October '04 babies - anyone fancy a kip?!!

[beansprout]

I certainly do. Bean is becoming more and more unsettled in the night as the weeks go by and it is taking its toll. Florence, you have my utmost admiration for still being alive, let alone managing a trip to NZ!! Hope its going well.

Bean is 3 months tomorrow, and people are already asking me if I am going to start weaning him soon? I would like to keep bf until he is 6 months, but how do I know if he needs to start sooner? Or will I know that is a stupid question when I have a permanently hungry baby on my hands?!!
What is everyone else planning to do?

Btw, am reading a marvellous, marvellous book called "What Mothers Do (especially when it looks like nothing)" by Naomi Stadlen. It talks about what a shock it all is, what we provide for a our babies and crucially, what I find missing from so many other books, how we actually feel - exhausted, sometimes angry towards db, unsure of ourselves etc etc. It does not tell me what I "should" be doing - hurrah!!! Cannot recommend it highly enough. Is doing me the world of good and we like that.

[beansprout]

Oh yes, hand chomping..... and dribbling.....

[biglips]

mine is fascinated by colourful books as i think its important to show them books and also loves yellow CBeebies - esp Tellytubbies (i cant stand them) as they are all colourful

[biglips]

and also drippling over your hand and arm and leg?! (its when im typing on here i put DD between my legs, crossed them like a man's way, and she sit facing the pc and sucked on my leg)

[biglips]

baba is going bananas as she had been blowing raspberries (bubbles) all day long (she is copying me!) and she even did it to my work boss today coz i took baba to work with me today to see everyone - im on maternity leave at the mo.

[KathH]

could've done with your baby blowing raspberries at my boss today - he rang to tell me how much work i've got to do when i go back!

[biglips]

Kath - ... but my company had been made redundant by next month when my maternity leave finished so i was quite happy letting my baba blowing raspberries at my boss coz i could imagine me doing it to my boss

[biglips]

but its not my boss's fault as hes just the manager

[KathH]

i had to make do with sticking 2 fingers up at the phone!

[beansprout]

When are you going back to work Kath? Hope it's not too bad.

Exhausted here as Bean continues to feed like the original hungry hippo. Have declared him to be on a growth spurt so I can at least tell myself it will be over shortly.
Apparently this is supposed to be a clingy period too. Have several hours of needy Bean followed by a moment when he lays his head on my shoulder which makes it all worth while. I'm a slave to my biological mummy setting, dammit!

[KathH]

3 weeks - although only (?) going back 3 days a week. I know baby will be fine tho - older kids have been at childminders for 8 1/2 yrs and she's brill so at least dont have that worry.

[Bellie]

Bean - mummy setting high here too.....dd was getting far too big for her moses basket and last night we took the plunge and put her in her own room in her cot. Even though we had the baby monitor on I still cried myself to sleep as I couldnt see her sleeping anymore

[beansprout]

Oh Bellie - you'll have me crying too! I am secretly not wanting ds to move into his own room yet either. Fortunately (?) that is not likely as although dsd has not stayed here since July and has said that she won't anymore, she won't sort out any of her stuff, so we can't move ds in any case. Mind you, he does snore - anyone else have this?

KathH - I'm hoping to go down to 3 days a week too. We have at least found the nursery that ds will go to. Can't fault it, it's fab, so that's a bit of a relief. Leaving him will be a bit harder I suspect.

Hope everyone else is ok

[geogteach]

Hope you are all ok, bit quiet round here. Sitting here wondering whether to take DS out in the snow to get cosytoes for his buggy, he'll freeze if I go but later in the week we'll have to go out and he'll freeze because I didn't go!
Physio has been this morning she is going to refer DS as he still doesn't move his thumbs More hospital appointments! He still hates going out which is getting me down, the car seat and buggy cause major screaming fits, i've made a few hasty exits on recent outings, people look at you like you are deliberately hurting him.

[Bellie]

Can you just wrap ds in lots of blankets to brave the snow to get the cosytoes?? It must be hard having the screaming everytime you go out - not sure what you could do though to improve the situation.
Sorry to hear about the hospital appointments - I am sure that it will improve soon.

[cazzybabs]

i am going back to work in aweek and a half . i am really dreading going back. I am still bf dd2 and am finding expressing really hard this time. Last time with dd1 I was getting 6-7ox a time, this morning I got 1oz. AND I am worried my school are trying to make me reduntant in a round about way

[Bellie]

cazzybabs - poor you on all fronts - especially about your job being made redundant? How do you know that this is what they are trying to do?? It may be worth checking your situiation with ACAS??

[huppa]

Well we had a great time in England catching up with family and friends.
Ds did his perfect baby impression everytime we visited anyone and would then scream hysterically for at least half an hour as soon as we got back in the car. Unfortunately ds and dd are both ill yet again, so not much sleep here for the last couple of nights.

Cazzybabs - sorry you´re feeling down. Hope things improve soon.

Hope everyone else is o.k.

[biglips]

geog - mine always - guaranteed - screams when i put her coat on to go out!.... ive started weaning first time today with baby rice (for the baba of course )as MW came this morning and gave me booklets of weaning and also recipes for baba too - i was excited all day today coz i went out to buy baby rice and baba took 2 teaspoons of it and decided she didnt wants anymore and fell asleep (exhausting for her!) - hope she be ok tmrw

[cazzybabs]

Biglips - where you bf? If so you wait for the chnage in the poo - its a downward slope to yuckness!!!!

Babyrice - I remeber the stuff - bizaree didn't seem to fit any chemistry law I knew. You heated it up it solidifed sometimes, other times you heated up it went runny.....ahhh all to look forward to in a few weeks

[biglips]

no wasnt BF, but ive got a huge hungry baba as she drinks 6 oz average of 9 bottles per day so DP and i thinks its the best time to start weaning

[Allyco]

hi ladies. I haven't been posting for a while:

a. went back to work people were surprised after I had been so ill and it came back to me through the grapevine that some peole thought i had died!!! Well if I had they didn't even send their sympathies to DH. What a bunch of tossers.

b. got loads of conflicting info about weaning. DD was premature if you remember and very weeny (she's 25 weeks now and only weighs just under 13lbs, although she's perfect). Some people said wean when she is six months, others said wean when she would have been six months if she'd been born at term. HV up in arms at weaning yet. Me thought oh bollocks do what I think best so we started and she loves it (the lovely BF nappies are gone forever though. Any BFers will know what I mean).

c. only problem is her sleep or lack of same. I so do want her to have a routine but although I moan I secretly like BFing in the night as it means we can be close. Does anyone understand that?

d. sex life crap. Done it about three times although worth waiting for. Does anyone understand that too?

[KathH]

wow 3 times! i think we've managed it twice!

[KathH]

meant to say started ds on some pureed veg on Monday - now that does make "interesting" nappies!

[beansprout]

Geogteach - sorry to hear about ds's thumbs. Hope he can get some help with that (with a minimal number of hospital visits too).
Huppa - glad you had a good trip.
Allyco - it's amazing what people are happy to gossip about but not actually show any compassion for. Sorry some of your colleagues are a bit cr*p on that front. Really glad that both you and dd are well.
Cazzybabs - that sounds a bit worrying. Is there anything you can do? I'm sure it is the last thing you need.

Not looking forward to the changes in nappies but Bean was born at the other end of the month and want to b/f for 6 months, so won't be for a little while yet. A bit worrying to think that nappies can smell worse (assumes crash brace position).

Off to see Ocean's Twelve today at a mum and baby screening. Bit of a close call as to who will be dribbing the most - mums or babies...

[biglips]

beansprout -

allyco - about the weaning, ive started yesterday and the MW went by abit by the age of the baba but more of the weight of the baba as she is a 18 pounder !! so gonna have another go in a minute (getting all excited already)...

im knackered as the last 2 nights she been waking me up about 10 times in the middle of the night for a feed (which is a rare thing to do waking me up so my body sort of in a sleep shock) and last night i fed her 8oz, put her down and 5 mins later she woke up crying so i picked her up and she felt asleep in my arms so in the end i left her to cry and she went off to sleep (GGGRRRR!!!) (i always give her a big bottle before we go to bed)

im not going back to work coz its not worth me going back when we gets all these benefits from inland revenue and my DP is on a low wage. Last night DP said to me "Ever since i told you that you dont need to go back to work, you've been moody" - supposed hes right as im made up but part of me does wants to go back to work (if you know what i mean? or am i strange?)