January 08 shiny new - year babies , night night sleep tight - yeah right !!

[lilyloo]

Thought as there were no objections and we were at 950 i would get us all a new thread

Well today has been pretty boring. My washing machine broke last week (my bra ripped and the wire tore the plastic bit) so we had to go to the laundrette today cos DP didn't buy a new plastic bit and cost £9 for 3 loads. Then we went to the skip cos this fortnightly pickup is just not working.

Had a nap and DP has now gone out with his mates for the night. Which is kinda sad but on the upside he's agreed that I can go to eastbourne with DD to see my friends which has been an argument for a while.

Simpson - I love that quote. We don't do dreamfeeds here DD goes from around 9 - 4ish I give her a bottle then and I can normally get her to go till 8 then. I tried ignoring her a 4 in the hope she'd go back to sleep but NO lol.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Filly - its funny what they say isn't it!! Lol devon/Heaven!

Gingeme - hope you get more sleep tonight and Lo and DS4 better soon.

JKS - think I am going the BLW route too

Lilyloo - sorry to here your Lo not great sleeper.

Nicky - my DD wakes at 4.00am also but she will have been asleep since 6.30pm so is starving. She will go straight down after till about 8 ish but my DH sometimes does not get in from work till 11pm so if I want to see him not much sleep!!

Mixed Mama - glad you have made decision re job. I find things like that V difficult am v indecisive!!

Lucky - poor you re washing machine. Glad you get to go away though!!

Hi everyone,

Just checking into see how you are all doing. First time in what seems like weeks I have had a happy, content baby with little itching...maybe it's the change in weather - but got lots of lovely smiles, laughs and something which sounded like 'ever' much to DD1 delight.

As a result went Pizza Hut (nothing fancy - but it's near by) today and was very annoyed when I ordered a Vegetarian Pizza to find a piece of chicken in it..

Amani - Did you complain. I would have!!
Glad to hear LO is getting less annoyed

yes I did, they knocked off the price of the pizza from the bill. must say I AM NOT IMPRESSED....about a year ago we found a slice of ham on a Vegetarian Pizza that we ordered...

That's terrible. That's why I don't go to Pizza Hut. They put jalepeno's on my pizza and all I asked for was pineapple and sweetcorn (burnt my mouth)

Hi, can't believe it's been a week since I've been on - crappy router for the PC lost it's settings again so no internet since Thurs - felt like I was adrift!

Have read all the posts but losing track of who-said-what etc, so will post my news then carch up over the next few days.

Amelie is rolling over both ways now so will need eyes in the back of my head - no sneaking off to make a coffee while she's lying quietly on the mat!

She's done some more modelling for Babies R Us - though they thought she'd be able to sit, which was interesting - two assistants propping her up so they could get the shot - hope they are able to use it! Hottest day of the year and she was in a flippin' snowsuit - still, they were v good and didn't dress her till last minute, and had lots of fans going.

I went for the Mirena coil last week so am hoping to have no/light periods - whoopee! Have no idea when periods due to restart as still bf, so that's the only downside - I just need to always be prepared! Anyone else here going for that? (Obviously not Bluebell - I hope you are, but rather you than me!!)

Have bought fab espresso machine with money from my birthday (erm, plus a bit...) so have been on a bit of a caffeine high - have now bought some decaff beans so I should come down soon (as should Amelie...)

Still not sleeping through - 3am is her big I-need-milk time but I'm kind of used to it now. She's been waking more last couple of days - think tooth number 3 will be putting an appearance in soon...

Phew, off to clear kitchen as have a lot of housework to do tomorrow so will get a head start. (Think I'm becoming nocturnal - I should be in bed now as will be up in just over 3 hours but I never learn)

Nighty night!

morning all
things going from bad to worse here , think the hol has knocked her routine completely !
She went down at 7 woke at 7.45 / 10 / 11/ 1/ 3 and up at 7 i really hope this is a tooth coming

Can't believe you got meat in a veggie pizza would def fire of a strong letter to head office!

Lucky what a mare i couldn't cope withouht washer it's on at least 3 times a day!

we had our first swimming lesson today brilliant fun not even a cry from charlie really enoyed it. although am now worn out

Hugs to Lilylo - had a bad night too last night, DD2 kept waking every hour - think it's the teething but also the eczema aswell and the only way we got her to sleep was to put her in the car seat, where she slept for 6 hours solid. Am not keen on putting her in the car seat for that long, but as I was soooo tired just gave in.....

Where is this tooth???....better be coming soon...

Argh Ben will NOT go to sleep! I've been trying for nearly an hour and a half to get him to have a 30 minute nap. I've tried feeding him to sleep, rocking him to sleep, leaving him to cry and nothing is working. He's been awake for 4 hours now and if he leaves it any later it will completely cock up his bedtime routine. He keeps on going to sleep, then waking up when I put him in his cot, or 2 minutes after I leave him. He's not hungry or dirty, he is teething, but I've done all I can for him (powders, gel etc). I'd let him sleep in my arms, but I have a filthy cold and every time I've blown my nose he's woken up again screaming.

He's been screaming for 5 minutes now, better go and let him know I haven't forgotten him.

So frustrating.

Sorry to hear LOs are not sleeping very well. DD was fab last night (sorry!!) went down at 6.30pm woke for feed at 5.00am then slept on till 8.

BUT we have paid the price today though. Have been out most of day as DH got day off and I don't think DD slept all day really apart from 3 20 min cat naps so cue massive melt down in park!! The annoying thing is that she is fine in her cot so if we had been at home she would have been ok. Oh well (sigh!!)

Lucky, when are you going on your trip?

Sorry folks you caught my moment of frustration there! I didn't get him to sleep in the end, so he had to make do with 3 x 2 minute naps. We're still having serious issues with daytime sleep - he absolutely hates to go to sleep during the day. Previously when I eventually got him to sleep he would sleep for about an hour, however now he's cut that down to 30 minutes. He's also started to get very difficult to go to sleep at bedtime as well. My last resort of the pushchair is also letting me down - before he would have gone to sleep within about 10 minutes of going in his pushchair and slept until we got home - now though it takes him up to 40 minutes to go to sleep, and he only sleeps for about 20 minutes if we're lucky, and anything will wake him up (bumpy cobbles, lorry going past, people stopping to admire him (!)). I'm getting to the end of my tether with it I have to admit. I'm just grateful that at night time once he gets to sleep, he stays asleep otherwise I would have had a nervous breakdown by now!!

Hopefully he'll get better once he can crawl - I know I say this every time I post, but he really is so close! He shuffles himself backwards at speed (the more excited he is, the faster he shuffles!), can swivel on his tummy great, and can "stand" on all fours for ten to fifteen seconds at a time. I'm just waiting for him to take that first step!

DH working late tonight, but that's probably just as well as the house is a tip, and I need a break before tackling that before he gets home!

Now if I can just stop my nose running....

Hah...Naetha, think you've got the same cold as me and dd and ds...(dh has escaped as always!)...unless you've got hayfever? I've got both....!

Tamara managed to stay awake from 4pm until I put her to bed 2 mins ago...no naps, no nothing - she was in bed from 6pm for 45 mins but was simply not interested in going to sleep, despite having been out and about and really active this afternoon - I thought we were in for the bedtime from hell, especially as Friday nights are always late in our house (we do Sabbath stuff with both kids before bedtime) but amazingly she stayed charming right the way through...

We just got the Bumbo out of the attic today and Tamara absolutely loved it - and she also loves the inflatable ring which she sits in with a couple of toys and chats away. Its funny getting ds' stuff out again, but in a nice way. Anyway, I bought baby rice today and am sort of thinking about starting with it tomorrow as she'll be either 20 or 21 weeks on Monday (aaarghhh...!!! Poor poor 2nd child, I've lost count already!!! Anyone else got one from 29th Jan? Simpson and Ange - that's you guys isn't it?? How many weeks are we now?? Help!!!)

OK, off to have a nice quiet dinner with dh once he finishes putting ds to bed...hope you all have nice evenings and a good nights sleep xxx

PS Nicky - are we still on for 24th?

filly - think its 20 weeks!! Could be wrong though!! I know what you mean about getting all the old toys out to be used again. DS had a learn & groove activity station which they sit in with loads of noisy toys around them. We got it out last week. Certainly brought back memories!!DD a bit small for it as she keeps sliding forward and you can barely see her head over the toys but she loves it!!

I bought baby rice today as well but am going to wait a bit ( just like to be prepared!!) as DD was struggling to digest SMA gold so think she's not ready yet. I weaned DS at 21 weeks though so we shall see.

A boring night ahead as DH watching footie!!

Fillybuster - I'm jealous of your quite dinner with DH! Ee so need to find a babysitter! Even if it's just to go for a walk! We haven't had a night out together in almost 6 months!

It probably explains why we're having a few relationship issues at the moment. He's grumpy because I don't put out enough, and I'm grumpy because he doesn't help around the house as much as I'd like. The last couple of weeks I've tried to make more of an effort to be intimate and overly thankful of going out to work and providing for us, but this hasn't resulted in any more help for me around the house. He does all the cooking, for which I'm very grateful, but to be honest half the time I'd rather do it myself as I'd make so much less mess! If I want him to do anything else (e.g. put the bins out, change the cat litter, load the dishwasher, hang the washing out) I have to ask him so many times it gets to the point of nagging, and then he does a half arsed job! (his idea of hanging the washing out is to empty the basket of wet washing over the airer and spread it out). His reply to this is always "if you want it done your way, do it yourself" which is frustrating to say the least!

Sorry I hate to bitch so much, but he really is driving me mad at the moment! Does anyone have any suggestions for getting a bit more out of him? I've tried talking to him about it, but he always accuses me of starting arguments - I feel like I'm going in circles sometimes! Is it worth sitting down and dividing the chores do you think? The problem we'd have with that though, is that he thinks I should do practically everything - usually accompanied by the phrase "but you're at home all day", or "you're better at it than I am"; sometimes it finishes with "well you knew who I was when you married me, if you don't like it, get another husband". God forbid if I mention that I went to the park with some of my post natal friends - he thinks I'm on a permanent holiday as it is.

Ah well, he'll be back soon so I'd better do some tidying!

Oh Naetha - I've got one of those too. I'm out at work all night and you're in here what more do you want? "well I would like it that if you insist on cooking food for yourself you only use 1 plate and then put it in the dishwasher instead of me walking in 10 mins later and finding a bombsite where I just cleaned!!

I don't know what to suggest other than giving him specific tasks to do each week.

DP has to put out the bins, clean up any catsick and bring the washing down on a wednesday. The rest of the time if I ask him to do something he has the right to say no. (Unless its about DD)

Can't remember who asked but i'm going away on the 13th July and I'm SOOOOO excited.

Naetha - sorry X - posted!!

Sorry you feel DH not pulling his weight. I have had the same issues with my DH. Things have improved a lot over the last 3 weeks or so. Had honest chat with him about how I was feeling him taking me for granted,me doing everything around house, with kids etc. (Had a few tears, he hates it when I cry!!) He in turn said he thought that whenever i spoke to him it was to ask him to do chore etc, no asking how his day was etc or giving him any affection (don't mean sex, just hugs!) Also have made effort to watch DVD/eat together etc if we don't get chance to get out.

Sorry don't know if this is helpful at all but just to let you know that you are not alone!!

My DH doesn't see cat-sick, or dead mice/birds for that matter

I wonder if there's any "husband management" courses out there?

No DP doesn't see them but if I point them out he knows he has to sort them out.

He, however, doesn't smell filthy trays (cos it makes him sick if he has to clean them out) and sometimes doesn't hear DD crying. lol

sorry to hear about non-weight-pulling-dh's, i'm lucky that mine is fab but..only when he's here and he's away a lot

lucky - so glad you are getting to go away
(ps i do catsick in this house !)

naetha - it is true what they say about making time for each other, baby can take over somewhat.

filly - think you must be coming up to 20 weeks, ds2 is 21st jan and i'm (almost) sure he was 20wks on monday def second child here too! hope you have a lovely dinner

ds2 loves his bumbo (tho that was a while ago have leant it out and need to get it back) and his magic roundabout/activity station - it's an old one tho and i really fancy getting a new flashy one!

gingeme - hope all is calm with you & your boys.

mixedm - good idea to start nursery later. have you asked the nursery if you have a shorter day? might be cheaper? ours don't mind if you pick them up early but still chagre for the full day - tho i guess if you walked in at nap time they might not like it?

sorry to hear about all non sleepers. ds2 is def sleeping a lot less during the day used to be either me time or ds1 time.
did put him in cot and left him to it this morning, he cried for about 5mins then dropped off to sleep. need to do that more often i think.

ah the weekend, fab
off to try and see a fire engine tomorrow afternoon for ds1
and nothing at all planned for father's day - tho we did have fun making 3 cards yesterday, lot of glue and pictures cut out from magazines, ds1's fave was lawnmowers!!

hi all and welcome simpson! No personals because I am soo tired - don't think even the first weeks were this bad. Fighting awful cold, and Tana's body closk has gone all wonky and she's started waking up HUNGRY every 3 hours at night, and not sleeping properly in the day Feel truly wrecked.
Good news though - had an interview on Tuesday for my old boss' job at work and got the job! Yay! (must tell you guys about the funny baby episode to do with that)

This will pass, this will pass, this will pass. Tired, ill and weepy

Lucky - This evening I PRETENDED that I didn't realise DS had done a poo as DH was going to bath him about 10 mins later!!

I wish I could do that but DP so infrequently changes DD that i'd be worried she'd be in it for hours.
I tried it once but could only sit for 1/2 with the smell. How he didn't notice it I don't know.

Well done Fragolina!

Sorry for all the colds, sniffles and unhelpful dhs/dps. Mine is not always helpful, but then feels bad, beats himself up about it and gets depressed, does not help either. And I am too quick to do things myself. One thing that p*sses me off though is that he often agrees to do a 'raid' in this Internet game he plays with a group of others so he asks for an early dinner (or to be honest cooks it)then start this raid at 7, so I am left to bath and feed Nathan (well that bit I have to do anyhow ), then wash and tidy up as he is still making noise behind the screen and 'cannot' interrupt it to help me as the others are counting on him. He says it is the same as football training, a social thing, which I agree with. But how many wives with kids does he think let their dhs out to football four evenings a week?

Oh well end of rant. He is a sweetie really and just did two days of washing up all by himself as he was home late from college and Nathan was screaming for bath and feed.

Naetha, sounds like you desperately need to teach him to go into bed or at least to sleep without being held/rocked/walked. We did it with Nathan and it was easier than I thought. He likes to sleep in my arms during the day but I started putting him down on the sofa just before he was asleep. At first he cried, now he blinks, meeps a few times then goes to sleep.

Removal boxes arrived today. Packing time, it will be tuesday before we know it.

JKS was it you who asked? It is not the house I liked most, but it is a good house. Large lounge and dining room (which is compulsory in a minister's home!), four double bedrooms, more build in storage than I have use for, good kitchen and a double garage . ONly six years old. Objectively it is a great house, just not very cosy, but we will make it our own, at least for the 3.5 years we will live there

Sorry for mammoth post.

Night all