March 2007... soon they will be one!!

[kiwibella]

Well, Jordi is our first one year old.... they will be catching up soon .

I was tempted to write the subject with reference to NM .

yes, it is quiet

Diva = at least your dh admits he has a problem, isnt that the first step to recovery? what does he do on the computer? i read the thread but then fiorget what i read as so much!! my xdh was on his computer playing star wars with the world from the minute he got in from work til 2 every morning. then all weekend. we never talked, he ate at the computer ffs!! he did not even notice that i was getting picked up my now father of kid!!! i had enough of living with someone but that was it. did not do anythign together. so i left. not sayign this is the same with you but something should be done while you can iykwim?

hi bethoo, you are not a heartless person! and tonight i popped ds into his cot as he was just moany really and sat in the chair, reading him a story. he whined for about 10 minutes really quietly, then drifted off. but when i tried it yesterday he went MENTAL and i had to pick him up!

here's hoping he is not both a and b personality. mossy, you are freaking me out with all this stuff of which i know nothing! apart from the mckinsey stuff, but he is a bit young for that

i don;t think i am depressed, just bad pmt, do i sound depressed?? that, and its not meant to be funny, depresses me. maybe too much cortisol

diva, i feel for you, is there a support group for this? its a huge problem apparenly, there was loads of stuff in times about a game that took over lives like this. maybe you could put some structure in and get him to do stuff some evenings with the ds/dd? but expect you have thought of this. sorry wish could be more helpful.

have bought the vitamins, so will see how it goes. thx!

Diva... I don't entirely agree... the game is a problem... just like not spending time as a family is concerning. Your dh is choosing to play this for hours on end and he could be giving this attention to you and your children.

Mossy... you so impress me!! What a brilliant mummy... so informed. I am very interested in the information about cortisol levels... and understand why I get so easily worked up when I am stressed!!

I have to say that I am thankful that I am not the only one who can't leave a crying baby - so often I feel like I should / she has no reason to be crying. Bethoo... I don't think that you have been harsh - what you have done works for you and your ds which is admirable.

Evenhope... glad that you found lovely outfits!! Will you still wear them? I am looking forward to the time when I don't have to think about what I am wearing and whether I can feed easily or not .

It's such a lovely start to the half-term!! It almost feels like spring already... and the days are getting longer - yay .

ello peeps think I have missed a fair bit!
Eids great news about dd
sponge good news about clothes. You'll find a way to feed! You'd be amazed at how many different ways you can a tit out of a bra for feeding!!!!

mossy, a bottle of plonk is my way of persevering through tough times. I know I have a problem, not quite sure what/how/why but need to go tee total for my sanity I think. Am struggling thus far though so feeling quite out of control and ashamed. I'm not talking about loads just a drink or two... I hope your dh passes through this phase.

Hmm as for leaving Finn to cry... He has the little whinge then if he does not drop off I'll go up cuddle and feed and repeat that until I successfully anaesthetise him with the breast! His nightcwaking will become an issue but he is so lean and tall that I still believe he needs the feeds! Despite eating like a baby elephant I think he burns it off. He is walking now too. Well between us or little gaps. He has shot up now is 78cms which puts him in gas knob reaching range aaarghhhh.
What other news then?

piffle-i read that as 'within knob reaching range'and thought ...wtf??

bethoo-he plays world of warcraft,for about 10-12 hours a day.as i said,he knows its an addiction,but as far as he's concerned its not a problem.

i thought i was overreacting and dwelling on the negatives as usual,but then the only other 2 long-term reltationships ive had were abusive so in comparison he seems like a saint.

i had to take Elsie to the hospital today as her chest was quite bad,but they let her home thankfully(think the gp was erring on the side of caution tbh)

Diva - my xdh Leroy was obsessed with the bloody Star Wars one, he had more conversations with the other players than he did me. he denied it was a problem and said he was only on there cos i did not do anything with him!!! shame he started only a couple of years after we were married, supposed to still be in the honeymoon period then!! we drifted apart. i moved on while he thought we had an excellent marriage (prob because we rarely saw each other therefore no conversation!!!)
suffering terrible diarrohea now for several days!!

bethoo-dh will probably claim he spends all that time on there as im such a miserable moany cow,which is probably true.from what i can gather he had a normal,active social life before we met,so i feel i have driven him to this iyswim.i keep thinking he is ashamed of me which is why he doesnt want to go anywhere with me.maybe im too fat and old for him

Diva - at knob misunderstanding.

I'm writing from a friend's house where I am camped out tonight because our boiler has packed in. Yes, on the coldest nights of the year, it decides to give up the ghost. We came home from three days away yesterday, so the house was already cold because we stupidly didn't put the heating on timed, and it wouldn't start up. Last night was FREEZING cold - Jordi woke up about midnight crying with cold hands and face, and coughed his lungs out, so I felt terrible. He was ok later on as I chucked loads more blankets over him and turned up the electric heater in his room even higher. I however, couldn't get back to sleep for ages because my feet were so bloody cold. And then I had to get up at 5.30 anyway for work, and for once was grateful our offices are overheated. DP is stupidly battling it out at home tonight, having claimed the house is now warm after a day of multiple electric heaters/gas fire on the go, but I beg to differ!

Spongecake, your periods/PMT can change drastically after pregnancy so I've been told - if it is really bad, it's possible you have a hormone imbalance, so don't rule out a trip to the GP. A friend of mine with a one-year-old has just gone eight weeks without a period after having a few when she stopped BFing, and that is because of hormone imbalances.

Kitty - I'll watch what I say about bringing up babies from now on - only joking, and by the way, I think you are entitled to have a few laughs at the newbie mums when you've done it six times!

Hello everyone else. My early start is catching up with me fast, so I think toast and bed are calling.

boo, i am still here, aching with a bulgeing baby belly and fed up with being so slow in everything i do

Anyway, 7 days and counting till due date, will keep you all informed. Sorry i am a moaner and haven't joined in the conversation. I shall make more of a concerted effort to be in with the 'in crowd!!'

xx

hi jay

i cant believe you only have a week left!it only seems a few weeks since we were all at that stage with these lo's

are you at the pineapple and saveloy stage now then?

i laugh in the face of saveloy.......i just cant bring myself to go for it... i am too big. too heavy too sore ( sciatica and SPD) and too moany to even move, let alone go to that dark place! As for Pineapple...boo hiss.. i hate it as it brings on the most horrendous heartburn then i have to drink a pint of gaviscon and eat a pkt of rennies.....who said pregnancy was glamorous?? Not to mention the lack of frigging sleep....anyway enough boring moans from me ...

Jensen was born on Mothers day last yr (18th) and at this rate, new baby could be born on Mothers day (2nd March) how strange would that be! Its a whole yr gone be, in a flash....time really does fly when you have kids! Whos having/had birthday partys for their up and coming one yr olds? And what did you buy them? He seems to have everything and where DD was into 'baby' toys for longer, he has no intrest in them and plays with her stuff, its hard to know what to get them?!

Well have done the washing and tidied kitchen, had a cuppa tea, and now going to attempt bed again for an hour or so b4 they both wake up for the day. Will keep you all posted, hugs xxxx

Diva- do not put yourself down like that, if he thought that he would not have marired you silly!! some blokes adjust to the change in lifestyle in different ways i guess. but tbh that is no excuse as what was stopping him from going out wiht his mates jsutbecause you are married? why do you not suggest that and see what he says? if not then it is not you it is the game. it is known for marriage breask ups though do not want to freak you out. people jused to tell me to unplug my sdh computer or somethign similar and i honestly believed he would kill/leave me if i did!! how bad was that!!

jay-i havent thought about Elsies birthday.she is the same,just shares dd2's toys.and dd2 plays with ds2's cars

bethoo-when ive mentioned his mates in the past he always says he cant be bothered with anyone or words to that effect.he says he has 'been there,done that' with regard to going out on the piss etc,which is the way i feel.

right i best leave this thread alone for a few days as my moaning is scaring everyone away.

Diva- do not be daft but does not that just prove that it is not you? it is him with a problem and you are not causing it otherwise he would want to out the house away from you with his mates doing what men do when their better halves are at home!! and i am not implying infidelity ladies!!! but this is no way for you to live your life wiht your 'life partner'. i must persist that you talk ot him and possibly get counciling. would you ever consider getting rid of hte computer or maybe suggesting limited time on it? i know it will prob fall on deaf ears as i have been there!!!

ref birthdays, what 1 year old is going to remember if he celebrated it or not? but i am getting him some books and maybe some building blocks since he loves banging things, throwing and knocking over so ideal i think!!

Quick hello - have been offline for a few days since BT disconnected us and Sky didn't connect us up again

Have I missed all the gossip?

DP would argue that gas knob height is knob height, if he ever stood that close to the cooker ha ha seriously no he is ace!

Diva I always say nothing about your fella cos I fear I am too blunt You deserve more time and effort from him and help. That's all I can say without going off on one

Sad day here, DP's gran died in the night, not nice sadly an aortic aneurysm bless her socks. WE were only there on Sunday and God I'm glad we went. DD (5) adores her and I have told dd and she has just acted as if nothing has been said. I fear it will hit her later on. I've never had to do this before so no idea how to handle it.

Finn walking with more confidence and boldness now, not without crashes he is quite the reckless one, I always feared having an uncautious child, he will be a worry for life I bet.
Jay wow 7 days I am sure time has not flown for you but that seems quick! Good luck xx

Tis freezing up here not got above -3 the whole day. thick fog grim...

Hello all, half term here. Usual sickness. Ronnie driving me to dispair with his crying.
It's an awful thing to say but I can see how some babies get 'damaged'. I've NEVER even come close, but occasionally it has flashed through my mind, for a split second. I just want him to shut up . I just want him to smile every now and again .
I bet he'll be really lovely soon and I'll feel shit for feeling the way I do now.
He so wants to walk on his own but his cast pulls him to one side and I'm sure he's beside himself with frustration. We go back to the fracture clinic next Tuesday. Please God let them take it off.
Sorry for moaning, hope you're all ok where ever you are!!

Kitty - poor wee Ronnie he must be feeling really miserable and uncomfortable. Have you tried giving him any meds - infant nurofen or calpol?

Often if Monti is grisly I give him a small dose of meds and he changes about 20 minutes later.

Ronnie must be feeling really frustrated not being able to move properley.

Can the older DS's help out maybe by carrying him round or entertaining him a bit? I remember when DD was a baby, DS1 was the only one who could stop her crying. He does the same trick with Monti - always turns the crying to laughing.

[hugs] - have you got a home help ATM?

Thanks foxy,I've got loads of help.

The trouble is I'm the only one he wants. he won't even go with dp.

There's a small army of enthusiatic and energetic volounteers here and he wants only me. I can hear him downstairs screaming his head of atm, and all I want to do is have a shower, well come on here too of course

Kitty I also never knew getting a shower would be such an unreachable odyssey. Now I find myself sneaking them as if some stolen naughty treat.. WTF? infatc I now run the bath stick Finn in his bath seat on the floor and get in the bath, speed wash and then get out, by that time hes leaned forward detached the suckers from the floor and is crawling towards me with the seat on his bum, very funny.. but also tragic.

Whinging clinging babies are the worst, I have had those moments when I like you understand why some people do hurt babies. I guess luckily most people hit that point and know to do something else. DP knows if I ask him for help I mean it. So he jumps when I call him. He is my baby 999!
Is he on medication? Broken bones are very painful I should bloody know have had tens of them!

Hey cheer yourself up, here is what Finn has done today
He is now walking a few steps too and emptying the washing machine, pulling
the big rubbish bin over and all the little waste paper ones too, throwing
things in the toilet, pulling all the toilet roll out, emptying the shoe
box, unfolding all my washing, opeing the oven, opening the drawers and
pulling out all the tea towels and bags...

Hi all, I am reading the thread just not much time to post

Kitty - hope Ronnie perks up soon

Jay - good luck for no3 hope all goes well

Diva - you are most certainly not fat or old. No advice on the DP front - is he getting any treatment for his agoraphobia?

Now I need some advise... I didn't want to post this elsewhere as I don't know if the person uses MN but anyway

One of my friends had a baby last week but it's quite small (although full term) and is going to need surgery. I have only heard via the family that the baby is here etc but I want to send a card/gift as usual.. not sure what to write other than Congrats etc

Piff, number 5 does all that

I took Ronnie and ds2 for a Bowen sess today.

I also made the fatal mistake at moaning at the HV yesterday when she phoned to see how Ronnie was. Now I know that she thinks I'm cracking up, on the edge and in need of help. She's coming round this afternoon to see how many cream cheese sandwiches Ronnie has eaten ( she thinks he's not gaining enough weight).

Ronnie, however, is still firmly attached to boob. His fav way of passing the time is to have a such whilst tugging at his willy .
Oh his future partner will be so glad
See that's where these men get their habits from

The HV is nice but has no children. I can't really convey to her what it's like to be in my shoes. That having a rant and moan does not mean I'm unhappy/ not coping, it means I'm having a rant and moan. I guess I'm just too honest for my own good!!

meant have a SUCK whilst tugging at his willy!!