Sept '07 - I'm sitting..I'm sssitting....I'm sssssitting......I'm ssssssssssssssssitting...... THUD!

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thought i'd start us off

Hey all!

choochy - glad to hear things are all coming together with moving out etc. Hope it all goes smoothly! Hope your headache has eased off? I've suffered from migraines all my life so I truly empathise!
acm - hiya!

As promised, I thought I'd do my list and I've included Cerys's birthday as per your suggestion acm (genuis!).

Age: 11 months - 1 year old on Sept 2nd.
Weight: A couple of weeks ago she was 17lbs 11ozs and on the 9th centile.
Teeth: 3 (2 bottom and 1 top) and one on the top soooo close to coming through.
Crawling: Not quite but pulling herself up on things including the side of the cotbed. When you put her on the floor she does what I call scissor legs and goes around in circles - I reckon she'll bum-shuffle and bypass crawling!
Tricks: If you say 'cheesy grin' she does this hilarious cheesy grin! She says (and plays) "ta" most of the time. Singing in the car (most entertaining!), thumbs up, waving,
Words: Dadada, She can actually say 'Daddy', Bababa, Mamamama, Papapa, SSSssssss and Zzzzzzz, TA, Nananana and lots more babbling. I swear she said 'Yes' this morning!
Loves: Bath-time, Night garden, Singing all sorts of songs, clapping, Heffalump. She can't sleep without having a muslin to rub on her face. Having her big sister walk her around the house.
Food likes: Strawberries, pumpkin, cucumber, cheese, cups of tea. Dislikes: Fromage frais.
Dislikes: Seeing her bottle and not being given it straight away and being tired. Can't think of anything else really, she's a really happy contented baby and there's not much that seems to annoy her - YET! lol

We've had lots of fun today (not!) - DH has taken down the shed and the contents of it are currently in the gazebo on the decking and we've got to get the base for the new shed done ASAP so its ready for the new one being delivered. Long story but basically my parents have bought it for us and I'm going to do some bits of work for them to pay it off. That way, the computer can go out there and it'll be a little office as well as a shed. DD1's birthday is actually on 28th August so very close to Cerys's but she's having her party on 13th, partly because they go away on holiday with their dad shortly after that; partly because her best friend is on holiday for her birthday (which happens every year!); but mostly because it puts a bit of time between their birthdays. I'm very conscious that DD1 has been a bit left out lately so I want to make a big fuss of her that isn't overshadowed by Cerys's first birthday if I can help it. She's such a good girl and doesn't say anything bless her!

Anyway, best go as DH is looming over my shoulder as he wants to look up prices for the stuff to level off the shed base - oh the joys!

(((((((((hugs)))))))))xxxxx

Oooo, forgot to say! I'm going to be in the audience of 'Who Dares, Sings'!!!!!! Tickets are free online and its being filmed this Sunday for the Christmas special, yay!!! I'm going with a friend and I'm really looking forward to it. Only thing is I'm not very confident about my appearance atthe moment but there's nothing I can do about it I guess

Oooo, ooooh, oooh, ALSO!!!! We've sold our story to a magazine !!!! Its called Thats Life and its going to be in the issue coming out at the end of August - I'll let you know more nearer the time so you can rush out and buy lots of copies lol!

xxxx

Hi all,

PLP Cerys is SUCH an amazing baby, despite everything she's been through. She is a real poppet. How are you? Toe any better, I remember you mentioning you were in agony. Well what can I say, my claim to fame it seems is knowing you! Will have to keep an eye out for that mag and you on the telly at Christmas time!

Isn't it strange talking about birthdays already! I can't actually believe that our bubs are going to be 1 NEXT MONTH!!!

Dal, am so glad that you're enjoying work, bet you're relieved aren't you? Any news on the house front, or given the current housing climate is that a subject best left alone at the moment?!

We're doing well. Enjoying the hols despite this awful weather. Just pottering around really, trying not to spend a fortune, which in this country is so hard! My boys would be quite happy just spending all day every day on the Wii, but I'm a bit tough on them when it comes to that!

Hope everyone else is well. x x x x

Hi all,
We off to Throwbridge tomorrow and I cant wait!I just want to pack my suitcase and sit by the door like a little kid!But thats not going to happen as still got 1001 things to do (including last check in the sops for something respectable to wear.Clothes shopping used to be such fun but now its just depressing; all the nice things I cant fit into..)
And yes,our babies 1 year old!!Gulp!!I meet this mum the other day and she was telling me that they had 3 cakes and 2 parties; 1 with 50 and 1 with 80 people!!When she asked me what we are doing I could just say; panicking!
Its good to hear you are all doing so well and that your babies are thriving!Fays latest thing is putting toys into spaces like boxes, bath(empty) and so on.She will see her gran tomorrow and she looks like she went few rounds with Mike Tyson!Even thou she is walking quite confidently she gets excited tries to run and down we go!
Chocky-well done with the house, once the move is over and DD1 is in nursery youll be home free.:D (excuse the pun)
PLP-Cerys sounds just adorable!!Cant waut to see that magasine!
Amy-23rd is my birthday too, Fay is on 27th.You probably know this: 23rd is a firs day of autumn and Jewish New Year.
Lots of love and you with older kiddies keep your sanity throu the hols!
Big cuddles to all your lovely babies..xxx

Lolly's birthday is also the 23rd (I remember feeling like I was the last to pop at the time! )
xXx

Thanks Hopey, my toe is much better now - the nurse said I should try having no dressing on it but I don't know if I've got the bottle, and what with the dog and all I'm worried it'll get dirty but I guess I should at least try... Its still sore but bearable at least and I'm back to running around the house like a lunatic! This shed that DH is putting up has turned into such a nightmare and DD1's party is meant to be next Weds - eeek!!! I'm sooo not famous lol! My mums the one who works on tv and meets all the famous people - Brian Conley even recognised her the other week from when they worked together a few years ago, I'm so proud of her!

Hope you have a lovely time mica - I've already started writing out my holiday list as we're visiting DH's sister in Wales next weekend, I love writing lists!!! .

dal, how is work going, hope its all going well!?

Hopey - we have a wii too but also DS loves playing guitar hero on the PS2 (when he's at home that is!). It's so hard to entertain the kids in this awful weather isn't it!!!

We had our first household accident today - I had just come in from the shops and DH was cooking dinner in the kitchen while Cerys was running around in her walker. She loves playing with the magnets on the fridge/dishwasher etc. He got distracted and was reading a leaflet when she shrieked - she had touched the oven door bless her! I ran her fingers under cold water but they're a little red. DH didn't even see what happened, tut!!! I guess I should be happy he was cooking dinner though...

xxx

Oooh, I remembered another trick of Cerys's - she loves sneezing and it really seems to tickle her (she smiles at everything but has a special smile for her sneezes). When she sneezes, she always says 'oh dear dear' afterwards - cute!

PLP, Niamh always smiles after she sneezes too- how funny!! Poor Cerys' fingers.

UPDATE FROM US

AGE Ben was 10 months, will be 1 on 5th October.
TEETH 2 bottom and 2 Top
WEIGHT as of 3 weeks ago he was 23lb 5oz and on the 91st Centile.
ACTIVITY So wants to walk, he is a whizz in his walker and loves it, he cries when he is sitting He can stand on his own for 13 seconds and can push his baby walker and walk on his own. He lets go of you when he is almost at the table/sofa. He can assume the proper crawling position from sitting but at the moment he can only go backwards. As of yet he can't pull himself to standing or back to a sitting position from his front.
FOOD loves breadsticks/toast, fromage frais and his dinners - doesn't like finger food much, prefers to be fed from a spoon, lazy git.
Really doesn't like strawberries, custard, banana or scrambled egg.
SLEEP Still brilliant, rarely hear from him once he has gone down at 7pm
LOVES Being tickled on his tummy, row your boat, walking, his walker, his brother, being thrown around, Peek a boo.
WORDS AND NOISES Mama, Dada, Ga-goo, Go Go Go (copied me today)

AGE 11 mths, 1yr on 7th Sept
TEETH 4 on the top 4 on the bottom
WEIGHT 24lbs 2ozs when he was 10mths.
ACTIVITY Only stops when he is asleep He whizzes around the flat either crawling or cruising the furniture and walls. Loves walking with something or someone and is starting to stand by himself before he plonks his bum down. Loves playing football with his dad and is pretty damn good at kicking and throwing the ball! His fav thing at the mo is to throw anything within his reach and chase it.
FOOD loves anything we are eating. Hates 'baby' food. Not yet using a spoon but does feed himself with his fingers. loves his fruit, not banana hto, and veggies, esp courgette
SLEEP eh whats thatI must have the worst sleeper in the group. Stillw aking 2-3 times a night, nuff said really.
LOVES being with people, playing with his ball, albaian music, showers, baths and getting up to mischief
WORDS AND NOISES nothing specific yet but dada, daddy, nanana,zzzzz, sssssss. He has wonderful conversations with someone when using the remote controll as a telephone!!

Quick update form us: Well i have gone back to work now. I am doing three shifts a week whilst DH looks after Beni. We have managed to work seperate days so we can look after him ourselves, so far it seems to be working.
Not alot else has really happened, we have been leading pretty in eventful lives at the moment, which is not a bad thing. Just plodding along really!!
I am enjoying being back at work tho find the early wakings a bit knackering. Beni loves spending time with his daddy. They are often at the park or doing soemthing exciting when i call.
We are still struggling with sleep or lack of. Am not sure where to go at the moment, it is just not happening Beni has been quite unwell for about a month, with ear infections and a virus so we seem to be bac to square one again.
I really cant believe we will be celebrating 1st birthdays soon, where has the tme gone??!! It is very exciting tho.
Beni is such a delight and has a gorgeous personallity, very cheeky but it is such a lovely time in their lives isn't it?
Anyway must dash
Love to all x

hiya, i've been away for a while from mn. i cant believe i didn't see this thread before. it's like finding old friends again. i was LLL x

Oops!! Sorry, just realised there's another LLL now. i was L o o p y l o o l e e s a (spelt differently so it doesn't come up on searches) I had to namechange as having some problems with dp and he's been snooping. soz again for the confusion x

Hello ladies, just to let you know I may not be back on for a while, DH and I have split up ( as of tonight, for real, not just the girls and I moving out).
I knew things were bad but thought the whole point in us moving out was to help the situation. . . but he's not got the energy for it any more apparently so there you go!

Anywho, as you can probably guess, I'm not really in the mood for socialising.
I'm sure I'll be back on just before the girls and I move out (not sure when though, still waiting for the letting agents to get back to me, hopefully they'll phone tomorrow and I will have an excuse to avoid DH for this week (which he had booked off work, it's going to be a very strange week!), and have the girls party to sort for Saturday too so hopefully will be able to make it through the week, not sure if he will though .
xXx

Hello everyone old and new!

I know i've been crap at logging on so a big apology for not posting since May haven't had time to catch up with posts yet but hope everyone and their lo's are doing well. We're fine just plodding along with RL. Here's an update for anyone who's interested. I don't blame you if you shun me from the thread

AGE Alex is going to be 11 months on saturday. Birthday is 16th Sept.
TEETH 2 bottom and 6 top
WEIGHT don't have a clue! He's not huge but certainly not tiny. In most 9-12m clothes but still 6-9m trousers as the bigger ones are too long and he trips over them
ACTIVITY he took his first steps last friday. And today 5 in a row. It won't be long before he really is walking! Started crawling about 6 wks ago (i think from memory) uses it as his main method for moving and can climb up the stairs
FOOD not a good eater at all. Only took lumpy food about a week ago. won't eat any home made puree and doesn't like jars with pasta in. Likes finger hood although not much fruit or veg. Loves raisins and blueberries, yoghurt, porridge, white choc, icecream, cake (had a couple of birthdays recently) Hates cucumber, banana, carrots, broccoli, apple, pear, nectarine, strawberry (unless it's a fruit pot)
SLEEP OK generally goes from 7 - 7 but has had a night bottle 2 out of last 4 nights at about midnight.
LOVES Peekaboo, his brother, walking (he's so proud) playing with all DS1's toys, bath time
WORDS AND NOISES Mama, Dada, NaaNaa, Hiya

Helloooo everyone ! I have been away at my Mum's with the DD's and just got back ! We are all fine and had a nice little break . Met up with my brother and SIL who announced they are epecting a baby in Feb - of course I recommended Mumsnet to her for making friends and getting top tips and advice !

MLCF - so sorry to hear about you and DH - is it really over do you think or will he change his mind ?Please take care of you and your lovely girls and pop back on when you feel like it for support - sending you hugs

Chatty - lovely to hear your news - Alex sounds like he's doing really well!

Makkapakka - or LLL - helloo to you too

PLP - can't wait to read all about you in the magazine - let us know when it comes out !

Hello to everyone else - hope you're enjoying the lovely weather

Update on Eloise

AGE : I can't believe she will be 1 on 23/8!
WEIGHT: not sure - 20lbs last time she was weighed. She is quite long for her age though and in 12-18 trousers and sleepsuits already!
FOOD: loves her food !(like Mummy)and enjoys waving breadsticks around and picking up peas and sweetcorn and bits of finger food
FAVE TOYS: shape sorter, musical drum , my phone, my handbag, the remote control, emptying the kitchen cupboards !
ACTIVITY: crawling , cruising and climbing up the stairs
FAVE WORDS: mama, dada, and lots of gurgles and giggles
TEETH - just one at the moment but looks like another cutting through at the moment

acmum: I honestly don't know, it could go either way I guess (and there's the sneaking suspision that there could be interest he's getting from someone else, I've spotted that he's changed his password on FB and he's never done that before unless he's got something to hide ).
I'm hoping he'll change his mind in the next couple of weeks or so, otherwise I'm not so sure I'll be able to go back to normal, once I get over it I'll be back to stubborn strong me again, I just know it, and I'm not one for taking steps backward (despite the possibility of being a "family" again, the girls and I wont be living here so it wont matter to me so much as if we were living here IYSWIM?!

At the moment I'm just trying to go with the flow and let him make some decisions, he's never been good at that and he'll just have to learn to make them otherwise he's going to have troubles seeing his children isn't he? Not that I'd make it hard for him, it's just that it's bound to go that he'll make a last minute decision and I would've already made plans so the word "tough" might just enter into a lot of our conversations! lol
I don't quite get his reasoning behind it all, we're going to end up fighting more than ever over money/access/visits etc, but he's obviously not thought that far ahead yet, he's definately a present/past minded person whereas I'm a future thinker, always planning for the future, may have been half the trouble, but having kids made me realise that we have to think of the future or the girls will end up with nothing (like I have, for which I totally resent my mum BTW).

xXx

Oh no, poor you mlcf, what a rollercoaster you must be on just now. Don't quite know what to say really. You sound remarkably strong at the moment. Do you really think something may be going on with someone else? Have you asked him? Your girls have a great Mum, for the record and the world will be their oyster.

MakkaPakka, I remember you well, so lovely to see you posting again. Our lovely thread here does get very quiet from time to time, but we;re all just SO busy with RL, especially now our LOs are mobile!

Chatty, good to see you again too, don;t ever think you wouldn't be welcome back after an absence! How are things with you and your DP?

ACmum, great news that theirs another baby on the way in the family! Is it your brother's first?

Not too much excitement this end, am missing my boys like mad, they;re down in Somerset staying with their grandparents this week, so it's 'just' Niamh and me. Have been going a bit stir crazy so spent all day out today. Took Niamh to an indoor play centre designed for babies and toddlers, twas FANTASTIC, massive soft play area with lots of sensory things like lights and music, Niamh loved it.

Poor DH had a day trip to France today with work and has been stuck on a ferry just outside Dover for 5 hours because of a force 10 storm. He should have landed at 2:30 but only landed about 15 mins ago. Am SO glad I wasn;t with him, I don't do choppy seas, and would have been a very very sick bunny!

Hope everyone else is well. Still no news from kinki, will try and text her again.

Hi everyone

Sorry have been AWOL awhile. Seems as though everyone is not getting on here much nowadays!

MLCF - Am so so very sorry to hear about you and your DP. Is he really definite about it? You sound as though you are doing a fantastic job with your girls and they will love you for it!

Hopey - must have a very quiet house without your boys! Bet you have lots more time on your hands!

MakkaPakka - welcome back! I dont remember you, but then I joined the thread much later than everyone else.

Chatty - Hello to you also! Life is manic for all of us, so do pop in and post when you can. Is so interesting to compare notes when we get a chance.

ACmum - how exciting! Another baby in the family. I saw a 6 week old the other day and although mighty cute, didnt pull at the heartstrings as much as I feared it might! Think the first 12 weeks are still fresh enough in my memory!

Hello to PLP, Elefantshoes and LLL!

My news? Work is going great - really enjoying being back. Ryan is settling into nursery really well too. Although there has been a measles outbreak near us so had to give him the measles jab last week. Poor lamb then has to get the MMR anyway in a few months time.

Re. the house move. The market is dire - no 2 ways about it, but we have some parties interested in the house (but they are biding their time) and viewers are still coming through the door, so we simply have to wait and see what happens. We have found a place we love and have offered on that. But if we arent in a position to exchange in the next month or so, there is a real possibility that it will go back on market and we'll lose it to someone else.

Am trying not to dwell on it too much - situation is really out of our control and if we have to stay put, then thats what we'll do.

Will update Ryans stats tomorrow. Have good evenings all!

Hi dal, lovely to hear from you. Am SO glad you're happy back at work and Ryan has settled well. Phew, you must be so relieved!

Keeping everything crossed for you that you sell your house and get a decent offer. So heartbreaking when you find a house you love and it falls through.

If the worst should happen, given the current climate, if you sell yours and can't find anything straight away- would you consider renting for a bit? That would put you in a very strong position when you come to make an offer.

Tell me to shut up if I'm talking rubbish!

Yes, it's v v quiet here, can't wait for boys to come back. Am off out to shops with Niamh later on, I need to find something to wear for a wedding (evening) we've been invited to tomorrow, DH only told me about it last night !!!!!! Do you remember the Boxer dog saga, well it's said dogs owners wedding. They STILL haven't reimbursed us for the vets bill , think we'll have to write that one off as it's been over a yr.

Well I hope everyone else is well and reason for thread going quiet is because everyone's so busy busy busy and enjoying this gorgeous weather !

Hugs to all x x x x

Well, you'll love this, he's got a girlfriend!
He met her last Saturday and it's all spiralled form that! None of it is my fault and that is making it so much easier to keep my head.
Things are Ok, I'm packing boxes and focussing on moving out (still no date form the letting agents though).
He insists that they haven't "done" anything yet, but I'm not bothered, the way I see it is that this man is not the man I married and has not been for about 2 years so I haven't lost anything really (I've already lost him and just been living with someone else in his body).

This is setting me free in so many ways. I'm going to start a whole new life with my girls, I get to discover who I really am (I was a 19 year old depressed binge-drinking slut when we first met!) and I've got all the time in the world to do it!
No more being confused about thoughts in my head (have recently come to terms with my attractions towards women as well as men, sorry if that offends but hey you can't help how you feel), I've got time on my side now and I'm going to be more relaxed about being a SAHM as I wont be stuck out in the middle of nowhere with no-one to talk to.
Sure it wont be wonderful but it'll be different and I think that's quite nice, a change to keep my mind from struggling too much.

I'm not sleeping very well and have lost 5lb since Monday through not being able to eat properly (I honeslty just feel sick and am going to the docs next week to see if the IBS is back, more than likely due to stress ) but other than that I'm doing quite well.
I think he's trying to get a rise out of me at night, when I'm most likely to fly as I'm tired and hurt, but nothing he can say or do now will reduce me to becoming a bitch, as that would then give him a reason to feel better about leaving me like this. At the moment he's done this evil evil thing to someone who's actually turned out to be calm, reasonabvle and grounded, which will make oh so much worse, but that's fine as it doesn't affect me either way, I just know how I feel and I'm not going to start flying off on one just to help him feel better.

We're still friends (deep deep down) and I do worry about this whole thing going wrong for him cos he'd then be left with nothing, but he's now talking about moving in with her, or her moving in here, which is good, it'll mean some sort of stability, but I'm also worried that it's moving very fast for them and it might just burn out quickly (and, yes, I do mean "worried" not "hoping"), I don't want this whole thing to have happened just for some crappy little fling as that would belittle our marriage even more than he already has!

Anywho, I'm off again, just thought I'd let y'all know how things are going. Sorry I havent been reading posts much, have been scanning, but I'm in a very selfish place right now and trying to gather my thoguhts and plan for the future.

xXx

Hi!

Lush day - been out wandering and enjoying the sun. Little man is now in his cot battling sleep..so thought I would pop back on quickly whilst waiting for him to settle.

Hopey - yes, we have always been open to renting. But feeling so much more positive today. Our house is on with another agent and saw it on in their window today...if the house falls through then so be it. Our house is lovely and in a great location, so we really are very lucky, however things turn out.

MLCF - feel free to have posts about you and where you are! Think you have more than earned the right. Will you be offended if I honestly say that I am shocked and hurt for you?? Has he told you all of this? I really am so sorry for you. All my love and thoughts are with you - and please post away on here (i promise to pop on much more). I dont really know what else to say. Am really quite shocked...

Tell me about it! I honestly thought he was not the type, and from what he's said today he didn't think he was the type either .

I'm putting it down to all sorts of things, his dad cheated on his mum when he was younger (fathered another child then ended up back with his mum to go on and father his two brothers), his brothers have both recently been adultorous too so I had already had this enter my mind. Ho-hum!
xXx

I'm so sorry and shocked to hear this MLCF but you sound very strong at the moment (good on you), my thoughts are with you and the girls xx

Have had discussions this eve with my mum and we're pretty much convinced that he's probably been playing away for a while (which would explain just why he's been going to the pub almost every night of the week when we were so desperately struggling as it was!).

He's just this guy that I don't know so it's really quite easy to let him go and be free and live his life however he likes and if it all falls apart then fine, and if it doesn't then fine, it no longer affects me and as long as I don't fall into having to rely on him for anything then I'll be fine too.

I'm happily taking any advice that anyone can give me in the way opf legal rights etc, I'm taking all I can get as far as info is concerned and it'd be good to be clued up before he suspects that he may not get his own way, or that I may disagree with any terms he comes up with IYSWIM
xXx