Back again, not sure what that was all about, just gave him a cuddle and he fine!
Thanks for all concern about Nathan He has been to dr and had blood tests at hospital on Friday so hopefully results soonish. His tiredness and grumpiness been going on probably since last term of last year, put it don to work getting a bit harder and more serious in preparation for yr1. It was the fact that it carried on all through summer holidays that made me want to make sure its nothing physical. He actually comes out of school at the moment saying he had a good day and happy but lasts all of about a minute! I think they are still taking it very easy at the moment and easing them back into it slowly. His teacher said he is fine at school. Spoke to his lovely teacher from last year and she said her only concerns were his concentration and energy levels etc but she felt only due to him being so young. I told her that he says he doesn't want to go to school cos he has to learn things and he can't learn it and hes stupid and she said 'but he can!', she thinks hes perfectly capable of doing the work and so do I actually, he is excellent at maths, way ahead of Maia at his age. Am hoping that having the yr R children in his class will boost his confidence and help him see that he can. My worry is that the whole school way of learning ie right, now we are going to sit down and learn this/eat/play/read/write/whatever whether you want to or not is just not right for him. I have always needed to 'handle' him and approach him in a certain way at a certain time, if hes not in the right mood to do something or talk about something then he can't really be forced, he just clams up and shuts down. He can sometimes be persuaded and his mood changed, and obviously some things like bedtime or when we have to go out for example then I make him if I need to but it generally results in big tantrums and anger and he'll say 'I'll just kill myself then' or 'you all hate me' or similar Makes me think that home ed could be perfect for him if I could say ok what do you want to do today and slip learning in unnoticed! I think learning by doing and seeing is much more his way. But then I have maia who is doing brilliantly at school and whos only issues are insecurity with her dad and in our family. So if I home ed Nathan she would feel really left out if she had to go to school all day and I think it could cause all sorts of resentment. But to home ed her and him would be so much more challenging, she s at a much higher level that scares me a bit. Not to mention the fact they would probably either argue non stop or just play around! But for now I think I just have to wait and see how things go.
Sorry this seems to have turned into a massive outpouring Keep meaning to post all this in the home ed section asking for advice but not getting round to it, didnt mean to pour it all out on you! Feels better just for having written it down though.
Right better go bed now I think, night