April 2007 - antenatal advice needed as well as postnatal now!!!!!!!!!

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crap I know but couldn't think of anything witty

I didn't tell anyone else until this week, when I told Dippy/SOL/GM because I had the ability to chat to them off thread and they asked the right questions.

Nicky (his wife) is still reading Mumsnet. She knows I am posting this, I asked her if it was ok before I started, that's why I didn't explain earlier.

Oh no - how awful for you Don't know what else to say. Will it make you all feisty if I offer a ?

Last Thursday we were alone in the office for the first time since he left and got the chance to talk about things. Since then D has started to change the way he is with me and gone back to wanting more from me.

She's had real life hugs from me NL and she didn't get feisty!

He's said he's really not happy back at home. Has spent all this week talking about coming back to me. I've been talking it through with my friends and had agreed with him that yes, we could try again, if he does it properly this time.

But what do you want?

x posted - ok that sounds like a plan

I love him. That hasn't changed. I could see myself being happy with him.

But he's not been talking to Nicky. She called me tonight. Something I posted on another thread earlier today made her ask him whether he'd been emailing me. He admitted he had. Then he clammed up. So she called me and asked me to tell her the truth. I told her most of what I know. Now I've left them to sort it out.

What's going on with N? Does she know how he's feeling?

I'm confused, and wibbly, and feeling sick. I don't know what I want anymore.

He's doing what he did at the weekend Ange, gone silent

x posts that answers my question!

He really is very mixed up at the moment.

Oh crikey - I see why tonight has been rough. I'm sorry but I have to go to bed now but I'll be back tomorrow - hope things work out POTC. Take care of yourself.

Helpful!

Night NL

helpful indeed
night NL, daft thing is, he's the first person that has ever made me want to do hugs

Until he sorts his head out it's going to be hard POTC. I think he needs some time alone to work out what he really wants, without being torn.

I've said that I will take his things there tomorrow. I can't do this to myself. Taking a step back now.

Sorry that sounded harsh I didn't mean it to. You know I'm here for you. I think you're right to take a step back at least for the time being.

Where are you?

it wasn't harsh Ange, and I'd already said that he should live elsewhere for a while rather than come straight back here, and he'd been thinking that too.

At home. why?

And on the phone to Pesha, saying yes in appropriate places
(although I haven't spoken for the last 5 mins )