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Indith · 14/02/2008 11:49

Oooops no room to link to old thread!

Lol at AQ forgetting that she is pg Sure the madness will pass. And don't worry about my chocolate supply, I live round the corner from Tesco

Jabber I think you should pop ds in the post and I'll sned him on holiday with all my clibing friends, they do similarly dangerous stunts on a larger scale. He'd have a ball

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MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 21/04/2008 20:09

Hiya Castles -

AQ

I am quite pleased with FGS fly-help. It was bin day yesterday and all the recycling was taken too. I always feel refreshed and ready to work hard once that cleared. although, I've got 6 loads of washing that's mounted up over the week as I haven't been able to catch up. 2 loads done and another in the machine now.

I'd have caught up then it's time to return to work and the cycle starts again.

We went to a music class today and all of the children were half asleep, it's the first day back. DD1 loved being back at nursery and DD2 decided not to have a nap this afternoon.

FunkyGlassSlipper · 21/04/2008 21:36

I'm glad the flylady stuff is helping

Elibean · 21/04/2008 22:42

I've only dared peek at the Flylady stuff (very very chicken) but when I have, I've been reassured that I do quite a lot of babystep things already - so am feeling quite proud of myself instead of scolding myself for not doing more. So its helping me, too, mental-health-wise

AQ, I can only begin to imagine the level of tiredness I'd be feeling if I were pg now...for me, the tiredness lasted until about 18 weeks with dd2, so maybe some of it is that for you? More hugs, anyway!

Jabber, I can really see why your shadow-girl is hard to let go of....seems like you started to bond with her, she sounds so real to me when I read your post. Hugs for you, too.

We still have a small peach tree that I planted for my second shadow-child...was utterly grief stricken at the time, because I began to believe (with reason) that we'd never have a child at all. Now, though, I look at it when its flowering with mostly just affection(watching dd1 water it is particularly nice). Rituals aren't for everyone, but I found planting something for each loss quite healing

Elibean · 21/04/2008 22:43

Margo: no nap ??

jabberwocky · 21/04/2008 23:11

Very of all of you doing flybaby. Can't seem to get the energy for it myself. Maybe after the move...I keep saying that about lots of things

Indith, yes, really random. Maybe stems from my first ever "meet-up" with a MNer who has moved to TN?

jabberwocky · 21/04/2008 23:13

eli, planting a tree is a really good idea. I do like rituals and find them very helpful. Maybe that would be a good thing to do at the new house.

margo, I somehow missed the no-nap thing. I couldn't survive right now if ds2 stopped napping.

FunkyGlassSlipper · 22/04/2008 07:41

Morning Guys.

Babysteps day 12 - delete flylady emails If you have registered on the site you get emails every day telling you to do your morning/afternoon routines, giving you testimonials of why it is a good system etc. By deleting them you dont feel like you are half way through and about to fail as you can always just jump right in

Keep going with your morning, evening routines, shine your sink and do hotspots every day!

Both DDs are up and we're mid-breakfast. I'm glad the holidays are over as I think I missed the structure to the day too.

MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 22/04/2008 14:03

Castles - your photos on FB are great and your los are so lovely.

castlesintheair · 22/04/2008 14:35

Aw shucks, thanks Margo Fortunately they all look like their Daddy

accessorizequeen · 22/04/2008 18:16

Hullo all. In a bit of state of shock as I'm having twins. Can't take it in, thought the scan would make me feel better and now I can't stop crying. But no wonder I've been so tired and have such a big bump.

FunkyGlassSlipper · 22/04/2008 18:23

AQ - No wonder you've been feeling so rough! Give it a few days for the news to sink in.

Take care xx

jabberwocky · 22/04/2008 18:44

AQ. I don't know what to say! Twins are more likely over 35 but still I can't imagine how I would feel. Your hormones must be all over the place Just remember we are all here for you! Have you ever talked to Marslady? Her last pregnancy was twins which made 4 (or 5?) dcs for her.

You know I don't do hugs that often but here's a big one for you

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MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 22/04/2008 19:05

Oh AQ - Is everyone else excited about the prospect of twins? Would that make you feel worse as you and DH are the ones who will be dealing with two day to day?

I hope it will sink in soon and you're able to enjoy your pg.
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castlesintheair · 22/04/2008 19:20

Wow, AQ. I know a few twins. DD2's godmother has just had twin girls. Just be grateful it isn't triplets Seriously, there's loads of help out there and you should join your local twins network. Another friend had 2 singletons then twin boys. Good idea to get a doula lined up who has twin experience. Can get details for you if necessary. Thinking of you xxx

accessorizequeen · 22/04/2008 19:24

I'm sure it will sink in, I can't believe there are two babies in there (one def. a boy btw), but they're both fine. Having another scan in 3 weeks as I'm 17 weeks tomorrow. Not excited in the least, margo - but other people seem to think it's thrilling! DP being wonderful.
Thanks for suggestions, Castles, am seeing the m/w Thurs am (they brought my appt forward) and will ask about support. I hadn't even considered a doula.
Best go and discuss tactics with dp, he's talking people carriers and a bigger house already!

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Indith · 22/04/2008 19:48

AQ! I can't stop ing though (sorry ). I'm sure it will sink in and people are right, there is loads of support around, most sure start places will have a multiples baby/toddler group and there are plenty of people around on here with multiples ready to share their wisdom. Glad dh is being wonderful. Best of luck getting lots of support from your MW, finding a good network and sorting out your blues so you can enjoy your pg.

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LenniEd · 22/04/2008 20:49

Wow, twins! Now that's a surprise, I didn't see that one coming (or should I say two, da dum)! I don't know what to say AQ! Except I hope you are OK, and getting used to the idea. Actually after my initial OMG thoughts, it sounds quite exciting! Just think once you get past the initial baby stage how amazing it will be to have two little toddlers around at the same time. You know how we've all said how lovely this age is... well you'll have twice over lovleyness .

You definately need an action plan. You'll need some help when they arrive and a good support network of other parents with twins. There are twins and multiples groups around and NCT do good support groups and might be able to put you in touch with other parents. I agree with others that a second birth partner might be in order . Wow!!!!! Amazing news.

Are you feeling any better about things generally? I had AND with DD and really struggled through the pregnancy. By 20 weeks it got so much on top of me that I hardly saw anyone for the second half of the pregnancy and was miserable. I majorly regret not telling my doctor and midwife earlier since I think just talking about it and rationalising it helped and I would have got so much more support if I'd not tried to get through it by myself. Try to tell as many people as you can bear, they will help share the load and will understand more than you may think. The more I talked about it, the better I felt. And the minute DD was born it was like the clouds broke. (((Hugs))) Am thinking of you. Am also VERY excited about the twins! Wow, twins!

P.S. Sincerely hope I'm next to "announce" - would love no.2 to come along sometime soon

LenniEd · 22/04/2008 20:52

Twins
Twins
Twins
Twins
Twins

(Sorry, couldn't help myself )

I can't wait to 'meet' them!

LenniEd · 22/04/2008 20:54

OK, have calmed down now...

LenniEd · 22/04/2008 21:03

Just had a quick shufty on the 'multiple births' topic and there is loads of info on there AQ. Including this thread just started by someone else in very similar circumstances to you.

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Indith · 22/04/2008 21:03

Lol Lenni have you been at the sugar again? Or are you just procrastinating?

What was that?

What the hell are you doing here Indith?

Erm.....

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LenniEd · 22/04/2008 21:15

Hee hee....

Moi, procrastinating... no deadline FAR too close for that ...

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Indith · 22/04/2008 21:18
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Olihan · 22/04/2008 21:46

Oh AQ, what a huge shock for you. I'm sure the whole idea is way too big to take in at the moment but you'll manage. Like everyone else has said, there is masses of support available to mums of twins, on here and in RL so you won't be going through it on your own. Glad DP is being fab, isn't it so male to immediately start thinking about cars . Lots of ((hugs)) again tonight, you can choose whether they're congratulatory or commiseratory (is that a word?).

GodzillasPimplyBumcheek · 22/04/2008 22:05

Oh AQ! Twins? I remember how i felt when i heard that bombshell! All scared and excited and shocked and wondering how will it all work out...(which it must have as they are 10 now). Hope you feel better soon; but on the up side, you will burn up more calories when pg with twins so if you can hold it down you can eat more chocolate