August 2007- The one where we miss our plonkable babies! They're licking the pram wheels as we type...

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

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Tasha

I think you are one of life 'mothers' you love to have lots of children around you.

In 30 years time you we be one these wonderful Foster/mum who have helped hundreds of children.

awww lizzie thats made my night, thanks

Hi All

we have had some slightly better sleep here. LL is fully bottle f now, so feeling a little more free.

Tasha- good on you for thinking about fostering, you are very ambitious and caring. I have thought about it a bit too, but probably later when dc's are older.

LOL at all your sex life stories, I can relate. Can't see much happening here, we are both a bit stressed, although had a raunchy dream last night (which didn't quite involve dh) he is not in the good books at the moment so i'm sure that's why.

I'm actually sitting up here avoiding FIl' and BIL and SIL, we found out a little secret about how much money FIl has lent BIL $100k and apparently we can't borrow any money (not that we asked!!!!) because it's all gone. I feel like we are the second class family. I guess I think you should be fair to all your children.Not segregate who can have something and who can't, also Not all his money is gone though, that's a bit of a big lie. Dh doesn't care at all which is good i suppose, but recently we have been really generous to BIl paid for half a weekend away to visit us, pay the tax on the job dh gave SIL, so she could have some income, even though it could be our income.
Also they just said they were coming over with take away and we just paid for all of it, so i'm up here not even having dinner with them.

long rant sorry just ignore it, i'm [shocked] by it all.

UKI

Sorry to hear about DH family, i think you need to have word about proritising (sp) about how you spend/save your money. BIL & SIL are adults and they should be standing on their own feet. If they want to came and visit they should pay for it. Or get them to pay for you to visit them.

Lizzie- you are so right, that's our point, BIl should becoming less of a sponge not more of a sponge....ALTHOUGH
quick development, dh spoke to his brother and father... hoooray at least they now know, and no more secrets and lies (for now)

Oh UKI sorry about the family issue. That's a hell of a lot of money to be lending out to just one side of the family.

Like you say, I know you didn't ask but it seems a bit unfair. Maybe they just know that you and your family are independant and able to look after yourselves.

I would be a tad miffed to say the least, especially after the take away incident! Very rude!

My dad is a bit like this with my brother. He is always lending him money and bought him his first car but not me or my sister.

He also paid his car insurance for ages and still pays his AA membership every year. He forked out loads of money while my brother was at uni.

When I was at uni, I got nothing!

He handed over a cheque for £800 not so long ago, which I wouldn't mind but my brother is on £50,000 a year . More then my dh and my sister put together!

The only reason my brother struggles financially is cos he lives far too extravagantly.

He has a huge detached house on the river side and a Jaguar and an MG parked in his driveway.

If he cut back a bit he'd be fine but he's always been greedy and had dillusions of gradure, which my dad helps him to indulge in!

Anyway, my rant over! I don't really mind how much he has, I know everything we have, we have worked for and noone else can take the credit for it.

Anyway, managed to get Joshua to sleep without being fed or rocked this past 4 nights and he has gone back to sleeping through again.

He ctually adapted to it very easily (so far!) and have had no tears at all. I sort of did the baby whisperer's idea of staying with him but not holding him.

Just stod at the side of his cot. The first couple of nights he kept standing up and pointing at things!

I had to keep laying him down gently and just ignore him 'talking' to me.

The third night, he didn't even try to stand up, he just laid there and dozed off.

Tonight he was asleep within seconds of me putting him down so I am hoping it continues!

James, how is ds taking to his cows milk? I keep thinking of swapping Joshua over soon but dh went shopping on Friday and

came in with 3 more tins of Farleys so I'll use those up first, which will probably take us upto his birthday anyway.

Tasha, I think the fostering would be a great idea. You sound like a fabulous person with lots to offer.

Anyway, I have rambled a bit so I'm gonna go!

Christ, that was long! Sorry, it didn't seem that long til I posted it!

hi havent been on for a while although have been reading posts - always seem to log on when i'm feeding ds so cant always type.

tasha - have you had your meeting? i fancy it too but probably not till i'm sure i've had all my children. hope it goes/has gone well.

violet - we are trying the same of not picking up etc and its a long process but sometimes seems to be paying off.

ds just seems so hungry all the time. he's never been a huge eater although grows fine so seems to put what he takes in to good use, but the last few weeks he cant get enough food and i think its not helping him sleep - took him downstairs after a very unsettled 2 hrs at 6am, and he gobbled down a bowl of porridge.

have been thinking about child number 2. We had had it in our heads that July/August would be when we started ttc again, and I do want to, but I feel like I havent put in much effort. Last time I got myself fit etc, and I did run a marathon in April, but since then havent done all that much running. I feel like I want to make some effort rather than just running after ds, but maybe the second time round it cant help but be different, and you should try to hard to do the same as for dc1?

sorry bit of a ramble.

oh meant to say - uki- am impressed with the way you handle your bil - i hate things like that with money - can make people so bitter and its so good that you can just shrug it off and however annoying it is, not let it make you cross.

my brother has his own pharmacy and our and sil's family gave him money to set it up - he's working hard at it, but he is making lots of money too and some of them say he doesnt have to pay them back, but my sister and I dont get those handouts. i wouldnt mind, cause i am very happy with life, but sil does tend to go on and on about how they dont ahve enough money and cant go on this holiday etc etc etc and i just sit there thinking, if i had half the handouts you've had, i would be shutting up right now.

Conkertree

i would have a bloody big whole in my tongue where i would be biting it .

I have come to the conclussion (sp) people idea of being hard up if very different to mine. SIL & BIL were complaining last year that they had no money (6 weekend breaks and 3 week holidays without their children and a 3 week holiday with children) then they went and bought a hottub for their garden. My idea od being hardup is having no money for food and bills.

Oh FGS 'hole' not Whole. Must proof read even in a hurry .

Hi guys, hope everyone's doing ok, I just read through the thread and forgot everything I was going to say

Having a bit of a shit month week day, decided by precisely 9.47am this morning that I no longer want to be a parent and I'd really rather go back to being a student, since lo has:

-pulled the safety lock off the oven so the door will now fall freely and heavily onto him.
-figured out how to open the fridge as the fridge lock is shit.
-yanked the cupboard door under the sink so hard the lock came off and I know have to move everything to a safer location.
-pulled himself up using the toilet seat twice in half an hour, then throw a wobbler when I wash his hands.
-had three tantrums already because I've moved him away from the toilet/oven/fridge, and at one point I snapped "this isn't my idea of fun either so shurrup!"

To top it all, my period is over a week late, you remember me saying a month ago I had to wait to do a pg test? well I've waited, and done 4 tests over the past couple of weeks, all negative. Feel like a bit of a prat but I can't shake off this feeling that I might be because I've been so tired and snappy recently. Doing a test at the doctors on wednesday on his recommendation, along with a diabetes blood test as I keep getting thrush and both pregnancy and being diabetic can cause it. Fun fun fun .

Oh Jmes, so sorry ou are feeling down. If it's any consolation, I think most parents wish thet could go back to their old lives,

even if it's just for a split second. I know I have! Especially in the early days of non stop screaming baby who wouldn't be put down!

Don't feel guilty. It is so hard being a mummy and we all find it difficult at different stages.

For me, I have very few happy memories of the first 6 months . Joshua cried most of the time unless I walked around with him!

Only when he learned to sit up did I finally get a break.

Joshua also does the tantrumming thing. He is also obsessed with pulling up on the toilet too!

He won't let me go to the loo without him but then the second I flush and go to the sink, he pulls up and tries to grab the water from the toilet! Yuk!

He does this annoying strained, forced grunty screamy thing when I move him away and wash his hands.

He also does it if I take something off him or he sees something he wants that I move out of his reach.

I think he'll need anger management as a toddler, he gets so angry!!!

You're doing a great job james. I don't even have a fridge/freezer lock!

When I'm cooking, I often let ds rummage around in the freezer or the tupperware cupboard to keep him away from the cooker .

As for the pg test, I think all the first bit of the conversation happened before I joined the thread so I'm not sure of the background.

I think if you have done tests then I would doubt you are pregnant. Are you normally regular? How would you feel if you were pregnant?

I hope you get the outcome you want.

Anyway, hope you are feeling happier today. xxxxx

Thanks VS, I'm not feeling so bad now dp is home, I was just feeling really lonely cos my friend has a new fulltime job, the playgroup we were going to occasionally will be closed for the school holidays, there was utterly no-one on msn, and my sister was out so couldn't call her for a natter.

So when J decided to start ripping all the safety features off, rendering the kitchen out of bounds, it meant we were confined to our tiny front room, and then he just bounces off the walls and becomes really unbearable. We're off out today to get some things to fix it all and safety proof the house again anyway so not to worry.

J sounds really similar to Joshua with the straining noises. Well- he used to do that, now it usually a piercing shriek, like a whistle being blown in your ear, little sod. He's currently in his highchair and having finished his toast he is making himself retch over and over to get my attention better go. x

Oh, forgot to say about the pg thing: well, I posted on here that we'd done the deed on around may 31st, and period was due a few days later. People told me it wouldn't make any difference if THAT period turned up, it would only be if the next one was late or not, and that I couldn't (reliably) test for about a month. Anyway that period did turn up on about june 3rd, but this months AF hasn't turned up yet and it's the 12th so just over a week late.

James glad your better. I haven't been on much this week as i have a week of sick and sh*t (sorry if tmi).

Lizzie had a stomach bug friday,sat,sunday took her to the doctor monday it finally went so she was back at preschool thursday. Then yesterday Lexie has come down with it. But unlike Lizzie she doesn't understand why she can not have any milk/food just water and plain toast.

I am so fed up with washing bedding, i am so glad we have an open staircase otherwise i would never have got it dry this week. Now today i don't feel well i don't know whether i am coming down with it or it just because i am due on tommorrow or monday.

I hope you have a nice day out today james.

Sorry to hear your girls are poorly, lizzie. I have to admire those of you with two or more, it must be terribly hard when they're all ill at once, particularly if you get it yourself! Hope you don't, that's all you need by the sounds of things. Is your dh around to help with it all today?

Hi ya
violet -glad o hear about the better sleep to hear about your brother too, i actually think it is rare to hear of not having a sponge in the family,there is one in most families i know, but some have it more severe, a jaguar and a what did you say

actually i don't think i was humble about the issue`at all, as it was me that made dh talk about it, anyway apparently BIL is paying some intrest on loan, ra, ra we can borrow money if we want ra, ra, (we don't) BUT i guess BIL may think a bit more about it.

Conker- your brother should be thankful of your help, i hope you at least get a discount on you pharmacy needs
re= trying for no.2 how exciting, i think fitness is important, but also nutrition more than anything ,especially if you are still or just stoped bf, i think your body needs to build up a bit= lots of folate, calcium, iron, etc. THAT's what i'm working on for TTC no.....3. i guess they say it takes your body a year to recover, and i imagine that's part of it.
I have lost all my weight, but i too, need to also do a bit of heart rate exercice,
ideally i would like to wait longer, but with history of m/c and pre eclampsia my problems only increase with age.

james- it's hard when they are in to everything, have you got a playpen, they can be a lifesaver.

lizzie- yucko, hope the bugs are gone, and you are baCK to less washing, wouldn't none be good.

James

Unfortunley dh has had to go into work today (even when he is on permant callout). But i can not complain he has been brillant this week dealing with most of the sick (lucky they have been sick mainly at night) as i am sick phobic. I can deal with everything else but that.

Glad you are feeling better James. I know some days Joshua is just into everything and most days I can deal with it

but often when dh has been working a lot and I've been on my own with endless tantrums then it gets hard.

I think the difference is that he seems so much happier than he used to. It is just a relief that he is not screwing up his colicky little body and screaming .

I wonder how the hell we ever got through it so although I can see Joshua can be very high maintanance and a little highly strung, he is happy and not in pain anymore.

Which is obviously a massive relief!

Anyway, the pg thing sounds like it could be adding to your stress aswell. I really hope you find out at the doctors and at least put your mind at rest.

Lizzie, sorry your girls have been poorly. i really hope you don't get ill with it. It must be hard looking after 2 kiddies and feeling crap too .

Uki, pleased you got your family talking about it.

My sister and me were dicussing how different my brother had it to us and although we don't want money,

it pees us off that our brother got it and we weren't even offered!

Anyway, dh just arrived with a KFC for a suprise tea , off to enjoy it!

Just got my period. This is the last time I'm going through all this waiting and wondering business!! going to ask about getting a coil fitted on wednesday, since tasha's been brave and got one fitted.

Sorry I've been a bit selfish and not responded to everyone, I've been batting some shitty pmt. I'll have a proper catch up tomorrow, but hope you're all doing ok anyway & fingers crossed your girls are feeling better Lizzie. Thanks for the support violet, it's nice having you on the thread. Goodnight all.

Good news James, really pleased things have worked out how you wanted them to. (Apart from the shitty pmt, obviously!!)

Lizzie, hope your 2 little girls are feeling better and that you didn't catch the dreaded lurgy.

Looking forward to Joshua's birthday! Not sorted anything for the party yet though.

Although we have only invited close family for a small picnic in the garden so just hoping for some nice weather

so we can get the paddling pool out for Josh to entertain him a bit! 3 weeks to go so plenty of time to organise things.

Hope you are all having a good weekend.

James i glad your period has arrived, i know how horrible it not to have a reg cycle and how ill it can make you feel. Your braver then me i we have decided that dh is going to get the snip (when he sorts it out).

Lizzie is better and dh has taken her to his sister for a bbq this afternoon. Lexie getting better I think by tomorrow she will be over it. Unfortunely i have it, i hoping that it will be gone by tomorrow.

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