April 2007 - Yaaaaaaaaaaaawn, sorry, did somebody say something?!

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thought this appropriate given the thread elkie linked to

thanks potc helpful info ds is quite a dinky little man, unlike dd who's huge so he should be ok. i'm goign to take a chance and bid. likelihood is i'll be outbid so will just increase ebayers earnings

lol gm i have had 3 so far for dd and ds, this'll be my 4th when i get one

outbid again, i give up i think i need one that ends on a monday at 11am or something

You can bid on J if you like - I'll happily let you win him

not quite what i'm looking for potc, but thanks

right am off to bed to watch bb and sulk

in the words of d'ream (spelt something like that) 'things can only get better'

aw shucks, another plan foiled

Ah now there is a blast from the past... D:ream... lead singer was a Mr Peter Cunnah I belive

Morning everyone.

Off to a meet up later today so fingers crossed it stays dry. It's been like a bloody monsoon up here, I've even started feeling sorry for the tourists.

I wish I hadn't given up BF now - for the completely shallow reason that I've put weight on since I stopped. Really must do more exercise!

Ah liath - meant to say I didnt get any email re scottish meet-up!

Hope the festival goes well - I though about coming across but its just to much of an epic journey... And I am too lazy!

Hi GM, I think it was a bit of a non starter anyway! It might be easier once the schools are back.

I'm a bit "Bah Humbug" about the festival at the moment!! It's all a PITA when you're trying to get around town with small children.

I think we might head across 2 weeks today - dp is off work as its an english bank holiday, we went last year at the sae time and it wasa little quieter...I remember walking down the Royal Mile bf'ing C as he was starving....

You never know, it might even have stopped raining by then . Feel free to pop in for a cuppa!

Sol ? sick every pregnancy ? but this one the worst ? I didn?t think you could use energy light bulbs with a dimmer switch

Katy ? hope T?s eyes better

Hendsen ? wow on brave going for a HB ? hope you get what you want!! No we are not finding out the sex and yes I think it?s a girl ? not bothered but have a boys name but keep reverting to our other chosen girls name (for dt2) but we used it for Erins middle name

Dippy ? any improvement?

Hi runny

Ellie ? enjoy your London thingy tomorrow & how are J?s bits?

Eddas hows the car?

Hi liath & gm

have had huge pc problems - still not great

went to see midwife on thursday and she wants me to stay off work. She thinks I am heading towards ante natal depression, I'm not, I'm just exhausted. DH working very long hours 7 days a week and dts are running me ragged.

We are all on leave soon so maybe some rest/help. My parents are away on holiday so I have no support, apart from friends who all have their own dcs.

I am seeing the gp tomorrow. I just can't manage everything at the moment and something has to give. I am really enjoying work but know that it is the only thing I can take a break from

I am so stressed today (and yesterday). Feel like my head is about to explode. Don't know why particularly. Maybe it is just the fact of being stuck at home in crap weather with the dc's. Week 4 of summer hols. Feel like I want to scream, on a very short fuse. I just want to sit on my own in a quiet room, no chance of it happening though.

Oooggs, I really hope things settle down for you soon.

POTC, hope J is ok today.

oh dear oooggs you do have loads to deal with especially if dh is working everyday. I'm sure you want to keep working, i know it keeps me sane(ish ) but if the mw and doctor are telling you to stop then you should. Hope things improve when you both have some time off work together

mj, i know that feeling {{{{hugs}}}}} is there any chance of someone having dc for a while? I know last year i was literally teetering on the verge of exploding and ended up calling mil in tears, but she took dc for nearly 3 days for me. I know it's not always possible but don't be affraid to ask if there is someone. I felt like I was failing but sometimes you just need a break. Other than that are there any other mums around that you could ask over for coffee and play? I am finding this year that I have had more playdates and they've kept me a bit more sane.

Well, i'm picking up the car today. Have discovered that my sister still has our cars service book(not selling with history) and manual [rolls eyes] so i'm notsure if they'll be needed but will ask and she can send them direct if need's be.

I'm a little anxious about taking dc with me. I know it sounds silly but you know when you just need to conentrate and dc are wittering/crying and you just want to zip their mouths up It's not their fault but..... oh i hope YSWIM I may still call mil to see if she'll have them for an hour. I just don't want to take the mick since she is doing us a massive favour with allthe washing. erugh. if only she was my mum i wouldn't have the issue, i'd just ring, but you know what it's like asking people favours all the time

I should just ring shouldn't I? she willjsut say no if she can't

sorry lack of adult company means mn gets to hear all my q's

Thanks eddas I have calmed down a bit now. I am lucky that my parents are really good for helping me out, but they are away and not back until tonight. I seem to get a couple of days like this and then I will be ok again, probably hormonal

I would ring your MIL, for an hour I am sure she won't mind. I know what you mean about the dc's twittering at you continually. I have just been to the local shop, literally needed three things as my tesco order is coming tomorrow, but I came out of there really stressed as ds kept on and on about wanting things! Aaaarrrrgggghhhhhh.

glad YKWIM mj, sometimes i feel like i'm being pathetic not wanting to take them, but it really is a pita sometime. as you say a 'quick' trip to Tesco can leave you wanting to cry, well it can me i have to say if i only need a couple of things there's a Tesco metro near me attached to a petrol station so I pop there so I can leave dc in the car

i'm glad you have some help around. Maybe they'd have dc towards the end of the week for a few hours?

Still haven't decided if I should call mil dd being lovely this morning we are going to build a camp in her room later mind you i'm not sure they'll be time since i'm collecting the car at 3 and we haven't had lunch and ds is asleep i'm sure we'll fit it in. maybe we could do one that she can sleep under tonight

Hi everyone

Can I ask you all something please? I would like you to give me your honest response as I wonder if I am just being a vile person.

I don't know whether any of you will remember, but around the time of ds's birthday dh fell out with his mum over the fact that she and his sister didn't turn up to ds's party. This was at the beginning of May.
MIL said she wanted nothing more to do with us and told dh to "f*king piss off" and SIL was sending abusive texts which ended with "f*k you all". Nice. I have to say that I hope I never speak to my children in that way, but that's beside the point.

Anyway, a couple of weeks ago SIL's 9 year old phoned to ask if ds could go to her party. No mention of F being invited. She called again a week later, asking the same thing and dh told her we would ask ds. I was annoyed that SIL hadn't bothered to pick up the phone herself and speak to me or dh. He didn't go anyway as I was in work and he would have been with my dad for the day.

Dh received a text a couple of days ago from SIL asking if she could have ds over for the day on Wednesday. He hasn't replied to it yet.

If you have read this far then thanks. Can you just tell me if I am being unfair to not want to take him over there to see them. We have had no contact whatsoever from MIL since May, and the only contact from SIL was via her dd and that one text message.
I feel really angry at the attitude we got from both MIL and SIL in May. There has been no other contact since then, and now I think they expect us to just forget it all happened and take the children to see them. They don't drive so it would be us making the effort to go there too, they would never think of getting on a bus to come and see us.

Should I go? I don't want to, but am wondering whether I am being unfair on the dc's. Part of me doesn't want to go as I don't really like them as people anyway, and the thought of making small talk over a cup of tea does not fill me with joy. I would rather stick pins in my eyes tbh. Dh doesn't want to take the children there either, but is it time to bury the hatchet? Please give me your honest thoughts.

Wow, that was long and garbled.

Hi SPB

MJ - quick read of your post and with the caveat that i really dont have a clue about things - here is my response. i suppose the key thing for me is - do you want to see them and what are the reasons for that? if it is that yr dcs will know their cousins - coudl you maybe compromise by taking SIL's DD out without having to endure the whole false niceness? i can totally understand that you dont want yr dcs to suffer but if you are having these doubts maybe it is too soon to go back to playing happy families. if they (MIL /SIL) still have not apologised for their carry on in may - then maybe that has to be addressed first before you head over for tea and small talk. i am usually not one for carrying grudges but after a couple of episodes with my elder brother of late - i do think that whilst the "life's too short" attitude can be helpful at times - there is also something to be said for situations to be properly resolved. does dp want no contact from them at this stage? woudl they be the kind of people that you could sit down and have a civilised talk with about how you felt in may and still continue to feel??

Well I went out this morning to go to the bank.... came backn with 2 kittens

Thanks Wo, good to see you, when do you start your job?
MIL is the sort of person to hold a grudge forever. She is still bitter over her husband (dh's dad) leaving her 30 years ago. They are not the sort of people to sit down and talk tbh. The truth is that I am not particularly bothered about seeing them at all, but ds loves his cousins and enjoys their company. Dd won't even know them now as she hasn't seen any of them for months.
I would not be going there for my own sake, it is purely that I feel I may be being unfair to the dc's iykwim.

I'd tell her tk poke it MJ......... If she cant be bothered to even be civilised to you then is she really the sort of person you want ds around? You could have your neice over if you felt it would benifit your ds?

mj, i'd let dh deal with it. they are his family. I can see that you would want dc to see their cousins, i would too, but I would only deal with issues from my side of the family.

My dh's family have a history of falling out. MIl hasn't spoken to her father in years. My SIL(not blood relative of dh) hasn't spoken to her dad for nealy 2 years.

I think it depends on the history, but i certainly wouldn't want ot fall out with my family, but then they wouldn't tell me to f*@: off! My dad has fallen out with my nan mind you (my mums mum) but then that was inevitable when dad met someone else

Families eh!