August 2007- Half a year of sleep deprivation later... (but we're finally back in our skinny jeans!)

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

New thread! Whoop whoop!

Welcome to the thread, lollipop Yeah course we take "newcomers", several of the people posting regularly here have joined in the last few weeks. I think knickers lo was born on the 15th too.

Knickers you aren't a bad mum because your lo gagged! gagging is how they learn how much they can fit in their mouth, it's an inevitable part of learning how to eat. I suppose I'm desensitised to it as my little thicko shoves his fists so far down his throat he retches. All The Time.

Ohh Lizzie, it's not just PMT my dp is driving me mental! He doesn't tell me he's trying to quit smoking, he just runs out of fags and then sees how far he can go. In the meantime he's snarling and slamming about and generally being a turd and I'm scared to open my mouth. I eventually twig that he's run out of cigs and say "why don't you just go and get some?" (NOT realising he's trying to quit, as he hasn't told me, remember) and then he goes mad and accuses me of sabotaging him. Aaargh!!!

Just had a lovely trip to asda with him barging the car through tiny gaps (you know where most normal people slow down in case they hit someones car at a narrow bit? my idiot dp speeds up and barges through, I hate it) and stomping about. I could kill a glass of wine but we have none.

Leifmum sorry about the puncture, isn't that typical??? See yesterdays balloon incident.

Any millionaires on our hands then? Tasha? I did one line, didn't get one number!

Hope everyone has a lovely mothers day! (and a lie in!) xxx

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Oh Knickers - congratulations but also sympathy re the throwing up.

Both my pgs were very pukey. I really suffered with dd1 especially. I always remember the early months as being so horrible with the sickness. I can hardly believe that a year ago I spent a lot of time with head down the toilet. dd1 used to hit me on the back whilst I was retching and mimic me. (until boredom set in after 10 seconds and then she started demanding Rice Krispies!)

Quick post before bed, my dp just came up, hugged me, said "happy first mothers day" which was cute, then ruined it with "I can't find your card, sorry"

I said "What, did you put it away somewhere safe or something? or leave it at work?"

"dunno, I haven't written it yet, sorry"

We were in asda earlier ffs. If he gave half a shit he could have got me another one. If he ever had one at all and it isn't just a big lie to get out of buying me one.

He says he'll get me one tomorrow (when I looked disappointed)

Honestly, men!!!!

Welcome onepieceoflollipop. My ds was born on 15th August too! I think that makes 5 of them so far born on that day.

leifmum - my mum gets punctures all the time on the school run. My dad thinks she runs over glass on purpose. He often refuses to repair it so then she has to borrow my buggy which then gets punctured too.

lay in James, breakfast in bed tasha - no chance! It wouldn't even occur to dh to do that for me. I was supposed to have a lay in yesterday because ds had me up at 2am Friday morning but dh made me get up at 7am because ds had him up at 5 . In intend to get him up at 7 this morning so I can go back to bed. Dh would never forfeit his sleep even if it was my birthday.

Sorry to hear about the ms knickers. I was never sick with either of mine but I felt really nauseous for about 4 months with both. It was horrible.

Men are useless when it comes to occasions James. I have to get all of dh's family's birthday cards and christmas cards/presents. He may have got me something for mother's day but only because he went out yesterday to get something for the grandmothers. I wanted to go out shopping to get the stuff but he gave me a look when I said I was going on my own. God forbid he would spend any time with the dcs. Anyone would have thought he was going to have them on his own for a week.

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Had an enormous row last night in bed because he wanted to know why I'd been crying. I told him that not getting a card on my first mothers day was the perfect end to a really shitty fortnight, and that he'd really hurt me this time. He shrieked that he'd got me a card but couldn't find it,
I said "I haven't seen you looking, you've been sat on your arse all evening"
he says "I don't know where it could be!"
"so you didn't bother looking at all then?"
"It's either at work, or lost"
"if you thought it was lost why didn't you get me a replacement one in asda today?"
"I didn't know it was missing til after we got home (asda is open til 10pm saturdays)"

So, if the card exists at all, he thinks it's lost or sitting in the office. And he wasn't going to look for it, or get me another. So as far as I'm concerned that means he wasn't going to get me a card.

I cried my eyes out and told him what I thought of him, then went to sleep in the spare room. J woke up screaming at 3.30am, so I changed him (twice!) and got back into our bed to feed him as he was wide awake. The alarm went off at 6.30am despite me asking dp to please check it was off before bed (had me up at 6.30am yesterday too) so I've been up ever since.

I feel so sad, I knew he was crap with birthdays (tried to give me an unwritten card) christmas (called me a c* during a row over whether we could get a tree to fit in the car, so we didn't have a christmas tree) but this one really hurts. I keep crying over it, my eyes are really swollen.

Of course, he's having a nice lie in. He makes me so angry I could literally punch him one.

james - big hugs and happy first mothers day to you (and eveyone else). start making noise if he's not up yet. you never know he may redeem himself (fingers crossed you).

my DP is off to his mothers (about 2 hour drive away) with dd2 and i've got dd1. his mum is a really long story which i'll avoid here! so my mothers day will be spent with only one of my dds - so i'm a bit teary too (silly i know). i got a cord from dd1 - but that was the one she made at playgroup during the week. though we did have lunch out yesterday.

knickers - my goodness, congratulations! . hope the ms isn't too bad.

leifmum - do they not have to maintain your pre mat leave conditions/salary?

lollipop - welcome - i've got 2 dds, dd1 is 3.1 and dd2 was born 7th aug.

helibee - got your text, bet your glad to be home.

oh well - dd1 wants to go on a train so off to see if there are railworks, if there are then we'll go and see if there are any castles open (do you thingk she's gong to be a tomboy

welcome lollipop! hope you have a lovely mother's day with your two dd. my dd Matilda was born on 3rd so it's her 7 month birthday tomorrow - scary! know what you mean about having lots of boys names. we found out at 20 weeks we were having girl. took ages to decide on a name. hope next time we have a boy to make it easier!

big hugs james. really sorry your day has been so rubbish already. that's exactly how i felt when i didn't get a 'proper' birthday card and dh just didn't get why i was so upset. when i'm feeling really peed off with dh i try and remember if it wasn't for him i wouldn't have dd but to be honest doesn't always work!!!! (especially doesn't work when i try to remember if it wasn't for mil i wouldn't have dh )

dh is working today but he did bring me breakfast in bed and gave dd her weetabix so i didn't have to get up quite so early so i've had a good day so far. just put her down so hopefully got an hoour to myself now.

how are you feeling knickers? hope the ms isn't too bad today. will you be telling your family the news already or leaving it until you've got your heads round it? i remember we told our families at about 8 weeks. had to tell work straight away because of H+S but didn't tell any of my team members for a few weeks. was very difficult reorganising rotas and responsibilities and avoiding doing certain things without telling people why!

so did you win last night tasha? you coould pay for us all to get together at a health spa to be pampered for a weekend

hope you managed to get back to bed Gill!

hello my2weegirls! do you know i'm really not sure!!!! i've just put a post on employment threads so maybe someone there will know. i'll get more details tomorrow and i'll speak to my union rep. i know if they couldn't give me my full time job back but gave me an alternative they would have to keep me on same grade but because i'm changing to part time i don't think they have to. i'm sure they will pay the least amount of money they can!

fingers crossed - does your mat policy say anything about it? or is it the ususal waffle that's too difficult to understand?

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ooops - dd1 had her finger on the keyboard

i'll dig it out and have another look. think that because they're not obliged to offer me part time at all then they can offer me whatever they want. i'll see what they say tomorrow then work out if financially it's worth it. think i'll have to do it to begin with anyway while i look for something else nearer home.

hope you enjoy your day as best you can x

To all the mums with crappy dh/p's, on behalf of your lovely children 'happy mother's day'!

Mother's day is slipping me by today as well. Dh was admitted to hospital with chest pains yesterday. We're desperately hoping its not cardiac related - but he has got high blood pressure and cholestrol. It's all a bit scary. So far results have come back ok, so hopefully its just a bit of indigestion, and not his heart. Should hear more today. He said he was planning to take the boys out yesterday afternoon to get a card and pressie, but obviously couldn't. Ds1&2 have been off school/pre-school all week with nasty colds/chest infection, so they haven't been able to bring home the usual bits and pieces they do there. We were at the hospital for hours yesterday and all 3 were REALLY well behaved. But today they seem to be making up for it. It flippin ww3 here. I'm having to use my favourite tactic - divide and conquer. Oh and I seem to be coming down with their bugs too. Aaarrrggghhh, why can't we be a healthy household for once?

Hello lolly. I'm new here too, just been here a few weeks. I have 3 ds, 8, 3 and liam who was born on the 27th, a few weeks early. Another 'L'!

Sorry about the me me me post. Just feeling stressed. Should be back to normal soon hopefully.

Oh god, reading that back, it seems I'm more worried about a mother's day card than dh in hospital with chest pains. That's really not the case. Obviously I'm more concerned about him. (Sorry)

oh kinki! what a horrid stressful time for you. really hope you get some good news about dh. sending some positive vibes your way xxx

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Oh dear, kinki, all the best, I hope it's just nothing and your dh is home and well soon. And all your dc off poorly too, how stressful for you. Sending positive vibes your way.

Dp got up at almost 9am so I changed and fed James and announced I was going back to bed for the lie in I never got.

Stayed in bed til noon, ignoring (well, you know what I mean) J crying downstairs, as I figured dp would just have to tough it out. I even deigned to tell him before I went up that J was due a nap, and here was his blanket and dummy. It still took about 15. min of whingy crying before I heard dp say "are you tired? is that it?" duhhhh lol

But he was ok, they both survived and when I came down later, dp had got him dressed, washed his face and I think he'd given him a bottle off his own back too, which is unheard of, so he's majorly sucking up!! He has now taken him downtown in the buggy for the first time ever, presumably to get me the last mothers day card in the shop.

I had to speak to him a bit to tell him take the changing bag, the rain cover, hat and gloves, and some ricecakes and a toy, as he was going to go with nothing! I refrained from telling him where every baby changing room in the town was. Just.

Serves him right to grovel a bit, he made me feel so worthless last night, again. Ironic that on MOTHERS DAY he has spent a decent block of time with James for once, it's the first time.

Think I'll go and have an undisturbed bath! Feels weird without James here.

Hope you'll all having good days, you all deserve it! xxx

kinki, thats terrible. god i hope you get good news. positive vibes going your way from here too.

lollipop- welcome, i didnt have the problem of having too many boys names, i got to use all of mine Rhys is 3.5, Dylan is 1.5 and bradley is 6months.

james-glad your dp is trying to make up for his selfishness. and sorry to here about everyone else that isnt having a great day. it makes me so angry that they only have to make an effort on one day and cant even do that. its about appreciating what you do.

didnt win the lottery made damn sure i didnt get outa bed before nine though and dp got up got kids ready and made a big fry.

ive forgotten everything i wanted to say.........

Dp came home with a giftbag containing a bunch of red tulips, a box of lindor chocs, and a small ornament of flowers in a terracotta pot with "mum" written on the front, which I really like as it's a little keepsake of the day.

He got me two cards (left the price on but we'll forgive him that!) I only just found the second one from James now, the first one said from "daddy" which I thought was a bit odd lol Bless him, I think he thought he'd just get everything just in case! I did blow my lid last night royally though! Ah well, he'll know for next year!!

Cheers for the text, tasha! x

no probs. awww glad he made up for it.

ds2+3 are both asleep and ds1 is moaning at dp to go outside

think im gonna cancel tomorrow..... [nervous face]

no lie in here either. ds2 woke @ 5.30 for a feed, dh was up @ 7am to go running ( he's training for London marathon) so when ds1 & dd woke 8am I had to get up & do their brekkie.

dd had in her words knitted (read sewed) me a picture & made a card at nursery, plus she had bought some chocs form the mothers day stall run by the ptfa.
ds1 had made me a cone of sweets with tissue paper flowers on at beavers
dh had then got them all to signa card with even ds2 scribbles in. & bought me maltesers & cooking mama2 for my ds. He didn't know dd had already done stuff as she hid it under her bed straight form nursery on Friday!

then 10 it was church parade with the Guides & we collected ds2's Babtism certificate. I got 3 bunches of daffoldils from each of the kids.

then ds1 wanted mcdonalds but I decided that wasn't my meal of choice on mothers day so we went to frankie & benny's, followed by a bit of shopping.
then dd was desperate to go swimming (she'd worn her costume all yesterday in the hopes we'd go lol)so we went swimming.

now I'm sat resting after tea while dh does bathtime & bed.might feed ds2 then jump in bath myself

It's taken 6.5 years of training to get this much for mothers day lol!

god that was a bit me me me

Kinki - hope your dh is better soon
James - glad your dh did some grovelling
lollipop - welcome - I joined late & everyones v friendly. my ds2 was born 1st Aug in a pool @ home on his due date. ds1 was 6 on 31st July (birthday clash avoided by 1hr56 mins) & dd was 3 on 13th June.

can't believe my LO is 7 months already!

Kinki Hope you get some good news about your DH.

I got my sort lay in today but longer then normal.

I got with Lexie at 6.30 feed her, Lizzie got up at 7am fed and watered her. Played with them untill 8am when Lexie wanted her morning nap, so i got DH to get up and look after Lizzie while i went back to bed. I normally get another hour at the most but today Lexie was a good girl when she got up at 9.30am, she didn't scream for him like normal. She started getting grumpy (she wouldn't take her milk again) when i got up at 10.30am.

I got a nice brunch of flowers from DD's and 2 cards one made at nursery.

Then the day went down hill from then on. Lexie has a cold/bad chest (taking her to the dr tomorrow) and Lizzie has been very tired and grumpy. To the point when everyone was either grying (dd's) and being crumpy (dh) i threaten to go out and have a quite 5 mins.