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alicet · 20/03/2008 17:51

Well thought I should start a new thread in time to link it on the old one!!!

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yourlonglostpal · 17/05/2008 12:56

thyat's 'big' waves ...

AnyasMum07 · 17/05/2008 14:35

Choc - blimey, that's so hard - you have all my sympathy. I have no idea why she would be doing that. Just a thought - have you tried cranial osteopathy? (Who is it on here that's done that? Alice?) I understand that it works well if babies get a headache when they lie down, which a handful do apparently. Long shot, but you're probably grasping at straws by now. Other than that I'd definitely go to the docs and any other alternative health therapist I could think of - and making a really huge fuss until somebody did something that made a difference. Otherwise you'll end up a gibbering wreck! (How you're not one already I have no idea.)

Muppet - good luck with the big shop.

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ChocolateHobnob · 17/05/2008 18:49

Thank you for the sympathy! YLLP, I dont think R does need a lot of sleep - you're right. She does however seem tired by 7.30 when she goes to bed. I am trying to remember back to when she used to go to bed at 9.30 and whether that worked better, but her sleep has frankly always been awful. The thing is I need some sleep! Anyasmum, I have thought of cranial osteopathy, and not gone for it mainly because I was apparently exactly the same as a baby and indeed for most of my childhood - I just didnt need sleep. It could be that as we were both born by emergency c-section then we both ended up with the same problem, rather than her inheriting my tendencies, iyswim, in which case c/o could work. I don't know. I have been managing somehow and I guess I will keep on doing so - maybe solids will help?!

On which subject, she has had broccoli today - shoved a mini broccoli 'tree' into her mouth and sucked away. She deffo had some as little broccoli florets came out the other end (sorry for TMI!). She also had pitta and sucked on melon. Sooo... food is going better.

Anyway have good Sat nights everyone and thanks for the warnings about Bumbo seats - I've been assuming they were impossible to escape from!!!

ChocolateHobnob · 17/05/2008 18:50

Oh and Mine - hope Eren is totally okay now x

Mine · 17/05/2008 19:16

thanks Choc and everyone else. Thankfully he is ok, still has a a teeny tiny bump on his temple but he's fine. I couldn't sleep much last night from checking on him almost every 5 mins, but one night of bad sleep is nothing compared to you choc.

think abt c/o.... Eren was a very bad sleeper in the early days, but after we took him to a c/o she was a catalyst to sorting out his sleep problems. They are not cheap but well worth it imo. I think it was almost £30 a session!!

Not sure what else to suggest Choc as i guess by now you would have tried everything. I guess if Rebecca doesn't need much sleep, can you get someone to take her for a few hours during the day so you can catch up on your zzzzzzz...??

I truly don;t know how you function with such little sleep, but i guess you kind of go into auto pilot and just get on with it.
Hope you are taking care of yourself.

muppetgirl · 18/05/2008 09:57

Morning all!

Well, I went for a swim last night and then dh went out for a 5k run when I got back. Am now aching like mad -especially my arms!

Dh has taken Ollie for his swimming lesson and I am at home with Hen who is in bed. We tried Hen on bread and a biscuit yesterday after his mush and he loved it so that's what I;'m going to do from now on -give him his much and then something to grab, stuff in his mouth and chew. For breakfast he had a rusk after his cereal which was very messy but we were going to bath both the boys anyway so it didn;t matter.

We're off to a friends for lunch (the who is Godmother to Hen and I am Godmother to her lo) I don't think I'll be giving Hen anything to chew there as they have carpet in their dinning room and we can't all eat in their kitchen...

Inzi -How's Jane at the mo?

Choc -Hoping you got some sleep last night!

Floria -How did the Verdi go?

Stefka - How are you today?

Crochet - I am going to book the tiddly proms on the sunday for the 11am concert, hope you can make that one x Anyone else around for it in Cardiff?

Mine - Glad Eren is fine. It can be a bt of a worry when they have accidents. We're thinking we're going to be spending a lot of time in A & E with Ollie

J20/YLLP/Alice and anyone else I've not mentioned - Hope you're all well x

muppetgirl · 18/05/2008 09:58
Dalrymps · 18/05/2008 12:04

Appologies in advance for the me me me post.
Dh and I have just had an argument, he says he's stressed all the time about Dylan's eating and weight gain and he doesn't think i'm concerned enough, he says if I was bothered i'd make an appointment to see our doctor tomorrow and go see her. I told him the hv said last wed that we will get an appointmwnt from a doc who specialises in babies within the next 6 weeks and that she said not to bother going to see our normal doctor as it was better to see one who specialises in babies. Therefor I told him i'm not unconcerned, just doing what the hv said was best, afterall I want the best advice from the person best trained to give it.
We also argued yesterday as he gets really stressed when he feeds Dylan if he won't finish his bottle and sometimes rather than give it half an hour and try again (like i do, this usually works) he just keeps on persisting and putting the bottle to dylans mouth when he doesn't want it, this ends up in dylan arching his back and pulling away and crying and ali getting more stressed. I've brought this up with him time and time again over the last 6 months but no matter how many times he promises not to get stressed and not to 'force' dylan to drink his milk, i still see him doing it and he still gets stressed. He says i'm wrong and that dylan doesn't take enough cause i don't try hard enough and i just give up when he doesn't want anymore, this isn't true, i try him again and if he shows signs of not wanting it, rather than upset him i just try in a while and he usually finishes it. When dh 'persists' in trying to feed him after he doesn't want any he never takes any more, just gets upset, so the it's the same result just with more stress and upset.
I've tried so many times to explain this to him but it just doesn't go in, his answer is 'well, he has to drink more milk' and i say 'yes but forcing him to won't get him to drink it, plus it'll mean he associates feeding time with stress and i don't want him to have issues about food'. Then he just goes back to saying i'm not bothered about the fact he's too small/doesn't eat enough etc
I'm sooo sick of this, of coursr i'm bothered but 2 stressed parents aren't going to help his eating and neither is forcing him to eat
He's sulking upstairs now, I said I wasn't happy and he saud he hasn't been happy since dylan was born and wishes he worked 7 days a week... I said I wish he did too .
I've been feeling down lately, sometimes i'm perfectly fine and other times find myself having really dark thoughts, feelong depressed and wondering if I belong in this life so to speak. Sometimes I feel it's all too much and i'm not happy and dh isn't happy and maybe we should just call it a day . Then I feel bad cause dylan deserves 2 parents to look after him, not 2 who split 6 months after he's born.
I know this all sounds a bit out of the blue and we ususally seem happy but i just don't always feel like talking about the bad bits on here as if they don't exist.
Oh i'm just rambling. I just don't know anymore... sorry i haven't replied to any posts,will try to later.

Dalrymps · 18/05/2008 13:22

oops, i'm aware i accidentally posted dh's name there but i guess you can all see his pic on my profile anyway and i'm sure i've mentioned his name before...

AnyasMum07 · 18/05/2008 14:43

Dal - so sorry you're having a hard time. I think you're absolutely right about the way you feed Dylan - I've found that Anya sometimes wants a break in the middle of a feed - it's only the same as us needing a pause between courses of a meal. And yes you don't want Dylan to associate feeding with being stressed. Please please though don't think that you don't belong in this life - what would Dylan do if you weren't around? That would be the biggest tragedy in his life - don't do that to him. I know it's hard with dh at the moment - my dh and I went through a similar patch after we had Anya's diagnosis, we just argued all the time, mainly about how to handle her when she cried, which was stupid but we were just so stressed that even little things blew up into big rows. We're much better now - each time we get a good test result things improve, although there's still some way to go. You'll be the same - as soon as you both know that Dylan's ok you'll both calm down a bit. Now is the worst time to be making huge decisions about whether you and dh should split/stay together - neither of you will be thinking rationally. Don't really know what to suggest in the short term - can you ask your hv to get an appointment asap? - if you explain the stress that it's having on you both then she might be able to get you in sooner than 6 weeks. Feel free to vent on here any time you need to. Big hugs.

Muppet - hope you enjoyed your lunch.

We went out for brunch today - Anya had a cooked breakfast! - sausage, tomato, sauteed potatoes and potato cake, and toast of course. Didn't try fried egg - save that for next time .

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FloriaTosca · 18/05/2008 17:53

Just a quick one..got to go to Mums for dinner in a few minutes
Thanks for the good wishes...yes I got through the Verdi,on technique alone...no finesse...but it got the job done (and I got the cheque)Anyasmum, I'm glad you missed it ....I would prefer you heard me when I'm on form...best thing was Alex went to bed for my Mum without his usual bf at 8pm and without kicking up a fuss [seriously relieved emoticon]
No time ot respond to everyone but DAL;please dont despair it is a phase, it will pass; not just your worries about the lo but the difficulties in your relationship and your low mood too...everything will resolve itself eventually...there is nothing more likely to cause problems between even the most compatible couple than a baby and the subsequent responsibilities.Hang on in there, you know what you are doing is right and your dh is only trying to help as best he can even if you dont agree with him(nor do I for what it is worththings will resolve themselves soon enough....
damn... got to go...thinking of you and hoping things get sorted sooner rather than later

Dalrymps · 18/05/2008 23:34

Thanks for all the words of support and kind advice ladies, feeling a little better now, maybe this feeding issue is stressing me and dh out more thatn I relaise... It has been going on since christmas now .
Got to go to bed now but will be back on tomorrow to chat properly. Had a lovely walk today, about 6 miles along by the river and it made me feel better.
Thanks again, chat soon x

AnyasMum07 · 19/05/2008 08:51

Dal, glad you're feeling a bit better.

FT, glad the Verdi went well - still sorry I missed it!

Well, the day of the scan dawns. I had it planned to feed Anya at 7:30 then give her breakfast (no food/milk after 8:15). But she woke up at 5:45 and wouldn't go back to sleep - but she didn't really want any milk, only took 1oz. Thought we were doomed!! But then she stayed awake and built up an appetite and had 6oz at 7:30 - much more than she'd usually have in the morning - and then scoffed a load of cream cheese on toast and a tiny bit of banana. Huge relief all round ! Now she's gone back to sleep - hopefully for a really long nap. Then with any luck she won't get hungry until we're at the hospital (12:15), then she'll be easy to distract and by the time she realises she's starving hopefully they'll have put her under. Cross fingers everybody!

LisaLessLumpy · 19/05/2008 08:59

Hope it goes well xx

inzidoodle · 19/05/2008 09:05

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muppetgirl · 19/05/2008 09:07

Good luck anya + anyasmum xxxx

Dalrymps · 19/05/2008 09:30

back again, feeling ok this morning. What worries me lately is that a lot of the time I feel ok but just occasionally and very randomly I find myself having what I can only describe as suicidal thoughts, not that I would do that but I don't understand where they're coming from? Is it possible to be depressed but not feel depressed all the time? It's like it's just bubbling under the surface and just pops up occasionally, I scare myself with these thoughts... For instance, this morning I was brushing my teeth and I just thought 'maybe I could just kill myself', almost as if the voice came from somewhere else, I mean I was just brushing my teeth?! I'm not sure whats going on, anyone ever had anything like this? .
As I said though, I feel ok right now.
Anyway...
Floria - glad you got through the verdi and that Alex went to bed without a fuss, that must have been a relief.
Inzi - thanks for the advice re feeding, suppose I could try a different formula, only problem is he was a bit constipated on SMA and i'm not sure what to change to cause he's on aptamil at the moment? What does everyone else use? Glad the sleeping situation seems to be improvin a bit, hope it continues to get better.
Anyasmum - thanks for you kind words, nice to know someone else has been through the arguing, makes me feel better, not that i'd wish it on anyone... Wow at Anya having a cooked breakfast what a big girl!
Muppet - wish I had the energy to do as much excercise as you! Hope you enjoyed lunch at your friends.
Mine - Glad Eren is ok now, hope his litle bump is going down, must have been worrying for you. Keep expecting Dylan to do that one day, he's such a little roller now!
Choc - my symathies on the sleep situation, I honestly don't know how you cope, you must be made of stronger stuff than me! Hope it gets better soon, think the c/o might be a good idea, well, it's worth a try, i'd think anything is worth a try after you've been getting so little sleep for so long...
Stefka - well done on going to the gym, in my experience, any type of excercise automatically entitles you to a treat so don't feel bad about the chocolate . I'm supposed to be dieting as i'm going to be my brothers bridesmaid in 2 months but yeasterday I had pizza for lunch and chip butties for tea , I went with the theory that that 6 mile walk cancelled it out .
Oh I haven't told you all about the walk, we went with sil and bil and Dylan and our nephew who is 17 mo. We decided to walk along the river Tweed and then weren't sure where the path went after that but the men decided we should 'see where it went' (bad idea). It went up through some woods, not the best terrain for the buggies, the men had to push them through the mud, over tree roots, round stones etc, then, just when we were wondering where the hell we were, there was a sign that said if we went to the left it was 3/4 of a mile to the bridge at the bypass (on the other side of berwick) so we took that route. The muddy, bumpy path went down hill and ended up at one of those gates where you have to go through one half before you can go through the other half... so then we had to take the buggies apart and pass the frames and seats over the gate to get through. Then, Dylan got hungry so we had to feed and change him in the middle of a random field full of sheep! We followed the path along the other side of the river which wasn't muddy anymore but was covered in sheep poo, which dh stepped in and got all over his heel very funny! Then, We came to a sty followed by a very narrow path next toa sheer drop to the river [despair emoticon] so had to take the buggies apart again and basically carry the buggies along the path with the lo's in them as it was impossible to push them with the path being so narrow. My nephew then grabbed a passing nettle and started crying so we all had to search for a dock leaf to try and relieve his pain . The path cam out at some steps so we had to carry the buggies down those, go along a path with loads of thorns (2 got stuck in the tyre which now has a slow puncture) and then there were more steps back up to the main road which we had to carry the buggies up again.... It was then anout a 25 min walk back to dh's parents house. We decided to never do that walk again with buggies! Bad bad idea, we were totally knackered when we got back but also pleased we'd (accidentally) done some excercise .
Sorry to go on there but had to share the ridiculous story with someone!
Well, i'm gonna go give Dylan some breakfast, he seems to like the muller little stars yogurts so i'll give him one of them
Hi to everyone I haven't mentioned, catch ya soon x

Dalrymps · 19/05/2008 09:32

Woah that was long!
x-posted.
Good luck with the scan Anyasmum, hope it goes ok, will be thinking of you x

LisaLessLumpy · 19/05/2008 09:35

Dal - it sounds like you have pnd to me, aggravated with the stress of Dylans feeding. YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO YOUR DOCTOR asap. {{HUGS}}

The walk sounds a nightmare, I would have had a sense of humour failure for sure

Dalrymps · 19/05/2008 10:00

LLL - thats what i'm afraid of, i'm scared the doctor will think i'm not fit to look after Dylan if I tell them about my thoughts . Is it possible to have pnd but not feel down all the time? I thought depression was when you felt down no matter what? i'm confused.
The walk was a nightmare but parts of it were strangley enjoyable at the same time.

LisaLessLumpy · 19/05/2008 10:35

The doctor WILL NOT think that, please don't worry on that score. PND is very common. Broach the subject with your HV first if you are really worried. You will work through this, just think of it as a tiny blip on the landscape of life

Dalrymps · 19/05/2008 10:54

OK, will talk to dh about it first I think, haven't confessed my 'thoughts' to him cause i'm trying to be strong seen as though he's so stressed but I guess I need to do something about it.
How come I only feel like it some of the time though?

LisaLessLumpy · 19/05/2008 10:57

I am not an expert but I should think pnd is like that. How about searching the forums for pnd topics?

LisaLessLumpy · 19/05/2008 10:59

Do any of these symptoms fit...

Symptoms of postnatal depression include: low mood, difficulty looking after yourself and your baby, loss of interest in yourself or your baby, crying, difficulty concentrating, irritability, sleep and appetite difficulties, anxiety and panic attacks, despondency, and feelings of guilt and inadequacy.

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