Oct 2007: This little piggie ate lots of Christmas turkey.... all by themselves!

[alicet]

Thought this was appropriate given latest discussion and thought I would start a new thread before this expires!!!!

Hello chatty ladies!!!

I am sending massive hugs to all of you who have struggled through abusive relationships. I am like Lisa in that although some of my exes are twats yours make them look like diamonds. I have never been in a situation even approaching some of yours and have no idea how terrible it must be...

J2O hope all goes well with Richie xxx Thanks for asking about sil too - she is doing great now thanks and they have even seen someone for adice about having a second child. I don't think they are actually ttc but the fact they are thinking about their options in postive don't you think?

Inzi Floria and Lisa pmsl at some of your lo's 'challenging' behaviour! Adam is certainly a lot more spirited than Sam was - he has always been a placid happy easy going chap. Adam on the other hand is very very determined, knows exactly what he wants and is not afraid of telling you, and will NOT be distracted when there is something he wants! A very very different child which is actually lovely bub continues to surprise me. Ridiculous really as he is clearly a different person but there you go!

J2O just something else that struck me... Another take on his ex texting him. She is telling him she misses him and clearly there was something between them at one point as they were together. Yet he chooses YOU even when she is pretty much on a plate there for him if he chose. Can you see this as a real confirmation of his feelings for you rather than anything negative? Sounds like he could have her like a shot if he wanted - he does not x

Alice-so glad sil is doing well, been meaning to ask you for a while.
well..he left work at 7.30, got here, had some, tea, did a bit of small talk, then he got a call out to work grr..he did say he misses us like mad, and he's going to try and sell his ticket for the clubbing weekend next weekend as he knows how much i am dreading it, (although i'm not sure why i am, think its maybe cos he's friends are not the most faithful men around) even though i would never dream of asking him not to go.
I think we're going to sort things out somehow. Maybe i should seek counselling, although last time i went, i was doing exams and my mum was going through a very difficult time(trying to take her own life) and i had also just been betrayed by my ex and the therapist was a little overwhelmed so i don't think she'd cope with me after whats happened the past couple of years on top of everything else she may need counselling herself after seeing me!

you know-you guys are great!!

oh and sending sleep vibes to all the little piggies tonight too

ooh meant to say-Alice, yeah i know what you're saying about his ex, Its not that i think he would go back to her, i think its just another thing to torment myself with.

now i've killed the thread!

thread killer!

I've been busy today so not had chance to browse

Hello everyone!
Hope you are all ok. Just trying to catch up with some things
J20 - sounds like a positive evening with Rich, even if it was rudely interrupted. And if you think counselling would help then you should just go for it
To everyone who's had such bad past experiences with such awful men - I hope you can past all that - you do all seem to be such grounded people, not sure that I would be like that.
Floria, LLL, Inzi, Alicet - loving the stories of challenging LOs - the terrible twos at one-and-a-bit? Olly has started to growl if he can't get his way, and he has a really strong grip! But I can't complain, he is such a delightful little boy. Although he has a v bad cough at the moment, and is finding it hard to sleep at night (unless he is sandwiched in the bed with us)
At least I don't have to work tomorrow. i am finding it quite hard managing to maintain a good work/life balance. Although I only work 3 days a week, i definitely do a full weeks work in those days. Grrrr
I am going to get an icecream from the freezer now, so back another day!

Busy, busy, busy.....
sorry me too...
I'm spending every moment Alex is napping (or my mum is babysitting)nitromorsing the beaten up old dark oak kitchen cabinet doors/trim/architrave etc rubbing it all down and lime waxing them to try and give kitchen a face lift before Christmas...I now have no fingernails and my hands are like emery boards...15 doors down 15 more to go ...

FT-sounds like hard work, poor hands...wear some gloves!?!

well, had a bit of a set back, i've realised we where meant to be going to Harrods next Fri to see father christmas( i booked it last year, but couldn't face taking them both so exd p(rat) took Leonie) anyway-its the weekend that he is going on the clubbing sha99ing weekend so looks like we're not going so i'm pretty pi**ed off sbout it, could go by myself with the girls i suppose, but i wanted it to be a family thing.

Anyone want the tickets? have booked for 8 people for the 28th Nove and 9th Dec for 8 people, i can't make the 9th either

off to bed, got pounding headache.

That would annoy me too J20 - a family day should come first if you ask me.

Was that the MMR that Jane had? Glad it wasn't too awful as Dareh has his next week.

Wow Floria you are industrious!! It will be worth it when you get your fab new kitchen!

Hope you can find some time for yourself strawberry - sounds like you are really busy.

Anyone a primary school teacher by any chance? I need to pick your brain if so!

Jules, how much you want for the tickets? I could go with Grant, Karl and Zachary plus sister 2 nephews and bil lol

Inzi-sympethies for your bad night, and grr at DH being a moody sod.
I took 2 tabs of co-codomol for my headache last night and its made me feel all fuzzy iyswim, took them loads before and it hasn't affected me like that, i'm getting to be such a light weight!

LES-i don't want anything silly, they where free. which day do you want? i'll forward the 9/12 one to you, but Rich has the 28/11 email(hence me not remembering we had booked that day) which i can get him to send if you want that one, the only thing is they say they're non transferable and may check ID-but as long as you know my name, i reckon it should be fine.

Inzi-he tried to sell his ticket to his mate, but its his mates gfs birthday(this being the bloke who cheated on his gf when they all went to Faliraki and has now caught herpes, and still hasn't told his gf) so anyway, after i made it clear where his priorities should lie, he rung me and said we'll go to to the Harrods thing and he wont go on the weekend, so i said don't bother because i'm not going to be the reason he misses out as i don't want him resenting me, plus he'll lose £150, so then we're arguing because i'm saying 'go'! and he's saying he isn't, poor bloke can't win! so we'll see what happens today.

I'm waiting for my friend to be able to have Shannon for a couple of hours so i can try and get to grips with Cash Books for my exam on Tue. Hope everyone has a good day

Inzi...SNAP!!!....[exhausted emoticon]... Alex doesnt go to bed until 8pm (when I finish teaching) but last night (last pupils cancelled) he refused his dinner and went out for the count (literally like someone had knocked him out!)at 7.30 (had to put his pjs & fresh nappy on while he slept!). He slept until 11.30 and then screamed until I bfd him, then again at 2.30-3.15 and at 4.45 he refused to go back down despite calpol and me going to bed in his room, bringing him into bed with me, nursing him, singing to him...Dh just switched the monitor off so he couldn't hear!

J20 I did use gloves but the fingers just tore! no wonder my hands are in such a state, but as Stefka says it will be worth it for a new look kitchen. Shame about the Harrods trip...are you sure you dont want to go on your own with the girls? Just as an all girlie trip ?.... I used to love going round Harrods, just to look at all the things I could never afford...especially the pet section, how many things they sell for the pampered pet that you would never even dream of.It might take your mind off the clubbing thing ...
...if it is any consolation I have a sort of similar situation going on with Dh, (nothing as wild as clubbing though), but an off roading weekend that his pals bought him for his birthday last April, they have stipulated it is an adults only weekend and I must stop bfing Alex and leave him with my Mum if I am going to join them...I'd rather stay at home with my son but Dh knows that once Alex is in bed I'll seethe about them having fun in 4x4s and getting drunk in the hotel at night without me and he feels torn between his family life and his old life with his mates ...I have told him to go and enjoy himself (he has booked it for Jan)and promised myself not to give him too much grief when he gets home ...the guilt that I was home alone and he missed a whole 48 hrs of his sons life should be enough (if he looks like he enjoyed himself too much I'll renege on my promise)

His lordship has gone down for a nap at last..I'm off for my shower

Jules,

Thanks hunni. Kids will love it!!!!

Will be back on shortly to have a good old moan about dp

Ft-i remember you mentioning that before-why can't Alex go? isn't he on of the boys? Oh well, i suppose your DH deserves it, and it will be something for you to mention -bring up-- should you ever get the chance to do something similar when Alex is older.
I could take he girls myself, but it'll mean geting trains as i'm not willing to drive all that way by myself, and the trains are really expensive.

I think i've made him feel sufficiently guilty about the weekend(not that i want him to have a crap time if he does go) its not like i mind him going away, its just that this clubbing weekend feels like an extention of his week in Faliraki(when he came back, some girls had shaved his legs and all the phonecalls i got was him drunk, and also had a bad time that week, my friend getting attacked and finding out my nana had cancer) and it just feels like a bad omen iyswim. The fact that he has (finally) offered to not go is good enough for me to want him to go now, i just wanted him to at least prove that he was committed. Also, he's going to miss my Dads wifes 50th party which should be good, so its his loss.

p.s. Ft-try gardening gloves.
And sorry you had such a bad night, try and rest today??
Les-will forward you the email.

Les-whats your email again?

[email protected]

aww Inzi, sorry for your crap day, at least the scan is over, choc biscuits is always good, can dh have Jane while you have a nap?
how much is it snowing? its freezing here, so may snow soon xx