Oct 2007 - This little piggy had pureed butternut squash and a slice of pear...

[alicet]

Well thought I should start a new thread in time to link it on the old one!!!

Hello everyone hope you are all having pleasant Saturday evenings.

Stefka I read your thread in the Sleep topic (sorry I didn't post, I got called away!) and I just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you, I dont know how you manage to keep going with so little sleep, I hope it improves for you soon.

Choc just wondering when your DD is awake is she crying or just awake? Zoe has good nights and bad nights regarding sleep. Generally when she is awake she isn't crying so I leave her in her cot where she laughs, chats, shrieks and bangs her feet on the cot I can at least doze a bit and she does sometimes put herself back over, so I was just wondering if your DD isn't crying could you leave her in her cot and maybe you could get a bit of sleep? Also have you tried one of the dummy holders which attaches the dummy to their clothes? I use one and it is great, zoe is even learning to use it to put her dummy back in and it saves me crawling around on the floor at night trying to find the dummy which has been launched out of her cot Hope you get a better nights sleep tonight than you are expecting.

Sorry Unicorn, missed your post! Have read your other thread and would feel exactly as you do, I hate things like that it makes you feel like you are back at school or something! If you find out a plan for making new friends please let me know as DH and I could do with a few more friends. I have found that since having DD I have made new friends through the baby groups but I don't know how to go about introducing DH to their Dhs and then if the DHs don't get on well will this make things weird. (Can you tell I over think things )

Polar I over think things too!!! Maybe have a bbq one weekend (if you have a garden or go to a pu bfor lunch if not). If the dh's don't hit it off doesn't mean you can't be friends with the mums - you can see them on your own and see other people with your dh. Good luck!

And you unicorn - have posted on your other thread.

Morning all, what a beautiful day it is here, a sprinkling of snow, blue skies and sunshine
I was supposed to be going for a run now but since my first run on thursday my left hip has been bothering me It hasn't been right for a while and the run seems to have made it worse. I'm so annoyed as I was really looking forward to training for the Race for Life will make an appt for the docs tomorrow and see what they say.

Ben's skin is much better, with the new creams and after speaking to the specialist it seems I wasn't using enough of the steroid cream, so I have increased that and it is much better

Everyone still up for the York meet on thursday? I'm looking forward to it, but I don't think its going to be picnic weather somehow How many of us are there going to be? Thought I might bake some cakes

I had a dodgy Chinese on Friday and have had the squits since yesterday. Feeling very dizzy and weak, lucky dh is around today. It snowed here too last night and we woke up to our windowsill covered in snow with the clock and lilly too -we always have our bedroom windows wide open. Ollie is a t grandmas and we thought we would have an us day today and go our for luch but I'm not straying too far from a toilet Love to all
x

Another bad night last night - poor little muppet just wakes up a lot. I keep getting bad dizzy spells. I don't know if I should see the Dr - I am guessing it's because I am so tired and there is not much I can do about that! I am a bit worried that I might get one when I am carrying DS though.

Thanks for the thoughts Polar.

Unicorn - that's really weird behaviour from those people. I think if that is the way they are then they are not really worth being friends with. I understand how hard it is though as I don't really have any friends round where I am and it can be very lonely.

hi guys

have had a mad rush today trying to get a high school musical cheerleading outfit for dd1s birthday, shes only going to be 8 but needs at least 9-10, anyway, 5 hours later i managed to track down one in York, funnily enough, so will have to pick that up thurs. i think i will try and and find the park and ride which has a bus that goes directly to the hotel so i don't have to trek accross Town, anyone remember the name~?

LLL-i'm def coming, cakes all round i think i'll have to try and remember to bring food and a flask of coffee, yummm.

oh gotta go again her ladyship calls, hope you're all having a nice Sunday x

Hello everyone
It is snowing here - how mad is that when on Monday I was sitting in the park in a t-shirt eating a very yummy chocolate icecream? i can't stand this changeable weather, I just want the spring to come and stay....
Well, DS has now reached the 6 month mark, and I am pleased that I managed to keep the BFing going, despite thrush, pain etc. he is now sitting up very happily on his own and playing with his toys, and we have started finger foods (he refuses my purees). Favourite is philly cheese on toast, and he loves yoghurt and fromage frais - will eat a whole pot in a sitting and would eat more if I would let him. I am trying to eat more healthily so he can eat what I eat, but pizza calls! I got him weighed on friday and he is 16lb 15.5oz.
Hope you are all ok

Hiya Strawberry - well done on reaching the 6 month mark!

Mairwen has taken wonderfully to finger foods - I haven'tried her with mush at all - and at this rate, I won't be [lazy mother emoticon] ... so very different to when I had Rhydian!

Unicorn, haven't commented on your thread due to lack of time but just to say the same as the others, really - I would chalk it up to them just not being as bothered as you and move onto other people who WILL be. No suggestions for meeting people you can be friends with as a family but maybe you could try the Alice trick of a barbecue (once the snow has gone!). Hugs anyway.

Stefka, I'm with you. I felt so ill all last night I was struggling not to throw up and I've had a terrible stomach all day. I think it might be the cheese my inlaws brought, but it is partly exhaustion due to waking up nonstop. Last night again DD didn't manage more than 45 mins at once, and mostly she was awake, crying. When she was sleeping, I was trying not to be sick. It is so hard, this constant fatigue. I've realized I look less tired than I am but the tiredness manifests itself as sickness more than anything else - maybe yours does as dizziness? Anyway if you're worried do see the doc, as wouldn't be good to get dizzy holding Dareh!

Muppet, poor you = hope you're okay now?

Strawberry, glad blw is going well (and ejt). DD is now 20 weeks and I will likely wait till 26 weeks too.

Anyway looking v forward to York!

Have added some pics to my profile ...

Choc and stefka - my sympathies are with you: Rhydian wasn't a great sleeper, but things did improve ...

I'd suggest you see your GPs to demand request referrals to a sleep clinic - you both sound like you need some help! Have you both spoken to your HVs?

Unicorn - I'd chalk it up to experience, and cut ties, and cut out the favours you do them. I had a similar situation last year when pg, when somebody I thought was a friend completely dropped me in the caca, for no other reason than spite: she's no longer a friend, and I have refused to do any more of the favours she's asked ...

Ejt - and anyone else doing BLW - what sort of foods do you offer your LO, and what time of the day? would like some suggestions to widen what i give DS

My HV just says leave him to cry which I just can't do. I don't really like my HV that much to be honest.

Did you all wait till 6 months to start weaning? I feel kind of bad for starting at five months. He was waking up so much though that I thought he might be hungry and he seemed to enjoy the food so much that I didn't want to take it away from him again. I haven't cut down on BF at all though.

Stefka, I waited until 5 1/2 months but that was because Zoe wasn't really looking for anything more until then. Don't feel bad about starting at 5 months lots of people I know have started about this time and earlier too. If he enjoys his food then that is great, I would let him enjoy it and if you are BF him the same amount then he is getting all the milk he needs.

ejt M's christening dress is absolutely beautiful, looks like a mini wedding dress I love the pictures of the two kids together they are so sweet.

Choc and Stefka, I really am in awe of you guys I do not know how you manage with so little sleep, I am thinking about you both and hope that things improve for you soon. Stefka could you change to another HV?

Muppet hope you are feeling better soon.

Hello to everyone else hope you are all well.

ok time to catch up with you all lol, been kinda coming n going for a while now.

I have no excuses, i have an angellic baby but for some reason feel snowed under....
DP is about to be made redundant, we have got to find somewhere else to live, ds1 is having a hard time at school, i just don't seem to have 5 minutes to spend with him even though zachary sleeps like a dream, i seem to have gotten so wrapped up in being with him that Karl feels left out. I didn't mean for him to feel like this, now i have o find a way out of it!!!!!!! any ideas?

I have lost loadsa weight before pg i was a 16 in clothes now i have some 12's that are falling off of me everywhere except the boobs lol which remain a 40c grrrrrrrr mind u they were always like that except when i was a size 8 and weighed 8stone jeez that was 12 yrs ago!!!!!

Zachary is now in 9-12m clothes but only weighs 19lb, seems to have slowed down although he has lost a bit cos he was 21lb but has had a chest infection. Am trying to get a new cot for him as i can't afford a new mattress for his £60 is cheapest i can find!! but have one to look at on wednesday from freecycle.

Have had lengthy discussions with dp and we have no choice but to go to council to register on housing list.... but the good thing is after 6 months we can go on transfer list and get out of london thank fcuk for that i am beginning to hate it here.
Have also managed to wangle a day with dss who is a demanding 14yr old but have told dp we are not gonna be going out anywhere expensive just cos his son is gonna be there, a park is good enough for the kids.
Have applied for a job and am praying i get it, it is doing baby signing, and they give you free training!!!!!!! plus the other benefit of it is i can take Zachary with me and still earn up to £30 an hour fingers x'd for me girls!!!!!

Also this yr would have been dads 60th birthday so my sister and i want to have a plaque put up for him in a garden of rememberance, this probs sounds silly but i can't wait as i will be able to go there and take zachary and talk to my dad.... stupid i know. I miss him so much, losing him was like losing my right hand. I just can't get the image of him taking his last breath out of my head, even after 4 yrs....

on that note i am off as i am a bit tearful.

Oh TLES it doesn't rain but pours sometimes doesn't it? I can totally understand why you feel snowed under, I think anyone would with all you have going on. I think the plaque idea sounds great as you would take great comfort from it and it will give you a focus point to go and talk to your dad. Would this be in London though? Good idea if you can get out of London as you sound a bit p*ed off by it, especially ds 1's school. Maybe a big move would give you and him the chance to have a fresh start and a new school. Sorry to hear of Dp's job I hope he can find another one asap. I also think it's a good idea you have told dp that dss can make do with less expenxive things for a while. He will just have to lump it.

You have a space reserved on my shoulder to cry on whenever you need it x I know I can't physically help but sometimes a bloody good rant helps a little.

Well, my tummy seems to have sttled though I still don't fancy any food atm (a sure sign I'm not right!) I'm drinking lots of water adn dh made me to drink some of those dioralite (SP?) things that put the minerals and salts back in you. I hate them as they make me feel sick!

Ejt - great christening robe! We are still waiting for ours back from Canada from B + SIL really hope we get it in time.

Mine -How are you today? Just thought, I had a bit of time on my own whilst dh took H food shopping yesterday. I loved it and it also gave him time on his own with H.

Stefka - With Ollie he grabbed a sandwhich off my plate and stuffed it in his mouth at 15 weeks, we weaned him then and he never looked back. Always had a massive appetite. Henry is now 22 weeks and still not really that fussed on food. Just shows that they are all different and you should follow guidelines where possible but trust your own instincts regarding your own baby.
I have also heard that if you crack daytime naps then 'sleep breeds sleep' So if you're thinking of sleep training, try to get lo to have a nap in the morning and one in the afternoon using the same routine. He is in his growbag and gets given his 'ellie' to ratlle and snuggle with and also a cotton crib sheet to play with (my son is weird as he likes to play with muslins and sheets) He naps from 10-11 and 1-2.30. These are 'ish' times, sometimes longer sometimes just as they are. I also put the blind down and say the same thing to him -Night night, sleep tight, hope the bedbugs don't bite -and if they do give them a kick from me!' (Ollie has great fun in making up different answers)
Sorry if this teaching you to suck eggs
You can also try putting a scoopful of baby rice in lo's bottle before bed. It still comes through an ordinary teat and is just that little bit thicker.

Choc - Am really hoping Rebecca gives you some sleep soon x

Hi Alice! Hope you had a good weekend.

Anyone heard from Anyasmum lately?

Oh good grief that was an epic post!

LES - Hope you get the job and get out of London. Also don't despair on the weight loss, I just wish mine would go so easy

I know what you mean about your dad, I lost mine 3 yrs ago in January, I was there when he had his last breath too, it is a very hard image to get out of your mind. He would have turned 60 in the Nov of 2005. My mum has his ashes in the base of a bird bath in the garden as he loved his birds, so I always feel I am near him when I go home. I was 5 months pregnant with Sam at the time, I so wished my dad could have seen him, at least he knew I was pregnant with a boy, I find some consolation in that. Hugs xx

Stefka - I started weaning Ben at 17 weeks so don't worry

Hello to everyone else, Sam is demanding 'aahh's' which is a cuddle, so will be back later

What I usually do is go to the clinic and hope that I get to see the other HV as I like her. That usually works!

With naps - well at the moment he only naps in motion so I am doing anything to get him to nap so that he at least gets one. He's in the sling right now - I treated us to a Mai Tai and he goes to sleep in that. Then I take him out in the pram to get him to sleep at lunch time.

Saying that though Stefka - he's had 9oz at 7.30am and another 8oz with a scoopful of baby rice at 8.30am and now he's crashed out on his playmat! The plan doesn't happen always!!

oh {{{{{{{tLES}}}}}}}}} ... there's a space here on my shoulder for you to weep on too if muppetgirl's not around!

Stefka / Choc - do you want to borrow my copy of the No cry sleep solution?

Can't remember who asked about blw ... I give Mairwen what we're having - I just make sure it's cut into wedges so she can hold it easily.

She's now tried and liked:

• green beans
• peas
• potatoes
• red & green peppers
• carrot
• apple
• rice cakes

She's tried and disliked:

• broccoli
• banana

As for when, she sits at the table with us, and eats when we're eating, so it's mostly evenings, although she's had a couple of lunches too while Rhydian's been on Easter holidays.

LES great big hugs honey - just to add that I'm here too if you need a virtual hug...

Muppet glad the tummy is settling!

Well thought I would have a bit of time to post as dh has taken Sam out to the post office (he didn't have to go in till late this am as we had our builder coming to give us a quote for our extension) but Adam is chuntering a bit so best go see to him!

Be back later....

Unicorn; responded to your post, you have done the right thing and I hope you can widen your circle of more emotionally mature friends soon.

Choc/Stefka; I have no more advice,Alexs sleep was never so bad and has improved (most of the time)I can only add my sympathies for your sleep deprivation and hopes that things improve for you both very soon. Stefka, I had a tummy bug at Christmas that made me dizzy and totally understand your fear of dropping the baby...I pushed him round the house in his pram rather than carrying him in case I passed out and feeding and changing him on the floor for the same reason....If your dizziness is due to exhaustion then as ejt sugested you really need to see your gp and get referred to a sleep clinic, and in the mean time hire a mothers help/childminder for one or two mornings or afternoons a week to give you that bit of time off so at least you can get a couple of hours sleep to recharge your batteries a little.

tLES; No wonder you feel snowed under,the threat of redundancy, moving house again, ds and dss problems and a baby!! (no matter how angelic)...I'm so with you on the berevement front, wish I wasn't, but I totally understand (I was there at the end too)at times it feels so unfair..the world is not so safe anymore..I too want somewhere special I can take Alex and tell him how wonderful his granddad was, I hope you get somewhere soon and I hope the baby signing works out for you too.

EJT; love the robe

Mine;sorry I wasn't online when you were needing a shoulder...I hope you feel better and have an action plan in hand...don't feel guilty; I have friends who felt so cut off from their old life that they sent their 4 month old (yes 4 months!!) off to stay 2 weeks with her grandparents.... in MALTA!!!!Personally I have the opposite problem..if we won the lottery I'd stop working tomorrow so I didnt have to miss even those few hours with my little darling, but that is probably because I waited so very, very long for him and I'm not going to get the chance to do this all over again so I'm trying to store up every second ...

..in fact I have a bit of a dilemma on this subject...

...Dh is 40 today, we had a big party on Saturday night for him (which is why I've been silent for a few days...busy,busy,busy, shopping, catering, cleaning decorating the party tent etc etc etc)All his friends (3 couples)have clubbed together and bought him a weekend 4x4 off roading experience...they consulted me about its appropriacy beforehand and I was fine with it (thought it would be nice to get away together as nuclear family for the first time... visions of mother and son watching admiringly from the sidelines)...but on Saturday they gave him the tickets and announced that as he could take 4 passengers they were all going to join in, make a couples only weekend of it, that the blokes would go in the car with him and the girls would go shopping etc together and I was to get a babysitter and dog sitter for the weekend! Now last year I wouldnt have objected in the least we could go away alone another time but now we have Alex..the other couples are 1)childless 2)have a 19 & a 16 yr old and 3) have a 9yr old and an 9 mth old bottle fed baby(this is the couple who sent their baby to Malta!) ....when I said "Oh No, Alex is still breast fed" they said the ticket was valid for 6 months and I could start getting him off the breast now!...Why the hell should I? I love bf! I have no intention of stopping before 12 months unless absolutely necessary, and though I quite enjoyed our first meal out without Alex last week there is a big difference between 2 hours and 2 whole days! I waited a blardy long time for my son why should I want to give up any of my precious time with him to go shopping and drinking with them?
I havent said anything to DH yet...I dont want to spoil his birthday (he was very keen on the idea...I can see that for him it would be like recapturing the pre-me days when they used to go skiing on Windermere together, getting p*ssed on Stella and all sleeping together under the canvas awning while the kids slept in the caravan)...but I really object to being backed into this corner. At the moment I feel like my options are either to brooch the subject with dh now to he knows how I feel and take the shine off of his joy or keep quiet until he decides when he wants to do it and if I still feel the same, simply refuse to go

he calls..will be back