December 2007 - Oh what fun, they are almost ONE!

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OK here we are ladies!

P.S. clairey - B and D are among the easiest phonemes to articulate - I think that's why he likes them (although your theory may also be true)

Claraq - we do normally get on well with DH's ex. But last night dh hand an enormous row with her.
They both have separate savings accounts for DSS. DH was give a sum of money from his dad to put in his savings account, and DH's ex is demanding half of it. DH is refusing to give it to her - it is doing well in a pretty good ISA, and if he splits it he won't earn as much interest especially as the rate that he has is much better than the rate on dh's ex's account.
She went absolutely off it at him, accusing him of 'letting a bit of power go to his head'. She should talk - he has had NO input into major decisions in DSS's life, she decided he wasn't going to the MMR, she decided what nursery he would attend, she decided what school he was going to attend, and ended up sending him to one other side of town, where none of his local friend's go, instead of the local primary, because it was top of the league tables.
He hates it there and they are not very good at managing his AS! I've heard that top performing schools are less able to deal with ASD than others.
Sorry need to have a bit of a rant!

Hiya all!
Very interested in everyone's theories on baby development but am not a believer in the 'physical or verbal' one - DS1 was an average walker (14 months) and lateish talker whereas DS1 walked at 11 months and was chatting in sentences by 18 months... I think all children are just different, most have the same abilities by 3!

DD is really starting to talk in the last few days with loads of new words, her favourite words start with 'b' 'e' or 'o'. She does book, bath, bye bye and bum, egg and eyes, on and off (admittedly these two are very similar but she actions with them so I know what she means). She also says what! "wot" hehe! She doesn't tend to say the end of the words but has a real good go! She is also learning about faces and knows reasonably reliably where the hair, eyes, nose and mouth are - can point out mine, hers and dolly's.

BT, DD has those squeaky eggs, she loves them! They used to be DS2's actually. I am incredibly OCD about toys and one night I could not find one of the eggs, looked everywhere and in the end gave up and went to bed twitching. In the morning the egg was back in the sealed box, DH swears it wasn't him - they are now known as the freaky eggs! My theory is that it was FIL as when he was alive he would have enjoyed watching me search everywhere while he had it in his pocket or something!

Arcadie, that is indeed Evie getting her groove on in my FB video - she loves music and dances so funkily!

Insy, there is no shame in being born middle-aged, I was too, I love to sew, bake and do jigsaws. Have never tried scrapbooking but would love to if I ever get the time one day.

Clairey, I would not worry about DS's chat too much, IME with friend's whose DC1 is a girl, they tend to do most of the chatting for the younger one so they talk later.

Meme, lol at your DD! How cute! Glad you got the result you needed on your pg test but can totally understand you being upset, I would be too.

Buzzy, well done DD walking! And - Ooooooh...playhouse! Your lucky DD's! Think its a fab pressie for them to have, if you were my Mum I'd forgive the joint pressie thing happily to get a playhouse!

Haha Skid I'm not sure they would have me anywhere near a phd! Especially not these days...my brain is like a very holey sieve.

But I would love to find out more about it all...I think I need a book (written by someone else!)

Beckle that's spooky about the egg! There is a ring like that in my parents house, it mysteriously turned up in my purse one day and always puts itself back in the same room. Also it has rotating face with a moodstone on one side and a picture on the other and it always turns moodstone side up.

Have watched your FB video, she's a groover alright

This is probably a dumb question but as a relative newbie to FB how is it possible to "find" people without knowing their RL name? Or is there a born Dec 07 group somewhere that I can ask to join?

Claireybee I have deliberately gone for a very "substantial" playhouse (I'll post a photo!) which is fully sealed with a proper roof, a lockable door and windows that open largely to avoid the "spider" issue. Also means the DDs can leave the odd toy in there without too much risk.

Poor you clara with the cold. I just couldn't cope with that and go to work the next day. DD finally shook off the 6 month cough in January and has been lovely and healthy over summer here - am dreading the onset of winter ails.

DD still practising the steps - and also seems to have decided to practice a few more words, all at the same time. I'm with you Beckle, I don't really believe its one or the other although I do think they tend to focus strongly on one thing at a time - more of an engagement if I can call it that than anything else. My mum always talks about "scaffolding" when it comes to early childhood learning processes.

Buzzy - are you wanting to join the dec 07 group then? Cool!
hopefully this will work! We're the top one, obviously. Request to join the group and one of us will approve, there are a few of us who can do the approvals so won't take long!

Great thanks BT. I did a search under "MN" but there were too many results to scroll through! Hopefully I should be a kosher member soon which will bring my Friends count up to the grand total of 10! I'm not entirely convinced FB is a good thing but even if its just a way of sharing photos and stuff like that I guess its got to have some good points. Its just you hear these stories about employers checking people out on them...in fact no sooner did I sign up that I was contacted by my the alumni association of my old Uni!

I've approved you!

Looking at the list, I just realised that as well as Suey2, we haven't heard from Kelbel, Mellymooks or Dundeemarmalade for a while!
Hope they are all okay and just far too busy to post here

Hey Buzzybee. Post someting on the MN FB group so us mere mortals know who you are. You'll be inundated with requests for chums!

And HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU ALL!!!!

I have added Buzzy as a friend and sent her to all you lot to add to her friends list

I don't think I have all of you on my friends list so will have to update!

Thanks BT, all sorted now. Hope you like the video!

Thanks BT, I was thinking I was going to have to email you to ask who she was but NZ was a bit of a clue then I recognised buzzy's dd1 in the profile pic

Buzzy/Beckle I do think they go through phases more than just doing one or the other developmental wise, dd was a very early talker (several clear words at 6 months, sentences at 19)but also walked fairly early. DS has been concentrating on climbing lately so I'm looking forward to him moving on to the next thing!

DH said we should try reading the first words books a bit more with ds so last night we tried it, then POSL as ds just pointed at every single page and shouted the exact same gobbldigook without even looking at the picture! When we tried to get him to actually look at it he just went noooooooo and laughed. His understanding is pretty good though so not actually worried, more interested in just how different my two children are!

Buzzy looking forward to seeing the playhouse

Hi ladies

Hope you are all well.

I'm feeling much better this week. Went to the doctor on Wednesday and was prescribed citalopram 20mg. I wasn't keen on taking antidepressants but the doctor was lovely and I feel it is the best thing for me until I get an appointment for counselling. Has anyone else taken this? The tablets will take around 2 weeks to start working but I feel better already just knowing I have started to get help. I decided not to get signed off work as the doctor reckoned it was best to keep busy and I agree - I actually enjoyed being back at work!

Hope you all had a lovely Mothers Day. I got a card and chocolates so that was lovely.

How do I find your MN group on Facebook? Under groups and then??

Having a terrible day. dd2 still whingey as anything, awake in the night, woke from her nap after hardly any time giving me no time to get ANYTHING done, now wants me to occupy her and I am trying to do IMPORTANT things like MN! (actually am just shutting down the computer after dd1's Cbeebies session while similtaneously cooking their supper for later). Oh and she picked up the eggs I had just bought when we had got back from shopping earlier and dropped the whole lot on the floor, smashing EVERY SINGLE ONE.

Anyone want a snotty, whingey, naughty 15-month-old, going cheap (free to the right bidder)?

Hi Louise
Good for you, I'm really glad you are getting the help you need. Hopefully the counselling will help too. I filled in my forms for this last week so waiting for them to contact me to arrange an assessment and take it from there. I agree, I felt better just taking steps to get some help. In fact just admitting there was a problem made a huge difference. Also hearing that others have been through similar and are still normal sane people really helped too.

Good luck x

Right despite only coming on to close down the computer am now off to check out what they are saying about Lost, anyone watching it? I just love it and Sawyer just gets better and better.... (dd2 now amusing herself by drawing all over herself with green pen, that'll keep her quiet for a few more minutes)

hey clara - here is BT's link here to the MN group (hope it works...)

I'll swap you my princess-obsessed, pink-obsessed 3 year old for your 15 month old - but only for a few hours because then I'll start missing her...

glad you and louise have got some suppport and are both feeling better

clairey at your DS (yet again) with the picture book. I can soooo imagine my DS doing that. I have been working with my DS on his animal noises this weekend and it seems to have been very successful - he can now do quack quack, woof woof and mmmm (cow)

Did you all do nice things for mother's day then? My grumpy git of a DH doesn't believe in mother's day (along with Christmas, Valentines day, any other day which could be construed as consumerist) so I got nothing! But I don't really either so I wasn't offended. We did go for a lovely cycle along the river and had a pub lunch anyway so don't think I've got anything to complain about. Go on make me jealous with what you all got (in advance)

Thanks Skid - I've requested to join now. It's funny seeing everyone's pictures and real names although of course I don't have a clue who half of you are!!!

Laughing at your "pink princess" dd - quite a few of dd1's friends are like this but she is the opposite. Her favourite clothes are a pair of dungerees, she hates wearing skirts and dresses, stopped playing with her only doll when she got over the whole "pretending to breastfeed/potty train her" and is more likely to watch Finding Nemo than any of those horrible Barbie or Little Mermaid DVD's. I have NO IDEA why she is like this - in many other ways she is very girly, she hates being dirty, won't play on sand and looks like a little angel with her blond hair and blue eyes. I bet you haven't brought yours up to be "pink", it just seems to happen (or not) that way!!

I got to look after my whingey snotty dd2 on mothers day while my dh went off paragliding (humph) although I did get two cards and some chocolates and we had a nice meal with my parents. He doesn't really believe in the consumerist occasions either and I didn't get anything for Valentines day(Mothers Day is easier for him to handle as he can pretend it's all the dd's idea!). It's our wedding anniversary next week and we are probably more likely to celebrate that as it's special to only us.

A cycle ride and meal by the river sounds perfect

I'm still continuing my call centre training - it is going well but this week the training is particularly hard on me and ds - it is from 7pm to 11pm and I'm taking live calls. Poor little ds was very upset and didn't want me to put him down in his cot at bedtime (at 6:45) so I had to leave crying to downstairs and log on to my pc and all the apps I needed for the training. He soon went to sleep though but woke up a couple of times and daddy went up to soothe him but it was only a temporary abatement. It was hard as I could just hear him crying but I couldn't go to him. I've got this all week as well, and DH will be late back tonight which will make it difficult.
Once I start work for real, I won't work before 7.30 and will finish at 10pm at the latest as it is hard on ds sad. He woke up 4 times as well last night which meant I was shattered this morning, but I think he was needing extra reassurance I would go to him.

But today I got to see a tiny 3 week old. He was so gorgeous... I want one wah!!! I'm very of Insy - not long to go now

BT - poor you, sounds really tough. Hopefully the fact that your dh is having to go to ds will be a positive in the long run - my dd1 was always so clingy to me and dh couldn't comfort her in the night, I think because she spent so much more time with me and got used to me going to her.

Arcadie - thanks, I am now on MN dec 07.....

12 wks and counting hope tonights training goes better BT, my dh is away this week, am shattered already, roll on Friday and my lie in on Saturday

Lovely mothers day, went to my mum and dads and got looked after, they invited IL's too so managed not to be made to feel guilty about not seeing them dh bough me ear rings and ds's made me cards which were really cute (ds1 was so excited about his 'butterfly' that he told me all about it on Saturday) to be honest I think dh is still trying to make up for forgetting my first mothers day, I don't want him to spend load on presents but was v upsat not to even get coffee in bed for my first one... he's learnt tho

is anyone with two (or more) dc's having problems with them no leaving each other alone? ds1 is constantly pulling, pushing and lying on ds2 and its hit and miss sometimes he thinks its funny and other times just yells, mine are both really physical with each other and are hugging one minute and then squealing the next... getting to point I can't leave them alone together and its driving me nuts!

Last night was better! I took 19 calls, only one less than the person who took the most!
Ds did wake up and DH had to stay with him for a while before he dropped off to sleep but he then only woke once (at just after 1am) for feed. Then slept to 6.15! Which is great! i'm hoping he'll continue (and improve!). And as well as that just found out we aren't do calls on Friday so won't be starting until 8pm!
Feeling pretty confident about the calls now, only cut someone off when trying to transfer them once lol!

Insy - not sure what the age gap is with yours but my dd1 is now a bit better with dd2 than she used to be (there is 2.3 years between them). She is starting to be quite cute and big-sisterly and hold her hand when we are out etc. However I also do find her lying on top of her little sister sometimes who, luckily, seems to mostly find it quite funny!

Don't forget also that you have boys and I have girls!

clara - 19 months, like I say its hit and miss, one minute they are just playing the next one of them has pushed the other over, I guess its just testing the boundaries, we're trying the naughty step so I give warning and then they go and do something else naughty so I feel like all I do is give warnings all day! wondering how its going to be with 3!