All new Nov 05 mummies

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Lets start again girls!

Strength love and hugs Panda - echo everything BTKS has said. You do what you need to do.

Not much else to report here really. T is having some cracking tantrums at the minute - he is so willful, and actually turns around or sits down and does the full on scream and strop and stomp! Quite spectacular to be honest!

On a PG note boobs are dead sore, and am feeling decidedly queasy (tho not sick, wasn't with T either). So, just incase this baby sticks around - any early wagers on what colour?!

Hope all are well, Nova - hope you have/had a fab time in NY - so envious (and totally forgot to say, looked at your pics on FB my word! Fabulous dahling, not sure what to say - not even sure how you managed half of the positions! You looked stunning, and very erm flexible! )

Of to surf (then to bed - combination of early riser T and massive tiredness and exhaustion from me!)

x

Hi everyone,

BB - How many weeks are you now? Is it around 6 or more? Always looking fwd to hearing your PG news. DS1 also having a good few tantrums these days! Have just scheduled some play dates and activties for him as with being home schooled i think he now needs to start interacting more. Garden, park and shops with mum and younger brothers just don't seem to be stimulating him enough - 3 play dates a week and some new activities should be a good start.

Nova - Hope you are having/have had a fab time in the big apple. Must be a great break.

BTKS - How did nursery go? And thanks again for lovely pressie, DS's were so excited at chocolate parcel, they looked at B and T's pic on FB as i explained who had sent their chocolates A belated well done on giving up the ADS, how are you feeling without them? Hugs x

Feetheart - Sounds like you've had your hands full - good luck on rest of jobs. Museum sounds fun, i took DS's to the NH Museum here last week and they loved the dinosaurs too. DS2 loves owls so he enjoyed looking at those and DS1 was intrigued by so many different things to look at. I also enjoyed it.

Panda - Sending you a massive hug - ive left your msg till last i wasn't sure of what to say. Pls forgive me if i'm not supposed to ask but i didn't want to just assume - are you in touch with/or in relationship with the father? You will do whatever is best for you and your boys i'm sure but no matter what your situation being the great mum that you already are you would do fine with another - that is a fact!! Just do what feels right for you. We're all here for you.

Think it's time to finally settle down for the night. DH is away for 3 weeks (gulp) as of Wednesday, have my dad around though so he will be driving us around and helping out - nighttimes will be the challenge

Love to you all, will go and get some sleep x

Hi all

O has his second day at preschool today, he didn't even notice me leaving, just ran straight to the garden bless him.

Panda, I'm really sorry, what an awful situation for you. I'm sure you know in your heart what's right, it will just be hard to reconcile either way. If you want to chat let me know, I had a similar experience when in my first year at uni.

Love to everyone else, hope you are well.

Hi everyone.

ChaCha, you're amazing! I don't say that lightly I really don't.

Ami, it's always good when they run off and forget about you instantly, although I do find it can leave me a little lost and wanting a kiss and cuddle myself!

Thank you all for your messages. ChaCha, no that's fine to ask. I've seen the guy 4 times in the last 5 weeks or so, nothing serious, although I do like him, and would like something more than a casual fling, not sure how he feels & haven't wanted to push it and scare him off, was planning on leaving it a few more weeks before telling him that I quite like him. Met him online, we'd been emailing & texting for a few weeks before we 1st met. Turns out we were in the same year at middle school although neither of us remember the other! Oh, and his dad worked with my dad at that time too! Such a small city! Ami, thank you, I will give you a shout, the main problem I have is that my heart says have this baby, head still says no.

Unfortunately the unplanned pregnancy unit don't do a drop in service, so although I went down there today I'm not ablet o see anyone until next Tuesday , even phoned around and tried to get private appointments, but the earliest & closest consultation was in Basingstoke on Monday, so not worth it. My main worry is that in a weeks time I'm going to have got attached to this little one and it's really gonna be the hardest decision I've ever had to make.

Well, I'm very tired today having averaged about 4 hrs sleep a night in NYC, but I must say it was fan-bloody-tastic!!!!! I could not have wished for a more perfect weekend. I don't even know where to start on highlights, but one of the funniest must have been the two of us really desperately needed the toilet and going into a bar/restaurant only to find that they had transparent toilet doors . I'm sure once you locked them from the inside the lighting changed and blocked them off - but you can be assured it was the fastest wee I've ever had! Will drop in with more highlights soon.

Panda, I'm very much pro-choice, and here is my two pennies worth (FWIW). If you have this baby you may well continue to be a single mother, the baby could end up with an abnormality, money will be tight, yadda yadda yadda BUT if you had the baby I'm a big believer in that people will always find a way to cope in any situation. That sounded much clearer in my head. I think what I'm trying to say is that if you want this baby, things will work themselves out somehow, they won't be easy but then life can be a bit of a bitch at any time. If you decide not to have it, then no-one will think any less of you, and you certainly shouldn't think any less of yourself. You have to think of yourself and your boys and decide what would be best for all of you. To echo everyone else, you have my full support x

Right, better have a sit down with Heat before the kids wake up. Naps don't seem to last so long anymore.

Hi girls, just popping back on to see how Panda is before final check of DH's suitcase and kids to bed, peace at last! DS1 has pulled my hair, kicked me and been really horrible to DS2 today - it is sooo out of character He is tiring me out - is it age? He also seems to be coming down with a cold but have never seen him this bad even when poorly - anyway, did say i only came on to ask after Panda

Oh and Nova, trip sounds fab - tell me more, tell me more.... Did i tell you i got the little carrycot thing for the P&T? Friends and family think it's great, so easy to get him around when he falls asleep.

Panda totally agree with what Nova has said. Hope you are alright, with DH away i will no doubt be online when the kids go to bed (if and when they finally do this week while feeding baby) and will stay online on FB from time to time if you fancy a chat.

Love x

Thank you again everyone. Nova, can't wait to hear more about NY.

ChaCha, you have my sympathies re ds1's behaviour, ds2 was just like that this afternoon.

I read your posts last night & went straight to bed cos they were going to make me cry! Me being soppy, and you're all so lovely.

But feeling a lot more my usual self today. Still not sure what I'm going to do. I would love to have this baby, as you say nova, you find a way to manage, and my list of 'cons' are all ones that could be overcome & tbh all the same worries that I would have if I was in a long term relationship anyway. And I want to tell people that I'm pregnant! But I think the impact on the boys would be huge. Especially if fella does stick around. 1. from my pov, I'd always be thinking well is he with me just because of baby, and for the boys I feel that a new bby coming into their lives is massive, but for a new man to suddenly come crashing in too would be too much for them, ds1 in particular. There'd be no real way of easing him into their lives. But like I say I'm back to my usual self today, think I just need to stop lurking on the May '09 AN thread!

Evening girls, just woke up, fell asleep in front of the tv - oops.

Panda if you really want this baby then go ahead girl, you need to tell the dad and be ready for his resposne either way. He may be absolutely thrilled which will be fantastic or he may want nothing to do with the baby or you and in that case you would only have to make the same decisons anyway.

Either way the biggest impact would be the baby not the dad, whether he sticks around or not.

Both your boys are at an age where they'll take the changes in their stride, a new man in their lives eased in over the next few months if he's a nice bloke would not bother them in the slightest as its someone else to pay them attention and the inconvenience of a new baby bro or sis is soon forgotten.

Ben doesn't remember not having Tom around and certainly doesn't remember the moaning he used to do about him with regards to me feeding and spending more time with the baby than him .

sS the others have said nothing is insermountable and your uni plans can be put on hold for another couple of years, the course isn't going to disappear and you won't exactly be an "older" student in 3 years time will you, you spring chicken

You've sorted your home, your life, work and your boys lives out in the last 18 months to the point where an new addition would not prove a problem.

Just make sure you make the decision with both your head and your heart and not just your hormones and stop lurking on AN threads you're not allowed to leave us

Right love to everyone else, Nova more details on NY please. Chacha good luck this week with dh away, hope the boys give you an easy time. Beks

Hmm just read my previous post to Panda and my last post is a complete turn around, which makes me sound a complete hypocrite.

Panda hope you know where I'm coming from, my first post was based on our phone conversation and my second was on your comments here.

You know you'll make the right decision either way and as I've said before let me know when I'm making that trip down the A3 and I promise to support you either way Would be much more fun to come with you to a scan though

Beks

Hi ladies,

Thought i'd pop in and see if any of you were around. DS1 and DS2 are unwell why do these things happen when the other half is not around?! Am also wondering if DS1's behaviour is linked to this, he has taken chunks out of DS2 - no joke - i really don't know what to do with him...aggghhhh!

Panda, hope you are alright, and that everyone else is keeping well. DS1 is back downstairs on his makeshift bed, he can't sleep as he just can't breathe and am trying to keep them both away from baby. Sorry for moan, am shattered but no way i'm going to bed after today's struggle - will surf and be grumpy instead

x

ok, have changed my FB status! Basically I went to have a check up as I thought I was having a few grumbles due to my coil, but instead I've found out that I have a very large cyst on my right ovary, and that I'll need surgery to remove it. Not sure when it'll all happen but I have an appointment to see my gynae on tues.

Thanks for the concern Chacha, hope you're still able to find some time to .

Nova, sorry to hear your news, hope all goes well on Tuesday and that you get the op quickly.

ChaCha, hope the boys are better today, and ds1 a little calmer. I've certainly heard teachers at ds1's old school linking bad behaviour to coming down with something, so could well be why he's been so out of character.

It's my weekend off this weekend, but have nothing planned, just lots of tidying & sorting I think. I'm going to hope for nice weather so tht I can do something about the gardens - long overdue!

Hi guys,

Thanks for yesterday's grumble. I had a really good night's sleep on the sofa just waking to feed H every so often and it was great. Woke up feeling myself again. Took DC out all afternoon until 7pm, wore them out and they are now happily snoring - all good

Nova - I had a very large cyst on my right ovary and had it removed. My consultant was great, he drained the cyst by performing a laparascopy. I have had 2 of those surgeries. One to remove a very large cyst and the other to blast away endometriosis. I had the first surgery done privately, think it cost about £1500. I was in before lunch and back home the next morning although with my second was back home at night (mainly because it was done on NHS and they had no beds).
Hope everything goes okay Tuesday, you will let us know won't you?

Panda - You sound in good spirits
DS1 is the perfect angel when outdoors, had no problems with him today at all. Seems to go wild when at home - i don't get it. Anyhow, will love you and leave you, absolutely shattered, love x

Hello all
Didn't think I'd been away for that long but have come back to loads of news!
Panda, how are you love? Only you can decide and it's going to be really really hard (as if you don't know that already). Whatever you decide, you know we'll support you.
Chacha, how are the boys today? Hope it was just a bad day the other day - bet it was because ds1 was poorly. Hope you're getting on ok with dh not being around, it'll fly by
Nova, oh NY sounds fantastic! Yes we need more details and pics! Sorry to hear about cyst , that's rubbish
Brownie, hope you are keeping well, when you asked what colour baby was going to be it flummoxed me for a minute, you've not changed dh have you?! I think girl anyway
Beks, hope you are well? Was it T that gave you a thick lip earlier in the week? Did I read that on FB? Hope it's gone down now?
No news this end, just busy with working and fitting the horses in Won't leave it so long next time x

MOrning! Thanks ChaCha, yes I am really. I've always believed there's no point in regretting things in life. You learn from choices you make rather than rueing them. So any decision I make now is going to be right for me & the boys now. If in the future it turns out to have been the wrong decision, then so be it, there'll be no changing it and I'll make do the best I can either way.

Hi Rodeo, good to see you, I'd been wondering for a while where you'd got to!

Having a bit of a break from my busy morning. Have my motivated head on, so have..

-finished emptying compost bin (tricky job as previous tenants had put roses etc in there, and a tree route along with various plastic bags etc)

-moved the compost bin

-cut the grass

-washed and hung 2 loads of washing

-put away what was dry

-cut back some very prickly bushes

-got in contact with some old friends who I sadly lost contact with when I was with xp. (Realised a few months ago that only one of my friends from when I was with him still remain so, but happily they have all been happy to hear from me)

-arranged to meet up with one of said old friends next week

I have lots to do indoors, but want to make the mostof this lovely weather!

What's a tree route? , think I meant root lol

Ooo Panda I shouldn't have read your message as I really have to go and cut my grass, and tidy up the garden.

Well, another party-tastic weekend here. DH was DJing again on saturday night in Brighton, so we went down and stayed in the beach house with friends. PIL stayed overnight to babysit and they also helped out with kids in the morning as everyone recovered - yay!

Thanks for the comments on the pole pics, although funnily you've all commented on the moves that are the easiest! Sometimes the simplest can be the most effective...

I will tell more about NYC when I get the chance, the last couple of weeks have been crazy though. I am amazed at how little I spent there - I thought for sure I'd maxed out the credit card, but I was no way near it. So I went into Top Shop today and spent a little more (snigger)....

Ooh lucky you Nova with your partying weekend! Now get out and sort the garden! I also did the front garden on Sat, so no longer a jungle & I don't get stabbed by the holly tree when I put anythign in the bin! Good luck for tomorrow, hope all goes well.

ds2 has thrown a strop today because he wants the new Pompey kit! Bought ds1's today as it's his birthday next week, and ds2 found it, bought it in & tantrummed "Me Pompey shirt, me want that Pompey shirt!" So although ds1 knew what he was getting for his birthday, he has now seen it, grrr! I'm not sure when he became so fanatical about Pompey, but he wants to wear a Pompey shirt most days, and isn't happy when ds1 and I go to the games. Speaking of which, we were on the telly on Thurs at the game, woo! I downloaded it last night, and we were watching it earlier and saw ourselves.

I have my appointment tomorrow morning. I've made the decision to have an abortion. As much as I want more children, and would love to have this one, the time & circumstances are just not right. This is the right decision for me at this time, and I feel fine with it. I'm not sure how soon I'll be able to have it as htere's no way I'm having the pill. I think that would be far too traumatic.

Anyway, I'm gonna have a pootle around online & watch 28 weeks later.

Chat soon xx

Ooh lucky you Nova with your partying weekend! Now get out and sort the garden! I also did the front garden on Sat, so no longer a jungle & I don't get stabbed by the holly tree when I put anythign in the bin! Good luck for tomorrow, hope all goes well.

ds2 has thrown a strop today because he wants the new Pompey kit! Bought ds1's today as it's his birthday next week, and ds2 found it, bought it in & tantrummed "Me Pompey shirt, me want that Pompey shirt!" So although ds1 knew what he was getting for his birthday, he has now seen it, grrr! I'm not sure when he became so fanatical about Pompey, but he wants to wear a Pompey shirt most days, and isn't happy when ds1 and I go to the games. Speaking of which, we were on the telly on Thurs at the game, woo! I downloaded it last night, and we were watching it earlier and saw ourselves.

I have my appointment tomorrow morning. I've made the decision to have an abortion. As much as I want more children, and would love to have this one, the time & circumstances are just not right. This is the right decision for me at this time, and I feel fine with it. I'm not sure how soon I'll be able to have it as htere's no way I'm having the pill. I think that would be far too traumatic.

Anyway, I'm gonna have a pootle around online & watch 28 weeks later.

Chat soon xx

I'm sure I didn't press that twice, ah well!

Hi girls

Just popping on to wish Nova and Panda all the best for tomorrow.

Beks

Yup, likewise BTKS, Good luck gals x

Thanks ladies, althought my appointment seems rather minor compared to Pandas.

Nova, course it's not. It's still worrying for you, and you still need to have an operation, so it's definately not minor compared to mine. Hope you get on/have got on OK.

Only posted to say that, will post more later xx