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March 2007... soon they will be one!!

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kiwibella · 25/01/2008 22:30

Well, Jordi is our first one year old.... they will be catching up soon .

I was tempted to write the subject with reference to NM .

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bethoo · 04/02/2008 12:51

Diva -i wish i would stop panicking too. it is the not kowing part you know, if i knew it was going wrong i could move on and carry on wiht things as normal and if it is going well then i can start getting enthusiastic and start making preparations etc but it is the being in limbo part i hate!

Rosylily · 04/02/2008 13:13

Bethoo I think it is okay to be excited and look forward to the baby. If something awful happens then you can deal with that,
I don't think being prepard for the worst makes it any easier if it happens and worrying about it isn't going to change anything apart from giving you stress.
And it is so great that you are excited about the pregnancy.
And that is your speech from Auntie Rosy over

muppetisacat · 04/02/2008 13:35

Sad news from me - my good friend was 17 weeks pg and has just found out her baby has died - she is breaking her heart poor girl. Sounds as though there might have been a heart problem but she's convinced she caused it by allowing CVS at 13 weeks . So hard to know what to say...

My sis had useless appointment at recurrent miscarriage unit - refused to do ANY tests WHATSOEVER as she was pregnant. Also are refusing to believe she's 6 weeks ish - she got faint positive test 2 weeks ago - so there's no way she can be only 4 weeks (which is what they are saying).

She is onto her GP to insist on referral to ST Mary's.

Any ideas on what to do for my friend greatly appreciated... flowers seem trite - but equally don't want to ignore the issue

Rosylily · 04/02/2008 15:08

Oh no Muppet! That is so tragic for your friend. I've no idea what you can give her.

kittywise · 04/02/2008 15:55

Muppet, so for your friend, how horrible. Perhaps you could give her a plant that she could put in her garden , if she has one, something to commemorate her baby's short life?
It will be there as a positive reminder iyswim. I know that something like that helps me. I suppose others might hate being reminded.

spicemonster · 04/02/2008 16:02

muppet - I'm so sorry about your friend. When I had my missed mc at 13 weeks (not as late as your poor friend) one friend sent me a lovely card which she'd written some very heartfelt and kind sentiments in, someone sent me some lovely White Company pjs and another friend sent flowers. It didn't matter what I received tbh - the fact that it was acknowledged that meant so much to me.

I'm also sorry your poor sister isn't getting the support she needs. Hope she manages to get her referral to St Marys. That unit scanned me several times in both pregnancies and they are absolutely lovely

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kiwibella · 04/02/2008 16:30

so sorry Muppet!! I agree with Spice... acknowledge what has happened and I really like Kitty's idea of a plant.

For those who have had mc's... how did you feel as your due date came around??

I took Kate to the doctors and she thinks it's just diarrhea lingering after the gastro. But, she's given me a container to collect a stool sample which I think I'll drop in just for peace of mind. She pooed on the carpet this morning, with no nappy on, and then played with it . It's left such a bright yellow stain, despite my attempts to clean it.

I still don't feel right... after a light period last week which lasted two days (unusually) I am still feeling crampy like I have PMT . I'm also annoyed that the Home Office haven't received my documents for our visa application... my mother is going to kill me because she was paranoid about us losing her mother's birth certificate!!! Aargh.

Diva... how is dd and her "friend"? Some children have such sad stories. It's lucky that they have our lovely children to sort them out .

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kittywise · 04/02/2008 17:41

Kiwi, I thought about due date the first time round then after that I didn't think about it.

Hey perhaps you're pg?

fitfox · 04/02/2008 17:56

muppet that's really sad for your poor friend - i think words would help her - support and kindness. i like the idea of a commemorative plant if she has a garden

kiwi - you can get another birth certificate - still annoying they lost it though - it may turn up

after i mc'd i was a constant knicker checker - not just when af's were due

chubba on lap and still a non stop round of vomitting/crying

muppetisacat · 04/02/2008 18:29

thanks for all your kind thoughts and ideas girls. my heart is truly breaking for her... she lost her first dh to cancer at the ripe age of 27.

Her ds (age 7 - friend of my ds1) was SO excited to be having a little bro.
Just so

Plant idea is lovely.

bethoo · 04/02/2008 19:45

muppet - i am sorry for your friends loss. i think all you can do is be a good shoulder to cry on. she may at first nee time on her own t oaccept what has happened and grieve before she is able to talk about it openly.

bethoo · 04/02/2008 19:46

fitfox - i am currently an obsessive knicker checker! i hate this waiting!!

fitfox · 04/02/2008 20:10

Oh Muppet, the poor woman !

[cyber hugs] to her and her DS

fitfox · 04/02/2008 20:11

Bethoo I don't think you ever lose that anxiety. I bled through DD's pregnancy, then had a missed MC, then Bled during Monti's PGcy too. I felt nervous every time I went to the loo, but it was OK

Divastrop · 04/02/2008 20:40

muppet-to hear about your firend's loss.you have recieved some lovely suggestions here on what to do.

bella-dd1 has been fine since the teacher had a word with her,she hasnt mentioned anything anyway,and seems better in herself,although she is still buzzing from going to theatre group on saturday(i though i better do something towards nurturing her talent).

i forgot to answer your question the other day.i had spotting when my af was due for the first 3 months with dd2.i started spotting the day before af was due,just like the start of a period,before i knew i was pregnant.i was so convinced it was af i MSN'd 'its ok-im not pregnant!!!' to my friend.thank goodness i was .

have you done a test?

Divastrop · 04/02/2008 20:44

these children have us worrying from the moment of conception,worrying about m/c for the first few months,then kick-counting for the rest of the pregnancy,checking they are still breathing when they are babies...right through to checking the clock waiting for them to come in when they are teenagers(i presume i'll be like that,anyway).

spicemonster · 04/02/2008 21:39

bella - re the due date - I went to Peru and planned my trip so I would be walking the inca trail on my edd. Weirdly, it so happened that on that day, I was crossing the highest point of the pass, where the air is really thin and is the highest place I've ever been (it's over 4000m). So I made a traditional Incan offering to the gods and let the baby go. I have planted a tree too here but that really helped. It makes me smile when I remember it. If that doesn't sound too weird

Glad your DD1 is okay now diva.

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kiwibella · 04/02/2008 21:39

thanks... there is no doubt that I would love to be pg but, at this stage, I know that I am being hopeful - watching that pot as Aunty Rosie put it . I haven't done a test and not sure whether I could handle that disappointment... yet.

Diva... I'm glad that your dd is happy and enjoyed her afternoon at the theatre.

Foxy... I gave my friend who had a mc a NZ native plant in a big pot!! Her due date is coming up... poor thing is still having complications from an infection after losing baby.

aaaaaaa

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kiwibella · 04/02/2008 21:39

oops Little Miss Keyboard Basher is still up after sleeping from 3-7pm today!!!!!!!!!!

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kittywise · 04/02/2008 22:16

kiwi 3-7, how did that happen?

Diva, so glad your dd1 is getting on better. It's such a relief isn't it when these problems get sorted out. how we worry for our children.

Foxy, hope Monti improves soon. You must be very tired {{hugs}}

Are you feeling better Piffle?

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kiwibella · 04/02/2008 22:29

kitty - god knows??? But nothing could rouse her until her Dad came in from work. Dh has just got her off to sleep - magic touch.

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Rosylily · 05/02/2008 09:53

Spicemonster the trip to peru sounds amazing and really positive.

Kiwi, hope you are preggers!

muppetisacat · 05/02/2008 10:42

kiwi - fingers crossed!

spice - that sounds pretty amazing to me and something you'll never forget

my poor friend has to go through labour tomorrow

Piffle · 05/02/2008 10:50

spice totally incredible experience WOW @ you

I have always been bloody circumspect and just get on with things,
I think this is because I only had miscarriages after I had 2 children already, I felt selfish to want more than I had. So I just gave up the hope and anxiety.

I'm up and down atm, could barely walk taking dd to school, when I was walking out of school I was fine
Think it means things are changing, pain is in different places which sounds bad but for me it feels better. I am able move my legs more and more.

Will type more to everyone later
Oh big smug news here
Finn slept 8-6.30 the whole way!!!
Only thing different - he ate fried rice for tea, masses of it, peas corn chicken and rice and egg.

Yep and he IS getting it again tonight

bethoo · 05/02/2008 10:59

Piffle - maybe i should try that wiht Hyaden but i find that if he does not have afternoon nap he is in bed by 730 though he wakes between 5 and 7.