October 08 - The Here and Now.

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The story so far....

10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz - Induction due to rhesus sensitivity, G&A.
12th Sept (Due 6th Oct) - iuseantiageingstuff - Boy - Fred William - 8lbs 13.5oz - Induction due to high BP.
14th Sept (Due 14th Oct) - twinklytoes - Boy - Samuel - 7lbs 4.5oz - Em C-Sec due to grade 4 PP.
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs - Just beat induction for PE!
20th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - kookiegoddess - Girl - Reya Marie - - Induction due to OC, epidural, 3rd degree tear.
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz - Fast and furious hospital birth.
22nd Sept (Due 10th Oct) - Lozza70 - Boy - Sander Gene - 7lbs 5oz - Em C-Sec due to raised BP and high ALTs from liver.
27th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - accessorizequeen - Boy twin - Felix - 6lbs 8oz -
27th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - accessorizequeen - Girl twin - Bridget - 7lbs 7oz -
1st Oct (Due 29th Sept) - WombFor1More - Boy - Harvey James - 8lbs 13oz - Homebirth, no pain relief.
2nd Oct (Due 4th Oct) - annwoo - Boy - TBA - 8lbs 7oz - Amazing birth!
2nd Oct (Due 30th Sept) - sambrads - Girl - Brooke - 7lbs 9.5oz -
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz - 36hr labour, ventouse and stitches.
2nd Oct (Due 8th Oct) - Alexa808 - Girl - Tienette - - Planned c-sec
3rd Oct (Due 5th Oct) - rosebury - Boy - Austin - 9lbs 2oz - Delivered at home by dh!
3rd Oct (Due 6th Oct) - Bethoo - Girl - Maia - 7lbs -
3rd Oct (Due 6th Oct) - hoff - Boy - Oliver - -
3rd Oct (Due 19th Oct) - MrsTittleMouse - Girl - - -
4th Oct (Due 2nd Oct) - 1sttimer80 - Boy - - -
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz -
5th Oct (Due 29th Sept) - plusonemore - Boy - Alfie Thomas - 8lbs - Induction, epidural
5th Oct (Due 2nd Oct) - MrsBish - Girl - Rachel - 8lbs 8oz -
5th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - hedgepig - Boy - Oliver - 6lbs 3oz -
7th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - Emmsy1 - Girl - Amy Louise - 5lbs 12oz -
7th Oct (Due 2nd Oct) - snowymum - Boy - Rowan Michael - - Home water birth
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz -
8th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - 07mumstheword - Girl - Freya Mae - 7lbs 12oz -
8th Oct (Due 16th Oct) - moodywren - Boy - Hayden - 6lbs 9.5oz - Homebirth
9th Oct (Due 27th Sept) - Pidge - Boy - Arthur - 8lbs 14oz - Homebirth
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz - 4 day induction with 1 hour established labour!
11th Oct (Due 3rd Oct) - usuallytooshytochat - Girl - Megan Leah - 8lbs 2oz - Homebirth with ambulance crew!
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz - Homebirth.

lol at your guilt at not giving him a bath. They aren't compulsory you know. Ds has only had 3 in his whole 2.5 week life.

Can't say what's normal, but I feel absolutely fine. I think pregnancy and birth quite suits me.

pistachio I've been feeling the same (amongst everything else) but I have to say that even if you can't feel the pelvic floor exercises as you do them they should help.
Just don't try any star jumps for a while
At the risk of TMI I was quite surprised the doctor actually needed a speculum last week at the hospital for my swabs but clearly everything was, erm, tighter than I thought!
And, to show there is a silver lining to the nasty infection cloud - I'm wearing my old jeans today!!!! Obviously I shan't be eating or sitting down though .

lol about the baths. I actually didn't know they didn't need to be bathed every day. Maybe we'll cut down... would certainly cut out some crying in the day

Trying to train him to sleep in his moses basket now... dh is a teacher, home for half term and our hearts are breaking! It's cuddly and lovely for US as well to have him sleep on our chests! But I know this is for the best. We will both get more sleep this way. He's been down for a record 10 minutes now... we pick him up when he cries then put him back down when he falls asleep, but moses basket (on rocking stand) is right next to us in the living room.

He sleeps SO much better on his stomach. Would be loads easier if we were allowed to put him down in cot on his stomach... but I know the SIDS risks.

csws that birth "suits" you

myjob - i think you asked on the other thread but quinlan is 7 lbs now!! He's 3wks+5days. I just found out today and so excited! This means the bf is definitely giving him what he needs! so proud!

trying cotton nappies but just have to change so much more often...

Most cotton nappies gain absorbency after a few washes, but yes, unless you are changing a lot for poo, they will need more frequent changing than disposable.

Hiya,

i am back in the land of the living and have finally managed to eat without vomiting - hoorah...Joe asleep i think but had to give him soem formula tonight as he has been feeding all day and i can tell he's been getting very little - he guzzled 3 oz after having a big feed off me (i thought 3 oz wasn't very much and was secretly pleased he had so little iyswim)and promptly passed out. Hoping my milk is a bit more up to scratch tomorrow.

Star - well done with the moses basket - hope you manage to get him to settle in it. Joe does that a lot, particularly in the day. He'll be asleep on me and i'll put him down but he's awake 10 mins later. As soon as you pick him up,he's asleep again!!
Sleeping on tummy is ok Star - i have a baby moniotr which has a motion sensor. its a bit neurotic i know but means i can sleep knowing an alarm will go off if something awful happens.

Gpot to go, Joe awake, so much for my magic formula...

loulou - glad you are feeling better! Which monitor is that? I would like to get it. He's in there now, sleeping on his tummy ... I know... but he's sleeping more soundly than ever before in there... he's sleeping like he does on us! Would that monitor pick up if he stopped breathing?
Going to register his birth this morning. Quite an inconvenience actually, I'm not sure why they don't just do this at the hospital - we were there for long enough!

csws thanks - I just found the little inserts that you can put in to absorb more and the rest of hte paper linings to catch the poo. I'm going to try again! I think we will still use disposable when we go out (for now) until we're really comfortable with the cotton nappies... but I do LOVE putting them on him - so much more natural and soft on his skin!

myjob DH found the name. He's a medieval historian and his family heritage is Scottish (father) and Irish (mother). He says it's an old Scottish Gaelic name... meaning "small blonde warrior" . We also met this little girl a couple of years ago, named "Quin" in another country where we were living and we loved the name and she was so sweet (her mother was dh's boss). Her sweetness planted the seed for us having children of our own So it's meaningful in a few different ways for us. I did want Rowan for a while and was totally bummed when this was no longer a possibility... but am very happy with Quinlan, now - I think it's the most beautiful name in the world, just because it belongs to this precious baby
Sorry - I STILL can't get over this amazing feeling of love.... I never ever realized how powerful a mother's love for her child is until he was born. It's absolutely amazing!!!

Star - its called Angelcare Monitor (£70 i think) and yes it picks up if they stop breathing. It has a very sensitive pad that you put under the mattress of crib or cot (even works through a really thick cot matress). When Joe was in neonatal all the prem babies were on their tummies and the nurses all said it was standard to do this as it helps them breathe and not aspirate vomit etc. These babies then go home having learnt only to sleep on their tummies even though prem babies are at greater risk of sids (work that one out!!) My best friends twins both slept on their tummies having been in neonatal and she could never get them onto their backs - their fine btw.

Off for 6 week check today, joe's arse is like a beetroot today so will get gp to look at it. He didn't fall asleep til midnight last night but slept til 8am this morning. he was wide awake looking around him all evening whilst i tried not to look at him and laugh at him staring and cooing at the lights in our lounge

there's a thirty pound second hand on eon amazon btw star

We're registering ds today too Star .
Are you familiar with this song star? It's what I always end up singing in my head when I am reminded of your ds' name.

Just bought it! Thanks!!!

wow, impulse buy - but £30 instead of £70 is quite a bargain! And I love the idea of something keeping track of his breathing. Thank you so much, loulou!

Star have you tried to swaddle Quinlan. He may just need the extra security and warmth? My MIL was here last night and I was bitching about the inabilty of my child to sleep for long and she swaddled him in his blanket and the little monkey went straight to sleep
Also William loves being put on his side with blankets tucked in quite tight. Might be worth a try.

I realised today that I seem to be woken just before 3am every night and then have to sit with a fractious boy until about 5.30am. That is the time he was born and the time we eventually put him down to sleep in the hospital!!! Is this conected? Or just coincidence?

I should be asleep but I really wanted to catch up with everyone here. It is nice to know that I am not spiralling into darkness alone lots of us are apparently going crazy.

I was informed by DH that William is smelly and do I wash him enough! I told him to bugger off. Like I dont have enough to do everyday, add in the 30 mins of screaming a bath entails I can do without it. Poor boy he is sick constantly so he may well be a bit on the stinky side. I am torn between my desire not to have the heating on high, saving water and my poor smelly baby. What do I do???

Can I join! I am desperate to meet some folk with babies a similar age (even just in ms world). As I need to hear from people with a realistic idea of what they are like at this age.

Mine is 2 weeks old (and wonderful in every way!). I need to meet mums who can reassure me that they too need to sleep in the day. My mil, sil and friend all claim that they never needed to sleep in the day (surely they have forgotten). Yesterday I thought I was going to start hallucinating if I didn't get some sleep and ended up being rude to mil.

I am sure this is normal, he is bf and feeds ALOT and is awake for 2 hours after most night feeds.

I can't imagine how I will cope when the older one (aged 2) stops nursary next week (we can't afford it while I'm off work and also it seems wrong sending her off all day when I'm not working).

Great to meet you all.

And congratulations. Its a fantasatic feeling! despite my grounching about sleep

pistacio

I posted about this just last week on the general health thread (mine is 2 1/2 weeks old). I felt like things would fall out and couldn't stop weeing once I'd started. Its allready feeling much better, hope you are too. I felt much worse after looking at it in a mirror so haven't looked since. Also I am very careful to clench musels when i stand up especially if holding baby and tense them when walking too.

from talking to poople including mw its normal to feel like this, just do pelvic floors and after 4 or 6 weeks it should be OK

good luck

pistacio

I posted about this just last week on the general health thread (mine is 2 1/2 weeks old). I felt like things would fall out and couldn't stop weeing once I'd started. Its allready feeling much better, hope you are too. I felt much worse after looking at it in a mirror so haven't looked since. Also I am very careful to clench musels when i stand up especially if holding baby and tense them when walking too.

from talking to poople including mw its normal to feel like this, just do pelvic floors and after 4 or 6 weeks it should be OK

good luck