January 08 Shiny New-Year Babies - Here come the Tumble Tots

[madmouse]

hello

Hey ladies here to catch up! How are you all? I?m feeling shattered after a day of shopping in Gibraltar with my Mum and Xavier. I bought Xavier his stage 2 car seat from Mothercare there too (what a weight!) so I am really pleased as I feel he is getting a bit big for the stage 1 seat am still pretty sick every day (all day- yawn!) but I am either getting used to it or it is getting a bit better

So? my parents reaction to our news ?.silence, followed by my mother saying ?maybe it is just as well as Xavier is getting very spoilt? nothing from Dad. Luckily DH?s folks were there too and over the moon, FIL started crying, it was so sweet. Since then my mother has ignored the fact and my father summoned me for lunch on Weds (not a good day anyway, Xavier has a cold and was up 6 times Tues night so I was feeling even sicker than usual on weds). My Dad proceeded to lecture me on the following over lunch: 1) I have to get a job, ?the holiday? is over and I should get out of my ?ivory tower? put Xavier in an ?institution where he belongs? and stop wasting my education 2) I?m putting everyone out by not driving here (eh, no car!!)) and must be doing so twice a week by the end of the month when he wants to ?meet? me again. I?m fuming with him, how dare he surely you give your kids an education so they have choices?! All through my 20s he banged on and on about having a career before a family and now at 35 I?m not allowed a family life either because it?s a waste of my career ? grgrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! Rant over!

Can you all share with me your tips for keeping house, making meals for hubby and baby and getting out and about?? How on earth can I work too when I can?t keep on top of this now?

Have a lovely weekend everyone!

NOW I?ll TRY and catch up!

Lilyloo - I use metanium or avent magic cream on her bum seems to do the trick. Think there might me another allergy to something which is why she poos so much but no idea what Although her poos are very solid (sorry TMI)

Don't know any of the other mum's as just started although one of the ladies who runs Ds's playgroup's kids go to the school but are much older. She offered to pick him up but don't know if Ds would be happy with that iykwim.

Might try my dad but he is not the most reliable

Hello Simpson sometimes DS only has one sleep but I feel he (and I!) still need 2! Your poor DS with his ear come clean about the appointment hon; you?ve got so much on your plate as it is!

Lilyloo- how is the studying going? how do you find time? Amazing woman!

LaTrucha ? hope Sabela?s sleeping has continued! Sometimes purees are the only thing I can get down DS, he can?t be bothered with finger food. Glad to hear you feel a bit better, it must be so hard x

Hey Gingeme ? Halloween sounds fun at your house! we were wondering about the Phil and Teds when B2 arrives or a Revelo Twoo (try eBay) for our current buggy, might be an option for you? I found a German double (or triple !!) buggy that sounded quite good; I?ll try and post the link. Happy belated birthday!

Simpson ? poor little boy how sad! Your poor Ds after the fall, must have been such a shock for you all, hope he?s ok. Glad things are going well for you are home; I guess it will take time for DH to settle in back at work again.

Madmouse ? Many nights Xavier has his dessert before his dinner because it is too hot and he?s too impatient to wait! I made Annabel Karmel?s Chicken and Apple balls for him tonight, not a hit I have to accept he doesn?t like chicken hope you manage to get away!

Hello Angechica how is DS?s cough? Enjoy your night out.

Rubysmum ? I have sympathy with the eating situation, some days we have real issues here! Ruby?s diet sounds pretty good to me! I?m lucky if I get ¾ of a weetabix down DS in the morning.

Lucky ? poor you! What a scary time! Do you think it was down to the follow on milk? I haven?t moved from the first milk, to be honest, I don?t understand why to or why not to move to it no HVs here to explain to me! Hope all went well at the dentist. Oh no re Aaliyah?s snack!!!

JKS ? thanks for the info on the P&Ts, interesting. Glad to hear all went well at work and nursery!

Hey Nicky6 ? glad you had lovely hols hope the return to work goes ok.

Hello Awen so lovely to hear from you!! Samuel sounds great good luck with TTC again its early days but we are hoping B2 will join out family in early June! DS used to sleep in with us sometimes after his first feed but now I am too scared he?ll fall out I miss it too.

One good night, one bad night, ah well....

MrsMc - I'm in about your parents comments!!
Esp you father's attitude. Can you just laugh at him, in a 'oh, yeah, whatever' kind of way?
And NOT respond to his 'summons'???
Does he help you out financially at the mo, is that why is feels so proprietorial over what you do?
Or has he always been like that?
Just stunned really.

back later, have to dance like stephanie......

JKS - LOL at dancing like Stephanie

DS is also watching lazytown and doing handstands on sofa pretending to be Sporticus!! At least the anti biotics seem to be working. He woke up at midnight at that was it although I was up with DD at 5am so still feeling a bit tired.

DD totally bunged up, bless her. She has had calpol and is having a long (I hope!!) nap.

Mrs Mcjnr - am on your behalf!! How rude!! How can you spoil a 9/10 mth old LO!! Not suprised you are so mad after their comments. They should be over joyed with the prospect of another Grand child. Reminds me of a friend I had (notice past tense) when when I told her I was pg with DD (very much planned) said "poor you"....

DD just woken must dash....

Just a quick note to say MrsMC - GRRR

Um MrsMc - What my best friend - who has the best advice ever - would say to me is, explain to them very clearly that, as an adult, such and such is what you feel to be appropriate for you and if they can't accept it, perhaps they'll have to see less of you and DS to make the situation easier for everyone.

So for you. And you cannot spoil a little baby. That's just nonsense.

Weird attitude to your education - did they go private? Sorry if that's nosey.

Hello everyone else!

ALso, have any of you met a mum who you find it really difficult to be with? A mum recently joined our bf support group - which is really just like a coffee morning - and she really seems to dislike her child. I'm find some of the things she says really shocking. For example, yesterday he bit her while she was bf (not comfortable, I know) and she told him really nastily(he's four months old!) to 'stop ffing doing that' and the claimed he was doing it because he was 'spiteful' and said she had nearly 'thrown him across the room' that morning. She twice more threatened to 'throw him at the wall' that morning and then this morning, at a Christmas fair where I saw her, we were talking about a snow suit she was thinking of buying and whether he would get enough use out of it I said she could use it again if she had another child and she told me not to be 'bloody stupid' she was never having another child.

Now, I'm just having a rant and DH has said I should consider that she might not have support, or have money worries that might be affecting her for example, but I really feel sorry for the little boy. HE can HEAR what she says and even if he doesn't understand he can hear the tone of voice.

I'm not really proposing to do anything as I'm sure she wouldn't really hurt him but it justr makes me feel so sad.

OK rant over.

Ladies are any of you in Basingstoke if so real bargain here for your little one!

jks someone looking for you

Thanks for your support ladies

JKS ? I wish I could just laugh it off, my Dad does still think he is in charge of me though, I guess I haven?t been around for so long that he hasn?t realised that things have changed in the last 20 years! Or should have anyway! DH is working for my father?s company. The idea was that my Dad train DH up to take over when he retires but DH is getting increasingly frustrated because my Dad won?t take the time to teach him anything. DH is earning less than 1/3 of what he did in the UK and we did make sacrifices to come here when my father asked us to but my Dad doesn?t seem to see it from that perspective. He says he feels responsible for our family financially now as well as his which I find ridiculous (and arrogant!) who is Stephanie?

Simpson ? glad to hear DS is feeling better. How awful of your ex-friend!

Thanks Lucky

LaTrucha ? that?s good advice from your friend just don?t feel brave enough to say anything like that at the mo! my education was private (mainly because we never lived in the UK) but most of it was on scholarship as I always worked very hard and was very driven. What really grieves me is that my next sister down has been a stay at home Mum for 5 years and my parents wouldn?t dare say anything to her (she?d cut them out!!) her education cost them lots more than mine too if we are being pedantic! Some of the time I think my Dad just likes the fact that he has a lawyer for a daughter; he?s too blinkered to see that I?ll always be that even if I?m not practising. I sometimes feel that he wants to live vicariously through me as he would have liked to have a profession himself. Sorry to hear about that other Mum, she doesn?t sound very nice at all.

Hey Lilyloo

Thanks Lilyloo

MrsMc - think you are going to have to come up with a way to get your dad to see that times have changed...
Can sort of understand about him feeling responsible for all of you as his company is what's keeping you all afloat but maybe your DH needs to push for more training/take on more responsibility to help your dad let go??
Also, you've established yourself in a good career, it's perfectly OK to take a few years out for children then go back.
As long as your DH is ok with the finance side of things then your dad should be too.
(oh and i had all sorts of education, often private as we were abroad too and my parents have NEVER gone on about wasting my education once I started having children (a few raised eyebrows before when i was farting around with crappy jobs i admit!) as they see that as important too.)
tricky.

Stephanie dancing!

Simpson - hope ds better and dd not ill either.

Went out to fireworks with ds1 last night (ds2 went to bed fine for babysitter and didn't even drink any of the expressed milk). DS1 enjoyed it but was v tired and kept asking to go home. the first 5 or so mins of the fireworks he didn't even blink though so was worth it in the end.
He got up in the night, think ds2 woke him. then up at 6.45 which is late for him.
ds2 up at 3-4.30ish....

dh off out to remembrance sunday service later, not sure what we'll do, probably more lazytown.....

JKS that thread of yours looks really interesting would like to do something like that myself actually !

Now Stephanie is weird - I wondered if she was a women who looks like a child still, like Jimmie Crankie .

MrsMc I am a slummy mummy compared to some on here I'm sure. But, DH always takes DS out on a Saturday morning for a couple of hours which is when I clean the house. We also take turns cooking, I guess I'm lucky that DH likes to cook...

Had a great weekend - 2 late nights taken its toll though - I'm shattered.

LaTrucha that is a really interesting about this other mum. This woman was talking using very violent language, although she hopefully doesn't mean it it must be a familiar way of talking in her life? PND can strike anyone of course, I wonder if she has it?

There are scary mums at some of the groups I go to, one of them tried to pick a fight with one of the other mums who is lovely e.g. "what are you f-in looking at" etc. . Now, I was chatting with the girls on Friday and one of my friends is preggers, she lives in a much more middle class area than me and she said she would keep her child away from the tough kids, mainly because she was bullied by the tough kids when she was at school. Myself and friend who is also a mum argued we're happier for them to mix with all kinds as better life lessons for them etc.

JKS I have made some beginnings on our tree too, have some fascinating Victorian photos to start with.

Hi all,

Just popping to say i'm alive!!

Afternoon ladies. Have had a couple of tough mornings this weekend George waking at 4am for a bottle, taking anhour to settle again then waking at 6am ready for the day . I tried to have asleep this morning while dh took the boys shopping but it didn't realy work and I felt worse for it realy.
Ah well hope your all doing ok. Will try to catch up when I've had more sleep. xx

Hi all

Went to my mum's for the day today and got roast dinner cooked for me

My brother has got a new job which he starts tomorrow and when me and my mum saw what he was going to wear for his first day we had to act (he has the worst dress sense ever!!) Had great fun in M & S picking out new work wardrobe for him. Cost over £300 but it wasn't my money!!

DS much better and DD is not too bad but has been sick a couple of times because she coughs so much She is off her food/milk and all I can get her to eat is fruitapura fruit pots that have been in fridge (maybe sore throat?) Although having said that she ate a whole biscuit earlier!! She seems quite chirpy though...Now says "mum mum mum" very sweet!!

Ange - funny you should say that about "Stephanie" am sure I read somewhere she is played by a 20 yr old acting student

Gingeme - hope you catch up on sleep tonight. Naughty George for waking mummy so early!!!

JKS - Are you tracing family history? (sorry just being nosy!!) My Grand mother was brought up in an orphanage and only discovered she had a sister 5yrs ago at the age of 84!!

Mrs Mcjnr - I am not good at confronting things either which is why MIL has got away with so much. She wants to come and visit in a couple of weeks and still doesn't know DH has been ill.

Lilyloo, LaT, Lucky and everyone - hope all good!!

morning all

Hope everyone ok this morning and not too ill??!!

DS much better and DD still quite chirpy but she has a bit of a temp and i have to take her out in the horrid weather to get DS to pre school.

Am feeling a bit ropey myself (sore throat) hope I can shake it off easily....

Lilyloo - when is your next exam??

Afternoon ladies. Ah Medised is a many splendid thing. Got loads of sleep last night.
Seems like everyone has colds and sore throats. Hope you all recover soon.
xx

HI guys

Sorry you've been having lousy nights Gingeme.

Simpson - hope throat didn't develop.

Ange - I was thinking PND too. DH says I should invite her for a coffee but I just don't like her so actually don't think I should.

JKS - glad Ds enjoyed the fireworks. Are you getting any better sleep these day?

MrsMc - Hmm. Very tricky situation. I know a few people who work for their inlaws and it never seems to go that well. ~I do think he should have a bit more respect for yo uand your DH.

Forgot to post!

Sabela has two new party tricks this week - waving and pointing. A friend's baby of the same age can say 'bye bye' when he's leaving

She also is getting quite wilful. If she wants something she really wants it. This is new. Today she had a little friend come to play and instead of sharing all her toys wuite peacefully, she wanted to play with every toy the other little girl layed her hand on. I was a bit embarrassed. I have to keep telling her 'no' (which she does understand as she no longer tries to take of my glasses. She still doea with DH's but hten he says no and then laughs and makes her feel like she's very clever for doin git. )

No chance of ever catching up...coming back to work has been completely insane, mainly cos of all the weirdness and stress caused by the ongoing takeover and integration (for which read 'large numbers of redundancies and not much information whilst being told to carry on doing business as usual').

Anyway, I've finally got a bit of a breathing space today but am now heaving some serious contact lens weirdness and am really struggling with the whole focus-ing thing so can't spend the next 30 mins catching up on this thread as I've already got a cracking headache from squinting at the screen all day....sorry girls!!!

Anyway, hope you're all doing well? I promise I will rejoin you properly soon (if at all possible) and get up to speed on what all your gorgeous lo's have been up to

xx

Hi Filly! Was just thinking of you today.

Evening all sorry for lack of contribution am revising for next exam on Wed (thanks simpson) and then i will be glad to never hear of algebra , pythagoras , trigonometry and pie again! [manic emotion]

I now think i deserve the record for the worst sleeping baby on our thread too!
I feel like crying Martha is getting worse and worse. The headways we made before she got ill with cc have gone out of the window and she now is up for a feed every couple of hours [exhausted emotion] (why isn't there one of them ?) She also has at least one episode where she doesn't go back to sleep after feed and crys for 1-2 hours. I am so tired i have a constant headache
Sorry to moan , actually my dad just asked me what i wanted for my birthday and i said sleep and genuinely meant it Although no babysitting offers forthcoming

Hope you all ok !
Am reading your posts but too tired to do personals hope you understand !

Lilyloo - sorry martha's sleep is so bad Will you give CC another go after exam?

Planning to take DD to a mother and baby group tomorrow (if we are both well enough) Dh has day off so can take and pick up DS from pre school.

Picked DS up from school today and there was a letter and envelope in his bag asking/telling us to sell raffle tickets that were in envelope. Just what I DON'T need to do ATM. Grrr.

Good news is that DH has managed to sort out leaving work early for thursday so I don't have to worry about DS when I take DD to hosp.

DH got docs tomorrow...hope they don't drastically mess about with his medication.

Filly - good to "see" you again