January 08 Shiny New-Year Babies - Here come the Tumble Tots

[madmouse]

hello

simpson - have fun, do take laptop to let us know how you're doing and in case you need to vent without upsetting dh.

ange - i echo that about a comforter, tips pick something small and easy to acquire!! and get a few once it seems to be working!
ds2 seems to have learnt to suck on his fleece blanket which is great but...it's big! i got ds1 onto muslins which was fab and he still loves them, just blue ones since i got pg with ds2. was hoping ds2 would like the white ones so will persist....

oh and for those with cats (or who just want a laugh) look here

JKS - DD uses her sleeping bag as comforter at night and sucks on top of it. Its all soggy in the morning so has to be washed...yuck!!

Well DH has just rung me and his fecking mother wants to come over and visit. She is dropping hints BIG time.

This is the woman who treated me like C**P when in Ireland The Irish family have decided she is too "delicate" to deal with DH being ill so she knows nothing, we all have to tiptoe around her.

Can't remember if I have ranted about this before (sorry) but DH is adopted he found out when his mother told him while drunk, he was 30!! The trip we have just come back from she told him his birth mothers real name (again while drunk.) When I told the mental health assessment people they could not believe this...and now she wants to visit!! Luckily DH said its not the best time...how about NEVER!!

DD has a winnie blanket..... she loves it

Nathan is taking to a soft brown hare with long blue ears. it does get a certain amount of violence as he bashes it about when he is awake and wants attention, but he pulls it close when he goes to sleep sometimes. A friend brought it from a department store in Holland, so guess where I wil be going when we go there in November. I need a second one just in case.

Lucky babe you sound so stressed. Glad dp was giving you a bit of a break this morning, but you still sound a bit cooped up and lonely? Do you manage to go out a lot to entertain her, I know that was a bit of an issue.

DD has a blanket too, ds was always a pin sleeping and he still has his battered blanket. DD1 was fab sleeper and never needed one!
Simpson that explains a lot , poor dh and agree def not now if ever!! Time to put you and dh and dc's first and not her!
Lucky hope tom better it's hard when you have a clingy baby but think having break will do you good and she will prob be different with new surroundings (fingers crossed emotion)

Evening ladies

Lucky sorry to hear your having a tough time of it, if you want any advise on controlled crying then ask away as we did it with DD when she wouldnt settle in the evenings. It worked for us but it was awfully hard to leave her screaming, would maybe try all other routes first. I am liking the idea of a comforter, DD has not shown any particular interest in any toy or blanket yet, might try offering her something next time she is upset.

Got a head full of hair dye so off to wash it off!

Oh am mightily peed off now. Just tried to pay my grolier account and for some reason I can't and they want me to call back tomorrow so I thought I'd go pay it online. Click into my account and they've bounced a DD even though the money was there and then charged me £8!!!! I'm having a bad day today!

Last time Susie posted there were problems with her central heating, but before that she had pc probs so maybe can't get on.

nicky - hi, missed your post the other day. hope charlie is better once you're in a routine and back at work. ds2 has to go one day a week from november, we shouldn't spend more money on him going more days and don't need to but i remember with ds1 that one day a week is hard to adjust to as it's so long between days once ds1 went up to 2 days he was much happier. money vs happiness again!

lcuky - what's grolier? bad luck about that thought they should refund you?

cazzy - what colour?? i feel like dyeing mine, had it reddish ages ago and fancy that again.

simpson - think your dh could read that toxic family thread on here somewhere. no way should you let her come over ever at least until you and him are on much firmer ground.
really sounds like she is a trigger for his episodes and that the rest of the family tread on eggshells around her

well ds1 up at 11.30 having lost his pillow ,
ds2 up at 1 and 5 for feeds
ds1 up at 6.30, then
ds2 up at 7.30.
dh slept through until 6.30 , 'like a log' he said
i'm so tired and ds2's timings all off so we have cancelled playgroup this morning and he's gone back to bed, ds1 happy to watch cbeebies for now....

am going to have another cup of tea to wake me up, speak later

Justkeepswimming - sounds like you've had a long night, just did it brown 'warm chocolate brown' as my roots where coming through so it needed it! I like red very autumnal!

Hi all

I am back home!! Have just dropped DS at playgroup and just going to get DD weighed.

JKS - I had a bad night too both DCs were awake at certain points...feeling knackered today...

Hey all dd had bad night here too have managed all week to keep her out of our bed with dp not here but last night she was up every couple of hours and then was ready to start day at 5.30 so brought her in bed and ended up feeding her back to sleep feel like we going down a slippery slope here and very tired today can't wait dor dp to get back and go to bed!

Hi guys,

Thanks for missing me! I may not be around much for a while. We were called away from home urgently on Tuesday as my mum had been taken into intensive care with liver failure. We managed to make it in time to see her, but she died on Wednesday morning. It's a horrible shock and i'm not sure what life is going to be like for the near future. It will certainly never be the same again.

I tried to have a read through but I can't focus on anything. I'll be back when I can.

See you.

LaT i am so sorry take care and much love to you all. If we can do anything yell.

Oh LaTrucha so sorry to hear your sad news Please takr care and come back as soon as you feel ready. Thinking of you xxx

oh susie hon I am so sorry. I don't know when you wil read this but am thinking of you

oh susie - poor poor you What a shock, hope you are feeling up to coming back and talking to us again soon

Lat - so sorry to hear of your loss, thinking of you xxx

Hey ladies, sorry for disappearing after you were all so kind about the situation with my DH we got things resolved the next afternoon, I guess he just needed a blow out, men hey!?

I?ve been feeling exhausted so haven?t been getting on here as much in the evening. Do you all find that your baby suddenly needs an enormous amount of time due to being mobile? That?s what?s going on here!

Ughh a sicky day here too ? feel car sick!

Will do my best to catch up, hope you are all well xx

LaT - so so sorry to her of your loss thinking of you...

Susie, awful news, so sorry. Hope you can take a little comfort in Sabela, she will keep you going through the bad times xxxx

LaTrucha - how awful, don't know what to say.

Just popped on as have not been near MN for weeks - how come life is so busy when I don't even work?? Some of you are holding down jobs, coping with LOs and STILL MNing!

Must get organised...

Oh LaTrucha ? I am so sorry for your loss hon I just don't know what to say. Sending hugs and know that we are here for you xx

I?m sorry I worried you all by being silent for a few days.

Angechica ? hope you can get your days down to 2.5 soon and that you get that promotion/secondment you are being very brave about being apart from DS I?ve seen a kid locally on one of those bike things, she seems to love it!

Lucky ? that?s great that you got the guard for the fire etc! Sounds like Aaliyah has had a few unsettled nights. Hope things improve. We need to think about the next stage car seat too but they are so expensive here around 275 euros! We were in the Chicco shop the other day and quite liked theirs but we have been happy with the maxi cosi too. Need to try and find out how to get one safely at UK prices though! sorry to hear that your DH is so worried about the credit crunch, I think that is what most people are finding the most stressful, not knowing how it will affect them. Have great hols!

Madmouse ? DH got in around 2am on Mon night, quite drunk but not as bad as he?s been in the past. One of my neighbours saw him in the local Indian restaurant and gave him an earful about getting back to his wife and child, not sure that helped. When the dust cleared the next day, I did speak to him about the things he said but he didn?t apologise for that or staying out glad to hear that you have found more support for Nathan I was in Ikea too this week

Hey Simpson ? how are things with you?? How annoying about Paypal how did it go staying at home for you? Sorry to hear DS was unsettled Like JKS we have had the pet Dyson for 6 years now and it?s still fab (bet it breaks tomorrow now!) oh no, keep MIL away!!! No wonder your DH is having problems after those bombshells from her

Hello Cazzy that?s great about Izzy using her arms more, you must be delighted! That?s a great price for the Bumbo I got mine on eBay for £4 which is just as well because it didn?t work well for us either. Your waitressing job sounds perfect for you right now sorry to hear about your cat, one of ours died suddenly just before we moved our here, we were devastated

Hi JKS thanks hon, I think DH must have done some thinking with his drinking as he seems a lot happier than before I like your idea though ? think a plan for the next few years would be good we?ve got a long weekend (and some) as Monday is a national holiday here and Weds is a local one so DH gets what they call a ?Puente? here (which means ?bridge?) and gets Tues off too we were going to go to Jerez or Seville for a few days but the weather isn?t very good so we might just go out for some nice meals and check out the Picasso museum in Malaga along with Mothercare (just opened!) on Tues. Anyway, plenty of planning time! You are doing so well with your Christmas shopping!

Gingeme ? how do you fit all those car seats in the car??

Filly ? hey there you! meant to say, what happened to Louise?? Does it seem like ages ago that the 3 of us met in Glasgow pregnant? Where are you off to on hols?

Lilyloo ? I?m going to need some tips on bath time routines when B2 arrives!! sorry to hear about your DP?s mortgage business. My DH used to work for HBOS so we are so glad we moved out here when we did!

Betterhalf ? nice to have you back. Hope you had great hols

Nicky6 ? thanks for taking the time to help me hon that was sweet and is much appreciated. I?ve read that book twice but DH won?t I like the list idea. Sorry to hear that Charlie starting nursery is hard, sending hugs xx

Hey Housemum how are things?

Hi Mrs McJnr! Things are good - feel like an unpaid taxi service most of the time. This term has been manic - last term's after-school activities all worked nicely, this term has gone mad - something every night! And I said I didn't want to over-schedule the kids...

DD1 dances and goes to Scouts. DD2 dances, does French Club and swimming - I insist on swimming classes until she can swim then it's her choice whether she wants to go for more badges or not! Amelie tags along behind... Well, she does Gymboree on a Tuesday which is a really good class, but I think it depends if you get a good teacher. DD1 did Tumbletots but when I went with DD2 it wasn't as good.

Been to London today with Amelie for another M&S photoshoot - she was not in the mood to sit for the camera today, kept trying to crawl away! They got it in the end though. DH has taken DD1 to a gig this evening with her friend - well, he's going to have to sit in the pub down the road and wait for them as they didn't want him to go in this time! Teenagers, eh? (Elliot Minor is who they are seeing tonight, Enter Shikari in half term then Go Audio in November)

Went to see local 6th form college with DD1 last night - was great, I want to go there now! Not fair, they get student union cards - when I was at school we had a 6th form in our school so we didn't get one! (discounts in Topshop, record shops, bookshops, coffee bars....)

Cute pic of Amelie: with my hand! and aahh!

Quick question - how many of us on here are still BFing? And if you are, do you have any idea how long you will continue?

I only intended to do 6 months, it has now become so easy that I don't need to stop, except that I am planning a weekend away, and will have v little time to pump-and-dump, so may explode! Or do I live with discomfort and carry on? Other thoughts are that she associates cuddles with milk, so if I carry on much more, do I find that milk will become a habit? And I'm not sure i fancy the idea of BFing a walking child, less talking - nothing wrong with it but it;s not me. (I'm the only BFer in our family, so it's not as if there are any role models there)

Just musing out loud - would like to know others' views...