July 2006 - bring on those tantrums!

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New thread now we're all mums of 2yr olds!

Rhinestone - I got really excited when I saw your name thinking there was some news... ah well, it will happen soon Lol at DS discovering his willy

Bloss - your life sounds so busy but so much fun!! How on earth you get everything done, I have no idea....gives me hope though that in 2 years time, my life will be much easier than it is at the moment!

Impy - I bet you are missing Ry like crazy - I know what I was like being in hospital for 2 days away from Josh. But it will be worth it and enjoy those lie-ins

Life here is ok - Sam is just a dream - only really cries when he is hungry, settles straight away ( is never sick which is fantastic after the trauma we had with Josh!), settles himself to sleep both during the day and night - he does wake up twice during the night but literally feeds for 5-10 minutes and then goes straight back to sleep

Still having problems with Josh though which is casting a shadow over the euphoria of having a new little boy My happy, cheery (if overactive!) little boy has been replaced by a whinging pathetic one!! He just mopes round the house finding tiny reasons to just break down and cry, whinge for half an hour - which always results in him asking to 'go back to bed' as he thinks he will get his dummy then!! Me and DH are actually finding ourselves wishing the weekends away and looking forward to Tuesdays when he is back in nursery - and I feel like such a crap mum thinking like that. He has always been such an easy child to parent, that me and DH are just at a loss as to how to handle him - it is really just the 'patheticness' that is so irritating and hard to handle!

God this is really not a happy post is it? Sorry - am just finding it difficult at the moment

But here are some festive smileys to try and cheer myself up

Sorry to disappoint Ceebee, I'm planning a live labour thread for Christmas Eve .

CB big ugs that does sound so hard. The only advice I can give is to just try and remain as upbeat as possible, try distraction as much as you can, "Oh I wonder how many Christmas trees I will see on this drive to the shops/Gosh look jack Frost HAS been busy, will we see him do you think or has he gone to bed?" etc. The less attention he gets in his whingey annoying pathetic mode the less he might bother with it. Sorry not to be more help.

Life is incredibly busy, I have to be very very organised, but that suits my OCD nature TBH.

Ooh, can't wait to come to your party Bloss. You'll be fine but what are you trying to pitch to the Body Shop?

Ceebee-it will get easier, promise. Some children really do struggle when they find the new baby is actually here to stay. {{hugs}}

Love to all.

HC
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Bloss - you do make me laugh, your life sounds like the definition of hell to me, I HATE being busy So glad the job is working out well, bet you're doing it brilliantly - good luck for tomorrow!

Rhinestone - bless Dom and his twinkling buttocks Well done you for managing potty training on top of everything else, hope there aren't too many accidents. Hope the insomnia gets better - I can recommend Radio 4 and Radio 7 (with headphones if necessary) during the nights to help you get through them.

Ceebee - Sam sounds so lovely, and your FB pics are gorgeous! I was looking at them the other day and Emma came up for a nose - I said 'there's Josh' and she said 'yes, Josh' Was v sweet, as I flicked through them she was going 'ooh, Josh again' and 'baby - having lie-down' aaaaaaw. Sorry to hear about Josh's whinginess, must be v wearing Is he like it all the time, or is it worse when he's tired? I'm sure it will be a phase though, and his sweet sunny soul will be back before you know it.

Impy - wow the plans sound exciting!! Can't wait to see pics! You must be missing Ry like crazy though Try and pack in lots of non-child-friendly activities, and you'll all be back together before you know it.

Spin - blow a bit of that warm air over here! Bloss is right, it's damned freezing

Hi to all - better get off, wine to quaff... xxx

Hi peeps

Hang on in there Rhinestone!! Chuckling at Dom's bottom too!! V impressive toilet training while about to pop...

Knock the Body Shop out, Bloss - you know you will! Is it some kind of fair trade, eco-friendly, made by indigenious Rainforest peeps computer system that you're trying to flog 'em?

Are DP and I the only stingey beeps penny-pinchers not forking out loads for LO at xmas? I've literally spent 5 quid on an Ivor the Engine DVD! I figure a) he gets loads from other people and b) enjoy the lack of understanding while it lasts. I'll probably get him a couple more bits and bobs for King's Day on Jan 6 but really....

Yep CB and Pixel - I'm missing Ry like crazy. Feels like physical pain. I just need to get through this week, then the rest will fly.... Sounds like he's having a whale of a time with his grandparents - it's just me who's suffering!

Sorry about Josh CB - Ry is sometimes like that and it does my head in. Hope you're able to ignore it and just praise the good behaviour... I know it's nearly impossible.

If Bloss and Spin are twins I think Pixel and I are . I'm so not in to being busy either (and the whole low-key wedding thing we have going on too!).

Cripes at Roshi's sticky accident!!! She's crazy that kid! Shame the xmas tree was a no-go. (Not that we have one, since Ry isn't here - I just got a tasteful wooden one from Muji...)

You lot all panicked me with your xmas pressie organisation so I did a load of Internet shopping last night and think I have a handle on it. Got some stuff here in Madrid too - they wrap pressies here for you in the shop - it's fab! Saves on hours of tedium!

Hi to everyone else!

Impy xxx

Thought I would share these:

Halloween

Snow the other weekend

Impy-you are not stingy at all!

HC
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cb - sorry to hear of your problems with josh, im sure he'll settle down and be used to the change soon (((hugs)))

spin - poor roshi, cant believe dh was so calm about his cake decorating jealous of your hot weather even your little bit of rain, v.cold here

bloss - busy, busy, busy as usual, good luck with your presentation

impy - try and enjoy your time, must be so hard when youre missing ryan though. i remember last year when we left charlotte with my mum and dad and went to paris for a week, first time i looked forward to leaving paris, was too long without her, funny when i often think how great it would be just to have a break, never happy i guess

rhinestone - wow, could be any day now then, v.impressed with the potty training, i think i wouldve ignored the signs

everything going well here, charlotte is becoming a right chatterbox, doesnt stop talking. loving the conversations, its great to finally understand her

got my 20week scan on friday, hoping to find out the sex, wondering if charlotte will be more aware whats going on when she sees the baby again, probably not

my mum and dad have invited themselves down for xmas dinner and have asked to stay overnight, we wouldve invited them but they live an hr away so didnt think theyd come, will be lovely having them though but dh does feel pushed out a bit when my mums here so hoping she behaves on xmas day. Have asked them to come at 12pm so we at least have the morning with charlotte.

Better get off to bed, goodnight xx

hc - xpost, yes thats how long i take to post gorgeous pics, they look so alike

Aw HC how gorgeous are those girls! I think they both look a lot like you (minus the witches costumes obviously )

Impy - lol, we must be twinnies re the xmas pressies as well - I have spent a grand total of 20p on a charity shop jigsaw for Emma so far! And that's not even from us - it's for Santa to give her at one of the toddler group xmas parties. I've got to sort out my Amazon order too - have lots of stuff in the shopping basket but not actually ordered any of it yet - best get around to that before the 25th then...

Spin - at Roshi's Evel Keneval (?) antics!! Glad she's okay. Bless Chili, going off to big school soon You must be so proud of him though Re the xmas tree, when I first read your post I thought that Chili and your DH were overcome with emotion and festive spirit - which would obviously have been vastly preferable to the reality, what a bummer!

Annie - how's the hols, hope you're getting in lots of pre-christmas spirit

How was the presentation Bloss?

Not much to report here, got a few toddler group xmas parties to attend (my, the social whirl!!) and have so far miraculously managed to avoid the seasonal bugs (we'll be struck down now I've typed that).

Oh and girls - do you realise this will be the FOURTH Christmas and New Year on this thread if you count the ante-natal one from 2005 I didn't join till June/July 2006 but there are a few who were in there from the start weren't there?

Hi Beadmum - x post with you too

Good luck for Friday, hope you can find out the sex - let us be the first to know now, won't you!

sorry really quick post as off out in a minute.

ceebee hang in there girl - it does get easier and it is just josh wanting attention - we had exactly the same thing with jacob (as well as him being very sicky etc) and sam is just the sam as yours! we really do have little twinnies don't we

nothing else interesting to say except went to the dentist yesterday and the fixed my broken tooth so it at least doesn't hurt, did me another filling that i had been putting off and now turns out i need root canal work.....but i have overcome my fear of going so that's something!

and had another couple of sales for the business so that's ticking along ok!

will reply to everyone else personally later

xxx

Pixel - yep, the original AN thread (started by HC I think...) started in Nov 2005. What a long time ago that seems now.

Potty training is not that impressive - just that Dom seems to be fairly single minded about it. And it's a lot nicer cleaning poo out of a potty than out of a nappy I must say. I put him in a (cloth) nappy for toddler group today and he insisted that I took it off as soon as he'd done a wee - was walking about like John Wayne . Then I didn't have a spare nappy so he had to go commando. He did manage to wee on a potty that he'd foudn in the toilets tho (hurrah). Waiting for it all to go belly-up once the baby is here

Had possibly last AN appt this afternoon. MW said everything is good and ready to go, just waiting game now.

thanks for all good wishes girls. Presentation went ok, thank god, prep would have been overkill as there was only one Body Shop peep there, but as my VP was there too it was just as well I did something!

It's to try and sell them Testing Services for a Loyalty scheme they may or may not deploy using a CRM package. Asleep yet?

We all have the lurgy, my day in London cancelled today thank god as feel like crap. Had a conference call with India and Paris for 1.5 hours at lunchtime which I had to host with no voice which was interesting, nothing like a challenge...

Nursery keep putting T down for his day time sleep with no pull up on, and seem amazed when he wee's all over himself! Couldn't face "Songs around the Christmas Tree" in the cold this evening, although had really intended to go...

DH fuming as H has point blank refused to let him read him his bed time story again tonight. "I never got an fff'ing story, my dad was always in the fff'ing pub, that's it I'm not going to fff'ing bother ANY MORE!!!!" I did try to explain to him that he was reacting as if it was another 38 year old man being horrible to him instead of his 4 year old son who was just pushing the boundaries but that fell on deaf ears. He is in a foul mood tonight....deep joy....

Wrote some Christmas cards today, must finish that. Ironing to do but really can't be arsed. Soup, and bed for me I think.

HC - gorge pix.

Bloss

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hi everyone sorry have been a bit crap and me me me lately - not really myself and trying to get a lot done and not getting too far with it all.....

nothing else much to add except have been organised today and done myself a list of 36 things to do and have already crossed off 10 things since mid day, and had half another dentist appointment and back for the rest this afternoon!

hope everyone all doing ok and you feel better soon bloss

and after my earlier sorry it's been all me me me post.....here comes another

jacob had a play date today with a little girl who he is friends with who is a couple of months younger than him.

we were all at our table and her mum was sitting on a chair. first incident jacob pulled the other girl away from her mum really quite forcefully and she started to yell. jacob is getting pretty strong and we have had a few instances of him pulling sam roughly etc. so he had 2 minutes time out without a warning. at the end i spoke with him and he was sorry etc etc. I also told him in a nice way that we don't act in that way.

less than 10 minutes later the girl was standing next to her mum and jacob was standing behind the little girl. he was trying to get the mum's attention and the little girl was taunting and moving so that wherever jacob moved she was in front of him. so he pushed her very hard, almost into our table. given that it was so soon after the first instance I gave him time out again. at the end of the time out we went through the sorry etc and he was fine. gave the little girl a kiss and a hug and they played together well until the end of the play date.

do you think i was wrong to give him the 2nd time out given she was taunting him? He did push her very hard, and I felt it was right too as he needs to know that he can't just do that. the little girls mum did tell her off for taunting him (she used a different word obviously!).

DH has said i shouldn't have given him the 2nd time out, but i have said i felt it was justified. DH now reckons it's because the girls mother and i are friends, and i have said that if it had been a mum i didn't know i would still have done it as jacob needs to know that he is bigger and stronger and can't act like that.

am now feeling pretty crap about the whole thing and wondering if i am just too strict and authoritarian with jacob?

flick - dont worry about it, you did what you thought was right at the time, thats all you can do. I sometimes think ive been too strict with charlotte but better that than letting her away with everything. Anyway jacob will have forgotton all about it so dont dwell on it

thanks beadmum and spin! i agree that taunting is unnaceptable as well - the other mum is a lot more lenient but we were both happy.

i know what you mean - you do what is right at the time and i don't think jacob was upset to dwell on it at all.

he does need to know from this age what is acceptable or not i think!

Hi Ladies!
I'm BACK!
Lots to catch up on...
We had a nice enough time, no disasters! We were due to fly back the day of the Plane Stupid protests at Stansted, but luckily our flight was one of the few that wasn't affected. Saw one brand new three-week-old baby boy (MY GODSON!) and a three-month-old baby girl. Gorgeous. Did NOT make me broody though, despite what may have been going through your mind HC!
Joey and Mimi had their nativity play at nursery yesterday, it was lovely! Mimi just sat there in her doggy outfit, looking a bit sad, and Joey in his shepherd gear even managed to join in the singing, so it was lovely! At the end, all the parents go up to the stage to take photos and as soon as Mimi saw me she started bawling again!!
She hasn't been sleeping well at all (everyone yaaaawns!), Ireland messed her right up, she was in the bed with me the whole time (while Joey and DH enjoyed the large double bed, we were squished into a single, we had no choice though, as it was pink...), so she hasn't been settling since we got back, though last night DH took over at 3am, so that seemed to work...
Today they have their Christmas party at nursery, so that should be exciting for them.
We put our (fake) tree up on Tuesday when we got back, and they sent letters to Santa yesterday, up the chimney. Now, our chimney is non-functional, so they just stuck them on with plasticine and Santa collected them during the night and left them a chocolate!!
Mimi wants a Pink Chocolate Cake, and Joey has been deliberating between a farm, a jungle and a castle, so he decided on a castle yesterday... Mimi also informed me in the early hours that she also wants a pink fairy and a pink horse. Well it's a bit late now Mimi!

Still lurgied as well, Bloss, I hope yours doesn't last this long - 2 months now. POor ole H and your DH, hopefully just one of those phases

Flick, sounds like you coped really well with the situation. You did the right thing.

Spin, I'm still in awe of you going clubbing! Hope Chili had a lovely birthday, and good fun to be had at the next one.

Beadmum, good luck with the scan today! Lettuce know the sex if you can!! Exciting! (not broody though. NOT!)

HC, what beautiful girls!!

Well I better head. Hello to Tinsel and Impy and everyone else too.

It's the weekend! Yaaay!

Lol Annie Nice to see you back.

We too have just got back from Emma's Christmas Play-it was very good apart from Sophie doing her usual 'My Nappy Hurts' speech in a very, very loud voice. Had to take her out then threaten to leave her in the corridor while I went back in to watch the play. She soon calmed down. Oh, and every child was wearing party clothes apart from Emma who had to wear a pair of curtains. Poor girl had to keep picking her monstrosity outfit up so she didn't trip up.

Big wave!

HC
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Copied and pasted from TTC thread-am I a really bad mother?

Had an incident in the toilets in the shopping precinct though which as made me a tad upset. Needed the loo before we went back to the car so was going to nip quickly but Emma said she needed a poo. Asked if deffo did and she said yes so went all the way through Primark and to the toilets. Of course she didn't want to go so said I was going to take her book just purchased back for lying. She then had her usual screaming fit. Came out to wash my hands and the lady cleaning the sinks asked what I was taking back. I said nothing, it's OK but she was in my face and carried on questioning. By this time there was a huge queue for the toilets so lots of people listening. Felt like everyone was thinking I was a terrible mother but there is no way I would take her book back. Was just a warning threat. Ho hum!

Hope all OK and festive.

HC
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