March 2007: Babies no longer: the road to Toddlerdom

[MrLSG]

MrsLSG suggested it, so her it is...

I've observed that calling Toby a baby isn't really accurate anymore, he (as one of the younger March babies - actually being born in April) is now toddlering (or is that staggering?), hence the title of the thread.

Sorry if Dad's aren't allowed around here: But Toby just loved joining in garden football with his big brother and dad earlier tonight.

bethoo, I'm little confused reading your post. What has your mum done to 'punish' Hayden? Is it withholding the money she saved?

From what you are saying I would say that you have every right to be angry.

If I were you I would refuse to be blackmailed or manipulated by these women.
Stand your ground, be clear about what is acceptable behaviour and do not waver from that. You will keep you dignity and show your children that you are strong and dignified.

You mother and grandmother must have an awful lot of wounds to be behaving so destructively

bethoo-you are not being unreasonable by any stretch of the imagination.what sort of a mother calls her heavily pregnant daughter a 'miserable bitch'?

if you were to post on AIBU im pretty sure you would get a warm welcome to the 'screwed up daughters of insane mothers' club

ive woken up with a flipping cold/sore throat again.just trying to crawl through the day till the kids are in bed..

bethoo no you are not being unreasonable at all, but then you know that don't you

Just had to share a spooky coincidence. I was sat at work this afternoon and I suddenly got this nagging feeling something wasn't right. It wouldn't go away so in the end, feeling like a twit, I rang nursery and asked if DD was ok. They said she'd just woken up and was having a cuddle.

Got to nursery a couple of hours later and they said that when I rang they had literally just got her up because she was screaming in her sleep (so basically at the same time I got the niggles)

Weird or just coincidence?

what a bond catweazle
it was my gran (mums mum) who said i was a miserable bitch. yes i have thought about it and it is emotional blackmail. of course i want to tell her to f off but i was bought up to respect elders so cant bring myslef to say anything though tempted!
my dad asked me last night to call my mum but i cant bring myself to after the horrid week i had. yes i can be difficult but she is just as bad. scared of turnign into them and think the best way not to turn out like that is not to have their negativity in my life! sounds harsh. i wish i could have chose my parents, surely i can? there must be an internet site somewhere! there si for everything else!

Bethoo how frustrating for you and unfair!

Your Gran feels powerless or she wouldn't feel the need to go on a power trip about her money. It is just such a shame that you are not getting family support when you could do with it.

Diva I hope you are feeling better soon.

Catweazle -mothers intuition!

Dh arrived the other night and as usual everthing goes mad...all routines and normality - out the window!

Bad mother alert - feeding Hayden a bowl of coco pops moons and stars for tea! he likes feeding himslef and we have been asleep from 4 - 7 and i vomited so really not up tio cooking! justification over!

ooh bethoo you sound under stress which is so thoughtless of your mum! you could just say you want to stay calm for your baby and hayden and won't be cally but i know from when i was prgnt its too hard not to obsess about it... you could call and say it though. and i was also encouraged to respect elders, its only life that has taught me you earn respect and its not a given whoever you are. you deserve it too, its a not one way street! it can be misplaced respect imo.
how convoluted, sorry.
my dad is always on at me to make up with my sister and uses all kinds of emotional blackmail -he watches far too much daytime tv i think. and the way he was when i was young he has no right to tell me what to do/ think. he is on v thin ice i can tell you.

where is everyone? have i killed the thread?

where is everyone? have i killed the thread?

it just seems to be quiet everywhere.

have popped back- hi bethoo waves to you
and any lurkers

best go, said i would decorate tonight whilst dh was working. have done nothing with a paintbrush whatsoever.

its quiet because those of us with school age children have been busy preparing the freezers for to put the dc in suspended animation till september(i assume everyone else does that as well?)

where is mossy ?there is talk of a northern xmas meet up on here and she isn't around

Ah Diva I am suffering from end of term madness, meltdown, f*cking bollocks to it all

oh yes, are you feeling better? Any more news on the shadowy figure? Most intriguing!

Piffle I think we were seperated at birth, Re. our relationship "skills"

I am so like that too.....

Sponge - spooky - you must have picked something up somehow about your DD's bad dream!

Diva - LOL at frozen DC's!! What a peaceful summer eh???

Kitty - the end of term is ridiculously exhausting isn't it? Minehave been sooo tired they could hardly stand up - and so much pressure!!

We managed to get permission for last week of (just got back from Cornwall) - it was great to be able to wind down...

I so lurve Cornwall

Diva you'll have to stalk her on facebook

Well our term ended at the end of June so we are 3 weeks into the summer holidays and I was looking forward to it but the weather has been dire and the children have just been systematically trashing the house. Dd has been constantly clashing with me probably because the imp is bored...sigh.

Supposedly heading down south with dh today and I can't be arsed I'll have to force myself to pack up

How am I going to cut down the breast feeding???? It's wearing me out. He is still on about seven or eight feeds night and day. I'd love to cut it down to two or three but don't know how to do that without tears.
Any tips?

Super - Chubba is still on about 4 feeds a night and 4/5 during day too - I can't imagine him ever wanting to reduce or even stop!!!

DD was on 4 feeds every 24 hrs by this stage.
Is greediness and love of boobies a boy thing?

Ronnie generally sleeps through so no night feeds as a rule, occasionally he wakes and I go to feed him back to sleep.
During the day the frequency very much depends on how often he can get to them!
If ever I'm sitting( which isn't very often) he will try to feed but I reckon he must feed at least 6 times during the course of the day.

oh well at list I'm not the only walking milk float then

Well dh took dd and ds2 to navan and I join them tomorrow. ds1 is off to his dads so it is just me and Hasan, who is napping...I don't know what to do first! I'm never this alone!

So to start with I'm eating chocolate and having coffee and sitting on mumsnet. (must get priorities right )

Next I'm going to tidy and it'll be bliss not to have a pack of gremlins going directly behind me trashing.

Not sure what to do this evening....maybe some painting....maybe a nice walk with the buggy...contented sigh.

(Trying really hard not to bollocks up my break by missing them)

kitty-i saw the figure again on wednesday,well,i thought i saw dh going to the loo wheen i was in the girls' room but when he didnt come out i had a look and nobody was in there.i asked him and he hadnt been upstairs atall

i have been thinking about it and i have had ghostly sightings in 3 previous houses,although in 2 of them the presences felt 'bad' ,but they have always appeared at a time ive beeb umming and ahhing about moving.

hey Rosy I'm learning how to see auras!! It's fab I'm doing quite well, it's dead easy too. I managed to see some of my colours too, green and violet, don't know what that means though

Diva, have you tried talking to the figure?

Hiya

This is turning into a Ghosty thread

Diva is it your Gran again or was it a bloke you saw?

Super - IKWYM about gremlins - can you get online while on hols??

Kitty we are at Camber Sands in mid August - how close is that to where you are - maybe we could meet up for a sit on the beach with DCs and a bottle of vino?

stirs cauldron

foxy, it's probably not too far. I used to love going there when I was a kid. Let me know when you are thinking of going.

Rosy, I think I've a long way to go before I could do anything useful with it, just pleased I can see something!!

Going to a 'seventies party' tonight. Even though I've known about it for 2 months I have left it until this afternoon to rush round the charity shops, find nothing and wonder what to wear. Still at least whilst dragging ds1 and 2 round the shops I came across a lot of party go-ers also in the same predicament (it's a small town Lewes!)
Dp is not going so maybe I will get chatted up or maybe I will fall asleep in the corner...... Yes I think I know which one it will be, ho hum.

Not a boy thing with the feeding. DD is on 4 at night and as often as she can get it in the day.

We live about 30 minutes from Camber Sands!