April 2007 - A little bit of Pillock, Love, and a few hugs thrown in too

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Sorry to confuse you all but inspiration just struck!

night folks. off to go through C's clothes for free sharing. i know i will keep loads - just in case

Night WO xx

I didn't get rid of any of J's clothes!

There's always some things you should keep - I did. Dh could never undertsand why - and now he loves seeing B in the things we had for the other girls. I get a lot of pleasure from dressing my girls and the baby clothes especailly are very important to me

Don't be NL. There are things that J had that I could never get rid of, too many memories!

leaving t to cry again its so awful
Nipped up to use the loo an hour and a quarter ago, he woke up and have been trying t settle him ever since
Hes so angry with me and standing up - he won't lie down by himself, do I do it for him and if so, when/

Hi SPB - the standing up is a bugger isn't it. Tbh - if B does that I pick her up and do something else with her - feed usually.

Sorry SPB, it is so hard, but will be better in the long run.

I would go in and try and calm him down and then lie him down again. Hope he settles for you. Is he hungry?

Meant to add, I wouldn't take him out of the room, would feed him in there and then put him back to bed. Is he in his own room?

no have fed him a couple of times in the last hour
he falls asleep fine but wakes as soon as I put him down
When I go in it seems to make it worse hes even angrier when I leave
I can't bear to think about what he must be thinking

yes he's in his own room, I feed him in the dark on a beanbag beside his cot
Thanks for the moral support, I don't think he's ever going to stop!

NL, have you tried calming him, cuddling him and then starting again but rather than leaving him, hold his hand or smooth his back for now.

Once he is calm, jsut sit and wait for him to go to sleep. I did this with DS1, it is the 'elastic band' method from the Parentalk Guide to Sleep and encouraged sleep with no abandonment/crying without being comforted.

Oh SPB What are your instincts telling you?

and if he ever does, won't he have a really sore throat an be thirsty?

Yes, WCL we tried the back stroking/ hand on back but he just stood up as usual

He will stop SPB. I'll stay here with you til he does.

WCL - he's not mine

(NL worries that WCL expects her to leap on a train and take over baby duties from SPB)

Do you think he's unwell/in pain or just angry?

Has he had any pain relief - could it be teeth? I blame everything on blithering teeth - Ange is right though - he will stop.

Can do MSN if you like? Is DH with you?

Great minds NL

You know what SPB - if he hasn't stopped I would be inclined to switch tack altogether. Get T, put a dvd on that you enjoy and sit (or stand) and watch it. Have a big glass of water or juice whilst you're doing so. Hopefully he will calm down during this time and you can then start the resettling all over again. At the very least it'll give you a break. Remember - what happens tonight is not going to set a pattern for the next 5 years - here have a {{hug}}

Good advice NL. {{{hugs}}} from me as well. xx

thanks NL - am already feeding couldnt stand the thhought of sore throat
dont think ill, just angry
will try to settle him after this

thanks for hugs, i need them

Hi all just popping in quickly before bed.

SPB - hope T settles soon, it is so hard. D was the same and actually seemed to get more worked up and angry when I went in to see him I know its hard but I think you need to decide on what you are going to do and stick to it, whatever it may be. I know obviously you need to try different things to see what works as different babies respond to different things but if theres one method which seems slightly better than another then decide on that and just go with it then he'll learn thats what happens and he'll know where he is iyswim?

Ange - I gave up on nursing bras months ago! Couldnt be doing with how horrid they made my boobs look anymore. And I think I've only ever worn a bra at night once or twice and same with pads! Although a mw at the bfing group did suggest that it could have been the underwire that was responsible for me having a few blocked ducts but I have a new underwired bra (underwire broke in my other 2 ) that seems to fit better and so far no problems!

WO - I have a bath seat too although not used it much as D wasnt really sitting properly until recently. He could sit but preferred to be lying. Not that he has baths very often due to his eczema/skin drying out/my laziness, tend to just give him a quick wipe down!! Agree C is very cute!

Apologies to everyone else, I did most of my catch up earlier then went and had a bath so have forgotten it all now