August 2007- Half a year of sleep deprivation later... (but we're finally back in our skinny jeans!)

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

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Knickers

I think it is so much easier for our dh's to forget about mc because it doesn't happen to them. I know how you feel i had a mc a before i had Lexie and that baby was due on Lizzie's 3rd birthday it is so hard to be happy on her birthday and not letting 'my angel' baby to come into the day IYKWIM.

Hope you feel better soon. I think myweegirls is right about it not about the day but about remembering.

James your right about the toy cupboard i do do that as i like my living room to be child free after they have gone to bed, i have know probelm with the mess during the day.

Morning all. I had a good nights sleep for the first time in a week probably. Yesterday ds woke up at 4:30am hungry and his screaming woke dd up. Ds went back to bed soon after but dd was wide awake cos she'd been asleep since 5:30pm the night before. Fortunately they both slept through til 6am this morning. I got to have a lay in til 7:30 but then I had a nightmare about being trapped in a building with a cyberman (woman) chasing me round. This was after watching an old episode of Torchwood.

James - my ds doesn't say anything that sounds like words either, just noises. I'll try to take more breaks at work I didn't have any the last two days

My2weegirls - my dh only used to help out every so often picking up the dcs or dropping them off. Normally only when I'm ill but he does start work earlier and finish later. Now he's got the excuse that the only car seat he has in his car is only suitable for dd.

tasha - glad to hear you've made a decision. Did it help seeing a counsellor? The toy box contains all sorts of things from soft toys to plastic cups, keys, musical toys, shakers, anything really. He's currently in his walker amusing himself with a teether. Dd was never like that. She always wanted to be held by me. It made life difficult cos I couldn't do anything. I was either stuck to the sofa with her asleep or trying to keep her amused. Ds is so laid back.

Hi conkertree. It's lovely to have you back. Glad Struan is doing well. Is he a good eater? Good luck with the marathon and going back to work.

knickers - hope you're feeling ok today. Perhaps you could arrange some counselling so you can talk about the mc?

In a verrry ratty mood this morning- had a very late night (3am) as I was trying to finish off some work on the computer. Lo didn't go to bed til 10pm with one thing and another going on so I thought he'd have a bit of a sleep in this morning, but nooo, 6.50am he was up crying, and kept me up ever since. I changed him, fed him, laid him down for a bit more sleep but he just kicked and struggled and screamed amid yawns, so bloody frustrating. Changed him again, gave him some toys to play with in his cot to try and get just a little more sleep, but he wasn't having any of it.

Of course dp "sleeps through it" but I'm getting so bloody resentful of things sometimes I feel like I could literally slap him awake. I know he isn't properly asleep he's just lying there pretending James is nothing to do with him.

I'm just so bloody fed up that nothing works round here. The house is a mess, dp does nothing and I just don't know where to start I'm so bogged down with it all. My work means nothing and isn't counted, yet he "works" so appears to get away with doing nothing. My sleep also means nothing as it doesn't matter if dp's alarms have me up every single day of the week (past two weekends he's left his alarm on saturday and sunday getting me up at 6.30am)

And every morning he gets a sneezing fit, but instead of going downstairs asap so as not to wake the baby up he stands in the bedroom sneezing over and over, usually 6 or 7 times, until James wakes up. If I dare to say anything he'll bellow that he can't help it.

That's to say nothing of him leaving fag ends all over the yard which I cleared and swept and picked all his butts out of the drain only last weekend. He leaves the butter out, leaves food and rubbish all over the worktops in the kitchen, he doesn't do ANYTHING and I'm unreaonable if I ask him to pull his weight.

He's done no washing up for about three weeks despite me having really sore eczema all over my hands and arms, he never cooks, ignores mess, steps over dropped food by James, if he changes J he leaves the dirty nappy on the floor as some measure of his disgust at having to be involved at all, as if it would just add insult to injury to have to take the nappy to the bin, too.

Sorry for the rant but my blood was boiling this morning! I feel so much better^ for letting it out, I'm calm now! lol

Bloody men, eh.

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that rings a bell james but i wouldnt hold back from hitting my dp a slap in the night lol. hope he starts helping out a bit more.

told my mum today she said im a brilliant mum and deserve an award but just to make sure that ive thought it through. i was quite shocked. off to make chicken nuggets and chips

Aaw that's really nice of your mum to say that tasha, bless her! Thanks for the nice messages, I'm alright now, we went downtown, had a nice day (ended with naughty bag of pick n mix!) we bought a crocodile xylophone/piano thing for james in woolies.

Off to make some tea! back later x

knickers forgot to say im glad your feeling a bit better. such a big thing to go through at 15

ive my lot tucked up in bed and the house tidyed yay......now im bored. dp is away out and im staring at the walls never anything on the telly on a sat nite.

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My dad just dropped a letter through the door asking why I've cut him out of my life, all "heartfelt" and sad I can't be arsed dealing with him, tbh. Could do with some booze but can't because of Slimming World, I've already overdosed on the pick n mix today.

I left James on his hands and knees in his cot. Just had to tuck him in as best I could and leave him to it as it's hs favourite thing at the moment!

Mmm, takeaway, I could murder some egg fried rice but I have a huuuge pot of veggie stew bubbling away n the kitchen so I'm sticking to that tonight to make up for the pick n mix!

woooo!! James just said "arararararaaa" yay!

oh dear james are you going to talk to him or are you annoyed that he didnt accept that you needed time to think about a few things? hope he hasnt upset you. yay for arararaaa lol

im craving chocolate buscuits and tayto cheese and onion crisps so had 2 penguins for breakfast
ended up watching family guy last nite its soooo funny

tasha-glad things are a bit better for you now, that was so lovely that your mum said that x

james-you poor thing with dp, i've come to the conclusion that men just don't see mess in the same way that we do, I'm sure they must think it's just unique decor

Callum made his first crawl forwards today, i was so excited and jumped up all happy, halting him in his crawling progress as he turned to look at me!!!(daft mummy moment!)

knickers-just wanted to say so sorry about your mc, hope you are ok and def agree with my2weegirls that it's the remembering thats important but maybe talk to someone or to lizziemum as she's been through it-big hugs to you both for your angel babies x

gill-glad you got some sleep this weekend, hope you have a better week

Ds2 has been refered to see a GP because HV noticed non-symetrical(sp?) fat rolls/bum creases. Apparently this can be a sign of dislocated hips. Am very panicky about this as a friend's dd had this and has gone through all sorts of awful things. Anyone else lo's had this?

HV added to the worry as other signs are not sitting and not rolling over - I thought he was just a laid back baby. Guilty mummy time (again).

Knickers - sorry about the MC (again I've not had one so may also say the wrong thing) - From friends experiences, it's a very personal thing to go through and everyone deals with it differently. Try not to be too hard on your dp, it would be difficult for him to understand what you went through particularly as he wasn't there at the time.

Tasha - congratulations. hope things go smoothly for you this time!

loler - what a worry for you, do hope that everything is ok xx (big hugs XX)

Tasha - You seem much more positive about it all, glad that you are ok,

Congratulations on the crawling helibee, im trying to prevent crawling until we get back from Turkey! and also to james with the "arararararaaa"

Kinckers - sorry to here about your m/c it is hard, i had one before i fell pg. with Tate, Thought all would be fine as it was 2nd pg but had a scan at 10 weeks to be told that baby died a 6+4 , hit me like a ton of bricks, you will get through it and it will be a positive thing, when the Due date came round i planted some lilies and they came in to bloom 2 weeks before tate arrived, in a way it was introducing him to the sibling that he would never meet ( not in this world anyway), Hope you feel better x

Hope everyone had a nice weekend!
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Morning folks!

heyhey, congrats on Callum crawling forwards, helibee! lol I know exactly what you mean about the jumping up and cheering them and then them stopping whatever new thing they're doing! I did it yesterday when James suddenly started doing the "rararara" and he stopped for a minute or two and I thought "shit! he's forgotten what he did now!" but no its ok, he's doing it as we speak. rarararaa...

Oh loler you have nothing to feel guilty about re: his hips, how were you supposed to know? if he doesn't appear to be in any pain and isn't massively delayed in sitting/rolling (7/8 months is nothing, they all develop differently don't they?) then you had no reason to suspect anything was wrong. I remember the hv being quite concerned that James had a funny dimple at the top of his bum cleavage called a "sacral pit" which can be a sign of spina bifida. He is fine, but it just shows you - I wouldn't have had a clue that his high bum parting (sure there was a thread on bum partings recently!) may have meant anything. That's what the hv's are there for, after all, not just to check we aren't weaning the babies on happy meals

Tasha, nah the note hasn't upset me, but he obviously doesn't get that I've cut him out permanently, and is trying to provoke me into speaking to him one way or another. When this approach doesn't work, the next thing will be he'll turn nasty and tell me to get our old car off his drive etc. I think I'll change our phone number today.

I have left J with a handful of rice krispies to play with. He's got them stuck all over his face! little sod is fake-coughing to get my attention, I suppose that means I should stop MNing and go show him some toys! back later...

x posts pink, hope you're doing ok. The liles idea was lovely, I'm sorry to hear about everyones mc's- I just cant imagine how hard it must be to go through that.

You're off to turkey? sounds nice, bet it'll be hot this time of year! Hope you have a lovely time!

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Knickers - I had a mc on my ds1's 1st birthday.

ds2 I went into labour on the anniversary of my mc & had him the anniversary of my scan showing empty uterus.

It's hard but try to see it as a positive - you will be doing something haapy on or near to the date & while celebrating you can also remember the lo. - i set a birthday balloon free each year.

right off to read the rest. been away watching dh run the marathon & my shoulders ache from carrying ds2 all weekend!

Hope everyone had a nice weekend. We just relaxed and stayed in (for once).

Ds can escape his bumbo now. I found out when he fell flat on his face on the bathroom floor while I was drying dd after her bath. He was so upset, poor little thing

Conker - hope the marathon went well.

james id get there before he can. dont give him the satisfaction.

loler-ds3 has an appointment next week for the same thing non symetrical fat creases. hes getting an ultra sound and echo james how were you to know? hope your lo is ok. i hope this baby is more straight forward too no coming early! have you ever known someone that hopes to be late lol and im sticking to all the rules this time so i cant blame myself if anything is wrng with him/her.

pink- sorry to here about your mc too it must be so hard.

helibee- yay!! crawling. i dont envy you though lol ds1+2 are enough for me so im also perpously delaying crawling

gill- aww hope your ds is ok. im just waiting on my lo doing that.

ok better go and sort clothes

Hi folks, just a quick one as I've quite a bit of work to do tonight (the work seems to be coming in a bit more now which is good moneywise, but I still haven't declared myself as self employed and god, I just don't know where to start, so got to do that asap before I get fined)

Think I may have lingered too long at J's cot tonigth putting him to bed. Past couple of weeks he's been great, I put him in drowsy and he nods off pretty much instantly, but he's been a bit overtired today so when I put him in his cot he was fully awake but I thought "he's knackered, had a warm bath, full of milk, tucked up in his quilt, he'll soon nod off" then sat with him stroking his head for a few minutes instead of coming away as I normally would. Oh dear. When I got up to leave he screamed.

I came downstairs and we've got a cctv style baby monitor thingy so watched him on that for a few minutes but he was getting himself in a right state so I had to go up and give him a cuddle. He went of within a couple of minutes once he'd had a proper cuddle but I'm not sure if I did the right thing by picking him up, even though it "worked"

Wishing for the 100th time he came with a manual. Never know what I should be doing.

well my life of plonkable baby is over.
ds2 has started to commando crawl. Nothing is safe.

He made a beeline for dd's chocolate bun this lunch time. - baby led weaning?!?

can't stop long - polly pocket shoes to find an out of reach home for before he wakes up in the morning lol!

My dad has broken his hip and is in hospital, I don't know what to think- I think the pressure may be on from some people to reconcile with him now he's bedbound but more than ever I feel I did the right thing to break things off- I think if I hadn't have done that I would have had to look after him, either in my own home or at his, which I would have felt dutybound to do. I'm going to look after his animals, for their sake not his, so going to have his dog here for a while.

Even though I have more than valid reasons for not speaking to him, I still feel like shit for "abandoning" him and I know he'll tell everyone I didn't go to see him in hospital etc- aargh.

James - glad the work is picking up. It sounds like an awful situation you're in with your dad. Does anyone else know why you're not seeing him?

Bogwoppit - I know what you mean about nothing being safe. Ds doesn't crawl yet but he can roll and spin so he can easily get all around the floor. We've had to put a safety gate up at the kitchen door cos there's a step and he'd also probably eat the cat food (like dd used to). I'm constantly having to clear up pens, beads etc that dd leaves lying around. Dh is just as bad. He leaves his laptop on the floor with loads of cables for ds to gum.

Ds is 8 months exactly today. I don't know where the time has gone. Not sure when I'll be contacted about his 8 month check. Dd's checks are normally at least a month late so I'm not expecting anything for a while yet.

James-sorry about the situation with your dad, it must be making it so much harder for you. But good news about the work coming in.

Gill-i know what you mean about the time flying by-i'm geting broody again too!! I've had a very slight blood stained discharge for the last few days and slight very low abdo pain, i'm wondering if my PCOS is playing up again-maybe in response to me feeling broody (it took me 18 months to conceive before because of it!)

i don't even know if they do the 8 month check in Scotland? Oh i weighed Callum and he is 19 1/2 pounds-less than i thought he'd be

loler-sorry to hear about ds2, you weren't to know though, many babies are very placid and not fussed about sitting and crawling much at this age, at least he'll be checked out.

Pinkranger and knickers-very jealous about your holidays, hope you both have a fab time. I need to get Callums passport sorted so that we can fly [very scared face] down to London to see dad for a weekend rather than a 7 hour car trip with an 8 month old!Has anyone done this for a baby over 6 months yet as i know the rules for pic's are diffeent then-how easy was the process?

Bogwoppit-i know how you feel about the crawling but at least i don't have to worry about keeping un-baby friendly toys out of reach too. We put the fireguard up today and C crawled a wee bit more but decided to spend most of the day attached to me

off to bed now, night night