APRIL 2008 - The One Where We Step Away From The Psycho Pill and Try Not To Need Pregnancy Tests!!!

[VictorianSqualor]

Our Babies

07 March: Ashton, a fourth child for gemprincess, 5lb 13oz @ 34+6
09 March: Ted, a second DS for Daftmoo, 7lb 14oz @ 36+0
21 March: George William, a first baby for KnitterintheNW, 7lb 2.5oz @ 37+3
25 March: Olivia, a second baby for TheMaskedPoster, 7lb 2oz @ 38+4
28 March: Pablo, a third baby and first DS for vacaloca, 7lb 14oz @ 39+4
28 March: Matteo Alexander, a first baby for Gangle @ 38+0 (?)
30 March: A baby girl, a second child for PortAndLemon, 8lb 15oz @ 39+5
02 April: Jak, a baby boy for rainbowdays, 9lb @ 39+1
02 April: A baby boy, a second child for bunyanvillas, 6lb 14oz @ 37+5
02April: Struan, a baby boy for Donnabels, 6lbs 15oz
02 April: A baby boy for mummyofaprincess @39 weeks
03 April: A baby girl for PippiCalzelunghe @38+2weeks
03 April: Aeryn Daisy, a baby girl for Denny185, 9lb 8oz @ 39+3
03 April: Benjamin, a baby boy for Micegg, 8lb 3oz @ 39+4
03 April: Roelof Grové, a first DS for SalLikesCoffee, 7lb 5oz @ 38+5
03 April: A baby boy for siikibam, 6lb 8.5oz @39+1wks
04 April: Matilda, a baby girl for AprilsFoolsBaby 7lb @
05 April: Ellis, a baby girl for MadameOvary
06 April: Henry Peter, a baby boy for Sheds, 7lb 130z @ 40+4
07 April: Sebastian George, a fourth DS for Peachy, 8lb 4oz @ 41+1
07 April: Jack, a first baby for ThePFJ, 7lb 5.5oz @ 41+1
07 April: Lexie Bea, a fourth baby for babywhiting, 8lb 1oz @ 39+4
08 April: Alasdair, a second DS for bunnyrabbit, 8lb 5.5oz @ 40+3
08 April: James Samuel, a third baby for honeybee10, 6lb 7oz @ 37+2
09 April: Zara Mia Martin, a first baby for V1KK1M, 7lb 10oz @ 41+0
09 April: Jasmine, a baby gilr for Niceychops
11 April: Kyran for rdk, 7lb 13oz @ 38+3weeks
11 April: Sebastian James, a second baby for Fleecy, 10lb 2oz @ 40+4
11 April: A baby girl, a first baby for CeylonSapphire, 7lb 12oz @ 41+1
11th April: Florence, a baby girl for LouMoose
12 April: Maya Alice, a first baby for egyptianprincess, 8lb 15.5oz @ 40+3
12 April: Sophia Viviana, a second DD for AussieDivaonaBreak, 6lb 12oz @ 39+3
15 April: Alexander Oliver, a third baby for VictorianSqualor, 10lb 3oz @ 41+0
16 April: Ailish, a first baby for Mollyfloss, 6lb 11oz @ 40+3
16 April: A baby girl, a second baby for elfsmummy, 7lb 13oz @ 41+1
16 April: Zoe, a baby girl, a first baby for ToastAddict, 6lb 10oz @ 39+3
16 April: Jasmin, a baby girl, a first baby for Eggandketchup, 9lb 3oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy for paranoidmumy, 8lb 9oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy, a second son for lorisparkle, 7lb 12.5oz @ 41+6
17 April: Benedict, first baby for LadyBee 9 lb 3oz @ 41 +2
18 April: Millie, a baby girl for scorpio1 8lb 9oz @ 41+?
18 April: Cameron, a second baby for munchkinmum @ 39+5
19 April: Oliver Michael, first baby for bashboid, 7 lb 4 oz at 41 +3
20 April: Samuel, a first baby for Velbels. 8lb15oz at 41+1weeks.
20 April: Angharad Mai, 8lb 4oz, 40+6, first for 7monthsplus
20 April: Emilia, 7lb15oz, a first baby for SuzeM, 40+6
20 April: A baby girl for SushiMama
21 April: Eve, a second baby for OMaLittle, 8lb 4oz @ 39+3
21 April: A second DD for Monmoo
22 April: Sam, a second son for Soph73 @ 40+0
22 April: Molly, a first baby for EllieG, 8lb 8oz? @ 40+5
22 April: Daisy, second baby for AttilaTheHan @ 40 +3
22 April: Zoe Olivia, second daughter for Piccallilli2 7lb 1oz @42+1
22 April: A second DD for blinks.
23 April: Jessica Elizabeth, first baby for BabyBratt @ 40+1 7lb 12oz.
24 April: A baby girl, a second daughter for christmaspixie, 9lb 2oz @ 40+6/41+5
24 April: Miya Jade, baby girl for ShelleySare at 39+4
25 April: Amelie, a first baby for Dondons, 9lb, 41+3 (i think!)
25 April: Aisha, a second baby for Jaq39 7lb 14oz @ 41+4
26 April: Hope Olivia, a second dd for northeastmummy, 7lb 11oz at 41 .
26 April: Gabriel, a third child for Bainmarie @ 41+5
26 April: Eli Michael, a baby boy for LittleMissTurquoise, 7lb 15.5oz @ 40+5
27 April: a baby girl for Ayomi, 6lb 1oz @ 41+0
28 April: Jacob Andrew, a 2nd DS for Kaybeeand2boys, 8lb 4oz @ 41+5
29 April: Thomas Henry, a 2nd DS for TLSM, 7lb 8oz 40+3
30 April: Harry Samuel, a fourth ds for Chipmonkey, 9lb 5oz @ 39+2
30 April: Ellie, a baby girl for Annamama
30 April: A second DD for luckymummy74
01 May: Sophie May, a baby grl for Annieroo, 6lb 5oz @ 41+4
01 May: Euan George, a baby boy for Jenniejennie, 8lb @ 40+4
02 May: Robyn Olivia, a baby girl for soph28, 8lb 1oz @ 42+1
05 May: Nora Martina, a first baby for Eva07, 7lb 8oz @ 41+2
05 May: A baby boy for Beeper, 8lb 10oz @ 41+0
05 May: Gabriella Summer, a first baby for MommyHasAHeadache, 8lb 4oz @ 40+6
06 May: Wilf, 8lb 60z for bigbadmom @ 41+6
07 May: James Andrew, a second ds for Moominsmummy, 8lb 13oz @ 41+5
08 May: Ellie Isabella, a first baby for Carey87, 7 lb 8oz @ 42+1
08 May: Robin David, a 2nd baby for Woollymummy, 8lb 11 oz @ 41+3
09 May: 4 kittens for scorpio's cat!
10 May: Astrid Mary, a second dd for sagitta, 8lb 8oz @ 42+0

TBH I'd tell him he is taking the piss, Scorpio.
It's all well and good going to and from to get Z, I mean it's his kid after all, but the training is NOT ok.
If he wants to go off however many times a week to train then you need the equal amount of time alone to pursue something of your own.

Oh, and the phone too.
He needs to give a certain time when the phone will not be used, I rarely spend ages on the phone because it's bloody rude!

Well, at least that sounds promising. It would be great if he could take tomorrow off, as that chunk of time together might give you strength again for the week ahead. He does seem to care, I wonder if he perhaps just doesn't realise that the bits of time left after everything else is done might not be enough. You're not Superwoman (but it is kind of endearing that he clearly thinks you are ).

Z things i can deal with, yes, all fine.

What i cannot deal with is having NO time to myself, and being last all the time. i am fucking 23 years old and not ready to sign up to a life of being last.

I accept the fact he wants to train and has a fight coming up etc but not at the expense of me and the way i feel about our marriage. I have no other RL help.

At least we are going away this weekend coming, and dont get me wrong he is brill when he is here.

I dont even have any milk in the freezer. I have had enough today i just want some help and someone to look after me

oh yes i know he loves me and i love him very much, i really do, he is not mistreating me, just not realising i think. i told him on the phone y'day that i have to eat one handed, didnt have time for a shower and stuff, he said he felt sorry for me.

I hate admitting i cannot cope i feel like such a failure when i do.

Don't feel bad admitting your cannot cope - you're not supposed to do everything on your own. Be brutally honest (tactful is ok, but don't pretend you don't really mind) for both of your sakes, otherwise it won't change.

Thing is, thats it Sal. I do normally just pretend i am ok, coping etc. I rarely tell him that i just cannot do this anymore.

I tend to think, y'know i have a good life - nice house, husband who is faithful (and gorgeous), 3 children, money is always fine, holidays etc...so surely i should 'let' him have a life too as his work provides us with so much? I am so proud of him when he fights as he works so hard for it; i think we will set set days when he will be home all the time after work...Sundays i don't mind that as i like to be lazy!

I don't want to split up or anything, i adore that man, but im not really sure how to get this across properly.

I also find lately that BF means i am tied alot more.

He said the other day he is going to pay for me and a friend to go to the spa all day after holiday; i do think he cares.

Scorio, we're just off the motorway- its over the bridge but not far over, iykwim, so it would be great if we could arrange it wouldn't it? I could meet you at the services and bring you over if he didn't want to drive you (have bridge pass)

Oh he will drive me.

Next be going that way in Oct half term...plenty of time to arrange.

Scorpio, remember that MN is the land of the perfect mother, just coz everyone seems to be coping fantastically doesn't mean they are! Just lok back at my laundry post LOL.... ] and I have a DH who is here 24/7 atm (well not now, carnival day.... I suspect our dh's are equally big on the my 'thing' stuff, just DH's thing is carnival)

I think you're doing great, seriosuly- next week is 'big' week for DH, he'll be out 11am until 3am every day, and I will have no car or anything- you wait and see how much I whinge after just one week of it!

thanks peachy it has been about 10 weeks now, am so thankful for holiday when i will be sick of the sight of him! dc back to school so that will be better....just feel resentful. dh txt me at 1030 to say he had just woken up MIL looked after z

Yes Scorpio, but just because you're greatful for such a good life financially, gorgeous husband etc, doesn't necessarily mean you don't want some more time with him. And you never know, he might like to know you actually need him for support. Sometimes we seem to cope so well that I think men can feel surplus to requirements. He seems to be willing to devote a lot of time to Z because he knows he needs him, so I think that if he knew you really needed him to be there, he might be quite willing. Also, him to have "a life" don't need to exclude you - there might be a way to combine time for his hobbies with time with you, e.g. driving with him as Peachy suggested, going to his fights, more weekends away maybe doing something you both like.

I cannot remember the situation, so please excuse me if completely out of the question, but could you by any chance join him when he visits MIL (and Z)? Would she be willing to look after all the children for a couple of hours so that you could both have a lie-in? Or even if not, it would mean you've got the additional driving time? Or would this be too difficult with 3 children anyway? (First time mom ignorance?)

i think he feels slightly pushed with Z....

he does want to help me i think, i know he loves us all(tells me alot) & misses us; he has said that he cannot wait for hols. Going away together won't happen until i stop BF, but i am going to watch some fights with him next month and watch him fight in October.

have booked a table in v nice restaurant for after holiday, but i am going to chat with him later about feeling like a single parent & make him commit to a timetable i think

he isnt going away any time soon.

no room at mil for all of us, plus tbh i would rather stay here (i dont 'click' with pil at all, they think i have a silver spoon apparently )

its not so much Z visits; more his weekly timetable iyswim. I sort of prefer it when he stays away with Z, as i find it hard being a step-parent.

PIL haven't even met M yet they have only had 19 weeks. (live in Somerset, so not far, car owners & working)

Ah, ok, makes sense. Ok, see how tonight goes. If in doubt about whether or not you're being unreasonable about a request, rather than not ask, I would say "If you think I am unreasonable about this, please say so, but I would like..." That way he knows how you feel, it would be out in the open, and even if it was something that wouldn't happen, the lines of discussion would be open. And he might even agree with you.

And not that I think you would do that (more my kind of thing ), but be sure to compliment him on or acknowledge the things he does do so that he doesn't feel you're attacking him or saying he's useless. (Which he's obviously not, but I think it's quite a normal reaction to start being defensive if you feel you're being critisised.)

I think you're right that the holidays would be great, you're almost there!!! Ooh, and the restaurant sounds lovely, I'm jealous!

We haven't been for a meal out for ages, lol. Reckons he will be home about 9pm tonight.

Thanks all, will let you know tomorrow

restaurant

Haven't been before, Mum & Dad say its nice.

Hmmm, looks lovely!!! I want to go now

it does, doesn't it? Its in a big street of very tall historic houses, lovely. I fancy the scallops and steak! And the cappucino panna cotta...yum. And champers. (this is for dh's bday btw, i dont randomly go out like this!!)

dh has left now

Yum, restaurant looks lovely Scorpio. Me and DH went out on Friday for the first time since DD was born. Was lovely and a bit strange all at once!

Hope you get a break soon. You sound like you cope brilliantly...I really don't know how you guys with more than one DC do it! I find it tough with one

At least yours on way lol- dh due back at 6, phone on leaving- no call. 90 minute drive away. has both older boys there, no jumpers, no food. been out since 8am in a wet field.

A Talk will be had I think

He thinks i am off for not going to meeting tomorrow- it would mean biys git home midnight or later for first day of school on tuesday! Like Hell!