August 2007- The one where we miss our plonkable babies! They're licking the pram wheels as we type...

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

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Blimey Tasha, your dp isn't called David is he?? Just wondered if my dh was having an affair cos this sounds exactly like him!

All day, I'm stuck in the house with a very difficult whingey baby. I look forward to dh coming home from the second he leaves the door.

Then when he comes home (afteer ds is in bed), he has very little to say. He is tired, I know but we tend to bicker cos I'm desperate for concersation!

Being a stay at home mum is the ardest thing in the world and I only have one dc ( and plan to keep it that way!)

It's so deflaiting to look forward to someone coming home every day and to be disappointed every time.

It's unfair that he is undoing all your positive parenting. It must be such hard work and you're going fantastically well.

I'd want to lock dh out too if he came home and started getting stroppy with ds.

Hope it works out soon, maybe you just need to get it all off your chest and try and calmly tell him why his behaviour is NOT helping the boys.

Anyway, wishing you well!

lol violet smile. he appologised again last night and said he was just fed up. i dont no how to get him unfed up because to me everything, apart from him, is the way it should be. he does work a lot. were going out for a drink tonight so that should be em.... interesting lol weve only been out together without kids in the 3 years weve been going out hmmm 4 or 5 times last time we went out for a meal we felt awkward and like 2 strangers on a first date.

here has nobody heard from tokentotty??? hope your ok?

lo has started crawling onto the fire place going to have to get fire gaurd, its a fake fire but he pulls the grate down.

i gave him mushed banana yesterday and he loved it.

my friend has started buying xmas presants

better go tidy up before the babysitter gets here, their like gold dust aren't they?

Tasha both me and my mum have started looking for christmas presents already and will have them all done a wrapped by the of Oct i know but i don't do busy shops. I also get all of Lizzie birthday presents (end Jan) as well.

I have decided that nurses are saints. I don't nursing well. Lizzie is not well not sure what is wrong with her (no temp, running around like a loon then she is sick for no reason) I think that it is a mixture of tireness, heat and not eating and drinking properly. I am fed up with dealing with it and DH is at the grand prix. touch wood she is better today, she is eating and drinking better so i am hoping she doesn't get sick until (If atall) until dh get home because i can't deal with sick.

Sorry to moan but then noones around away so i just talk to myself as per normal .

Hi girls, hope everyone's ok. Sorry to hear Lizzie wasn't so well, how was she today lizziemun, any more sick?

Tasha, sorry your dp is being an arse, they all have their moments don't they? Dp and I aren't doing so well right now either, his temper has been getting in the way of any communication I have with him recently. He snaps and shouts at the slightest thing, or the mildest criticism. I find myself biting my tongue so often that the resentment has built up, so much that we haven't had sex in perhaps 5 or 6 weeks, I just cannot get in the mood, because the air is never clear.

It's like you have a choice: nag and scold and suffer their wrath, or keep schtum for the sake of a quiet life, but they get worse, you get bitter. Lather, rinse, repeat, eh?

Just got back from South Wales for the third week running, life should get back to normal now thank god! How's everyone doing? Knickers, TT, how are the bumps? goodnight x

She was okish during the day ete very little and slept alot (not like her). But was sick twice in the night(Which was good because i can not deal with people being sick without being sick myself. I knew DH had his uses ). I will have to take her to the doctors this morning so dh is either going into work late or work from home today to help.

Sorry your dp is being bit off (is it part of his greiving for his sister). Sex what that i think we have only managed it about 5 times and Lexie is 10mths today [blush}

Oh pleased I'm not the only one who isn't in the mood for sex! Will have to let my dh see this thread so he won't think it's just me whose like this! Since Joshua was born I think we have only had sex about 8 times. We can easily go a month and it never even enters my head to do it or want it . I'm just so tired and I can think of a million things I'd rather do when ds is in bed! Things like having a cup of tea and watching coronation street and just being ME for once instead of mummy!

Another one nodding her head in agreement with everything James and violet said about her DP and sex. My Dh has been insuferable. I'm sure he thinks that after being out of the house at work for 12 hours a day and then preparing dinner and playing with Caitlin, I should just fall upon his body when she goes to bed or has a nap. I've just about got the energy to crawl to the sofa and want to do nothing more than sit with my feet up and watch something cheesey. Apparantly though that is not what he thinks I should do, so we've had a couple of weeks where nothing i've done is right and he is constantly snapping at the slightest thing and there's always a row brewing just under the surface, basically because he hasn't had sex in a few weeks. men....why do we put up with them - deep down they are all like small boys.

Caitlin is doing well, and after nothing to report last week we have lots to report now. She's crawling now and is trying desperatly to stand up by herself. She's also clapping and waving when you say bye bye. Couple of new words have crept into her limited vocabulary as well. I've been saying to her 'say night night to Daddy' and she waves and says 'nigh nigh dada' which his very cute. She also waves and says 'bye' when she leaves her childminder.

For 1st birthday ideas, we have asked grandparents for a baby swing for the garden as she loves the one at the park and a small sandpit as she loved playing on the beach so much. We've just got her a paddling pool and a bubble machine from ELC.

We're off to my Mum's in Spain for 5 days on Wednesday. She says it's scorching hot (38 degrees) and getting hotter each day. Not sure what to pup her in. Tricky combination of wanting her to keep cool but not wanting her to burn. Will probably slap factor 50 all over her and put her in a vest and a nappy and keep her in the shade and a UV suit for when we're in my Mum's pool or at the beach.

Phew, that was a lot of writing for a Monday morning!

Hope she's better soon, lizzie.

Well we were back to normal with our sexlife but it suddenly took a nosedive and I can't think how to sort it all out. Sorry, TMI but you get to a certain point where foreplay is reduced to him saying "fancy it?" So yeah, I really can't be bothered, I'd rather catch up on my sleep tbh! The not-so-subtle hints he's dropping don't help either (why do they have to waggle their bits at you after a shower, too? I could have been eating, ffs)

We finally have another stairgate! the door within the gate type, it's fantastic, no more accompanied wee's, I can make a coffee without him glued to my legs or trying to crawl into the fridge... brilliant!

xposts hersetta. Wow, "night night, daddy" is a sentence! I'm so impressed. James still isn't saying anything of any meaning, it's just bababa, googoogoo, gaga, mumumum (but doesn't know what it means, doesn't direct it at me) Have a great time in Spain, perhaps you can get her something light and lineny off the local markets there?

James - last week my DH looked down at his groin, looked up at me and then raised his eyebrows a couple of times!! FFS, does he really think that's sexy and will instantly get me in the mood??????

James, ooh your suggestion has prompted me to go and have a look for a couple of short sleeved and shot legs romper suits - I had loads when she was a baby which she never wore once as the weather was co crappy - will have to go and try to find a couple before Wednesday.

lol god you are all talkking about my dp! he would stand with it out and say 'look' id know exactly what hes trying to show me and ignore him, but hed go on and on until i reluctantly look then hed stand with a cheesy smile [shakes head]

we ended up going out having one drink and coming home. so had a bot of wine with the babysitter lol

lo fell off the bed thismorning poor wee man cried for ages, think it was more the fright though.

lizzie-hope the wee woman gets better soon.

hersetta- thats really good on your dds speach! i cant believe the babies are overtaking my ds2

Hersetta

Lexie lives in this or this.

She seems to have picked up a bug when at school on friday, so i hope it clear in the next 24/48hrs so diorights (not sure of the sp) which should help.

Lizzie,

I saw those when i browsed the M&S website this morning but they only go up to 12 months and Caitlin is so tall already that we really need a 12-18 month size, so I popped into next at lunchtime and picked up two rompers and they only charged me for one - result!!

Afternoon all. My weekend wasn't as bad as I expected without dh being there. In fact it was probably less stressful than usual. Mum and dad came round yesterday and I made dinner for my dad's birthday.

Works is really busy at the moment which is good I suppose because I can't believe where the time has gone. Home time soon!

I'm another one who is normally too tired for sex. The sex part doesn't bother me but if I'm not in the mood for foreplay dh doesn't want to do anything really. I don't know how you lot get away with once a month or less - Every Friday dh asks me if we're going to do it. If I'm too tired I get asked on Saturday and likewise on Sunday. Even if I'm really tired on Friday sometimes I just do it to stop him nagging. I normally insist if we're going to do it then we have to be in bed by 9pm especially considering the last time I just couldn't keep my eyes open and nothing dh did had any effect. I'd much rather catch up on some sleep or lay on the sofa watching tv.

Hope you have a nice holiday Hersetta. Just reading '38 degrees' is making me sweat - that sounds just unbearable. Ds has a long body too and we'll probably be buying 18-24 months vests this autumn as he was already in 12-18 months vests (with not much room to spare) in the spring. That's a good idea about the baby swing. I've really been struggling for ideas.

Hope lizzie is better soon.

Hersetta

Thats good. Do you have a Matalan near you i got some nice ones inc a disney one for between £5 and £7 each.

Oh Gill, I get asked every other night but I just say I'm tired! I must admit I di feel guilty sometimes but dh's not exactly great at getting me in the mood.

His idea of foreplay is to say 'are we 'avin' it tonight?' [ROLLS EYES]

Lizzie,

Darn, i was in Matalan on Saturday as well. Never mind the ones from next were only £4.50 and £6 each and they only charged me for the £4.50 one!!

Also popped into H & M and got 2 lovely light cotton dresses with matching knickers which were in the sale at just £3 a set so hopefully they'll keep her nice and cool.

I am really worried about the heat to Gill - my Mum has aircon but even she said not to go to the beach untill around 6pm as by then it's beginning to cool down slightly.

God knows what we'll do during the day though - now she's crawling it's a bit harder to keep her contained in a shaded area. My mum has bought a small paddling pool for her terrace which Caitlin will love sitting it but it won't keep her attention all day. Will have to rely on Granny keeping her entertained.

gill- glad you enjoyed the break over the weekend. im trying to talk my dp into going away for a weekend as i think it will destress him and me. yeah i get asked every night and i say im too tierd then he huffs lol i also get asked through the day i swear the mans obsessed.

lo crying....

lol, sounds like we all need to let our dp's know that foreplay is not a golfing term!!

My dp also has an unfortunate habit of "accidentally" showing me soft porn halfway through showing me something funny on his laptop- as if me seeing svelte lovelies with pneumatic tits bouncing around onscreen is going to make me want to strip off and show my knackered, bestretchmarked bod! They just don't get it, do they.

Ooh, jealous of you ladies with girls to buy gorgeous summer dresses for, they just don't have the same type of stuff for boys, it's all fecking tractors and dirtbikes, and I swear to god, he's 11 months old but if I see one morebloody dinosaur tshirt I'll scream.

Just given James his first bottle of cows milk, which should save us some pennies. He frowned at his bottle a bit at first but then guzzled it down anyway. Thought now would be a good time to start as he's eating everything in sight. Honestly, he sees me with food or a cup, and he spits out his dummy in readiness for scrounging some! lol

Lizzie did you say you had lexie on cows milk now too? Is she drinking more these days?

Yes she been on cows milk for the last 2 weeks and is now drink 3 x 6/7oz bottles and the odd 3/4oz bottle of an afternoon instead of 3 x 4/5oz bottles a day. And like James she is eating everything insight. We have renamed her the 'human dustbin' it so nice to have a child which you can give anything and to and it eaten rather then trying to force Lizzie to eat.

That's good then! I know what you mean about them eating anything (it'll all change once they're toddlers though, probably)

Was amusing at the finger buffet after the funeral all these old ladies were crowded round James while he ate, saying "Oh no! babies can't eat that! but he'll choke!" flashing wild eyes at me, as james ignored them and chomped on cubes of cheese, tuna sandwiches and halved cherry tomatoes, and I ignored them in favour of a large slice of boiled fruit cake.

I know when Lizzie was 10mths i still trying to get her to eat lumpy food, and Lexie just eats everything in sight. I would never have given Lizzie sandwiches for lunch,like i do Lexie.

I do need to get some more idea's for lunches other then sandwiches.

I know, it's difficult ringing the changes. Yesterday J had a weird lunch as we had no fruit in: cheese on toast with sweetcorn and broccoli, and a couple of yoghurts. He didn't mind though!

Does lexie like scrambled egg, or omlette? J woul eat pasta for every meal so that's always a good standby.

ok you are all going to think im bonkers but ive been looking into fostering again and a social worker phoned me when i was in town, asked me a load of questions and is now going to arrangge a home visit. im so nervous. ive told her though that i would only be able to foster older children as mine are all young. catch up with you all later