Sept '07 - I'm sitting..I'm sssitting....I'm sssssitting......I'm ssssssssssssssssitting...... THUD!

[sophus]

thought i'd start us off

MLCF - I am afraid that I have no legal insight into your rights. There must be threads on here somewhere that can help you?

Sorry cannot be more help

just dashing on for an uber fast post, I just wanted to add to the sentiments already posted, am SO sorry for you MLCF, what a crap time. You do sound remarkably strong. I hope you manage to get some good advice re legal aspects. Would the CAB be able to help? Worth a try? Hugs to you x x

My mum has come to the conclusion that he's having a midlife crisis, new girlfriend, new sproty car, getting into shape (lol that's a joke, watching that jelly belly jogging up the path, I was in fits! Had to compose myself rather quick smart before he re-entered the house! ). It's probably just a phase and, seeing as he's now talking of moving in with her in a few weeks when she's back from Italy, he'll be losing everything, including his posessions, for a fling that will blatantly go wrong.
I just hope for everyone's sake that it'll last, I don't want him to have ruined a whole bunch of people's lives for a bit of fun (btw she's got three kids, so his bit of fun will soon become a burden!).

Ho-hum, off to discuss housing blardy malarky!
xXx

Hi,
Choochy-is he really trying to get you to believe that he knows this wooman just for a week, that they havent slept together and two of them are planing to live together with her 3 kids!All of that after only a week and you havet moved out yet??Either he is laying or something is fishy!!You better see someone about your legal rights (just to be on the safe side) and be carefull!!
Take care..x

Yup, he's obviously never done this before has he? lol
No worries about the legal front, I'm already in receipt of constant advice form someone very much in the know. I have also managed to find out an aweful lot about this woman! She's not 29, as he told me she is, she's 24 at the most. I know the names of her three children, her fiance (not boyfriend as he had told me, not sure if he knows they're engaged, not that it would matter to him now anyway).
I'm tempted to make contact wiht her other half and give him some vital morsels of info about the man that his fiancee is seeing (i.e: that he is meant to be on meds and has not been taking them for a good few months and has lately become quite an aggrssive person) considering that he has fathered the youngest of her three children.

Oh what path to take now?! I think I'll just wait and see how XH behaves over the next week (she's off camping so it'll be interesting to see how he behaves knowing that he's not able to go and get some every night! ) I'm even tempted to get mine whilst she's away too, and why the heck not?! Use him how he's been using me for the past two months (or so, this is a guess at how long it's been going on based on how long he's been going to the "pub" almost every night).
I shall be considering much over the next few days, any little tricks that anyone has would be lovely (my mum's already suggested that I put copious amounts of laxative products in his food not that I should even bother cooking his food but would be prime opportunity to have some fun am I that cruel? Wel'' soon see!).

Oh and just for the fun of it, he's now trying to palm the blame on me not keeping the house up to scratch. . . yes that's right folks, cos we do live in a shit pit! I'm not obsessively clean, it's only the toys that are annoying him, he's just trying to find an excuse for getting out, and that's just fine. End it now and stop looking to blame me!

Oh and for your interest my house fell through, still, onwards!
xXx

Morning all

MLCF - Good to know that you are up to speed on the legal advice. I know it isn't a lot of consolation at the moment, but it is good to have some guidance through the legalities of the situation.

So sorry to hear about your house also. . But you have the right attitude, am sure something else is round the corner.

Re. all the other stuff - contacting this new person etc. The only advice I can give is when I look back on one particularly painful period in my life. In my experience, reacting to anything that person does or says only serves to satisfy some f**ked up part in them. And longer term only leaves you feeling emptier and angrier. As much as you are more than justified doing/ saying whatever you feel like - he (and most likely her) will find some way to turn it against you. Sad but true.

You have been so strong so far, stay strong and rise above it. All the stuff he is saying (about state of house) is him trying desperately to get a reaction out of you. The best revenge is to stay as cool as a cucumber. Even as he says these ridiculous things, he will know how stupid he sounds. Smirking at him and walking away dismissively will get to him a lot more.

Having said all of that - easy for me to say when I am not emotionally involved in the situation.

HTH. to you

Hope everyone else ok. My little man is manky, now suffering side effects of measles jab - am hoping he gets over it in time for the weekend.

Hi guys,

MLCF agree with dal entirely I'm afraid, it will be used against you. Don't give any ammo! Keep posting, we're thinking of you.

Dal sorry to hear Ryan is suffering because of his measles jab, poor little lamb

quick question all - how many times are you giving milk now? Linus is down to morning and evening only now (still BF and probably will be when he goes to college) as i needed to cut out afternoon BF before returning to work. i've tried him on tiny bits of cow's milk and he thinks it's gross (even though he has it on his cereal etc) (and yes i know he's not sposed to have it until 12 months but i just wanted to see if he would take to it).

all well here. he's trying to walk and is becoming a really opinionated toddler already (suddenly won't eat anything orange???!!).

Thanks guys, I'm feeling pretty good about the whole situation and he and I are actually really good friends below it all (but it does comfort me that I do have ammo if he turns out to be this aweful person below it all).

Lolly's still on 4 bottles of 6 ounces, one after each meal and one first thing in the morning (we are late risers in this house so it keeps her going til DD1 and I get up a couple of hours later).

xXx

Sophus - Ryan has around 8oz in morning (around 6.30) and then again in the evening about 6.45. His 2pm milk is dependant on how much lunch he has had, but mainly now takes at most 2oz. But this is also the feed that I give him in a beaker. Expect the other feeds to drop back in a few weeks when I do cold turkey on bottles and every feed is with the beaker.

Oh, and I have been giving ryan cows milk in his doidy cup for the last 4 months. Not much goes in but I wanted him to be used to the taste of cows milk from early, so I wouldnt worry about the fact that you have given Linus some.

I would think that transition to cows milk from formula is most likely easier than transition from mummy milk!!

Have fab weekends all. Catch up next week. Am off to start my bank holiday weekend early. Yippee!

Hello everyone just popping in to say hi before we go off on holiday for a week to the coast ! (praying that weather improves or I will be tearing my hair out thinking of fun and spontaneous activities to do in the rain !)

Eloise is 1 tomorrow - I can't believe it !!
We are having a little party for her while we are away as we are actually driving tomorrow - don't think she will know its her big day !

MLCF - take care and hope you get some good advice . I agree with what the others said - just take the moral high ground - don't lower yourself !! Thinking of you x

Sophus - Eloise has morning and bedtime BF and 7oz morning bottle and 4 oz afternoon beaker. We will drop the morning BF soon as she is sleeping in longer and can go straight to bfast.

Dal - sorry Ryan is suffering from measles jab ! Do you mind me asking if you chose to do that one first as there are scares about the possibility of measles outbreak? I think the MMR jab is at 13 months here so am waiting to be called for that.

love to everyone else xx

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Hello ladies! Wow, so much has happened since I last posted, not sure where to start! We went to Wales for almost a week and the build up to that was rather hectic so it feels like I've not been on here for a good few weeks...

First of all, so so sorry to hear about all thats been going on with you choochy. I went through a similar thing with my xh only he got violent when it all came to an end. He was a pure bastard the whole time we were together and when I plucked up the courage to split, I found out he'd been sleeping around and already had a gf, that was the last thing I expected. I came to the conclusion that the bad treatment was due to his guilty conscience. I agree that keeping yourself whiter than white is the best way to go as he'll only throw it back at you and use it against you. The main thing is you're an amazing mummy and you're better off without him. Sorry the housing thing has not gone to plan but hope that something even better is round the corner for you on that.

Hopey - love the new name but do you mind if I still call you hopey? Very inventive and I love the play on words! How are you doing hun? xx

Cerys has a few ounces of milk after her b'fast, then 6 or 7 ounces mid-afternoon then another big bottle at bedtime (6-7pm). She's been on cow's milk for a while now, I was worried the transition might be a little difficult but she's fine on it. When I saw the paediatrician a few months ago, she was just over 10 months and he said: "well, she's nearly a year old so she can have cows milk now, especially if she's been having it in her b'fast". Those were his exact words so I changed her over a few weeks ago and she's been fine - so much cheaper than formula too!

We had a fab time in Wales and I loved seeing the family. DH had a bit of a wobbler though so our wedding anniversary didn't go too well but ho hum! Cerys did lots of milestones while we were there - pulling herself up to standing from sitting; drinking from a beaker; first big belly laugh; playing peekaboo on her own with her hands; lots of new words and so so many more. She ate tonnes of food and had her first full roast dinner. She's getting mobile but we still can't figure out how - she's not really bumshuffling but if you leave the room and come back again, she's got halfway across the floor!!??!!

Better dash - my eldest have been away with their dad and they're back today so I'm going to get the house ready for them. Have really missed them but enjoyed the break. I know they have really missed Cerys too so they'll love all the new things she can do!

Sorry I've missed a few of you out - I'll pop back on later my dearies.

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) PLP xxx

Hi all. Not sure where to statrt to catch up. Heniz just alerted me to the fact there was a thread, i had no idea. I barely stray out of active convos these days.

So our little ones are all fast approaching their first birthdays .

Sadie will be 1 on the 24th Sept.
She's not walking yet but loves to hold onto our hands and give it a go. She has also just learnt to climb the stairs so we got the stair gate out for the bottom step today.
She's still being breastfed and also loves her food, she'll eat anything and eats as much as her 2 yr old sister, but not quite as much as her 6 yr old sister. Both of whom adore DD3 still. Every morning they greet her it's like day one of DD3's life all over again. The novelty still hasn't worn off! Sure once she starts walking and nicking their toys things will change.
What else??? She can swim underwater! She loves to be hung upside down and her favourite thing to do is pull things out of the washing machine or climb onto the dishwasher door as soon as I open it!

Will attempt some kind of catch up with you lot now!

Yay TC, so glad you posted. I must catch up too, Niamh growing up so fast, she keeps on attempting to let go and balances there for a while standing alone, her face is such a picture, she looks so proud of herself.

Like your two older ones, my two boys absolutely adore their little sister, be interesting when she can properly grab their Wii controllers out of their hands, as she's been trying today.

Keep in touch ThomCat, great to hear from you.

sophus, I'm giving Niamh her milk on average 3 times a day, sometimes more, depending on what we're doing.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ELOISE Where has this year gone! I really do hope she's has the most fabby birthday, post some pics if you can ACMum. x x

GREAT to hear from you too PLP, sorry your anniversary didn't go as well as you'd wanted. Am hoping that me and DH's anniversary is going to go well, we've booked into a very scarily expensive hotel (at Dh's insistance), am REALLY looking forward to it, I guess we do deserve it, given all we've been through. Will keep you posted how it goes, am uber excited!

Wow, Happy Birthday Eloise. Hope you all have a really special day.

Ohhh feel quite emotional that all these babies are starting to turn one.

Shall we have a list of the 1st birthdays coming up to remind ourselves who turns one and when?

And Heinz - hope the anniversary treat is wonderful, like you say it's much deserved

The Aug / Sept 2007 Babies turn ONE YEAR OLD!!!

Happy Birthday to:

Eloise (amyclaramum) - 23 August

Sadie (Thomcat) - 24 Sept

Oh and btw Heninz - that hotel look amazing

Have added to list.
Funny old weekend here, DP away for work and it would have been Mum's birthday today so in a funny place but Linus is such a sweetheart and keeps me going.

Thanks for info re milk - really helpful.

Eloise (amyclaramum) - 23 August
Linus - 15 Sept
Sadie (Thomcat) - 24 Sept

Sorry you've had such an off day Sophus.
I've not had a great day myself and unlike Linus, Sadie has not been herself today and has been hard work, not sure what's up with her.

Eloise (amyclaramum) - 23 August
Linus (Sophus) - 15 Sept
Sadie (Thomcat) - 24 Sept

Eloise (amyclaramum) - 23 August
Linus (Sophus) - 15 Sept
Sadie (Thomcat) - 24 Sept
Lucy (MylilChoochyFace) - 23 Sept

Great idea ThomCat. Poor Sadie, all you need given your recent op though , hope she's better tomorrow and you get a good night sleep tonight. Are you in much pain?

Sorry you've had a sad day today Sophus, but completely understandable, hugs to you. x

How are you Choochy?

1ST BIRTHDAY LIST!!
Eloise (amyclaramum) - 23 August
Linus (Sophus) - 15 Sept
Niamh (Hopey'HeinzSight) - 17 Sept
Sadie (Thomcat) - 24 Sept
Lucy (MylilChoochyFace) - 23 Sept

Goodness, this brings back some memories doesn't it, starting a list with our names and dates!

Niamh has got the 'walking' bug today, she's worked out how to walk with her push along trolley, she just kept on and on and on!

Hope everyone else is enjoying their bank holiday x x

Hi everyone!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ELOISE!!
sorry havent been posting but been busy + the trip away turned out to be a nightmare so had a wind knocked out of me..
Fay is doing great, clapping hands, shape sorting and walking really confidently.Actually she just sort of walks of these days without a glance backward or a second thought if Im following or not!!I guess no one told her about separation anxiety!!She still wakes up for 1 or 2 feeds at night but Im not bothered about it; if she needs it Im more than happy to oblige.Only thing is that ever since we got back Im having a bit trouble settling her in but am hoping that that will pass..
Sophus; really feel for you as now that I got baby of my own I miss my mum more than ever and she will never meet Fay..Big hug..x
Choochy-r u OK luv??

1ST BIRTHDAY LIST
Eloise (amyclaramum) 23 August
Linus (Sophus) 15 September
Niamh (HeinzSight) 17 September
Sadie (Thomcat) 24 September
Lucy (ChoochyFace) 23 September
Fay (Mica23) 27 September

Love and hugs to all xxx

Hello ladies, just popped in to add Cerys to the list - can't believe she'll be 1 next week! This last year has been such a roller coaster what with everything that has happened and I'm feeling a little strange about it all. I guess the important thing is that Cerys is well and healty now so I shouldn't let myself wallow in it all - give me a kick up the backside ladies!!!

sophus, thinking of you hun, here's me feeling sorry for myself when you've got such a difficult day going on, I can't imagine how you're feeling. So pleased Linus is being such a good boy ((((hugs))))

Hiya mica, hopey, acm, thomcat, dal, LLL How are you doing choochy? Thinking of you... xx

1ST BIRTHDAY LIST
Eloise (amyclaramum) 23 August
Cerys (PurpleLostPrincess) 2nd September
Linus (Sophus) 15 September
Niamh (HeinzSight) 17 September
Sadie (Thomcat) 24 September
Lucy (ChoochyFace) 23 September
Fay (Mica23) 27 September