January 08 Shiny New-Year Babies - Here come the Tumble Tots

[madmouse]

hello

whoops turn of caps!!!

Simpson glad to see you had good day and as for ds kids won't accomodate anything so same old same old for them!!!

Christmas:

I like!

but it doesn't have to be new, will look for similar on ebay etc.

ange - got one, was given one by friends, not quite the same, but similar, good value, though does take up space...

lily - how does that work then? why no delivery charge?

JKS it was free delivery when i posted it, got one for dd2 ,are they charging delivery now then ?

not sure:
here?

boy can you lot chat no time to catch up properly but did see Mrs mc having some problems.

Am sure you are sorting it all out but just in case you're not it sounds to me that part of the problem is long standing, he obviously has certain expectations of what should be done for him and doesnt appreciate that the goal posts have now changed. Sometimes its better to let things settle down for a bit before discussing, as my dh says otherwise it feels like your constantly picking at a scab.

Dh's seem to shoulder the burden of money worries even if there aren't any as they feel like they have to provide.

One of dh's male friends said that the book how to baby proof your marriage really helped them.
I think that we adjust almost instantaneously because we have to and it becomes naturally integrated into our life whereas the dh's its not like that . My dh said very early on that I have to tell him if I need me time as he wont necessarily appreciate how little time i have for myself. So I took the decsion to start going out occasionally and he was fien with that , I just hadn't asked.

Another couple i know did a list each of the things they thought were going well and the things they appreciated about the other and also the things that weren't and then swapped lists.

Is there anyone that could babysit for you so you could go out for dinner and discuss it then - you always have to be so much more controlled and nice when you are out in public

ANyway hope that helps and things are now better.

All fine here trying to get things sorted to go back to work and prepare my cases.

Took charlie to creche whllst I went to gym and she cried the whole time apparently, felt awful almost cried on the way home. I think maybe the whole separation anxiety thing is starting. Good just in time for her to go to nursery and me back to work

anyway must go

Lilyloo - I tried to order one for DD and the round & round the garden book too and was charged £3.50 delivery so I canceled

JKS was free delivery when i posted not over £30 bugger it was good deal.
Point taken to remind everyone to order then to take advantage of offer!!

Hi all

non-eventful day here so just checking in

Lily, feel like a wise old bf by now have just been asked by children's centre to turn up for new mums morning (2 week olds) to show them it is possible to bf

wish mrsmc would tell us how things are

and where is susie (LaTrucha)

Madmouse that is fantastic news re the bf!!

Mrs Mcjnr - another one here, hope you are ok!!

Well me and Dh have decided not to buy each other Xmas pressies this year because our hoover has packed up, so we will buy another one instead...any recommendations/special offers anyone knows of would be gratefully received!!!

bu**er lily, never mind was planning a trip into town (minus dcs) soon so will look in M&S then, would be a good one for ds2 as it's a board book so adds to his nonexistant little pile...

madmouse - must be so flattering (not sure that's the right word) to be asked to help out other mums, and to be validated (again not sure about that word) for your choices

can't remember didn't susie say she was going somewhere? may trawl through later.

hopefully mrsmc & mrmc are spending some qt together.

simpson - well aside from any comment about the lack of excitement that a hoover for christmas provides i would recommend dysons, we've had one for years now (on our second as once we got cats we upgraded to the pet one).

right, ds2 woken early from his nap which is bad but means we can get to the playgroup on time which is good, swings and roundabouts

Hi all

Ds not very well so can't really get out in the nice weather today

I have been up since 5am so am knackered as he needed calpol etc. Lets hope DD doesn't catch it. He was ok for playgroup but now has no energy at all so lying on sofa with duvet watching lazy town.

While he was at playgroup this morning I went into primark to buy DS some winter clothes and bought a couple of things for me too!!

JKS - how sad are we having to buy a hoover for Xmas!! Will look at a dyson but depends on price really...although I know they are fab

sorry ladies but please help

Lucky replied on your thread here's a non mnet pc

MrsMc hope all ok with you ?

Simpson poor ds prob explains his behaviour yesterday. We have vax hoover!

JKS hope ds coped at playgroup!

MM great news about bf support it can be a decision maker for some have supported a few of my friends who were going to give up. I would quite like to do something like that i think !

Well quiet day here am going to have early night i think and thank goodness dp coming home tom!

Lucky - have posted on your other thread...

Forgot to say that it might be an idea to introduce an afternoon nap again.

Yes she may battle but it might be easier to deal with than 2/3hrs of screaming/whinging in the afternnon/evening iyswim. DD doesn't have her naps at the same time each day but when she needs them (which does happen at roughly the same time each day iyswim)My rule is 3 yawns and she is down...seems to work for us however I have probably tempted fate now!!!

Simpson - Thanks hun but I've tried afternoon naps and she starts screaming which wakes her up and things get worse from there. I just don't know what to do with her cos I know she's tired but she won't give up and just sleep.

Does she sleep in buggy when out? Ds was always VERY NOSEY and I used to fling a coat or blanket over hood of buggy so he couldn't see anything and he would be out in seconds as he couldn't see anything.

NO she's too nosy - she has to have the seat right up so she can see. The best I get is in the car but can't afford to drive around for an hour a day and as soon as you stop the engine she wakes up.

lucky - poor you i second simpson though, persist with the afternoon naps and she should go down better at night. don't worry about actually eating with her just yet, sit at table with tea as someone else said.
given that she is so vocal you might as well go the controlled screaming crying route. maybe read more about that?

I have found it helps to remind yourself that YOU are the adult and IN CHARGE, and that you are far more stubborn than them

as for tv cabinet, either shrug shoulders and accept certain wear and tear or try something else - maybe take the doors off for now if glass?

lily - playgroup was fine, came home and ds2 slept through lunch (2nd day in a row!), ds1 and i had lunch together and chilled out, then we went to Lidl & Asda, then i had a tantrum cos ds1 was laughing at me when i was cross with him , then he had a tantrum cos i made something other than fish fingers for tea - i had mentioned them earlier but hadn't thought he had heard and changed my mind!
we made up before bedtime though and dh got home in time for bedtime too so all better now

simpson - ready for the weekend??

JKS - We're going away tomorrow for a 2 night away hol and i'm scared to try controlled screaming crying. Will read up on it for when we're home though. If she's gonna scream we might as well let her do it sometimes.

Like tonight, I just left her to it popping in every few mins but felt guilty as I could hear her sobbing just before she fell asleep.

i think part of the trick is to find something/anything that works to calm her, even if only slightly. some people put a hand on their chest/back (depending how they sleep), stroke head, say shush, etc.
this will also come in useful in the future when she's upset.

yes maybe not this weekend, but monday give it a go. plan to do it over a few days to see it work.

don't worry if she won't sleep in car or buggy as this could lead to probs in the future anyway...

She sleeps in the car so I think for the 2 nights we're away I'll let her have her normal sleep in the mornings then maybe take her for a drive in the afternoon..

When we get home i'm getting tough... just gonna go looking for CC techniques.

I'm also gonna use my failsafe of bottle in cot until we get home.

JKS - just given DH instructions of what food to get in for Dcs!! Am hoping to take lap top with me this time so I can still MN!!

Going to baby clinic tomorrow as I chickened out last week HV who have been slagging off/moaning about on MN was FAB when I sobbed on her shoulder re DH Think DD will have 8mth check tomorrow too.

Lucky - you have my sympathy a whingey baby is really tough. DD is MUCH harder work than DS was. Ds has always been able to entertain himself even at 8mths for a short period, DD never can. I have visions of when she can crawl she will be crawling sfter me around the house still whinging, it will drive me mad!!

Lucky. On HV advice I have gotten DS into using a little blankie comforter thing. I was sceptical at first but am now convinced it is helping loads with his self-settling at bedtime and in the night. He used to need me to cuddle him but now he just cuddles the comforter, flips on his side and gets himself off to sleep - it's incredible. As for daytime naps DS still usually has 3 - the first one he will go back in cot easily, the second after lunch we generally go out walking so it's on the move in the puschair. The late afternoon nap helps him get through tea and bedtime otherwise he would get past himself. TBH for this one DH or I usually still have him on my lap for 1/2 hour before his tea. It's not ideal but I always think it's better than him getting over tired.
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