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March08 mums- tummy and teething troubles!

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fitnfortyone · 06/06/2008 08:59

new thread for Merry...

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4madboys · 21/08/2008 14:33

hello all

been trying to read back but havent been around for a while.

sorry to hear about the RA (((merry)))

right my life, well my PND hit an alltime low and i was actually hospitalised for a week my head was not in a good place, it was VERY scary. things are now improving slowly, the mental health team have been visiting me at home and i am getting help with the boys from home start and social services, just an extra pair of hands, so someone to watch or play with the boys whilst i try and do some housework... etc

have medication for the depressiong and anxiety and also some stuff to help me sleep when necessary.

dp had almost three weeks compassionate leave from work, tho he is back at work now.

its not easy at all i am really struggling on a daily basis but i am surviving, i know it will be along haul but i will get well again, i just have to take it slowly and the psychiatrist keeps reminding me to be patient, not one of my strong points.

ds4 is still a star, huge wearing 9-12mth clothes he is now just 5mths, havent started weaning him yet as he doesnt seem hungry, still sleeps through and only had 4 8oz bottles each day he weighs 20+ lbs tho, he is rolling around all over the place and goes backwards, so have to make sure the elder three keep their lego out of his way now

and as for weight loss, well being in hospital meant i lost about half a stone, the food was so bad and i dont have much of an appetite at the moment and i am trying to go swimming a couple of times a week, need to lose another half a stone and tone up a bit, but i am a size 12 at the mo, they are lose but a ten is a bit too tight, most annoying but i will get there, trying not to stress about it too much....

lovely to hear all about how well the babies are doing and the exciting stories of weaning, as ds4 isnt interested i will hang on until 6mths but i have bought some little tubs and ice cube trays etc in preparation, going to do a combination of mushy stuff and blw i think

maybelaterdarling · 21/08/2008 15:18

Sorry to hear all of that 4madboys. It sounds like you are getting a lot of support, and I hope that you make steady progress.

I know full well that housework should take a back seat in preference to the children. But although I really am not obsessively housepround by any stretch of the imagination, I struggle to relax when I know some jobs need doing. I'm also struggling with dd2's horrendous tantrums, and tiredness for me is a killer. I don't have patience at the best of times.

We have a whopper too. ds is 5 months and now in 9 to 12 month babygros, but only 18 lb, so long and skinny. A pure joy of a baby mind you.

Merry, feel for you. Exercise (or just a walk in the fresh air) is such a mood enhancer. I hope your appointment is soon and that things pick up quick smart afterwards.

So following my nosey request earlier in the week it seems that for the vast majority of us we still have a little way to go in terms of weight loss and getting back to our pre-baby shapes, and that Monthly Mayhem is clearly exhibiting freaky weight loss behaviour (that I for one really don't need to hear about ).

maybelaterdarling · 21/08/2008 15:19

By the way, that was meant to be more of a pretend angry face. I'm really just jealous but too lazy/greedy to do anything about it rather than moan.

Ewe · 21/08/2008 17:19

4madboys, so sorry to hear you've been struggling, well done for getting help and it sounds like you're getting things under control. I think you're amazing having four children, I struggle enough with one! Have an uncharacteristic MASSIVE from me

I'm off on hols again tomorrow, to Devon this time and then off to Ibiza with the girls which was a present for my birthday from my Mum and she is paying for us to go with her to Devon for the week, love her SO much!

If the London ladies were planning a meet up I would love to come if you happen to do it first week in September before I am back at work - know it was mentioned earlier in the thread. See you all in a week or so!

e14mum · 21/08/2008 17:27

hey 4mb- so nice to see you back.

DD is wanting less milk this week than usual- 4x7oz that go unfinished and dream feed is 2-3oz(going to try to drop it this week). Still, she's almost 17lb and would win the gold medal for largest cheeks in the baby olympics!

Didn't post about weight earlier, I still have abot a stone to lose and it's all belly- I hate it! let's all grrrr together.

JFly · 21/08/2008 19:45

Turtle, I've commented on your thread.

Also, for everyone's reading pleasure, I wanted to recount a recent convo with my DH.

DH: Can you please unbutton my shirts before you wash them?
Me: Are you serious? Why?
DH: If you're going to do the laundry, then do it properly.
Me: OK, then you can wash them yourself.
DH: OK, then you go back to work. I'm not going to pay for you to stay at home and do nothing.

It's not always like that, but I can so sympathise with your situation.

fitnfortyone · 21/08/2008 22:17

Turtle and Jfly, your DH's are throwbacks to the dark ages.

Out of curiosity, what difference does it make having shirts unbuttoned in the wash? Surely it makes it more efficient when drying afterwards? Not that I bother too much with this sort of thing since my DH wears tshirts mainly.

Gutted that I can't justify an AIBU post after reading that lot!

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e14mum · 22/08/2008 09:03

JFly, why doesn't he unbutton them when he takes them off? Problem solved!

JFly · 22/08/2008 09:35

Well, yes, I did suggest that to him. I have no idea why he needs his buttons undone. I was so shocked after the convo I didn't pursue it further.

I guess the point was that I wasn't doing it "properly" and therefore needed to be told. DH is definitely of the 1950s mold. You should see his father!! DH's mum died last year, so I don't even have her support. DH's brother is better and does help out with his kids, but still, the buck stops with Momma in this family.

So much for the modern man! I must say, though, I did know what I was getting myself into. But I guess I thought that some things, like bath time, would be "fun" and that he'd want to do them. Um, no.

littleducks · 22/08/2008 10:53

JFly its ok, as your little one gets older he will be more demanding of NEEDING Daddy on occassions and your dh wont be able to escape!

Merry- sorry to hear you are having such a tough time, hope you feel better soon

I just popped onto the thread to inform you all I am raising a genius, last night we got home late so i was quickly putting dcs to bed, a few minutes after putting ds in the cot he pressed the button and turned on his mobile himself! Then after ten minutes turned it off and went to sleep!

Has anyone been signing with their babies?

monthlymayhem · 22/08/2008 13:02

sorry maybelater, but you did ask, and it's the one thing that has gone smoothly for me

merry and 4madboys - sorry to hear you're both having tough times, hope you're getting lots of support and hugs.

As for DH, mine is generally very good at helping out, however really struggles with LO when he cries. DH can handle it for 5 mins tops and then really loses patience. Luckily, LO isn't as bad these days with screamy fits but at the beginning DH was a bit of a nightmare as I felt I couldn't leave LO with him for too long.

Can I ask how everyone elses LOs sleep during the day. Mine wakes up at about 7am, needs to go down for a sleep again around 08.30 until 10.15ish and then wants to sleep again by 12pm. So, he gets really tired after being up for more than 90 mins and I had kind of expected that he would want to be awake for longer periods during the day by now? Or does this sound fairly typical for a 5mo?

turtle23 · 22/08/2008 13:55

Time for a new thread, ladies. We're getting too big again. here

e14mum · 22/08/2008 14:10

mm- my dd can just about do 2 hours of awake time- but it's about 90min sometimes. Sounds about right to me. They need lots of sleep!

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