing 2 jobs!

Shimmer - you poor thing, typical mother guilt trips though - spending time with LO or working. Is DH helping out too? it must be hard on your mum too (sorry) to be looking after F full time so maybe she needs a break also? Could DH's parents not help out? Sorry - that was not a criticism just an observation.

Although it is important to get your business up and running you also need to allow some 'me' time. Do you have a friend nearby who could take F for a couple of hours so you can be in the house on your own, relax, have a nice bath etc? It would give your mum a break too. Dh could be in the shop? Sorry - just trying to think of ideas.

It is not going to do F any harm for a few months to have his parents setting up a new business etc so your mum should lay off you there I think.

EAH - so sorry to hear your news. I hope everyone is OK in your family.

UD - are you enjoying the house?

Not much to report, still hate my job so nothing new there

Eating beans every meal wont do him any harm either (I hope ...as thats what DS2 eats atm)

Well I'm well and truly into the festive spirit at the moment. We've had carol services, concerts, nativities the lot. Thats the trouble with them going to seperate schools ... there's double the events !

All my presents are wrapped and either under the tree or off with Santa for delivery on christmas eve.

What has been driving me mad is that I keep forgetting to buy 'birthday' wrapping paper and after a full morning we ended up having to go into Matalan (all poshed up because it was DS1s carol service this morning )whereDS2 promptly went into hissy fit mode and was a nightmare in the queue AAAAAAAAAGGGGGGHHHHHH !

Sounds awful that ... I'm sure there are very nice Matalans around, its just that you kind of stand out for looking posh in this one if you've brushed your hair that day !

Well, Will has decided to potty train himself a couple of weeks ago. Can't won't speak but only wants to wear pants

Nightmare.

So a diet of baked beans is just perfect !

I just want him to wear nappies for a bit longer its just sooo much more convenient.

Like remember when they only need milk and they sleep loads and they cant move about and get into trouble, and you can do things ?

I want that again ........

Sorry to read your news EaH.

SHIMMER- Until recently, a mate of mine had her 2 DD's in The Clocktower Nursery, at Sussex Downs College, as that was where her DH worked. BUT they have limited spaces available to people not at the college or staff. Have you tried it? tel: 01273 402299

Sussex Downs College, Mountfield Road, Lewes, BN7 2XH interesting

Kat - Hattie potty trained herself too but I have to admit if we are doing school run/going out somewhere I still put as pull up on as at home she'll tootle off and sort herself out but she seems to forget when we're out, I know I need to grin and bear it and just do it buts it easier to put the nappy on! She seems almost dry at night as her nappy barely feels damp in the morning, Ellie was dry in the day at 2.1 but took till this summer to be dry at night!

Lizz - that nursery link looks good, how are you feeling?

PCF - I bet you'r eneighbours are all checking on there stuff now hopefully that'll be the end of his accidents

Wilkie - chin up chuck few more months and you'll be on maternity leave

Shimmer - no real advice I'm afraid except I can only imagine how hard it is for you at the moment, is your Mum living with you as well

Laughalot - are you having a nice day at work? (bet you're having a sneaky read)

Not sure what to do about SS presents do you want to wait to xmas day to open them as lots still to be posted????

I woke up at 3.30am because Hattie was muttering away in her room, went in there and she was asleep but fidgeting and muttering I then could not get back to sleep so ended up coming downstairs at 4.30 and putting tv on (what a load of tripe is on the tv at that time in the morning!)

Freak, fucking freak

Hi folks. Long time no speak - soooo busy. Combination of dh working late / xmas dos / off colour dd / visitors etc. All go. Had a great time last weekend with Wilkie and Vino and all the kids. It is amazing to see them all play on their own together

Sorry about your news Eah. Hope all the family are ok.

Kat let me know when you want to borrow a teeny tiny baby...I'll be straight up north

Shimmer ahhh the maternal guilt syndrome. I identify very well with that. No solutions though I'm sorry to say, except you need to make sure in all this that you look after yourself so you are more likely to handle what is being thrown at you.

Oh, and my SS present has been sat on my windowledge for ages. I sooo need to get to the post office.....

Hello there Rgee, is it still snowy up with you? x

Yikes Wilkie just been looking at that circ. thread. I really don't understand it either. I just kept thinking WHY, if it's not religious or medicial WHY WHY WHY!?!?!?!

Thanks for your advice everyone. My mum went back to London this afternoon (she has been mainly spending weekends there and weekdays here) and I had a text (text!!)this evening to say she's not coming back next week. She said she's obviously stressing me out being here and thinks it would be better if she stayed away til Christmas. It doesn't sound bad I know , but it has really upset me. We've always been very close and i feel like she can't stand being with us any more. I heard her on the phone a week ago complaining to my brother how hard she found it here and she couldn't cope anymore and also about how I was difficult and completely ungrateful. I just can't forget it. I really have tried making things easier for her and although have been working alot i've had lots of time off during the day and we've had lunch and been shopping and she's had friends to visit and I've taken F out to try and give her time to rest.

On a more practical note she was supposed to be helping us move (we have to move out of our rental place for a week over Xmas...long story)She has my brother's car which we were going to use to move everything back to the new place or London. So now we don't have it and we're going to have to rent something I guess... but we're VERY poor at the moment. And just me (orDH, while the other one is at the shop) moving everything with F around is not going to be fun.

Wow another huge whiny post by me....

It's good though. I totally forgive you if you havn't bothered to read all the way through, but it's good therapy for me

Got a couple of friends and their LOs coming to visit tomorrow, which I'm really looking forward to

Maybe we could do SS pressie on Xmas eve morning?

Ok, gotta go and do a bit work work before bed.

Awww...Shimmer. Shounds like you're having a tough time at the minute and your mum is stressed too. You must be knackered working past 10pm btw. Glad the business is going well - I totally understand you really need to put the effort in at this stage. F will be fine - you're his mum and he loves you.

Lizz still loads of snow in our back garden. It's gone everywhere else, but bizarrely not in our (south facing) garden.

I've been soooo grumpy today which believe it or not is really unlike me.

Oh Shimmer what a nightmare for you all! I think your mum has been quite unreasonable for dropping you in it like that, to be honest, especially the moving part. We moved over Xmas last year and it was a total nightmare. Can your brother not help?

I know we're not hugely close but if there's anything I can do to help let me know - even if it's taking a load of stuff down in the boot of my car or having F for an afternoon or whatever (I work Mon, Tues and Fri). We've got a Renault Scenic so I can fit quite a lot of stuff in!!

Genuine offer btw, just let me know.

That circumcision thread was odd - I was hoping it was a troll but apparently not! Weird!

Yeah wierd thread re circumcision Wilkie. Trust you to be reading it though!

Shimmer - hugs to you, sounds tough at the mo. Glad to hear the shop is doing ok though.

My ss present hasn't been sent yet either. Sorry everyone, been a bit crap lately. Am so tired and so many things to do.

Had a nice day today - my last before going back to work (gulp) - as DH injured knee last night so he stayed at home as couldn't drive. A friend came over for the aft and dinner which was nice.

E and S both been a bit under the weather this week. I have been sicked on 3 times, very unusual for vino babies.

evening

Shimmer - hopefully your Mum sent that text in haste and when she reflects she'll retract what she says, if I was closer I'd love to be able to help

UD - hows the house going, have you done any decorating yet

Vino - just emailed you poor E&S there seems to be so many things going around at the mo, Ellie has woken up last 2 morning s with her shole eat literaaly covered in huge lumps of sticky ear was I knew she said it was blocked and I got some drops but christ I have never seen so much stuff come out of one little persons ear, problem is I have to pin her down to clean it up (using the most minute piece of cotton wool as she hates buds)

Poor you Shimmer. Sounds really tough. Do I remember that she wasnt that keen on the idea originaly? Did you move away from being quite near her? Forgive me if I have that wrong, but if that is right, perhaps she is lashing out because she wishes you hadnt done it all.

Hope that you can talk to her about it all, have a good cry and sort it out. That is what me and mum do if we have a row, and always works!

Again, sorry I cant help either due to distance.

Oh and it doesnt matter if you work or not, there is always something to feel guilty about when you have kids! xxx

Wilkie- How odd. I just cant imagine the sort of person she or he must be. Just very very odd.

Vino- Ment to say, loved the pics you put up of E and S. She looks like she is doing really well. Have you started weaning her yet? Sorry, lost track of time so not sure if you would have or not!

Oh and good luck going back to work Vino.x

EAH - am trying to decipher the line "Ellie has woken up last 2 morning s with her shole eat literaaly covered in huge lumps of sticky ear was" - is her shithole eating earwax?? PMSL

Vino - poor E&S Went to my sister's children's Xmas party yesterday and the twins had raging temperatures. Hope J doesn't catch it!!! I understand why she didn't cancel as she had so much party food in etc but I will be cross if he gets poorly.

Shimmer - think your mum is being a bit harsh TBH texting you like that. I would be very upset - she should have at least had a conversation with you. Wish I was nearer to have F for you for a few hours.

Reggie - horrible re the grumps isn't it. I was like it yesterday too - must have been something in the air??!

After party yesterday, J came home, pulled his trousers off, nappy off, sat on his potty and did a huge poo and wee - no encouragement from us! Was a bit , so left his pants off - he then did the biggest diahorrea poo all over the new laminate which DH trod in. Ha ha ha ha ha ha - the house STANK of poo!!! Made me giggle (and retch).

whoops 'whole ear covered in wax' (was very tired when I was posting )

PMSL at J shitting on the new lamintae I havethe money sitting in my account all ready to order a new carpet for lounge/stairs and landing but no way am I doing that until she is fully trained with the toilet (so hopefully by February as I am so fed up with my flooring now)