Jan '07 part 23: Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No! It's 2happy's flying shed!

[2happy]

Watch out cows, here it comes!

I have to say I am especially pleased with my "you're like a nazi " comment. I'm sure a swear word was in the sentence too....

he was out all day with ds1, just home to a spotless kitchen/house.

Bummer about your freezer LTH. Hope you had a nice big dinner though.
Great news about the rented house Wilkie.
EaH hope Hattie is better tomorrow. Poor her, and poor you.
2Happy - don't get me started on men. At the moment I reckon I could rant for England.

I'm shattered. DP gone out tonight and I didnt go with him as I wanted an early night to catch up on sleep. DJ must have known this, and has spent the last 2 and a half hours screaming his head off everytime I left his room. I've got over the rocking backwards and forwards in a corner bit now, and drugged him up with medised so I can get some sleep in.

Please tell me I am not a bad mother for doing that. Am feeling slightly bad. x

LTH - your dh sounds just like mine. He's had flu for 4 days now (to be fair proper flu not just man-flu) and has finally got up today to tell me the house is a mess! Interestingly there's an article today in the Times saying if men want more sex then they have to do more of the housework! I showed it to dh who just laughed

Wilkie - I live just the other side of Halifax but the shopping is much better in Huddersfield so if I need a few things I quite often pop over. Dh works in Huddersfield as well. Glad all is going well with the house

I've had a busy day too. DD's 1&2 go to a dance class in the morning, then I had to collect my wedding ring from the jewellers (I've had it re-made as I've never liked the original one and dh has bought me a new engagement ring too to go with it). Then went on a walk this pm with older kids that had been arranged through school. However, it chucked it down so we all came home soaked and tired but there was an easter egg hunt so kids were happy at least. Then had to throw some tea together from nothing (ended up doing 4 different things) and have been to Tesco's tonight so we've something to eat tomorrow. And done 3 loads of washing but ironing basket now overflowing .....why does it never seem to end?

Hope to catch up tomorrow

Afternoon - where are you all? Hattie seems to be on the mend, was only sick once last night and hasnt been sick at all today but very sleepy. Got oine wet nappy but she is drinking and keeping it down so not to bothered.

Took Ellie to the kids club cinema this morning, batgain £2.50 for her free for me and tis week it was disneys enchanted. DH tried to take her before and she freaked out and they left, I found some trailers of them film so she knew what we'd be seeing and explained it'd be dark and loud she had a minute of saying she didnt like it but she loved it and was clapping at the end and it was lovely to have some time with her on her own, I have said that we'll go once a month if she is good.

Apart from that a lazy day catching up on housework/washing and took ellie out on her bike earlier. Need to go and cook some dinner in a mo (being lazy shepherds pie for E and H, if she wants some) and home made burgers and salad for us

FGS...what on eearth was I thinking about having another child with my fucking nazi dictator husband?

I knwo I have PMT atm but the way he is makes me wantto pack a fucking bag and leave.

Been up since 4:40am with G, awake since about 4 trying to get him to stay alseep so teh day satrted off bad.

When dh finally got up at aboyt 8:40am saying "Blimey that was agood night sleep" I felt lke stabbing him.
It had been on my mind that he never apologies for anything. The motherday thing, then yesterday muttering wheh I was run off my feet are just the recent ones.
I spend my life doing stuff to make his life easier, so that he's not late for work, I keep the house clean and tidy (although what I do do is not enough...he forgets we've got 4 kids), I do all the cooking, thw washing (he doesn't even know how to use teh machine!) and does he do anything to show me that he apprieceiates it?

Like fuck he does.

Theres an on going thing with my b'day and xmas that he just doesn't knwo whatto buy me...well hello we've been togetehr nearly 13 yrs FFS...do you know me at all??

I said to him this morning "Do you realise that you never apologise for anything....not once. The mothers day thing, yesterday, al the stuff you do that causes arguments...I have never heard you apologise once for making me feel shit"

He lloked at me with the most patronising of expression, with is head cocked to one side and said "sorry".....honestly the way he said it was so condesended and soooo unbeliveable insinscere you would not believe.
Ohhh but he hoovered all upstairs earlier so that makes it all ok. He does it like he's doing me a favour.

I hate him atm.

I satyed out of his way all day because I'm not allowed to comment on anything because "i'm just causing an argument" so I just didn't talk to him.

Then to put a cherry on the top of a really good day he was ranting aboutthe kids watching telly and told them to turn it off and do somthing else.

"Yes ...ok get the paints out" he said when they asked at 4:30pm. he started work at 5pm so guess who was left to sort all the mess out???

[anry]

Sorry girls, i know i only come here with great big dramas, you prob all think Im making it up and attention seeking (I worry about that actually) but I'm not. I swear on the moon and stars that its all true.

oh please come back and all agree that he's a shitbag.

feel all paranoid now....

Oh LTH I am sorry you are having such a pants time at the moment.
Can you ask him for some "me" time? And go and get a beauty treatment or something?
I find it hard enough getting time to do anything for myself with just one kid, so 4 must be impossible.

I reckon getting a local price list from the nearest beauty salon and highlighting things you want done would be a good start.

If its a case of doing it when the boys are at school don't hesitate to drop off George & or James with me for an hour whilst you get your nails done or something.

I hope tomorrow is better x
from Me....(who has drugged her baby again tonight)

don't worry lizzz, mine is drugged tonight too. I think he might be tetthing but I;m in no mood (or state) for another night like last night.

Can never be faffed with beauty treatments, nail etc, the seem abit of a waste to me as I'm bloody gorgeous already . I dunno , i need to get him to see taht the way he is is shit, its not just about getting out on my own (which actually I'm doing 2 evenings next week)

Another thing to brighten my evening is that I just remembered Dh has this coming week off work...god help me.

LTH, read your rant earlier and wanted to post 'He is an ARSE' but decided that was a bit harsh.

However - haveing re-read your rant have decided that:

HE IS AN ARSE!!

thing is, he's completely oblivious to that fact though wilkie.

when I treid to telling him about the way he does a running commentary about everything he does like he'd going it all for my benefit he cut me off with "FGS....why are you starting an agrument about it....all I did was move x,y,z"
I hadn't even got 10 words out before he started going off on one.

Pleased I am not the only drugger mum this evening!

Definately wasnt suggesting that you needed beauty treatments! Just thought it would be an alternative to getting out for shopping and ending up browsing the kidswear department.

I'm afraid I have no useful advice to give you re. dp. Its a bummer. He needs to see how hard you work to run your house etc. Maybe you could go on strike for a day/week...to show him what it could be like. Or maybe suggest that as he has a week off work he could help you so you get some time off too...doing SHOCK HORROR...housework!

Make a list of everything you have to do each day and leave it out visible so he can see it, and maybe he will feel guilted into asking if you need any help?
Tell him nightmare stories of people who don't do housework, ironing etc etc, to make him appreciate you.
Failing this, nominate him for that "mums on strike" TV program, where you get a week off and he has to cope on his own.
Good luck. Hugs - and enjoy your 2 nights out next week! x

Lizz - you'll get a reputation as the local toddler drug dealrer (although Hattie is often dosed up on medised when she is being a pain is poorly.

LTH- not sure I can offer any constructive advice as DH is useless but would live in squalor so never comments on house appearance (and my fondness for cleaning means its me who is ultra picky) as for xmas/birthdays me and dh been together 11.5 years and he still needs a list (or if he does wander from the list its normally wrong so I take it back) I can't wait till Ellie is older I can show her what I like then dh can pay!! The only thing he has ever done that was spontaneous and perfect was a photo of the girls that I loved and he got his mum to order me a mug and mousemat with it on when I went back to work last year (am imaging it was probably more mil idea)

Have downloaded my software for internet on new laptop so not using internet expolrer now, plus loaded norton/firewall. Now need to do my restore disc and load pics from camera into new folders

wow loads of posts whilst I did mine!

LTH - good luck for week off, I hate DH having week off if we havent got anything planned as he just seems to get in the way of normall daily routine (god I sound like a right whingy wife) he is fine if we have stuff planned (decorating or days out etc) and he always picks the week before pay day to have off when we are skint

Actually Lizzz, I am coming shopping tomorrow for any outfit for my 2 nights out.
I will not be browsing any kidswear section (well maybe alittle peek).

If you saw me ATM you force some beauty treatment on me.

whats the saying>

'God gave her beuaty then smacked her in the face with a shovel'

Well with the bags under my eyes thats what I look like atm...excpet the beuaty bit wasn't really there to satrt with

Sorry - can I just rant a sec:

This fucking COD challenge bollocks is so fucking ridiculous. Sometimes MN is like a school playground. It really hacks me of - I can't say I have found it remotely amusing and it appears that the 'inner circle' of longstanding MNers find it totaly hilarious and all leap to COD's defence if anyone dares to say how shit it is.

I have posted on a couple of threads and then had second thoughts cos they might not be real.

Is this really what MN is about???? People keep saying 'It's only a week of fun' but it is a load of shit and has really annoyed me. Not gonna bother with MN until the 'fun' is over (apart from you guys).

Stop! I am sure you are not that bad!

I went into town this afternoon with (wait for it...!) NO MAKE UP ON!!! I have a stinking cold and needed supplies.
The security staff were practically following me round the shopping centre! I had drug dealer written all over me!

pills
pills
anyone want some pills?!

Wilkie - DONT GET ME STARTED!!!
Its such a waste of space.
Don't these people have things to do in RL?
I don't often get time to have a browse MN these days, and when I do, I don't want to see lots of fake threads.

I've been here 5 loooong yrs wilkie I I find it ridiculous too.

Too much tim eon theri hands springs to mind!

I can't remember the last time I went out without make up on , on friday afternoon had a banging headache at work and ended up washing my make up off in bathroom as I'd been rubbing my eyes and smudges mascara/eyeliner everywhere, came back downstairs and everyone commented on how tired/apsty I looked and was I ok

Wilkie - I am pissed off with the cods challenge thing and if I was new to MN i would be so confused plus what if someone starts a thread and everyone thinks its part of cods challenge thing and takes the piss

but like you said - you say something and get jumped on and accused of being boring etc.

I have hardle been on MN this weekend and havent missed it much either!

Morning

Quick posr before work to say hi.

What on earth os cods challenge??? Ionly read our thread so clueless about rest of MN

LTH - hope you have a better week than weekend.

My w/e at ILs was nice actually cos I just vegged out on the sofa and ate a lot. DH had to rest his ankle so was good we weren;t dashing about, just meant I had to do all the driving.

E&H - hope Hattie is a bit better

Good morning!

I don't know about cod's challenge but she annoys me too!

Logged on early to weigh in with weightwatchers but not had a good week so came here instead! My wireless connection not working either so using next doors (she said I could but still feel cheeky!)

LTH - sorry you're having such a bad time with dh at the mo. I once realised dh never apologised for anything and when I had a big row about it he said he had nothing to apologise for (rather smugly) - how I didn't smack him one I don't know!!! Hope things get better soon

E&H - glad she's getting better

It's chucking it down here and I'm trying to decide whether I can get away with going to school with a hat on instead of washing my hair! I'm knackered as lo was up for 2 hours in the night with her teeth (she's got loads!)

crashes thread to post birth announcement but pleased to see LTH has beat me to it

gory(ish) details on there now

Congrats again MoM

I'm shattered. Had the boys to myself since friday lunch, dh got back yesterday and had the cheek to say he was tired - well yes, a stag do'll do that for you . He got home, then proceeded to watch the full weekend's rugby that he'd recorded!! Still, at least we won the Calcutta .
Actually, right now I just wish I could go on holiday. I mean, I would love to be on a beach, in the warmth, lying doing f* all all day by myself. Of course, couldn't be arsed with the travel, would miss the boys, would miss dh, would get lonely. So I don't really want to go at all, but if I could snap my fingers and be on a beach I would.
And with you all on the challenge thing, never know whether to post in case it's a wind up, it's just a way of making everyone else feel uncomfortable and excluded. This place is supposed to be about support. And you can't post anything lighthearted without someone, probably deliberately, taking it the wrong way, starting some arguement. I'd go and find something better to do with my time - if only I could find it (and I don't mean clean the bathroom, though that's what I should be doing just now)

Just eaten a pack of kettle chips and I've rubbed the top of my mouth.

Its Sooooooooo irritating !

Serves me right for being greedy I suppose

Gawd...... I've got nothing else interesting to say.....

Where's all this bad weather thats been forecast then ?