April 2008 - the one where Scorpio and Millie show us all the 'through the night' trick

[Scampmum]

Sorry if someone else has already started one - couldn't find it!

Much better night last night, maybe due to gripe water?

ok i will tell dh its a choice out of top one and stokke

I had a wax last weekend. Was great, left kids with DH and walked up to Crystal Palace (still no weight loss, grr). I was nice and DD1 was asleep, though. There was a picture on the wall entitled 'For Better Or Worse' which I thought was quite appropriate!

omg £700 for a nursery wardrobe?????

I would never spend that n a cot- mine tend to trampoline on ours, its been repaired so many times- and it dd DH and BIL too LOL

i had a mothercare £50 one for first 2....it was wrecked, lol.

cot

ooh i like that. sadly ikea about 250 miles away.

(Peachy does convincing impression of financial puritan sadly not backed up by fact of her bank statement and that after 10 weeks in newborn clothes Bas still has outfits he's never worn.....)

thry deliver scorpio.

is there not one in exter now (not exactly close I know)? it used to be bristol when we were in somerset surely tere's another by now?

i dont know, i just thought bristol. Exeter still too much, i see you can get delivery though.

I have that white ikea cot.
It's fab!
I've taken the side off and it's now a bedside cot.
I love it.

I'm so stupid! Kept wondering why no-one is posting on the April thread - even considered that all babies might have one similtanious protest and all of us struggling with no sleep and therefore too shattered / under loads of dirty nappies at the same time... Thick doesn't even begin to describe it. Desperate, but I'm blaming sleep depr (not really true). Glad to have found you all again, and was nice catching up with 3 pages full of postings.

Scorpio, I absolutely love the Stokke cot. Sadly couldn't persuade DH in the end, but at least got the buggy I wanted, so not all was lost.

Scampmum, can't remember, when are you getting your mat nurse again? I'm dying to know how it is.

I've just hung up on DP.
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH.
Last night, was just as bad as the night before, except I didn't get up and marinade chicken.
So, understandably I'm shattered.
Anyway he calls em every day, to moan about work, I know eh hates it and I know how desperate he is to get his final confirmed letter for the force so he can hand his notice in.
BUT every goddamn day he calls and whinges at me, I listen, offer support and then he says 'G2G' before I get a chance to offload anything on him. Thanks!
So today ehg called, I was in a twoel, ahving used the few minutes alex decded to sleep for to get a bath, I had toast cooking for my lunch, trying to make a sandwich for DS1 and could hear DS2 upstairs starting to moan for his lunch too.
Hoovering needs doing as dS1 has spilt crisps everywhere and my hair is wet.
I have to go to get DD at 2pm.
So he calls up, whinges at me for about ten minutes, about the fact that eh ash told his boss he is leaving, he told his boss, because rather than keep his mouth shut he told everyone in his office and word got round about him leaving.
But still I say, 'yeah, I know, poor you, awww' type crap, eventually saying 'At least tomorrow is friday,' in reply to his 'I just want to chill out and have a couple of beers and not have to come to this shithole in the morning'.
He replies some more whinging about 'fridays just means such and such deadline for me'

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

stfu

STFU

STFU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I got shrity and told him I was busy, had things to do and could he go whinge at someone else

He does this every day and I get about 30 seconds of
'how are you'
'I'm ok, a bit tired, but cool' -note no whinging!!!
'How's the boys'
"DS1 has been a rascal, DS2 not slept much but they're fine' - still no whinging!!!
the straight back ont his work rcap.
I wouldn't mind but it's the same crap every goddamn day!!! It's not ever a new problem, ro something different, he doesn't even give me a bit of variety by using different words.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
I love him to bits but my Gosh he's pissed me off today

goodness me.

i hate it when dh comes home 'oh im tired' bollocks

OH ARE YOU REALLY? YES YOU GOT YOUR BOOBS OUT AT STUPID OCLOCK, HAD A 3 YR OLD FOR COMPANY ALL DAY. OH POOR FRIGGING YOU

fuckers.

Yes, I was stressed writing that post

I posted it practically word for word in The Sanctuary as well

sorry you had another shit might VS - hope it sorts itself tonight.

I was sitting on the river bank again at 4.45am....
really hope this sorts itself out soon, because I am just too tired to 'enjoy' A - which everyone keeps on telling me to do

NIGHT not might

is this river bank near your house??

Do you think you are a bit down? Or just tired?

Peachy - Are any of your dsses dyspraxic? I'm finding it a bit hard to cope with te twitchiness iyswim at the moment.

What can i do to help it, if anything? its all the time, at the wii, anything. Big hand flapping etc.

sorry to hear of the dyspraxia, scorpio.

Yes, river's about three foot from my bedroom! Don't worry, I've not gone mad!

Oh good had visions of you running in the night in a nightie for miles

hand flapping is a stim- usually a response to change or stress, ds's both do it, ds1 mopst (dyslexia has been raised but it crosses with asd anyway so I just think its the AS iyswim). Time outs (called a safe space so they know its a break not a ppunishment), visual prompts such as timetables.... probably a response to new baby / general (if youre like us) accompanying disorganisation?

You can try minimising gluten in his diet (easy enough, swap pasta for potato etc) see if that helps at all, likewise limit salycylates (tomastoes, raisins, citrus, apples etc)

Best trick though is to introduce an alternative behaviour- ds1 likes to make lists instead, ds3 hums, could be sending him outside to walk round the tree umpteen times- or just ask him to do it out of sight

He has always done it, ever since a baby if something excites him - telly, a toy car crashing in to the wall, etc.

I do tell him to put his hands down or to keep still.

and lol at disorganisedness - no thats not me. and its not the baby either, he has always done it. It is just irritating me me alot at the moment, it seems to be getting worse.

I do have another SENCO appt so maybe she will give me some stuff he can do? I dont feel i can ask him to leave the room because he doesnt even know he is doing it.

I feel awful now.

dont feel awful, you should see me at times...

you say he doesnt know he's doing it? i can te reasoning there but do you think it might be better if he did and then learned to manage it? vtes are out as opinions differ, but i think that if Sam is going to function in society then its best he learns to control obv. markers iyswim? flaping, screechiong, running around in shops on all fours yelling googly.....

i have a feeling the last one is just him lol

it really might be worth thinking about bibic at some point you know, might help a lot

Aw bless you scorpio.
I've asked quite a few people about dyspraxia and it seems DD's messiness/clumsiness/inability to concentrate/general lack of motor skills and poor ability in physical games etc is probably more than just 'left-handedness' as I had hoped, but I've been putting off mentioning it at school as much as possible.

I personally agree with Peachy that it would probably be better to make them realise so you can help them work it iyswim.

We've taken to giving DD lists of things to tick off and only ever telling her one thing at a time to try and help with her concentration, maybe getting him to realise he is flapping his hands and find something else to do would help?